Quick Little Gems on Dealing with Men Thread

[Turbulent]

if you're a bytch to a man and then start falling for him and become all nice, a lot of times we're disgusted by your phony "niceness" just like you'd be disgusted by our phony nice guy act. Be a nice person period. don't be nice out of neediness. it's really disgusting and makes us resent you even more. it's almost creepy how some of y'all have to force yourself to seem like a cool ass chick. that's what happens when you get into the habit of being a straight up bytch.

 

[Sandy_Cheeks]

Any man of caliber will respect the standards that you have for yourself. He will admire the fact that you care enough about yourself to not fall for just anything or anybody.

Also, don't expect a man to communicate the way you do. We can run to our homgirls and talk ish out for hours, feel validated, ect., but your man is not your homegirl. Men and women communicate differently for a reason.

 

[shylittlekitten]

Here's a good one that I have learned over time:

No man spends any inordinate amount of time with you unless he is interested in fukking you. Men do not just feel like hanging with some chick for random reasons. I mean, okay there are exceptions. DO NOT THINK YOU ARE THE EXCEPTION. No man wants to be just friends. He wants to fukk you.

Once I had a friend who told me that a guy invited her over to smoke some blunts. She was disgusted/surprised because he started hitting on her trying to get her to fukk. I just was like...

http://i1247.photobucket.com/albums/gg625/dikkdikk4/funny-gif-Steve-Carell-laughing.gif

I just said to her, "He's a man. He has a cock. Of course he wanted to fukk."

ETA:

Even the nicest of men just want to hang with chicks they want in their bed. It's not a jerk thing, it's just a man thing. This is the way the majority of men think. Most of them are focused on sex a lot of the time.

 

[shylittlekitten]

Also never trust any man who labels himself as a nice guy. Most women know this but anyway...

 

[concise]

Come on, at least one of you women has to have the rage in you to fuel this thread with a million paragraphs.

 

[Azul]

I don't have any advice for people wanting to "play games" in relationships. I'm too old for that and I've been married for a while anyway.

My advice to ladies is to seek a man who loves God. If he loves God then he will do right by your side. Don't twist my words though; I'm not talking about those mega church pastor brothers. I'm talking about a true man of God who reads his Quran, who prays everyday, who donates money and volunteers his time, who educates himself, who is humble, who doesn't let black male stereotypes and statistics dictate his future. These men do exist, in abundance actually. The thing is, these men are usually on struggle mode financially in their early to mid twenties and a lot of women miss out on them for this simple fact. We women are too concerned with wanting men to spend money on dates, and buying us gifts, to actually judge them for their character. Once these men hit the late twenties they're usually snatched up by smart women; and because these men are such jewels , they actually want to marry their women instead of turning them into long term baby mamas or eternal fiancees. The men that are left on the field will be the cheaters, losers, and "I'm never getting married" types. Good luck to those of you out there. The dating scene is cut throat

ETA: I also want to say, that if you have a black man, then your primary job is to be his support. This country isn't built to for black men to be successful and he will have extreme obstacles to overcome. Your genuine love for him will keep him strong and motivated, so don't beat him down.

 

[BedRoomI'z]

Come on, at least one of you women has to have the rage in you to fuel this thread with a million paragraphs.

For what?

It won't be some shyt yall haven't heard before.

Sometimes a woman gets tired of saying the same
shyt over and over again.

The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over
and over again, expecting a different result.

*starts playing UGK again*

 

[concise]

For what?

It won't be some shyt yall haven't heard before.

Sometimes a woman gets tired of saying the same
shyt over and over again.

The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over
and over again, expecting a different result.

*starts playing UGK again*

 

[BedRoomI'z]

yep...

and I know what you are trying to insinuate.
Music has nothing to do with anything

 

[Poh SIti Dawn]

Did not know women had a thread like the men, I guess it's fine since we have one. I'll answer questions or explain things instead of just disagreeing with everything yaw say.

 

[ugksam]

The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over
and over again, expecting a different result.

Insanity - Definition and More from the Free Merriam-Webster Dictionary

 

[BedRoomI'z]

Insanity - Definition and More from the Free Merriam-Webster Dictionary

I was being facetious

 

[ugksam]

I was being facetious

i was just messin with you, i actually hear people say that phrase all the time I don't know how it got into america's lexicon. more accurate would be "the definition of stupidity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result"

 

[BedRoomI'z]

i was just messin with you, i actually hear people say that phrase all the time I don't know how it got into america's lexicon. more accurate would be "the definition of stupidity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result"

Maybe its not that much distance between stupidity and insanity, but
I beg to differ because you got to be smart to be crazy

 

[Poh SIti Dawn]

So I definitely took heed and made a conscious effort to not be readily available all the time..I dont want to come across desperate..So after date #1 on Saturday, he wanted to take me to the park/zoo on Sunday..I politely declined..He calls me just now to see if we could go to the movies..Declined that as well and made plans to hang out on Thursday.
I gently informed him that I have no problem hanging out with him but I would need notice in advance..He seemed to understand and agreed to meet with me on Thursday.

You don't look desperate at all, you have to understand if I'm asking you out and we go on a date and I like you, I'm definitely trying to set something else, why? Because I'm showing you that basically you're the only one I'm messing with and are the only one that I'm interested in getting to know as of now. I took a girl out on a coffee date, told her I'd call her in 2 days, I did and tried to set something up, she said she was too busy and she'd hit me up etc. I never hit that bytch back up again. some guys don't see you as being desperate, they're just genuinely interested, by having some sort of desperate complex, you just make yourself look like an idiot, an insecure idiot in fact, and many guys will and many guys won't entertain that, why? Because we get discouraged, why? Because you've got some sort of idiotic idea that you're making yourself look desperate when you comply with his plans. If you feel this strongly about not looking desperate then you'll pick up the phone and make plans with him instead.

Rt, nobody has times for them games, male and female.

Edit:that's not even logical, I hope most women don't believe that, because if you look desperate by accepting a date then what does that make the man? Desperate as well?

Also whoever said men just hangout to fukk, totally wrong. Most times if I approach a girl it's because I see girlfriend qualities within her. In fact the only time I've properly messed around is when I had a broken heart. You shouldn't be so quick to generalize, some guys truly are interested in your soul rather than your p*ssy.