Captain Crunch
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Some legit advice for my future daughter in here 
Quick Little Gems on Dealing with Men Thread
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BedRoomI'z
All Money In
lotsa truth in this post especially the ego aspect....i know my ego is outa this world....i get all kinds of upset when u attack my ego lol
know thy self i guess
Being upset is natural, but it's what you do when you are upset
is what gonna matter in the long-run.
I have a friend right now that has went off the deep-end because
some man didn't return her feelings. But she is the type that is
not used to hearing no from any man.
She is having an existential melt-down.
awkwardblackgirl
Shakara
One thing I like about the dealing with women gems thread is that, despite the women bashing, a lot of the advice in there is geared towards men focusing on themselves and improving the various aspects of their lives. Women by nature are nurturers, so we tend to be concerned with the welfare of others over ourselves. I think that we need to actively take that focus and turn it inward--work on improving ourselves physically, mentally, spiritually, and emotionally. I'm a firm believer that we attract what we are. If we are true to ourselves and healthy, then we will attract healthy, honest people--or at least be confident in letting go of those who aren't in alignment with the betterment of ourselves.
I agree, but with a caveat.
I think a man with his shyt together is more attractive to a woman, than a woman with her shyt together is attractive to a man.
If a woman can be emotionally stable, nurturing, understanding and sensual then most men (unfortunately), will scoop them up in a minute. Being a demure housewife still trumps the career woman in most men's eyes nowadays.
But like my pops always told me "If you want someone special you have to be someone special".
But i love me a woman that works out and eats right. A sexy woman that hits me with a "lets go to whole foods i want to make something for you."
awkwardblackgirl
Shakara
I agree, but with a caveat.
I think a man with his shyt together is more attractive to a woman, than a woman with her shyt together is attractive to a man.
If a woman can be emotionally stable, nurturing, understanding and sensual then most men (unfortunately), will scoop them up in a minute. Being a demure housewife still trumps the career woman in most men's eyes nowadays.
But like my pops always told me "If you want someone special you have to be someone special".
But i love me a woman that works out and eats right. A sexy woman that hits me with a "lets go to whole foods i want to make something for you."
How can a woman be those things without having a good self image of herself? My intention in my post wasn't necessarily for a woman to go out there and be a superwoman/corportate/whoruntheworld-girls type of woman. What I am saying is that it is important to be conscious of the amount of attention she is giving to herself in relation to those around her. How can she be emotionally stable if she isn't doing what she needs to do to get to that state? How can she be nurturing if she is not nurturing herself? How can she be understanding or sensual if she is not taking the time to understand herself or become familiar with her own sensuality? Women can get so wrapped up in their relationships/dealings with men that they forget to focus on the relationship with themselves.
word, then i'm right there with you. I know a girl that literally transform herself to who ever she is dating. She was talking to a music cat...she got all artsy. She was talking to this persian cat, she converted to islam. Now she talking to some model dude and now she trying to go all extra hard with that...
i laugh at here every time i see her.
Women like this are not comfortable being themselves and usually have low self-esteem. Its easier to be whatever the man likes vs staying true to yourself and accepting the reality that not everyone will want nor like you.
She will one day wake up and regret having spent so many years being someone she is not.
BedRoomI'z
All Money In
that's a lot of chicks though. If she starts dating a serial killer you already know she's gonna be sharpening/cleaning knifes and drive the getaway car...
EDIT: even their whole way of talking and slang switches up from man to man.
BedRoomI'z
All Money In
word, there's a difference between being down and being a puppet. I couldn't date a chick with no free will or friends of her own...
I agree, but with a caveat.
I think a man with his shyt together is more attractive to a woman, than a woman with her shyt together is attractive to a man.
If a woman can be emotionally stable, nurturing, understanding and sensual then most men (unfortunately), will scoop them up in a minute. Being a demure housewife still trumps the career woman in most men's eyes nowadays.
But like my pops always told me "If you want someone special you have to be someone special".
But i love me a woman that works out and eats right. A sexy woman that hits me with a "lets go to whole foods i want to make something for you."
Why is the bolded an unfortunate thing?
I realized i worded that weird. I more so meant to say if a woman has these qualities and nothing else going on in her life most men would
If a girl can have those qualities and still be a lazy fukk, or no have any ambition or drive to make her life better.
so yeah most men, if a chick is cute and nice enough will wife a chick up regardless of her actual life plans.
If a chick aint working towards a degree or has one, or has some sort of life plan that involves financial stability then she is out of the running for main status period...
eff starting a family with some lazy chick who is cool with working at Checkers.
BedRoomI'z
All Money In
I realized i worded that weird. I more so meant to say if a woman has these qualities and nothing else going on in her life most men would
If a girl can have those qualities and still be a lazy fukk, or no have any ambition or drive to make her life better.
so yeah most men, if a chick is cute and nice enough will wife a chick up regardless of her actual life plans.
If a chick aint working towards a degree or has one, or has some sort of life plan that involves financial stability then she is out of the running for main status period...
eff starting a family with some lazy chick who is cool with working at Checkers.
When did a chick contributing to the bottomline of the household
become such a bad thing?
I understand some men thinking that if she is contributing, that might
give her the idea that she is somehow wearing the pants or whatever
but it's not like that. At least from my perspective.
The man has earned the right to be the man, regardless.