Quick Little Gems on Dealing with Men Thread

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[Petty Crocker]

You don't look desperate at all, you have to understand if I'm asking you out and we go on a date and I like you, I'm definitely trying to set something else, why? Because I'm showing you that basically you're the only one I'm messing with and are the only one that I'm interested in getting to know as of now. I took a girl out on a coffee date, told her I'd call her in 2 days, I did and tried to set something up, she said she was too busy and she'd hit me up etc. I never hit that bytch back up again. some guys don't see you as being desperate, they're just genuinely interested, by having some sort of desperate complex, you just make yourself look like an idiot, an insecure idiot in fact, and many guys will and many guys won't entertain that, why? Because we get discouraged, why? Because you've got some sort of idiotic idea that you're making yourself look desperate when you comply with his plans. If you feel this strongly about not looking desperate then you'll pick up the phone and make plans with him instead.

Rt, nobody has times for them games, male and female.

This is really good advice

Im mad this thread was bumped..lol...and I posted this sooooo long ago. Im good now.

 

[Poh SIti Dawn]

This is really good advice

Im mad this thread was bumped..lol...and I posted this sooooo long ago. Im good now.

Yeah look back at my post I added more lol

 

[philmonroe]

You don't look desperate at all, you have to understand if I'm asking you out and we go on a date and I like you, I'm definitely trying to set something else, why? Because I'm showing you that basically you're the only one I'm messing with and are the only one that I'm interested in getting to know as of now. I took a girl out on a coffee date, told her I'd call her in 2 days, I did and tried to set something up, she said she was too busy and she'd hit me up etc. I never hit that bytch back up again. some guys don't see you as being desperate, they're just genuinely interested, by having some sort of desperate complex, you just make yourself look like an idiot, an insecure idiot in fact, and many guys will and many guys won't entertain that, why? Because we get discouraged, why? Because you've got some sort of idiotic idea that you're making yourself look desperate when you comply with his plans. If you feel this strongly about not looking desperate then you'll pick up the phone and make plans with him instead.

Rt, nobody has times for them games, male and female.

Edit:that's not even logical, I hope most women don't believe that, because if you look desperate by accepting a date then what does that make the man? Desperate as well?

Also whoever said men just hangout to fukk, totally wrong. Most times if I approach a girl it's because I see girlfriend qualities within her. In fact the only time I've properly messed around is when I had a broken heart. You shouldn't be so quick to generalize, some guys truly are interested in your soul rather than your p*ssy.

I agree I think some of these chicks be listening to in the words of Tariq Nasheed "the sisterhood of failure" If I like a chick of course I'm trying to spend time with her shyt she should be worried if I'm cool seeing once or twice a month but have free time. She definitely isn't starting for my team if thats the case but men/women both play games cause they scarred but wont admit it. I also would have done just like you chick know she not busy but doing that fake hollywood act peace. I think men/women need to realize its not much that seperates them from the next person and act accordingly. Act like you Lebron once in a generation status if you want to but if you not (and if you still on the market late 20's and beyond esp as a chick you probably not even though there are exceptions) you going to be on the market for a hot minute like a million dollar house smack dab in the hood.

 

[Poh SIti Dawn]

I agree I think some of these chicks be listening to in the words of Tariq Nasheed "the sisterhood of failure" If I like a chick of course I'm trying to spend time with her shyt she should be worried if I'm cool seeing once or twice a month but have free time. She definitely isn't starting for my team if thats the case but men/women both play games cause they scarred but wont admit it. I also would have done just like you chick know she not busy but doing that fake hollywood act peace. I think men/women need to realize its not much that seperates them from the next person and act accordingly. Act like you Lebron once in a generation status if you want to but if you not (and if you still on the market late 20's and beyond esp as a chick you probably not even though there are exceptions) you going to be on the market for a hot minute like a million dollar house smack dab in the hood.

Exactly! Like Bobby Womack said "you ain't always going to be sweet sixteen, so why you can; find yourself somebody that can do you some good". I think women need to realize that they're highly replaceable, and while we may be HIGHLY interested in them, but that "act like I'm busy, and not desperate" shyt is a huge turn off, because as valuable as you think you are, there are 6 billion other women who are able to do exactly what you can. And while you think you're making us work, you're really pushing us further away. This goes for both sexes, if you're busy and you're being asked out, decline, but show further interest and try to build on the situation rather than allowing the opposite sex to push things forward, because guys like you and I will not pursue nothing like that. What exactly makes your time more valuable than mine?

 

[BedRoomI'z]

Holding back will mess both men and women up.
Sometimes we can't make our intentions known up front.

You wanna know why some women decide to play games is because
the game was introduced to us first. A good woman will go all in blindly
until she find out what kind of guy she dealing with and she will stay while
hoping for the best, and this is where she will get a train ran on her mentally.

Good people make their intentions known up front, no games or tricks. If they tell
you they don't want a relationship, believe them and k.i.m.

Can't blame the other person for the way you feeling, you always knew, you saw
the red flags but you chose to ignore them because you thought you could
change them.

That's not love, that's lust.

 

[Dwolf]

You don't look desperate at all, you have to understand if I'm asking you out and we go on a date and I like you, I'm definitely trying to set something else, why? Because I'm showing you that basically you're the only one I'm messing with and are the only one that I'm interested in getting to know as of now. I took a girl out on a coffee date, told her I'd call her in 2 days, I did and tried to set something up, she said she was too busy and she'd hit me up etc. I never hit that bytch back up again. some guys don't see you as being desperate, they're just genuinely interested, by having some sort of desperate complex, you just make yourself look like an idiot, an insecure idiot in fact, and many guys will and many guys won't entertain that, why? Because we get discouraged, why? Because you've got some sort of idiotic idea that you're making yourself look desperate when you comply with his plans. If you feel this strongly about not looking desperate then you'll pick up the phone and make plans with him instead.

Rt, nobody has times for them games, male and female.

Edit:that's not even logical, I hope most women don't believe that, because if you look desperate by accepting a date then what does that make the man? Desperate as well?

Also whoever said men just hangout to fukk, totally wrong. Most times if I approach a girl it's because I see girlfriend qualities within her. In fact the only time I've properly messed around is when I had a broken heart. You shouldn't be so quick to generalize, some guys truly are interested in your soul rather than your p*ssy.

Yeah what he said

 

[Illuminatos]

:thankin':

 

[Poh SIti Dawn]

Holding back will mess both men and women up.
Sometimes we can't make our intentions known up front.

You wanna know why some women decide to play games is because
the game was introduced to us first. A good woman will go all in blindly
until she find out what kind of guy she dealing with and she will stay while
hoping for the best, and this is where she will get a train ran on her mentally.

Good people make their intentions known up front, no games or tricks. If they tell
you they don't want a relationship, believe them and k.i.m.

Can't blame the other person for the way you feeling, you always knew, you saw
the red flags but you chose to ignore them because you thought you could
change them.

That's not love, that's lust.

Meh, that's no excuse. It's purely based on immaturity, which most people are. My ex did me wrong enough times and I believed she'd grow up and fix her wrongs, she even went as far to say that I was a better person than her once. She tried to reminiscence through text and I went off on her, apologized a week later but still told her I was done with her. I'd tried to fix things for 2 years, the point is that although you had someone play games with your heart, that doesn't mean you play the same game with another's, and if you do then it's simple; you're an idiot. Why? Because you don't define yourself, instead you let others mold you into some unstable, bitter creature. Like I said, I put up with her for 2 years, cussed at her, a week later apologized for cussing but told her it was unhealthy for us to argue and that we need to be done because as a man who may have a daughter one day I wouldn't appreciate a boy cussing at my daughter. That is a perfect example of being considerate, respectful and honorable. You for one don't be selfish while interacting with others, because their feelings are in your hands, so when playing your game, think back to when you had that game played on you, why would you want another to feel how you felt?


Tbh this is no where near rocket science, nor calculus (which I got a D in!) it's honestly just common sense and as children respect and consideration is reinforced in our morals yet somewhere down the line we forget about them. We forget to be honest with others, if you're not feeling a man, then tell him; be honest, because he may like you and he may wait around for you and keeping him on a leash is inconsiderate and this goes for guys as well.

Ladies, gentlemen, you don't let others define you. You'll always end up unhappy.

 

[BedRoomI'z]

Meh, that's no excuse. It's purely based on immaturity, which most people are. My ex did me wrong enough times and I believed she'd grow up and fix her wrongs, she even went as far to say that I was a better person than her once. She tried to reminiscence through text and I went off on her, apologized a week later but still told her I was done with her. I'd tried to fix things for 2 years, the point is that although you had someone play games with your heart, that doesn't mean you play the same game with another's, and if you do then it's simple; you're an idiot. Why? Because you don't define yourself, instead you let others mold you into some unstable, bitter creature. Like I said, I put up with her for 2 years, cussed at her, a week later apologized for cussing but told her it was unhealthy for us to argue and that we need to be done because as a man who may have a daughter one day I wouldn't appreciate a boy cussing at my daughter. That is a perfect example of being considerate, respectful and honorable. You for one don't be selfish while interacting with others, because their feelings are in your hands, so when playing your game, think back to when you had that game played on you, why would you want another to feel how you felt?


Tbh this is no where near rocket science, nor calculus (which I got a D in!) it's honestly just common sense and as children respect and consideration is reinforced in our morals yet somewhere down the line we forget about them. We forget to be honest with others, if you're not feeling a man, then tell him; be honest, because he may like you and he may wait around for you and keeping him on a leash is inconsiderate and this goes for guys as well.

Ladies, gentlemen, you don't let others define you. You'll always end up unhappy.

In a perfect world

Props for standing on your beliefs because there are many
out there that don't give a shyt. They will play with you and let
you draw your own conclusions about the situation. Because it
really is left up to you in the end.

It ain't the other person, it's you. Always put yourself in the judging
chair first so you can self correct. Damn them

 

[CrossBones]

Monsieur. Fox is right in that you shouldnt let someone change your values or who you are. I can understand adjusting your standards for relationships, being cautious, and possibly changing your approaches to the opposite sex as you grow older and find out what you really want - but at the core you should always have your true intentions shown. its not bad to make mistakes, but it is bad to make them while you were untrue to who you are and to what you want.

 

[Poh SIti Dawn]

Exactly, because even though you may get dumped or disrespected, as long as you play the game honorably that's all that matters. You learn to not cheat the game, but instead play it at your own speed. People who play with hearts, for the most part they're not geniuses or players, they're just undecided and caught up in their emotions, especially after have been done wrong in the past. Someone who bows out honorably plays fairly, but sets standards that way if the opposite goes against them, they can end the relationship before games start to be played.

 

[ThugLife]

If a guy says come over we will watch a movie......He is not expecting to watch the movie.

 

[innocentdevil]

some girls still fall for this lol