Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Astroslik]

its going to be long but basically I meet this chick a little over two weeks ago online, after exchanging messages for about 4 days I ask for her number. She says it sounds like a great idea. I attempt to call her the following day, she doesnt answer but sends a text message about 3 hrs later saying that it was late but that we will talk the next day. I didnt call her the next day or anything like that and I didnt hear from her either, well the following day she hits me up by text saying that she is sorry she hasnt gotten back to me but she has been busy at work (she had told me in advance she works long hours). So we start exchanging text back and forth and talk briefly on the phone twice for like 3 days and then I set something up for the weekend which she says yes. We have a great time, she makes the first move by grabbing my hand. We kiss through out the night and I have my arms around her. She comes off for lowkey, simple, but intelligent (she has a masters). Throughout the night she talks about "we" and different things she wants us to do. I drop her back at her place go inside for awhile, more kissing and then she says I should go before I break her first date rule. She walks me to my car we continue to talk more. She tells me to text her when I get home so she knows I made it home safely. She mentions having a great time several times. Ok, so during the date I set something up for the upcoming monday. She tells me that has to work late but that afterwards we will grab something to eat. Well it hits 9pm that night, hadnt heard anything from her so I text her. Her response is that she was just about to text me that her meeting ran late and then she had to come home to work on a powerpoint. I was annoyed but i let it go, try to set something up for tuesday but she cant and ask me about wednesday which I cant (she even sends me a sad face when i tell her that). So a couple of days later I go out of town, but she ask that i text her before my plane leaves and when it lands, which I do. We communicate throughout the time Im gone (she even sends me a sad face asking when im coming back), and I set something up for the day I come back which was yesterday. Well tuesday night she tells me she cant make the date on wednesday because of special prayer (she is muslim and wed was the last day of ramadan). I ask her why did she agree to the date, which she replies she had forgotten until her dad reminded. She apologizes for making me angry and stated that it was her full intention to see me wednesday night. She offers thursday night because she is going out of town this weekend. I tell her that im not mad but that im big on communication.She replies that she knows she sucks at communicating and that she will get better. She tells me again she wanted to see me and that she will try to clear thursday night (tonight) for us. well I havent heard from her today. I didnt send her a text or call because i feel like the ball is in her court and that it was time for her to step up. Its coming off that she is playing games with me, but the little I know about her and from our date that was like 3 1/2 hours I dont get that vibe from her. Im thinking should i just ask her and put the cards on the table and see whats up, or should I just fall back and see if she hits me up. I guess ive never had a first date go so well yet im still not knowing where her head is. Near the end of the date we even talk about how our families see things when it comes to interracial dating.

Throw her to the bushes

 

[MikelArteta]

its going to be long but basically I meet this chick a little over two weeks ago online, .

its been 2 weeks and your already writing a paragraph breh, your way to emotionally invested.

after exchanging messages for about 4 days I ask for her number. She says it sounds like a great idea. I attempt to call her the following day, she doesnt answer but sends a text message about 3 hrs later saying that it was late but that we will talk the next day. I didnt call her the next day or anything like that and I didnt hear from her either, well the following day she hits me up by text saying that she is sorry she hasnt gotten back to me but she has been busy at work (she had told me in advance she works long hours).

from the time you got her number one of the first things you should have said is "i think we should hang out one of these days", busy at work sure she is, women have thier phones on them 24/7 they text all the time, if a chick is really really into you, she will call you, text you all the time trust me,

So we start exchanging text back and forth and talk briefly on the phone twice for like 3 days and then I set something up for the weekend which she says yes. We have a great time, she makes the first move by grabbing my hand. We kiss through out the night and I have my arms around her. She comes off for lowkey, simple, but intelligent (she has a masters). Throughout the night she talks about "we" and different things she wants us to do. I drop her back at her place go inside for awhile, more kissing and then she says I should go before I break her first date rule. She walks me to my car we continue to talk more. She tells me to text her when I get home so she knows I made it home safely. She mentions having a great time several times. Ok, so during the date I set something up for the upcoming monday. She tells me that has to work late but that afterwards we will grab something to eat. Well it hits 9pm that night, hadnt heard anything from her so I text her.

bravo you set somethign up, id say 80% of dates are "great times", who cares about her education level, i've gone on dates with chicks with thier mba, doctorate, who were lawyes, just because they are book smart does not mean they are relationship smart or smart in choosing men if they were the ywould have been married already.

RED FLAG 1st date and already talking about we, women who are assure of themselves never put all their eggs in a basket on a first date. Ah please dont tell me you text her when you got home safe, that is so cheesy and 15 year old, i never text a broad if she got home safe on a first date, I just met you, all the 20, 25 , 27 years of your life you got home safe . Ive been on dates i thought that went great, the chemistry, talked for hours, the laughs etc., chick ssaid they had a great time, then poof dont reply to the text, or the phone call, no broad will tell you sh hhad a horrible boring time, women are not like that.

Her response is that she was just about to text me that her meeting ran late and then she had to come home to work on a powerpoint. I was annoyed but i let it go, try to set something up for tuesday but she cant and ask me about wednesday which I cant (she even sends me a sad face when i tell her that). So a couple of days later I go out of town, but she ask that i text her before my plane leaves and when it lands, which I do.

and you bought htis response? like i said women text all the time whether they are at work, at the mall, in bed. Meeting ran late what a joke, right then and there you should have cut your losses, instead of still trying to appease her oh its ok i knew you were busy , look again she asks you and you do. YOu text her "did you get home ok", you text her Im on the plane now, stop doing what a women tells you.

We communicate throughout the time Im gone (she even sends me a sad face asking when im coming back), and I set something up for the day I come back which was yesterday. Well tuesday night she tells me she cant make the date on wednesday because of special prayer (she is muslim and wed was the last day of ramadan). I ask her why did she agree to the date, which she replies she had forgotten until her dad reminded.

MY GAWD its only two weeks and shes already flaking yet you still on its ok, another time. CUT THE CORD BREH, When your young its understandable, but when you get older the signs are there, most women wont flat out tell you they are not interested but the silence, cancel dates, flakiness are stuff you have to pick up on breh. Sad face means nothing its just a

She apologizes for making me angry and stated that it was her full intention to see me wednesday night. She offers thursday night because she is going out of town this weekend. I tell her that im not mad but that im big on communication.She replies that she knows she sucks at communicating and that she will get better. She tells me again she wanted to see me and that she will try to clear thursday night (tonight) for us. well I havent heard from her today. I didnt send her a text or call because i feel like the ball is in her court and that it was time for her to step up. Its coming off that she is playing games with me, but the little I know about her and from our date that was like 3 1/2 hours I dont get that vibe from her. Im thinking should i just ask her and put the cards on the table and see whats up, or should I just fall back and see if she hits me up. I guess ive never had a first date go so well yet im still not knowing where her head is. Near the end of the date we even talk about how our families see things when it comes to interracial dating.

, your not even a item or dating her, see this is why we preach here if you are single and dating talk to alot of women, wen you don't this is what happens, she's your only option and you are scared to lose her and its been two weeks, she has cancelled dates, flaked, and all she has to do is send a smiley face and its all good eh

again you haven't heard from her today delete that number and get on with your life, she's probably out on a date with someone else. WOW BREH you were with her for 3 1/2 hours, ive dated broads for like 2-3 years and in the end I realized I didn't even know them that well, masking your personality, acting like your the best thing ever is NOTHING for a broad for 3.5 hours.

YOu shouldn't say anything right now NOTHING, what you should do is DELETE HER NUMBER and start talking to other women.

again who cares what her family sees when it comes to interracial dating? your not dating her, you went on one date.

 

[Mr210]

well i feel you're in a good position right now, first date seemed awesome
honestly i feel you could've fukked the first date if it wasn't during ramadam, next time you go out with her you can probably fukk

only thing that is throwing me off is the 'we' talk on a first date, that comes off sort of clingy, but since she is muslim i wouldn't dwell too far into that thinking.

maybe this is real dumb thinking but maybe she wants to have sex on your next date, and she really can't until Eid is over, so she's just waiting. so I say see if she hits you up tomorrow, if not hit her up sunday afternoon then you can put the ball in her court then. yea she probably is somewhat playing games though, most do. but i have a realllly good feeling she will end up texting you first eventually in the next few days, don't overanalyze, just chill out

I feel where you are coming from I guess what is throwing me off is usually chicks I dont progress with are usually the ones that I dont get much from when talking on the phone or text, but with this chick she is so engaged when we communicate, but then its like when it comes to making plans atleast after the first date, its a whole another thing. I think since she is going out of town this weekend and I dont want to be thinking about it the entire time, im just going to hit her up tomorrow and just put it out there and ask her whats up, maybe she will come out and be honest, maybe she will apologize and say she will do better who knows

 

[Mr210]

its been 2 weeks and your already writing a paragraph breh, your way to emotionally invested.




from the time you got her number one of the first things you should have said is "i think we should hang out one of these days", busy at work sure she is, women have thier phones on them 24/7 they text all the time, if a chick is really really into you, she will call you, text you all the time trust me,



bravo you set somethign up, id say 80% of dates are "great times", who cares about her education level, i've gone on dates with chicks with thier mba, doctorate, who were lawyes, just because they are book smart does not mean they are relationship smart or smart in choosing men if they were the ywould have been married already.

RED FLAG 1st date and already talking about we, women who are assure of themselves never put all their eggs in a basket on a first date. Ah please dont tell me you text her when you got home safe, that is so cheesy and 15 year old, i never text a broad if she got home safe on a first date, I just met you, all the 20, 25 , 27 years of your life you got home safe . Ive been on dates i thought that went great, the chemistry, talked for hours, the laughs etc., chick ssaid they had a great time, then poof dont reply to the text, or the phone call, no broad will tell you sh hhad a horrible boring time, women are not like that.




and you bought htis response? like i said women text all the time whether they are at work, at the mall, in bed. Meeting ran late what a joke, right then and there you should have cut your losses, instead of still trying to appease her oh its ok i knew you were busy , look again she asks you and you do. YOu text her "did you get home ok", you text her Im on the plane now, stop doing what a women tells you.



MY GAWD its only two weeks and shes already flaking yet you still on its ok, another time. CUT THE CORD BREH, When your young its understandable, but when you get older the signs are there, most women wont flat out tell you they are not interested but the silence, cancel dates, flakiness are stuff you have to pick up on breh. Sad face means nothing its just a





, your not even a item or dating her, see this is why we preach here if you are single and dating talk to alot of women, wen you don't this is what happens, she's your only option and you are scared to lose her and its been two weeks, she has cancelled dates, flaked, and all she has to do is send a smiley face and its all good eh

again you haven't heard from her today delete that number and get on with your life, she's probably out on a date with someone else. WOW BREH you were with her for 3 1/2 hours, ive dated broads for like 2-3 years and in the end I realized I didn't even know them that well, masking your personality, acting like your the best thing ever is NOTHING for a broad for 3.5 hours.

YOu shouldn't say anything right now NOTHING, what you should do is DELETE HER NUMBER and start talking to other women.

again who cares what her family sees when it comes to interracial dating? your not dating her, you went on one date.

Im not going to reply to everything you wrote way too much, you are off base on a lot of things and i agree with some of you things, anyways im just going to hit her up tomorrow. And for the record I am talking to another chick.

 

[MikelArteta]

@Mr210 I'm not even laughing or calling you dumb or anything, I've been there breh.

This is why until you are exclusive its best to talk to a lot of women, mainly because you dont throw all your eggs in one basket, You diversify your stock, you've only known this broa dfor 2 weeks but because you have no other options at the moment you have looked the other way at the red flags and the treatment you are receiving because you think its better than being alone etc.


see when you have a roster of women when you are not in a relationship, if one flakes she cant make it on tuesday, ok that's cool.

Then youc all up the next chick and go out on that tuesday and enjoy yourself, and this is also why you dont make date plans etc.

you tell a chick like hey i'm going to the movies on tuesday you want to come?
or i'm going to the lounge on tuesday you want to come?

she can't make it thats cool you were going anyways, she can make it that scool you were going to be there anyways.

 

[MikelArteta]

I feel where you are coming from I guess what is throwing me off is usually chicks I dont progress with are usually the ones that I dont get much from when talking on the phone or text, but with this chick she is so engaged when we communicate, but then its like when it comes to making plans atleast after the first date, its a whole another thing. I think since she is going out of town this weekend and I dont want to be thinking about it the entire time, im just going to hit her up tomorrow and just put it out there and ask her whats up, maybe she will come out and be honest, maybe she will apologize and say she will do better who knows

stop hitting her up, the best htign you can do in this situation is say and do absolutely nothing trust me.

I know part of you thinks hey we had a great first date, the chemistry rah rah, ill just sned a message, or a text NO DON'T.

your not even dating her yet again, you met her once for 3.5 hours, you know nothing about her yet your making every excuse in the book for her

 

[MikelArteta]

If this chick was truelove unequivocally into you, your phone would be filled with text messages, she would make plans to see you, and sh ewould not cancel early on.

every chick i have dated casually or in a relationship with Especially after the first date who were interested in me, no matter how busy etc. they were they always hit me up, hell i remember last year i dateda broad with her mba who was a manager of a big time corporation, this chick would still msg me throughout the day, and even her working like 50 hours a week and ish, she'd travel up to near i live and meet me for like coffee at like 10pm on a work night

if a chick is interested in you nothing will stop her from seeing you or making plans

 

[MikelArteta]

Im not going to reply to everything you wrote way too much, you are off base on a lot of things and i agree with some of you things, anyways im just going to hit her up tomorrow. And for the record I am talking to another chick.

why are oyu going to hit her up

its been 1 measly date and you treating her like shes your gf already.

read teh signs and get the point breh.

99% of women wont tell you they are not interested, they will drop subtle hints like always flaking etc.

that whole she busy and tired is a crock of doo doo.

 

[Astroslik]

Im not going to reply to everything you wrote way too much, you are off base on a lot of things and i agree with some of you things, anyways im just going to hit her up tomorrow. And for the record I am talking to another chick.

again THROW HER TO THE BUSHES

 

[Mr210]

If this chick was truelove unequivocally into you, your phone would be filled with text messages, she would make plans to see you, and sh ewould not cancel early on.

every chick i have dated casually or in a relationship with Especially after the first date who were interested in me, no matter how busy etc. they were they always hit me up, hell i remember last year i dateda broad with her mba who was a manager of a big time corporation, this chick would still msg me throughout the day, and even her working like 50 hours a week and ish, she'd travel up to near i live and meet me for like coffee at like 10pm on a work night

if a chick is interested in you nothing will stop her from seeing you or making plans

I agree with you, she blows up my phone text and calling wise, but she has been flakey, it does burn some, but i have 3 other chicks im currently working on, but she was actually my favorite out of all of them

 

[Mr210]

why are oyu going to hit her up

its been 1 measly date and you treating her like shes your gf already.

read teh signs and get the point breh.

99% of women wont tell you they are not interested, they will drop subtle hints like always flaking etc.

that whole she busy and tired is a crock of doo doo.

she has never told me she was tired, but i agree with you, i didnt hit her up today and dont plan on it today, when/if she hits me up i will let her know whats up and then keep it moving

 

[Mr210]

ya'll are making great points, plus she is 23 and im 29, i guess I got thrown off some, because honestly it was the best first date ive ever been on, and I felt she was really feeling me by the things we talked about that honestly was new for first date convos, but im going to take everyone advice and not hit her up. If she hits me up I will tell her why ive been mia and then keep it moving, like i stated im already working on 3 others

 

[CrossBones]

women are naturally great actors and pretenders. they can hide things about themselves (including what they like and dont like), or what theyre really doing when theyre out there, like its nothing. and they can do it for years and years if they want to.

what shes done for you and what choices she makes in her life are the undisputed truth, not what she tells you or she wants you to believe about her.

in other words, judge her by her actions, and what her character shows you. do not judge her by what you think shes like, what she looks like, or what she acts like shes going to do. her actions are revelations of who she is, so do not fall for excuses, sob stories, or blatant lies.

 

[Zapp Brannigan]

Open question: What do you guys think is the best way to message a woman on a dating site? I have my own answer, but I want to hear yours first.

 

[Mr210]

women are naturally great actors and pretenders. they can hide things about themselves (including what they like and dont like), or what theyre really doing when theyre out there, like its nothing. and they can do it for years and years if they want to.

what shes done for you and what choices she makes in her life are the undisputed truth, not what she tells you or she wants you to believe about her.

in other words, judge her by her actions, and what her character shows you. do not judge her by what you think shes like, what she looks like, or what she acts like shes going to do. her actions are revelations of who she is, so do not fall for excuses, sob stories, or blatant lies.

Great point, last night I got another person's number and will more than likely ask this other chick for her number either today or tomorrow. Im hesitant about the second chick, she is cute, but she has no full body pics. I want to ask her to see one, but I may hold off for alittle bit longer.