Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

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well tomorrow might be the day i cut this broad out the mix, we were suppose to go out wed. night but on tuesday she tells me that she had forgot that she needed to do something and that she would try to clear her schedule for thursday night, however; she didnt bring it up today, so im not going to call/text her tomorrow. If she doesnt hit me up then im going to just tell her we need to stop talking because obviously the interest isnt there on her part.
 

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It's all about being a solid gatekeeper and keeping the bad ones out. Your life will go A LOT smoother depending on who you let through the door and who you don't... and you must ALWAYS maintain that if a woman is getting your time that she respects you. Never be one of those desperate type brothas who is male equivalent of a woman who must always be in a relationship because she fears being alone. Being by yourself is much better than allowing a woman who will wreak havoc on your life into your life. If she's going to feast at your table, make sure she has table manners.
 

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I need yall opinion.
I met this girl on match.com, she gives me her number the next day, and we go out on monday we had a few drinks talked and all that. As I walked her to my car I even do the gentlemanly thing and open the car door for her, and she leaned over and opened my door so I'm thinking this one knows how to act. I drop her off she tells me how she enjoyed herself i give her a hug and little kiss on the cheek and go on my way. So the next time I talk to her she tells me how she had fun and thought I was cool and would like to continue hanging out. The next day we set up a date for the weekend which she seemed excited about or so I thought. tell me why i get a text later on saying she doesnt want to continue dating because she isnt sure we are compatible and doesn't want to waste my time due to her uncertainty. I look at the phone like :wtf: it was all good a few hours ago, how does one change their whole thought process so suddenly it's like her alter ego took over.. any real comments or criticisms are welcomed
 
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I need yall opinion.
I met this girl on match.com, she gives me her number the next day, and we go out on monday we had a few drinks talked and all that. As I walked her to my car I even do the gentlemanly thing and open the car door for her, and she leaned over and opened my door so I'm thinking this one knows how to act. I drop her off she tells me how she enjoyed herself i give her a hug and little kiss on the cheek and go on my way. So the next time I talk to her she tells me how she had fun and thought I was cool and would like to continue hanging out. The next day we set up a date for the weekend which she seemed excited about or so I thought. tell me why i get a text later on saying she doesnt want to continue dating because she isnt sure we are compatible and doesn't want to waste my time due to her uncertainty. I look at the phone like :wtf: it was all good a few hours ago, how does one change their whole thought process so suddenly it's like her alter ego took over.. any real comments or criticisms are welcomed

the standard reply would be that you messed up not kissing her but i'd say that it could have happened anyways. fukk whatever it was and move on. reply with a simple "cool" or not at all, that will bruise her ego and leave her wondering why you are not upset. if she hit's you up again, tell her straight up you have no time for playing games. stop wondering what it was or if you made a mistake because it could have been any number of things. find somebody that appreciates you.
 

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the standard reply would be that you messed up not kissing her but i'd say that it could have happened anyways. fukk whatever it was and move on. reply with a simple "cool" or not at all, that will bruise her ego and leave her wondering why you are not upset. if she hit's you up again, tell her straight up you have no time for playing games. stop wondering what it was or if you made a mistake because it could have been any number of things. find somebody that appreciates you.


cosign this, no need to stress, the first 2-3 months of dating is like a woman's first trimester of pregnancy, so many things can go on. If Im feeling a chick on a first date, i always go for a kiss, my last first date the chick made the move first, and she made the move real early on in the date so I knew she was feeling me
 

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Especially on dating sites the next best thing on their eyes is just a click away. Women change like the wind just cut your losses now and move on.

And Malcolm all single moms are like that, beautiful seems to have t all together then a poor sucker gets drawn in
 

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Especially on dating sites the next best thing on their eyes is just a click away. Women change like the wind just cut your losses now and move on.

And Malcolm all single moms are like that, beautiful seems to have t all together then a poor sucker gets drawn in

haha i think u meant atlrocafella, the avy threw me off aswell :laugh:
 

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the standard reply would be that you messed up not kissing her but i'd say that it could have happened anyways. fukk whatever it was and move on. reply with a simple "cool" or not at all, that will bruise her ego and leave her wondering why you are not upset. if she hit's you up again, tell her straight up you have no time for playing games. stop wondering what it was or if you made a mistake because it could have been any number of things. find somebody that appreciates you.

Exactly, I dont think it would have mattered what I would have done. But now I know to go in for the kill everytime. I pretty much replied back like oh ok I dont know what changed but I wish you well on your future endeavors, I know I should not have said that much but it was so shocking to me based on the way she was acting just a few hours before.. :manny: I cant do nothing but keep it moving
 

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Exactly, I dont think it would have mattered what I would have done. But now I know to go in for the kill everytime. I pretty much replied back like oh ok I dont know what changed but I wish you well on your future endeavors, I know I should not have said that much but it was so shocking to me based on the way she was acting just a few hours before.. :manny: I cant do nothing but keep it moving

Damn breh, your story even had me :wtf: What did you reply with? I wouldn't stress the whole going in for a kiss thing. I normally like to wait unless the girl wants it. I think what really happened is she went out with someone else after you and she was probably swept off her feet, or at least it's what it appeared in her eyes. So she rolled with her guns. I mean honestly, you have to tip your cap for her being straight out with you. Regardless if what really happened, it's cool that she told you and didn't stand you up or do some other shady shyt.
 

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Damn breh, your story even had me :wtf: What did you reply with? I wouldn't stress the whole going in for a kiss thing. I normally like to wait unless the girl wants it. I think what really happened is she went out with someone else after you and she was probably swept off her feet, or at least it's what it appeared in her eyes. So she rolled with her guns. I mean honestly, you have to tip your cap for her being straight out with you. Regardless if what really happened, it's cool that she told you and didn't stand you up or do some other shady shyt.
Im not any more, but as far as what happened, she was talking to me all day the day after, but she did say she was sick and went home early, maybe that was some bs :manny: but I told her "oh ok cool, I didnt see this coming but I can respect that and I wish you well". I think I was just so shocked that it went down like that, I'm over it now..
 

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Im not any more, but as far as what happened, she was talking to me all day the day after, but she did say she was sick and went home early, maybe that was some bs :manny: but I told her "oh ok cool, I didnt see this coming but I can respect that and I wish you well". I think I was just so shocked that it went down like that, I'm over it now..

It just shows you that you don't put all your eggs in one basket. If you have a match account, use it until it expires. When it expires, then you evaluate your catches and go from there. Always keep a roster until things start to get serious.
 

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yeah she came out and told you whats up, a lot of times chicks will just start ignoring your phonecalls and text or start cancelling on you hoping you are going to get the hint. I like to be upfront and i expect that from a woman im seeing regardless of how long we are dating.

right now im seeing this one chick had a great first date, lots of kissing, holding hands, arms around each other, chilled at her crib for a little bit, and ive have been talking every day since. we were suppose to go out last night, but when I brought it up on tuesday night she said she couldnt make it that she had forgotten that she had to do something. She apologized said she had every intention on seeing me and would try to clear her schedule for tonight. Talked to her throughout the day yesterday, but havent heard from her today. There has been no mention of tonight. I must admit I want to text her and ask if we are getting together tonight, but the ball is in her court time for her to step up.
 
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