"No. She does not love you. She is a woman, and love is NOT the same to them as it is to you.
You are capable of feeling sublime emotions and caring about someone else more than yourself. She is not. (Except temporarily with a young child, due to bonding hormones, that typically wear off in her brain when the child is around 3 years old. This is the age they start to drown their kids in the tub and drive them into a lake.)
You think that, since she is a human like you, she must feel things like you feel things. But she doesn't.
The reality is, she has no clue and no plan. She is just going moment-by-moment, like a dog with an iPhone.
This is not her fault; women need a man with a plan. They need a train that is going someplace with or without them. Once on a train, they can make it fun and party things up, but they won't get a train going from a dead stop, and they sure as fukk won't engineer a train from scratch.
Think of Coyote Ugly. If you own a bar, girls will get drunk and dance on the counter. They will not build the building, apply for a liquor license, or distill spirits. They will look good and they will suck your dikk.
Back to the train metaphor, your job is to be a train that is leaving the depot on YOUR schedule with whoever is on board WITH YOU.
And when you get to your stop, you need to be able to kick off everyone that you don't want going to your NEXT stop.
This means no co-habitation.
Never, ever let them move in with you. You didn't know, and guess what? This is a learning experience. Don't forget it.
Always have your own place in your own name.
Always be able to kick someone out.
You can let them sleep over, but remember it's like when your friends slept over and you played video games all weekend. There was never any expectation that your parents were gonna adopt them; they had their own family and their own home. And it was for a couple days at a time, not weeks or months.
Always keep the upper hand. If you can't do something unless the girl is equal to you (like on a lease) or above you, don't do it. Increase your standing, go back, and try again.
Understand human nature: Everyone is trying to exploit you. Even your own family. They have their own ideas about what you should do to suit them.
Your "friends" will exploit you. If you are doing better than them, they will try to mooch off you. If they are doing better than you, they will try to throw you crumbs that show they think you are below them.
You cannot trust anyone that occupies the same competitive strata as you.
Did you ever notice how humans like dogs and cats and vice-versa? It's because they are not competing with each other. Cats that are nice to you will hate other cats. Dogs will cop a 'tude with other dogs.
It works the same in the rainforest -- many species will co-exist and seemingly cooperate, because they occupy different ecological niches: one species in the canopy, another in the trees, another on the forest floor. They eat different things and share warning systems.
You can "trust" a lot of people online in some ways, because they are not in direct competition with you, and everyone is gaining more from cooperation. Being anonymous, nobody can take advantage of knowledge of your weaknesses.
There are very few relationships like that. Sometimes a real best friend, where you both value the other more than money and more than bytches, and are both trying to elevate the other. This happens in nature too, when two brother lions who are young, and not quite as strong individually as a grizzled male who has his own pride, can together take him down and then rule as co-alphas, and then it's almost impossible for any other lion coming along to depose them.
But women don't think of you like that.
When a new lion comes along, and defeats the old lion, he also kills all the cubs who are still suckling, because suckling releases hormones that prevent her from going into heat again too soon (until they are grown up). The females mourn their murdered cubs for a week or two, but once they go into heat, they all submit to the guy who came in and killed their babies, and mate with him, and have his babies.
Females have extremely plastic and transferable emotions. They had to, because they were always getting passed around from dominant male to dominant male with no choice in the matter. (Anyone who was emotionally wrecked by this, unable to function, would not be able to care for her own children and wouldn't pass on her "sensitive" or "loyal" genes.)
You can see this now by how much women respond to sexual dominance, and how women who were "kidnapped" and live in houses in suburbia as sex slaves just stay there and don't bother running away.
They have completely fukked-up psychology compared to your ideal for yourself.
So stop thinking about THEIR FEELINGS.
Women are the closest thing to happy when YOU do the shyt YOU want to do, and they get to follow you around like puppies."
You are capable of feeling sublime emotions and caring about someone else more than yourself. She is not. (Except temporarily with a young child, due to bonding hormones, that typically wear off in her brain when the child is around 3 years old. This is the age they start to drown their kids in the tub and drive them into a lake.)
You think that, since she is a human like you, she must feel things like you feel things. But she doesn't.
The reality is, she has no clue and no plan. She is just going moment-by-moment, like a dog with an iPhone.
This is not her fault; women need a man with a plan. They need a train that is going someplace with or without them. Once on a train, they can make it fun and party things up, but they won't get a train going from a dead stop, and they sure as fukk won't engineer a train from scratch.
Think of Coyote Ugly. If you own a bar, girls will get drunk and dance on the counter. They will not build the building, apply for a liquor license, or distill spirits. They will look good and they will suck your dikk.
Back to the train metaphor, your job is to be a train that is leaving the depot on YOUR schedule with whoever is on board WITH YOU.
And when you get to your stop, you need to be able to kick off everyone that you don't want going to your NEXT stop.
This means no co-habitation.
Never, ever let them move in with you. You didn't know, and guess what? This is a learning experience. Don't forget it.
Always have your own place in your own name.
Always be able to kick someone out.
You can let them sleep over, but remember it's like when your friends slept over and you played video games all weekend. There was never any expectation that your parents were gonna adopt them; they had their own family and their own home. And it was for a couple days at a time, not weeks or months.
Always keep the upper hand. If you can't do something unless the girl is equal to you (like on a lease) or above you, don't do it. Increase your standing, go back, and try again.
Understand human nature: Everyone is trying to exploit you. Even your own family. They have their own ideas about what you should do to suit them.
Your "friends" will exploit you. If you are doing better than them, they will try to mooch off you. If they are doing better than you, they will try to throw you crumbs that show they think you are below them.
You cannot trust anyone that occupies the same competitive strata as you.
Did you ever notice how humans like dogs and cats and vice-versa? It's because they are not competing with each other. Cats that are nice to you will hate other cats. Dogs will cop a 'tude with other dogs.
It works the same in the rainforest -- many species will co-exist and seemingly cooperate, because they occupy different ecological niches: one species in the canopy, another in the trees, another on the forest floor. They eat different things and share warning systems.
You can "trust" a lot of people online in some ways, because they are not in direct competition with you, and everyone is gaining more from cooperation. Being anonymous, nobody can take advantage of knowledge of your weaknesses.
There are very few relationships like that. Sometimes a real best friend, where you both value the other more than money and more than bytches, and are both trying to elevate the other. This happens in nature too, when two brother lions who are young, and not quite as strong individually as a grizzled male who has his own pride, can together take him down and then rule as co-alphas, and then it's almost impossible for any other lion coming along to depose them.
But women don't think of you like that.
When a new lion comes along, and defeats the old lion, he also kills all the cubs who are still suckling, because suckling releases hormones that prevent her from going into heat again too soon (until they are grown up). The females mourn their murdered cubs for a week or two, but once they go into heat, they all submit to the guy who came in and killed their babies, and mate with him, and have his babies.
Females have extremely plastic and transferable emotions. They had to, because they were always getting passed around from dominant male to dominant male with no choice in the matter. (Anyone who was emotionally wrecked by this, unable to function, would not be able to care for her own children and wouldn't pass on her "sensitive" or "loyal" genes.)
You can see this now by how much women respond to sexual dominance, and how women who were "kidnapped" and live in houses in suburbia as sex slaves just stay there and don't bother running away.
They have completely fukked-up psychology compared to your ideal for yourself.
So stop thinking about THEIR FEELINGS.
Women are the closest thing to happy when YOU do the shyt YOU want to do, and they get to follow you around like puppies."
Like how the advice goes, let her know how you feel and she'll come back
