Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

MikelArteta

Moderator
Staff member
Supporter
Joined
Apr 30, 2012
Messages
249,493
Reputation
30,873
Daps
763,046
Reppin
Top 4
i really think when the point of no longer caring its such a beautiful thing, sometimes being single you get aggy when you see couples aorund you, dudes having success left and right with women, or getting jealous etc. i can honestly say :ehh:

for example this past weekend my church had a concert etc with this big gospel singer anyways my ex who attends my church invited this dude i saw them hugging an dall that i like :barney:, years ago i would have gotten jealous even though im not with her etc. sai da snide remark etc. now its like :ehh:, earlier last week i was fixing my moms computer cuz it was running slow she had her fb open and i saw my ex fiance there my mom still has her as a friend and it was a pic of her and her husband again back in this day this would prob have set off emotions bother me , now its :ehh:.
 

MikelArteta

Moderator
Staff member
Supporter
Joined
Apr 30, 2012
Messages
249,493
Reputation
30,873
Daps
763,046
Reppin
Top 4
someone dapped this so bringing it back

Wise men learn from other men's mistakes, fools by their own." - Winston Churchill



To any young man who may read this,

You are a man by birth and nature. Never let anyone, least of all a woman, convince you otherwise.

From the time you were born, you have been lied to about women by everyone you know, and everything you think you know about women is a lie. The secret to achieving your own personal happiness and future success in life, which you very well may angrily disagree with now and possibly for years to come, hinges on understanding the reality that not one woman currently living on this planet is worth your time, money, or effort. Please read that again. You are an unwitting soldier conscripted against your will into the greatest of wars, and you need training so that you survive. You have been born into the darkest period in human history, and, if you are not wise to what is going on, have extremely high chance of living the all-too-common pitiful life of court ordered poverty by way of child support and alimony, ending up in jail as a sexual predator, or submitting to the various merciless dictates of the global feminist movement. You have been born into an invisible prison for men, and every woman in the world is a guard, watching your every move and waiting for you to fall out of line so they can administer punishment unfit for rabid animals. In the collective eyes of women, your sole purpose in life is to eventually be harvested for either your sperm or financial support, and when you are used up, to be scattered like trash in the winds of a barren ghost town. You can place a bet on the odds that any given homeless man you see begging for change is relegated to panhandling because he has succumbed to one or more traps set by a woman, and most likely by a woman he loved the most.

On TV, almost every tv show, movie, and commercial features a man who is portrayed as stupid and incapable of doing the simplest of things while the strong independent woman always comes to the rescue, generally acting disgusted at the man. This is no coincidence. Don't you dare fall for this. These programs are meant to manipulate you into thinking you are weak and stupid. In the news, every other article is about how poor women are savagely raped left and right by vicious evil men. It is enough to make you question your sanity. In schools, you are taught that your natural domineering display of energy and aggression is bad, that masculinity is a terrible thing and that you must be corrected and medicated and indoctrinated to be feminine. Even your own mother has raised you to believe that all women are perfect beings, and that to even so much as question their behavior towards men is tantamount to a criminal act. Your mother's behavior towards your own father taught you that it is perfectly normal to emasculate, ridicule, and marginalize your father. Your own mother may even spend your formative years turning you against him, to think that he is bad person. As your father is treated by your mother, so to will you allow yourself to be treated by every other woman you meet. Even your own male friends will turn on you the instant you so much as question the behavior of a woman.

The behavior of women today is atrocious. They are unfeminine, unfaithful, manner-less, violent, obnoxious, manipulating, foul-mouthed, narcissistic, vicious creatures void of any class and discourteous towards anyone not seen in a mirror. In a word, they are uncivilized and undeserving of your time, money, or attention. All women today never mature past the high-school mentality of being backstabbing teenage girls. And here is an uncommon word for you to learn today: misandry, meaning to hate men. By their actions alone, you can see that most, if not all women are complete misandrists. Women do not care about you to any greater extent than your usefulness to them. There is no logic or reason to a woman's thinking, as her though process is governed solely by fleeting emotions and feelings only. This is why women can fall madly in love with a man one day, and is pouring nail polish all over his car the next week in a fit of rage.

And if you think women are poor innocent angels, let us not overlook all the women in the news you hear about how they have killed their husbands or children, or the female teachers who have raped their students, and have received little to no punishment. If it were men causing these heinous crimes, they would receive unfathomable prison sentences or the death penalty. There is a double standard, where women must play the victim in every situation in order to manipulate any outcome where they benefit. There is not one area in your life that women have not been granted an edge over you, be it with the Violence Against Women Act, Affirmative Action, Title 9, discrimination laws, biased criminal courts, biased family courts, you name it, you get the short end of the stick.

You may not be consciously aware of this, but women lie all the time and are never to be trusted. In fact, everything that comes out of a woman's mouth is in one way or another a lie. Whenever they say something to avoid taking responsibility or to dodge the issue, they are lying. If they give you a compliment, it is often insincere and only used to manipulate your feelings and get you to give them something. Nothing that comes out of a woman's mouth will ever benefit you. Women are masters of using words and promises get something from men for little to nothing in return. If you want the truth from a woman, you have to learn to decode and read their body language. You have to literally put earplugs in in order to acquire, hone, and use the power of observation to see what they are doing. If you think women are a mystery, you have simply been stuck trying to fruitlessly match their words to their actions. Women need you to be confused, because in confusion you will always give them the benefit of the doubt.

Your single greatest weapon in this war sounds so simple, yet impossible at a young age: take control of your sex drive. If you do not take control of your sex drive, I guarantee there will be women who will, and with control they have the power to cause you unending pain and suffering. Most if not all choices you make as a young man hinge on the mercy of your sex drive. Masturbate and masturbate a lot. You may laugh now, but the uncomfortable topic eventually subsides. It is unfortunate that nature has outfitted men with this monster of a weakness, and all you can do is constantly and continually drain it. And don't let women convince you it is wrong or a sign of weakness; they themselves use every manner and tool known to man to masturbate themselves. Realize that love is nothing more than a powerful chemical reaction in your brain that subsides as you get older.

It will be hard, but you need to let women fall. You must not come to their rescue, as they have made it very clear you are unwelcome in their lives. You must not save them from their self-inflicted suffering, nor be their knight in shining armor. Chivalry was killed long before you were born by the hands of women, and if the tables were turned they would never come to your rescue. Women need to learn what it means to survive without men to fix everything and build everything for them. Most lessons in life are hard learned, and women, like men, need to learn from their mistakes. They must take responsibility for their actions, or be shunned. It is the only way things will get better.

Learn to live your life for yourself, to succeed, and to pursue your own happiness. It is your right! Go your own way and do your own thing and live your own life. There are far more interesting and rewarding experiences in life than what you may find between a woman's legs. Sex is the greatest nothing in the world and is never worth the effort it takes to get it. Do not waste another second pandering to all the ungrateful women who would destroy your health and wealth in an instant if you let them.

Young man, I hope you have taken the time to read what I have told you and heed my warning. It is by no means difinitive, but more of a road sign pointing you in the right direction in life. Learn everything you can about women and their nature, but don't get sucked in. And don't forget, there are many men like you, in the same position as you are, fighting the same battles. You are not alone. However, should you dare forgo my warning and choose to engage women on their own turf, I leave you with this:


1. Be in control your libido.
2. Always have an exit strategy.
3. Do not care what she thinks about you.
4. Read her body language and ignore her words.
5. Avoid single mothers, divorced women, and feminists.

If only a man had told me this when I was your age, and that I had listened...
 

EQ.

Mansur Brown - "Heiwa"
Joined
May 1, 2012
Messages
10,177
Reputation
2,900
Daps
23,746
Reppin
Sunhymns
Brehs, I thought that my next post in this thread would involve more mulling over the chick I didn't attempt to get at yesterday. She was light skinned and very attractive and I'm disappointed but...

I got a fresh rejection story for y'all.

Just came back from the grocery store. The store is going to close in 3 or 4 minutes and I'm heading for the exit with my paid-for groceries. A female employee from behind one of the counters, asks me how I'm doing. Nothing really major, but I was a little curious since this girl was closest to the exit, and asking me how I'm currently doing seems more like a greeting than a salutation. A "have a nice night, sir" seems more suitable for the situation.

Anyways, me and the girl start chopping it up. She recently graduated, was talking about grad school and all that jazz, whatever. She was being kind of fidgety, a little shy. Little timid smiles and giggles and shyt. I asked her if her questioning me was employee regulated policy, if she had to say something to every person that walked past her counter. She tells me "no." Told me that she "just wanted to say hi" on her own personal whim.

After she hinted at her being bored regularly, and probably just sleeping, I got ready to ask for the digits. She had to handle a purchase for a dude who walked up behind me, though. First she tells me "hold on I have to take care of this customer" but then tells me good night, and it was nice meeting. I'm like aight cool and I leave. Then a nigguh was like, "here we go again, breh." Started going back & forth between thoughts of her being with it, and thoughts of her not being with it.

Walked to and from the sliding doors twice before saying fukk it, and went back inside to her counter. A nigguh had the phone keypad pulled up already. I ask her if she would want to hang out and she tells me that she has a boyfriend :snoop:

I laughed and kept a smile on my face while she does the "I'm sorry, I just wanted to say hi, I make things so awkward" routine. What made my ego feel extra fufu was one of her female coworkers walking past right as she said "I have a boyfriend." :sadcam:

And I shop at this store regularly :damn: I'm good though, brehs. I feel relieved. I'm still bummed about the lightskinned girl. She might've turned me down, too, but I didn't even make an effort to see.

You can't win em all , even the Bulls lost 10 games in 96 :manny:
 

kevm3

follower of Jesus
Supporter
Joined
May 2, 2012
Messages
16,301
Reputation
5,571
Daps
83,592
The one thing to get out of your head is the need to 'impress women'. How many men waste so much time and money trying to impress women and completely wreck their financial situation by doing so by buying super fancy clothes, cars they can't really afford. Other guys end up spending on these lavish dinners. They're doing all of this to sneak their way between a woman's legs. All of that money saved could have put them in a situation where they are much more well off financially. These guys are constantly investing their hard earned money into depreciating assets (clothes, cars, colognes, etc.) in order to impress a woman. Now, if you like those things for their own sake and you work that within your budget, coo, but to go out and get tattoos, and do all of these stunts to impress women is nonsense.

To be honest, I was guilty of a lot of that, such as spending more on clothes and even colognes than I should have... but I can't be too mad since I now collect colognes for their own sake.

But let's be real. I'm going to tell you younger cats something that you might not see right now. you will be MUCH better off learning to live a minimalistic, 'below your mean's lifestyle and stacking your money up than you would buying all of these gadgets and gizmoes in an attempt to impress someone else. You want to be able to have enough money to where you don't have to put up with a garbage job and deal with some out-of-line boss if you don't want to. You can't do that if you have massive car payments or you spent all your savings up buying some fly gear. You want to be in a position to where you can up and take a trip if you want to on a whim. Hard to do that if your savings are all gone because you're tricking it off at some strip club. This is some of the most important advice I can give you. instead of trying to LOOK like you have it, actually put your self in a position to have it FOR REAL.
 

semicko82

Veteran
Supporter
Joined
Oct 9, 2012
Messages
30,997
Reputation
5,045
Daps
89,619
Reppin
NULL
The one thing to get out of your head is the need to 'impress women'. How many men waste so much time and money trying to impress women and completely wreck their financial situation by doing so by buying super fancy clothes, cars they can't really afford. Other guys end up spending on these lavish dinners. They're doing all of this to sneak their way between a woman's legs. All of that money saved could have put them in a situation where they are much more well off financially. These guys are constantly investing their hard earned money into depreciating assets (clothes, cars, colognes, etc.) in order to impress a woman. Now, if you like those things for their own sake and you work that within your budget, coo, but to go out and get tattoos, and do all of these stunts to impress women is nonsense.

To be honest, I was guilty of a lot of that, such as spending more on clothes and even colognes than I should have... but I can't be too mad since I now collect colognes for their own sake.





But let's be real. I'm going to tell you younger cats something that you might not see right now. you will be MUCH better off learning to live a minimalistic, 'below your mean's lifestyle and stacking your money up than you would buying all of these gadgets and gizmoes in an attempt to impress someone else. You want to be able to have enough money to where you don't have to put up with a garbage job and deal with some out-of-line boss if you don't want to. You can't do that if you have massive car payments or you spent all your savings up buying some fly gear. You want to be in a position to where you can up and take a trip if you want to on a whim. Hard to do that if your savings are all gone because you're tricking it off at some strip club. This is some of the most important advice I can give you. instead of trying to LOOK like you have it, actually put your self in a position to have it FOR REAL.

Your absolutely right most of these young cats trying to keep up with the Jones and their electric bill past due or stomach growling because their fridge is empty. I'm not going hungry or without cool air for no broad.
 

Kenny West

Veteran
Joined
May 29, 2012
Messages
25,022
Reputation
5,982
Daps
92,067
Reppin
NULL
Brehs, I thought that my next post in this thread would involve more mulling over the chick I didn't attempt to get at yesterday. She was light skinned and very attractive and I'm disappointed but...

I got a fresh rejection story for y'all.

Just came back from the grocery store. The store is going to close in 3 or 4 minutes and I'm heading for the exit with my paid-for groceries. A female employee from behind one of the counters, asks me how I'm doing. Nothing really major, but I was a little curious since this girl was closest to the exit, and asking me how I'm currently doing seems more like a greeting than a salutation. A "have a nice night, sir" seems more suitable for the situation.

Anyways, me and the girl start chopping it up. She recently graduated, was talking about grad school and all that jazz, whatever. She was being kind of fidgety, a little shy. Little timid smiles and giggles and shyt. I asked her if her questioning me was employee regulated policy, if she had to say something to every person that walked past her counter. She tells me "no." Told me that she "just wanted to say hi" on her own personal whim.

After she hinted at her being bored regularly, and probably just sleeping, I got ready to ask for the digits. She had to handle a purchase for a dude who walked up behind me, though. First she tells me "hold on I have to take care of this customer" but then tells me good night, and it was nice meeting. I'm like aight cool and I leave. Then a nigguh was like, "here we go again, breh." Started going back & forth between thoughts of her being with it, and thoughts of her not being with it.

Walked to and from the sliding doors twice before saying fukk it, and went back inside to her counter. A nigguh had the phone keypad pulled up already. I ask her if she would want to hang out and she tells me that she has a boyfriend :snoop:

I laughed and kept a smile on my face while she does the "I'm sorry, I just wanted to say hi, I make things so awkward" routine. What made my ego feel extra fufu was one of her female coworkers walking past right as she said "I have a boyfriend." :sadcam:

And I shop at this store regularly :damn: I'm good though, brehs. I feel relieved. I'm still bummed about the lightskinned girl. She might've turned me down, too, but I didn't even make an effort to see.

Meh that didn't sound too bad :obama:

you probably dipped too early doe. chicks say "I have a boyfriend" damn near out of reflex. :why: just to see what you say. yep they're willing to lie in ya face within the first 3 minutes of meeting you :umad:

I mean if you think she had good body language then I'd let that be the proof she's feeling me instead of any of that drivel say from they mouth.

but you saw a chick you liked and approached. you're ahead of like 80% of dudes :tu:
 

Cheercomp

Pro
Joined
May 4, 2012
Messages
1,298
Reputation
230
Daps
2,141
Reppin
NULL
Remember that trust is a tool.
This past July 4th weekend, I was out of town with my guys for a bday wknd. One has an ex who's now engaged that lives in the area. She met us after the club Friday and drove us back to the hotel. She stayed talking to her ex until 7am, leaves and walks into her dude's crib and starts making breakfast
:ohhh:

Next afternoon, she joins us at the hotel again for a pool party and then kicks it with us at a rooftop joint. Comes back to the room and sleeps in the bed with me until 3am. Her dude was blowing her phone up with texts and calls. I guess she fell asleep too long and his ass called that 1 more magic time, she hopped up like her shyt was on fire, and was in the lobby, where the dude was waiting!!! :krs: I'm surprised he wasn't already pulling that hand back for the ill slap. I still have no idea who he found her.

To think this chick refused to talk about her dude, except to say "Trust is a wonderful thing" as she lays on my chest. (I'm not even getting into why she's lounging on me and not her ex, who was in the next bed).
 

kevm3

follower of Jesus
Supporter
Joined
May 2, 2012
Messages
16,301
Reputation
5,571
Daps
83,592
It's funny how all these cats were smirking, calling us misogynists and flying through the sky to save these broads when we've admitted something that is now coming from the horses' mouths.

http://www.the-coli.com/locker-room...ouve-ever-done-female-forum.html#.Udxvh_nEqIY

remember when we said you better check up to see what your woman is doing? Not to believe them ho stories? To check her past? Apparently that is 'misogynistic', but these women are straight up saying how they get it in, how they are sleeping with their man's boys. That's just the reality of a lot of women these days... but when these women get in the presence of a man, they will put on that lil miss sweet story... in the presence of their fellow women, they'll let it all come up.

That's why I've been investing less and less into caring or doing anything for a woman. Imagine trying to build a future and you found your sweetheart loved having guys pop on her face from several guys she met at random junctures... but now you got to pay her bills and listen to her complain and cuddle up with her at night.

We live in a promiscuous culture where women are encouraged to have random sex... and men are expected not to 'slut shame'... and yet these women wonder why they are single and no one is wifing them up. hmm.. it couldn't be that any sensible man wants to give a long term deal to get what a lot of other men already experienced for free could it? couldn't be that no one wants to 'wrap you up' when you are out of your prime and ran through could it?

That's the point we've been driving at here. what do women bring other than sex, and in a lot of cases she comes used up by a whole lot of other men in the process... so why exactly is anyone putting up with the disrespect or worried about what these women think about you...

Man this is the EXACT reason we tell young cats, if you find a solid, moraled woman, don't be an idiot and cheat on her and do things to lose her. You see exactly what is out there 'in the game' for you.
 

Turbulent

Superstar
Joined
May 6, 2012
Messages
18,127
Reputation
4,219
Daps
55,767
Reppin
NULL
You sound bitter bruh in some parts don't be that way it's not worth it. If a chick don't wont you fukk it and move on. I and you shouldn't have time to hope for these chicks downfall. If you a awesome dude somebody going to recognize it but those that don't it is what it is esp since we all probably done turned down a chick that wasnt what we wanted/needed at the time that turned it around. Just saying as an Internet friend it ain't worth it for you or anybody else to be upset about a chick saying no as long as she respectful about it.
lol, i fee what you,re saying but i'm not bitter at all. That's why i said if you find a good chick treat her accordingly as well (meaning treat her right). My post was just speaking on how amazed i am at their air of arrogance in general. It's not even that they said no that disgusts me. It's the ones that were acting all high and mighty but when i dug deeper, i saw how lame they were, their insecurities and how LOST they are and when they notice that i saw their lameness, they start to stick like glue. That's why i said a few pages ago that even my "wins" disgust me sometimes.
 

philmonroe

Superstar
Joined
Jun 19, 2012
Messages
28,909
Reputation
730
Daps
37,464
Reppin
The 215
lol, i fee what you,re saying but i'm not bitter at all. That's why i said if you find a good chick treat her accordingly as well (meaning treat her right). My post was just speaking on how amazed i am at their air of arrogance in general. It's not even that they said no that disgusts me. It's the ones that were acting all high and mighty but when i dug deeper, i saw how lame they were, their insecurities and how LOST they are and when they notice that i saw their lameness, they start to stick like glue. That's why i said a few pages ago that even my "wins" disgust me sometimes.
I hear you I just don't worry about them being any type of way but hey it took time for me to get there so maybe the same can happen for you. I didn't think you were 100% but it did sound like you let that garbage effect you and you definitely shouldn't. They did you a favor that's how I look at it and I love when people do me favors esp ones that save me time and $$$ :youngsabo:
 

Turbulent

Superstar
Joined
May 6, 2012
Messages
18,127
Reputation
4,219
Daps
55,767
Reppin
NULL
I hear you I just don't worry about them being any type of way but hey it took time for me to get there so maybe the same can happen for you. I didn't think you were 100% but it did sound like you let that garbage effect you and you definitely shouldn't. They did you a favor that's how I look at it and I love when people do me favors esp ones that save me time and $$$ :youngsabo:
lol, if anything i'm more disgusted at myself for putting them on the pedestal early. They should neither be treated like scum or godesses. they are women, nothing more, nothing less. i just feel like we tend to put them on the pedestal when we dont know them. but i hear you though...
 
Joined
Mar 23, 2013
Messages
12,988
Reputation
2,413
Daps
31,350
The problem is too many men just ascribe to the ideas that women have about being together. Instead men need to have their own boundaries and ideas about what a relationship should be to them. Guys got to stop playing by womens rules -they`re irrelevant , selfish ideas that mostly benefit women so that they dont have to put any effort into being loveable to a man. Having rules and delegating your life while being honest is more important than commitment
 

Medio

All Star
Joined
Oct 15, 2012
Messages
4,022
Reputation
85
Daps
6,816
Reppin
New York
The one thing to get out of your head is the need to 'impress women'. How many men waste so much time and money trying to impress women and completely wreck their financial situation by doing so by buying super fancy clothes, cars they can't really afford. Other guys end up spending on these lavish dinners. They're doing all of this to sneak their way between a woman's legs. All of that money saved could have put them in a situation where they are much more well off financially. These guys are constantly investing their hard earned money into depreciating assets (clothes, cars, colognes, etc.) in order to impress a woman. Now, if you like those things for their own sake and you work that within your budget, coo, but to go out and get tattoos, and do all of these stunts to impress women is nonsense.

To be honest, I was guilty of a lot of that, such as spending more on clothes and even colognes than I should have... but I can't be too mad since I now collect colognes for their own sake.

But let's be real. I'm going to tell you younger cats something that you might not see right now. you will be MUCH better off learning to live a minimalistic, 'below your mean's lifestyle and stacking your money up than you would buying all of these gadgets and gizmoes in an attempt to impress someone else. You want to be able to have enough money to where you don't have to put up with a garbage job and deal with some out-of-line boss if you don't want to. You can't do that if you have massive car payments or you spent all your savings up buying some fly gear. You want to be in a position to where you can up and take a trip if you want to on a whim. Hard to do that if your savings are all gone because you're tricking it off at some strip club. This is some of the most important advice I can give you. instead of trying to LOOK like you have it, actually put your self in a position to have it FOR REAL.

Yes, trill shyt .. I try to save like 75% of a paycheck, which is pretty good for me
 
Top