Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[AffordableSuplexReviews]

Brehs, I thought that my next post in this thread would involve more mulling over the chick I didn't attempt to get at yesterday. She was light skinned and very attractive and I'm disappointed but...

I got a fresh rejection story for y'all.

Just came back from the grocery store. The store is going to close in 3 or 4 minutes and I'm heading for the exit with my paid-for groceries. A female employee from behind one of the counters, asks me how I'm doing. Nothing really major, but I was a little curious since this girl was closest to the exit, and asking me how I'm currently doing seems more like a greeting than a salutation. A "have a nice night, sir" seems more suitable for the situation.

Anyways, me and the girl start chopping it up. She recently graduated, was talking about grad school and all that jazz, whatever. She was being kind of fidgety, a little shy. Little timid smiles and giggles and shyt. I asked her if her questioning me was employee regulated policy, if she had to say something to every person that walked past her counter. She tells me "no." Told me that she "just wanted to say hi" on her own personal whim.

After she hinted at her being bored regularly, and probably just sleeping, I got ready to ask for the digits. She had to handle a purchase for a dude who walked up behind me, though. First she tells me "hold on I have to take care of this customer" but then tells me good night, and it was nice meeting. I'm like aight cool and I leave. Then a nigguh was like, "here we go again, breh." Started going back & forth between thoughts of her being with it, and thoughts of her not being with it.

Walked to and from the sliding doors twice before saying fukk it, and went back inside to her counter. A nigguh had the phone keypad pulled up already. I ask her if she would want to hang out and she tells me that she has a boyfriend

I laughed and kept a smile on my face while she does the "I'm sorry, I just wanted to say hi, I make things so awkward" routine. What made my ego feel extra fufu was one of her female coworkers walking past right as she said "I have a boyfriend."

And I shop at this store regularly I'm good though, brehs. I feel relieved. I'm still bummed about the lightskinned girl. She might've turned me down, too, but I didn't even make an effort to see.

 

[Mr.Plan B]

Brehs, I thought that my next post in this thread would involve more mulling over the chick I didn't attempt to get at yesterday. She was light skinned and very attractive and I'm disappointed but...

I got a fresh rejection story for y'all.

Just came back from the grocery store. The store is going to close in 3 or 4 minutes and I'm heading for the exit with my paid-for groceries. A female employee from behind one of the counters, asks me how I'm doing. Nothing really major, but I was a little curious since this girl was closest to the exit, and asking me how I'm currently doing seems more like a greeting than a salutation. A "have a nice night, sir" seems more suitable for the situation.

Anyways, me and the girl start chopping it up. She recently graduated, was talking about grad school and all that jazz, whatever. She was being kind of fidgety, a little shy. Little timid smiles and giggles and shyt. I asked her if her questioning me was employee regulated policy, if she had to say something to every person that walked past her counter. She tells me "no." Told me that she "just wanted to say hi" on her own personal whim.

After she hinted at her being bored regularly, and probably just sleeping, I got ready to ask for the digits. She had to handle a purchase for a dude who walked up behind me, though. First she tells me "hold on I have to take care of this customer" but then tells me good night, and it was nice meeting. I'm like aight cool and I leave. Then a nigguh was like, "here we go again, breh." Started going back & forth between thoughts of her being with it, and thoughts of her not being with it.

Walked to and from the sliding doors twice before saying fukk it, and went back inside to her counter. A nigguh had the phone keypad pulled up already. I ask her if she would want to hang out and she tells me that she has a boyfriend

I laughed and kept a smile on my face while she does the "I'm sorry, I just wanted to say hi, I make things so awkward" routine. What made my ego feel extra fufu was one of her female coworkers walking past right as she said "I have a boyfriend."

And I shop at this store regularly I'm good though, brehs. I feel relieved. I'm still bummed about the lightskinned girl. She might've turned me down, too, but I didn't even make an effort to see.

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAH

 

[kevm3]

Brehs, I thought that my next post in this thread would involve more mulling over the chick I didn't attempt to get at yesterday. She was light skinned and very attractive and I'm disappointed but...

I got a fresh rejection story for y'all.

Just came back from the grocery store. The store is going to close in 3 or 4 minutes and I'm heading for the exit with my paid-for groceries. A female employee from behind one of the counters, asks me how I'm doing. Nothing really major, but I was a little curious since this girl was closest to the exit, and asking me how I'm currently doing seems more like a greeting than a salutation. A "have a nice night, sir" seems more suitable for the situation.

Anyways, me and the girl start chopping it up. She recently graduated, was talking about grad school and all that jazz, whatever. She was being kind of fidgety, a little shy. Little timid smiles and giggles and shyt. I asked her if her questioning me was employee regulated policy, if she had to say something to every person that walked past her counter. She tells me "no." Told me that she "just wanted to say hi" on her own personal whim.

After she hinted at her being bored regularly, and probably just sleeping, I got ready to ask for the digits. She had to handle a purchase for a dude who walked up behind me, though. First she tells me "hold on I have to take care of this customer" but then tells me good night, and it was nice meeting. I'm like aight cool and I leave. Then a nigguh was like, "here we go again, breh." Started going back & forth between thoughts of her being with it, and thoughts of her not being with it.

Walked to and from the sliding doors twice before saying fukk it, and went back inside to her counter. A nigguh had the phone keypad pulled up already. I ask her if she would want to hang out and she tells me that she has a boyfriend

I laughed and kept a smile on my face while she does the "I'm sorry, I just wanted to say hi, I make things so awkward" routine. What made my ego feel extra fufu was one of her female coworkers walking past right as she said "I have a boyfriend."

And I shop at this store regularly I'm good though, brehs. I feel relieved. I'm still bummed about the lightskinned girl. She might've turned me down, too, but I didn't even make an effort to see.

it's gravy mane, at least you went for it... and learned she wasn't for you, so there's another one out there.

 

[kevm3]

an important concept is getting in where you fit in. i find as i get older that there are certain chicks I just 'click' with and others, no matter what I do or say, it really doesn't ever go anywhere conversation-wise. Those chicks I click with, we can have conversation for hours and it seems like minutes. Those ones I don't, a minute of conversation seems like an hour. Guess which ones are the easiest to make follow up plans with?

When 'approaching women', stop thinking of it as 'an approach' where you have to win or lose like some kind of game. Just allow yourself to feel comfortable and when the opportunity presents itself, talk to her and don't worry about the outcome. When you get into the mindset of allowing a woman to hold the cards of whether you 'win or lose' by whether or not she accepts your advances, you unnecessarily punish yourself mentally.

Stop making approaching women a sort of pressure cooker event like you are taking the last shot at an NBA championship and instead, just focus on the fun of socializing with no real objectives to 'win or lose'... when you come across a woman you dig and the conversation is flowing smoothly, it won't be a thing to say, 'I enjoyed this convo, let me get those digits and let's continue this later.' It's a mental thing. Instead of looking at women as prizes to be won when you try to approach them and 'win their number', you are looking at yourself as presenting yourself to different women and further pursuing the one that can appreciate your value. The key is to relax and learn to feel comfortable with yourself first and foremost and then with just talking to women... and when you talk to one, if you find the convo is going in a direction you like, go ahead and grab that number with ease.

Also, never regret not approaching this or that chick. Remember, there are billions of women on planet earth, so if you miss one, there are a ton of other ones you will like as long as you keep on getting out there. She was one that may have been missed, but when another one comes around, make sure you do better... but there's no sense in living in the past. Always do your best to make the best out of your present so you will have a brighter future.

 

[Malta]

Brehs, I thought that my next post in this thread would involve more mulling over the chick I didn't attempt to get at yesterday. She was light skinned and very attractive and I'm disappointed but...

I got a fresh rejection story for y'all.

Just came back from the grocery store. The store is going to close in 3 or 4 minutes and I'm heading for the exit with my paid-for groceries. A female employee from behind one of the counters, asks me how I'm doing. Nothing really major, but I was a little curious since this girl was closest to the exit, and asking me how I'm currently doing seems more like a greeting than a salutation. A "have a nice night, sir" seems more suitable for the situation.

Anyways, me and the girl start chopping it up. She recently graduated, was talking about grad school and all that jazz, whatever. She was being kind of fidgety, a little shy. Little timid smiles and giggles and shyt. I asked her if her questioning me was employee regulated policy, if she had to say something to every person that walked past her counter. She tells me "no." Told me that she "just wanted to say hi" on her own personal whim.

After she hinted at her being bored regularly, and probably just sleeping, I got ready to ask for the digits. She had to handle a purchase for a dude who walked up behind me, though. First she tells me "hold on I have to take care of this customer" but then tells me good night, and it was nice meeting. I'm like aight cool and I leave. Then a nigguh was like, "here we go again, breh." Started going back & forth between thoughts of her being with it, and thoughts of her not being with it.

Walked to and from the sliding doors twice before saying fukk it, and went back inside to her counter. A nigguh had the phone keypad pulled up already. I ask her if she would want to hang out and she tells me that she has a boyfriend

I laughed and kept a smile on my face while she does the "I'm sorry, I just wanted to say hi, I make things so awkward" routine. What made my ego feel extra fufu was one of her female coworkers walking past right as she said "I have a boyfriend."

And I shop at this store regularly I'm good though, brehs. I feel relieved. I'm still bummed about the lightskinned girl. She might've turned me down, too, but I didn't even make an effort to see.

It happens to everyone breh, you took a shot and it rimmed out, don't be afraid to keep shooting though. It's a zero sum game, your percentage is irrelevant, all that matter is the one that will say yes.

 

[semicko82]

Two songs I listen to when i feel the urge to simp. Ice Cube's I ain't the one and Biggie's Friend of Mine.

 

[philmonroe]

Had to dap this post cause sometimes I can get VERY frustrated on some "fukk these hoes shyt" but it shouldnt get that serious. jUst try to forget about it and hope you land better next time. I spoke about it earlier:

Exactly just keep it moving and youll be okay it's not the end of,the world.

the environment is definitely key though. Not sure if I've said this before but my main thing is to make it seem like its a coincidence that we're in one another's presence. My number one rule overall is otn force it. The whole walking over and introducing yourself thing doesnt work for me personally. But if a girl "just happens" to have an empty seat beside her, if I "just happens" to be in the same aisle as her in a grocery store, if she "just happens" to be standing beside me at a party then its all game.

I don't understand this regardless of gender. If you want something at times you have to go out and get it. I get chicks that complain or make excuses about this so I can't let you slide either. If the girl is worth it to you and your not scarred to approach what does going up to her to say hi do that it isn't your thing? If she was a job not the same but you get the point that you wouldn't wait and say "if the job calls me Ill do it but if not I'm going to keep working at a job I don't like cause that's not me". Maybe you would but I wouldn't and all I'm saying is saying hi isn't no big thing. Trust me I know at times you don't want to feel like your giving up all the power by doing this but who cares if she don't make a move and you don't y'all potentially going to miss out on something good. While that maybe ok for her you personally should want to take every chance to find a great chick whatever that means to you. I'm not the greatest at it but until my value up there that much where chicks coming up to me all day everyday I know this is part of the game. Good luck.

Coli brehs...

I have a novel coming out in a few weeks

"Dear Women I Haven't Slept With"

Home

I have to shout out this thread, because it helped me with some of the concepts in this book. I found a way to put the Coli in the book too

And now I'm no longer an anonymous person on the internet

And you can download the first 3 chapters of the book on the site for free, as well as listen to my Hot 97 appearance on the Lisa Evers show.

That's wassup always like to see people doing things like this. Shows others that you too can be on your entraprenuaer thing and an alternative hopefully for some to,the 9to5 game most of us despise. Good luck man

 

[Ohene]

Exactly just keep it moving and youll be okay it's not the end of,the world.

I don't understand this regardless of gender. If you want something at times you have to go out and get it. I get chicks that complain or make excuses about this so I can't let you slide either. If the girl is worth it to you and your not scarred to approach what does going up to her to say hi do that it isn't your thing? If she was a job not the same but you get the point that you wouldn't wait and say "if the job calls me Ill do it but if not I'm going to keep working at a job I don't like cause that's not me". Maybe you would but I wouldn't and all I'm saying is saying hi isn't no big thing. Trust me I know at times you don't want to feel like your giving up all the power by doing this but who cares if she don't make a move and you don't y'all potentially going to miss out on something good. While that maybe ok for her you personally should want to take every chance to find a great chick whatever that means to you. I'm not the greatest at it but until my value up there that much where chicks coming up to me all day everyday I know this is part of the game. Good luck.

That's wassup always like to see people doing things like this. Shows others that you too can be on your entraprenuaer thing and an alternative hopefully for some to,the 9to5 game most of us despise. Good luck man

It doesnt do anything but its just too forced, not casual enough for me. It makes me feel like I'm selling my self almost or making a pitch even though it might just be a casual conversation. In my experience I've found that even though you may have created the "coincidence" (ie positioning yourself near her) it's better. Overall what I'm saying is if she looks busy I don't like feeling like I'm interrupting them.

Everybody has their schtick breh...I just do what works for me lol

 

[philmonroe]

It doesnt do anything but its just too forced, not casual enough for me. It makes me feel like I'm selling my self almost or making a pitch even though it might just be a casual conversation. In my experience I've found that even though you may have created the "coincidence" (ie positioning yourself near her) it's better. Overall what I'm saying is if she looks busy I don't like feeling like I'm interrupting them.

Everybody has their schtick breh...I just do what works for me lol

I hear what your saying but I guess I'm projecting. I use to be like you with the same reasoning and for myself it was a load of bullshyt. I just dont want that to be the case for,you cause I've been there and you might miss out that's all. If it works for you cool just don't be like how I used to be that's all cause you never know.

 

[Ohene]

I hear what your saying but I guess I'm projecting. I use to be like you with the same reasoning and for myself it was a load of bullshyt. I just dont want that to be the case for,you cause I've been there and you might miss out that's all. If it works for you cool just don't be like how I used to be that's all cause you never know.

I feel you breh, it kinda relates to the earlier post you made too about bitterness. Overally we as men hae to take the lead and be open to any opportunities in front of us. This includes creating opportunities from nothing as well.

There are times that I will randomly go up to a chick and spark a conversation but I just gotta be comfortable in doing so overall.

 

[re'up]

A few good stories/anecdotes relating to the July 4th weekend, might get into it later....one thing this thread has done, through shared experiences, analyzing, arguing whatever, is a clearer perception of men and women in general thru the scope of relationships and sex...

Quote I love from 'The Great Gatsby' that applies to many people in general, but women in particular I know, that we all probably know...

"“They were careless people, - they smashed up things and creatures and then retreated back into their money or their vast carelessness or whatever it was that kept them together, and let other people clean up the mess they had made.”

 

[kevm3]

been getting back to cracking on this book. not an easy write at all. the revision process is the most difficult, especially for me to get it up to the standards that i like.

 

[Medio]

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[Medio]

ok

one of them told me "I don't know" when I asked her name

seriously though no excuses when it comes talking to girls ...

although some places are harder like the subway or w/e but that takes more of a player

 

[Medio]

Brehs, I thought that my next post in this thread would involve more mulling over the chick I didn't attempt to get at yesterday. She was light skinned and very attractive and I'm disappointed but...

I got a fresh rejection story for y'all.

Just came back from the grocery store. The store is going to close in 3 or 4 minutes and I'm heading for the exit with my paid-for groceries. A female employee from behind one of the counters, asks me how I'm doing. Nothing really major, but I was a little curious since this girl was closest to the exit, and asking me how I'm currently doing seems more like a greeting than a salutation. A "have a nice night, sir" seems more suitable for the situation.

Anyways, me and the girl start chopping it up. She recently graduated, was talking about grad school and all that jazz, whatever. She was being kind of fidgety, a little shy. Little timid smiles and giggles and shyt. I asked her if her questioning me was employee regulated policy, if she had to say something to every person that walked past her counter. She tells me "no." Told me that she "just wanted to say hi" on her own personal whim.

After she hinted at her being bored regularly, and probably just sleeping, I got ready to ask for the digits. She had to handle a purchase for a dude who walked up behind me, though. First she tells me "hold on I have to take care of this customer" but then tells me good night, and it was nice meeting. I'm like aight cool and I leave. Then a nigguh was like, "here we go again, breh." Started going back & forth between thoughts of her being with it, and thoughts of her not being with it.

Walked to and from the sliding doors twice before saying fukk it, and went back inside to her counter. A nigguh had the phone keypad pulled up already. I ask her if she would want to hang out and she tells me that she has a boyfriend

I laughed and kept a smile on my face while she does the "I'm sorry, I just wanted to say hi, I make things so awkward" routine. What made my ego feel extra fufu was one of her female coworkers walking past right as she said "I have a boyfriend."

And I shop at this store regularly I'm good though, brehs. I feel relieved. I'm still bummed about the lightskinned girl. She might've turned me down, too, but I didn't even make an effort to see.

that aint even that bad bruh ...

it happens, at least you had the balls to ask and she was giving signals (in my opinion at least) and I woulda done the same exact thing. she just fueling her ego