My old heads used to always tell me to get with a woman who loves you more than you love her.
When I was younger I never understood it because most of the girls who was feeling me more than I was feeling them, I wasn't attracted to them or there was no connection.
Maybe, it's because as men we love the chase, the challenge. We like to have the girl that everybody wants that none of them can get. And we get this girl, thinking she is the prize because of all the attention surrouding her. But in reality, we've dated a girl that chose us. We didn't choose her. She has all the options. We put in more effort to get her. She probably didn't put in any effort. Each and everyday we're thinking of ways to please her and make her happy, but is she really reciprocating? Probably not, because she doesn't have to. And if we fall short of her expectations, she will leave us and move on to her other options. Why do we put ourselves in these situations? We end up all anger and bitter because we feel like we wasted and invested all this time in her and got nothing to show for it. Whereas, she invested very little if anything. And even if she did like you, or even love you, she knew she had you wrapped around her finger and that you weren't going anywhere.
She didn't have to do anything for you, and it was okay. Sure, you would get mad and acknowledge that you're being taken advantage of, but if you spoke up about it, she would check you and possibly break up with you. It's a tiring process to keep thinking about ways to make or keep somebody happy. But this is inevitable when you date somebody who you love more than they love you.
Now, imagine a woman who just genuinely enjoys being with you. You don't have to do anything special, and she still enjoys your company. She finds everything about you cool, sophisticated, and sexy. She admires you. She's so into you and hangs onto your every word. She's loyal to you because she is decisive about where she wants to be. There are no unrealistic expectations. Now who wouldn't want a relationship like this? Now here's the kicker. I guarantee we all know a girl like this. But we didn't want her. And it's cool.... Maybe she's not attractive, maybe shes not your type. You can't really dwell on the past, but you can reflect.
There's more longterm value and the possibility of loyalty from a woman who is into you for who you are, not who you present yourself to be or what you can do for her. I appreciate women with a genuine interest in me. Now, I wouldn't force attraction because that's a recipe for disaster. But sometimes it's not about what you want, but what you need. If there's a mutual attraction and she treats me good, I'm going to go with the flow. But never again will I invest a woman who feels like I'm merely an option.
i dont wanna cause a scene but i dont feel like doing it .
face and either say nothing or laugh in her face.
Infiltrator
