Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[<<TheStandard>>]

BTW random, I just started a new Entourage marathon, it's been a while since I watched it (since the series ended)......if any of you guys want an example of not do, just watch Eric Murphy....Dude was the biggest simp ever. I'm literally cringing....He was a bigger simp than I remember now that I've grown as a man.

 

[AITheAnswerAI]

honestly man, she got you in that 'trick' category. if everytime she wants to chill, it has to involve you spending money on her, that's exactly what it is. A woman that really digs you, you don't have to spend a dime on. What has she done for you to take her shopping? Nothing. She's only pressing on you because she feels she can. If she decides not to holla at you anymore because you're not breaking bread, she wasn't interested in you in the first place. She was only interested in the benefits you provide. That's the kind of woman you actually DO want to run away from you.

Keep telling the truth breh, dudes out here need a constant reminder in case they slip up every now and again.

 

[kevm3]

We all end up slipping up every now and then especially because you like everything about a woman, but some of them hone in on that and utilize you liking them to get something out of you... and you end up liking her so much you don't want to cut her loose, but you know you got a problem on your hands. As much as we'd like to think we're ice cold robots who always make the best move, emotions always crop up and can cause us to take an inferior position... And when it's said and then, if there were no emotions in it, who would really want to participate anyways? It's a constant balance of emotionally enjoying yourself, but not allowing yourself to be taken advantage of.

 

[MikelArteta]

BTW random, I just started a new Entourage marathon, it's been a while since I watched it (since the series ended)......if any of you guys want an example of not do, just watch Eric Murphy....Dude was the biggest simp ever. I'm literally cringing....He was a bigger simp than I remember now that I've grown as a man.

Landry in Friday night lights was the biggest TV simp

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[Rocket Scientist]

Worst thing you can do is string along a woman.Yall seen the Judi Arias case and what happen to Steve McNair. Be honest with these women.

 

[sixsixtwo]

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[MAKAVELI25]

Worst thing you can do is string along a woman.Yall seen the Judi Arias case and what happen to Steve McNair. Be honest with these women.

I breathed a sigh of relief when Jodi Arias was convicted. Cant have these psycho chicks thinking murder is an acceptable solution to a broken heart

 

[Atlrocafella]

honestly man, she got you in that 'trick' category. if everytime she wants to chill, it has to involve you spending money on her, that's exactly what it is. A woman that really digs you, you don't have to spend a dime on. What has she done for you to take her shopping? Nothing. She's only pressing on you because she feels she can. If she decides not to holla at you anymore because you're not breaking bread, she wasn't interested in you in the first place. She was only interested in the benefits you provide. That's the kind of woman you actually DO want to run away from you.

THat's why I had to curve this chick I knew the other day.. She wanted to "chill" by suggesting another restaurant I should take her too, this is after I already took her to a restaurant a couple of weeks earlier just to catch up. Once they think they can get you to continue to spend money on them, they most certainly will.

 

[Rocket Scientist]

I breathed a sigh of relief when Jodi Arias was convicted. Cant have these psycho chicks thinking murder is an acceptable solution to a broken heart

Crazy thing is some women co sign her actions.Its crazy.Honesty may cause you to be single or lonely....but just may save your life.

 

[yoyoyo1]

Here's something a bit different for this thread:

Have a texting buddy I met once but couldn't really do anything with since she was going back home down south that same day, but we keep in contact a lot, sometimes annoyingly so. Doesn't affect my life except just someone to banter with and shyt as we talk about everything, but I feel I shouldn't be wasting time with someone who I'm having no 'real life benefits' to interact with, so I made up some BS and just said I didn't wanna speak with her anymore. Right move?

Or is having a random friend like this beneficial, at least to have an option if she comes to town someday, or just someone to talk to? I know the Patrice "she wants your time without giving it up" thing, but if I actually enjoy it all is it relevant? Cause it's been a few weeks and I used to talk to her semi-frequently, and I'm kinda regretting cutting communications with her. I don't have any "feelings" per se, she isn't really that special looks-wise (very grounded/smart/sarcastic etc though) but I wouldn't mind seeing her naked (her t*ts are amazing) and I tease around that kind of sexual thing a lot. But it's mostly someone to talk to.

I spend enough time talking with her to start thinking about what the point of it is, kind of like a mindless distraction I enjoy. It's not affecting my life adversely or anything. Any advice?

 

[Medio]

Here's something a bit different for this thread:

Have a texting buddy I met once but couldn't really do anything with since she was going back home down south that same day, but we keep in contact a lot, sometimes annoyingly so. Doesn't affect my life except just someone to banter with and shyt as we talk about everything, but I feel I shouldn't be wasting time with someone who I'm having no 'real life benefits' to interact with, so I made up some BS and just said I didn't wanna speak with her anymore. Right move?

Or is having a random friend like this beneficial, at least to have an option if she comes to town someday, or just someone to talk to? I know the Patrice "she wants your time without giving it up" thing, but if I actually enjoy it all is it relevant? Cause it's been a few weeks and I used to talk to her semi-frequently, and I'm kinda regretting cutting communications with her. I don't have any "feelings" per se, she isn't really that special looks-wise (very grounded/smart/sarcastic etc though) but I wouldn't mind seeing her naked (her t*ts are amazing) and I tease around that kind of sexual thing a lot. But it's mostly someone to talk to.

I spend enough time talking with her to start thinking about what the point of it is, kind of like a mindless distraction I enjoy. It's not affecting my life adversely or anything. Any advice?

I think it's good you decided to cut communication, you don't have to cut her off all the way but usually when someone wants to cut communication it's going to fade out and yall will never really talk anymore. The reason I think it's good that you want to stop because what I take from this is that she lives far away from you?. Trust me, the more you talk to her and the more she talks to you you're going to end up liking her more and more, and she's going to like you more and more, and soon you all are going to feel so connected, and it's going to be a great feeling but the only problem is she is far away and it's not realistically going to workout so what's the point?. I was once in a similar situation with a girl who lived far away from my city but we talked (text or call) everyday just about stuff you're probably talking about with this girl, and we skyped and all that ish, and we were so connected and infatuated with each other. We only met up once since the initial time. Eventually we had to cut it off cause it just wasn't realistic unless one of us moved, I was heartbroken by this but that's the way it goes. I'd be straight up with her and tell her you guys should stop talking cause it's just not realistic, don't go ghost on her with some b/s reason, that's wrong.

Keep her around, don't delete her number and if you go to her city one day maybe hit her up and the same for her. Keep it very casual now.

 

[MAKAVELI25]

Here's something a bit different for this thread:

Have a texting buddy I met once but couldn't really do anything with since she was going back home down south that same day, but we keep in contact a lot, sometimes annoyingly so. Doesn't affect my life except just someone to banter with and shyt as we talk about everything, but I feel I shouldn't be wasting time with someone who I'm having no 'real life benefits' to interact with, so I made up some BS and just said I didn't wanna speak with her anymore. Right move?

Or is having a random friend like this beneficial, at least to have an option if she comes to town someday, or just someone to talk to? I know the Patrice "she wants your time without giving it up" thing, but if I actually enjoy it all is it relevant? Cause it's been a few weeks and I used to talk to her semi-frequently, and I'm kinda regretting cutting communications with her. I don't have any "feelings" per se, she isn't really that special looks-wise (very grounded/smart/sarcastic etc though) but I wouldn't mind seeing her naked (her t*ts are amazing) and I tease around that kind of sexual thing a lot. But it's mostly someone to talk to.

I spend enough time talking with her to start thinking about what the point of it is, kind of like a mindless distraction I enjoy. It's not affecting my life adversely or anything. Any advice?

I see no problem with keeping up communication with her. As long as you keep up a sexual energy and make sure you're nowhere near the friendzone then being a text buddy isn't all that bad. Only reason I would avoid it is that it makes you too common, and once you become common you're (in a woman's mind) usually exempt from sexual consideration. Just don't make her a priority, don't be texting her when you're actually conversing with a woman right in front of you, but as long as you have nothing else to do and are just texting her cuz you're bored I see nothing wrong with it

 

[yoyoyo1]

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Thanks brehs, that's exactly what I wanted to hear.

1. Don't want to get too attached, this girl "gets me" a bit too well and I could see some trouble coming. An elephant in the room and we both acknowledged it without doing anything about it.

2. I was too harsh, gonna come up with a minor apology (I did do her wrong, she said she was sad and everything and really never did anything to antagonize me at all) and keep in contact here and there.

 

[George Gooney]

Thanks brehs, that's exactly what I wanted to hear.

1. Don't want to get too attached, this girl "gets me" a bit too well and I could see some trouble coming. An elephant in the room and we both acknowledged it without doing anything about it.

2. I was too harsh, gonna come up with a minor apology (I did do her wrong, she said she was sad and everything and really never did anything to antagonize me at all) and keep in contact here and there.

Don't do this... No apologies. She'll respect you more.

 

[CrossBones]

Im not for being a womans texting pal, especially if Im not actually seeing this girl. Im more about setting up dates and ways to see her. anything short of that, is just games and youre on her time now. the next man wins and youre there hitting buttons trying to stay in her mind. being all on her and staying talkative leaving comments, problem is, that youre not a real factor unless youre seeing her.

its like youre doing all this and youre being her buddy. youre going to become her fall back guy, her "friend" and suddenly turn into vulture status. sitting on the sideline just waiting for the day she picks you up off the roster.




texting to me works for 2 things: either hooking up for a quick smash, or for sending directions/plans for the evening.



I personallly dont think establishing yourself through the texting game is the best move. I know it can be an easy, and quick way to be in her head, but if youre not getting out of that texting phase and actually seeing her, then youre in the friendzone. she only sees you as a man who is sweating her... and she knows she has to do nothing to get time and favor from you. theres no chase, and theres no value in that. she doesnt have to put any effort into having you on the team, since youre always volunteering your time and thoughts to her. it looks like youre always available for her, and thats not a good look.


I cut all that shyt short because I dont want to be on any girls jock or to gas her up. thats the last thing I want. I really dont think that theres much reason to be all up on a woman who is just "talking" to you.


to the poster who asked, if she comes back into town and hits you up, or vice versa, its all good. but daily texts with no results and no meet ups arent the business. I would set something up with her right now, or at least when she gets back. then keep it at that. anything less is just hot air and it means nothing. you have a goal, so you need to be trying to reach it.

to me, texting should not be for maintaining some sort of a relationship or for holding a womans interest. and if you think about it, youre putting in that work that the next man is just going to benefit from. youre giving her attention and possibly a friendship - while the next man is just walking in and scooping her up. but Im old school about all that anways, and I prefer talking over texting if Im trying to build a connection.