Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

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[winb83]

Okay, here's my next question for you guys.

I was looking through my phone contacts today and would say there are 7 girls in there(not including my mom, family, etc) who are female friends. Platonic female friends, mind you.

Now I will say about 6 of those 7 female friends are women I've had an interest in dating, fukking, or all of the above at some point in my life. In the not so deep recesses of my mind, there's probably still a few I would pipe down if given the chance.

However, with all of them I have failed miserably. I've

1. simped them

2. been shy to make a move on any of them

3. flat out lied about my feelings sometimes

4. felt inadequate, unworthy of them and therefore never even embraced the idea of thinking they could possibly feel similarly

and all sorts of The Coli "dealing with women thread" violations.

How should I go about dealing with these women from this point forward? Chalk it up as a lost and don't worry about it or what? I've decided from now on that any woman I am make time to get to know is strictly for a relationship or sex - none of this "to be friends" bull shyt, but what about the female friends I have now? For some of these chicks I've been in the friend zone for YEARS and probably stand no chance of ever getting out. Should I continue to use them as I have been - a valuable unbiased resource for dealing with females and overall good friends, or should I try to fukk some of them?

They're dope people and good friends, but they're all constant reminders of how bad I've fukked up in the past when it comes to dealing with women. I don't want anymore female friends brehs. I barely even want the ones I have now. Any female friend I make from this day forward is a major failure on my behalf. In fact, I plan on cutting them off when I even detect that friend zone bull shyt coming my way.

drop all of them and start fresh. i know how hard it is to understand this but you can't fix anything when it comes to women. the way they see you is the way they see you and its always them holding you to the worst they've ever seen you at.

its cliche but you never get a second chance to make a good first impression but on the flip side if you meet new women and make that good first impression you get to start off right.

as guys some of us cling to what we have cause its perceived to be easier than starting fresh but trying to backtrack and correct relationships that went wrong is way harder and less rewarding than meeting new women.

 

[Swing]

Did you peep that she want a man that will protect her?
fukk that noise

Elaborate on that cause i think i Matrix-dodged a hoe sayin some sh1t like that and never understood why...

Crazy ex?

 

[JohnStarksMiddleFinger]

Elaborate on that cause i think i Matrix-dodged a hoe sayin some sh1t like that and never understood why...

Crazy ex?

like a bad boy that can treat his woman right and offer protection in time of need. Financially secure a

This chick probably has history of either screwing men over or has crazy exes.

She's looking for a man that is bigger and tougher then her ex. Just in case there comes a time (and it will) where you got to shoot the shoot the ones for her and your life.


She always maybe one of those backward broads who like seeing they nikka fight so the start shyt up.

 

[Ohene]

a man has to feel like my time is too important for these impersonal forms of communication. these women are using smartphones to juggle 20 guys at the same time and men are all too happy thinking i'm talking to her so i matter.

if its not face to face at this point in time then she's probably wasting your time. face to face requires investment on her part and then when you see her you gotta check her about the phone cause if not she'll constantly be on it.

was saying this shirt earlier. texting a btich is a quick way to catch a sixth man role on her roster

 

[MikelArteta]

So I've been out on twice this past week with this chick, I haven't spent a dime yet.

 

[Captain Crunch]

So I've been out on twice this past week with this chick, I haven't spent a dime yet.

Walks in the park?

 

[MikelArteta]

Walks in the park?

Nah dinner first time, movie second

She makes like double what I make so

 

[Blown Moon]

Ask what she will and will not do before you hand over those "roses"...

 

[Sharp]

Dating females who have better careers or make significantly more money than you can be challenging. They have the tendency to fight you for your role as the man in the relationship. Here's some tips to combat this.

You have to minimize the effects that her career/money has in your life. You were doing good before her, and you will be doing good without her. Apply the same rules... If she acts up check her. The same way dudes be giving these chicks passes to disrespect them because she's a dime, dudes be giving these chicks who money is long the same privileges. No matter how well off she is, YOU ARE THE PRIZE. No matter how fine she is or how much money you make, the chances of you finding a woman that will treat you good is exponentially higher than her finding a man that will do the same.

Never allow her to take your role. Don't let her make decisions that you know you should be making. Little things like what restaurant to go to can cause ripple effects in the change of command. Be assertive with your leading style. And never waste your time on a hardheaded women who won't allow a man to lead her.

Never allow a chick to upgrade you. That's just her way of saying she's going to change you, and then you'll end u being her dependent.

 

[kevm3]

Okay, here's my next question for you guys.

I was looking through my phone contacts today and would say there are 7 girls in there(not including my mom, family, etc) who are female friends. Platonic female friends, mind you.

Now I will say about 6 of those 7 female friends are women I've had an interest in dating, fukking, or all of the above at some point in my life. In the not so deep recesses of my mind, there's probably still a few I would pipe down if given the chance.

However, with all of them I have failed miserably. I've

1. simped them

2. been shy to make a move on any of them

3. flat out lied about my feelings sometimes

4. felt inadequate, unworthy of them and therefore never even embraced the idea of thinking they could possibly feel similarly

and all sorts of The Coli "dealing with women thread" violations.

How should I go about dealing with these women from this point forward? Chalk it up as a lost and don't worry about it or what? I've decided from now on that any woman I am make time to get to know is strictly for a relationship or sex - none of this "to be friends" bull shyt, but what about the female friends I have now? For some of these chicks I've been in the friend zone for YEARS and probably stand no chance of ever getting out. Should I continue to use them as I have been - a valuable unbiased resource for dealing with females and overall good friends, or should I try to fukk some of them?

They're dope people and good friends, but they're all constant reminders of how bad I've fukked up in the past when it comes to dealing with women. I don't want anymore female friends brehs. I barely even want the ones I have now. Any female friend I make from this day forward is a major failure on my behalf. In fact, I plan on cutting them off when I even detect that friend zone bull shyt coming my way.

Honestly man, I'd say keep them. Not every female you know has to be one you need to rush to jump inside. Sometimes it's just cool to have a female you can just sit back and talk to and you never know, they might have friends to introduce you to. The thing is, you might have to recognize and accept that you won't get out of the friendship zone with them, but that doesn't mean you should cut them off unless they are the type to just use you.

 

[MikelArteta]

Dating females who have better careers or make significantly more money than you can be challenging. They have the tendency to fight you for your role as the man in the relationship. Here's some tips to combat this.

You have to minimize the effects that her career/money has in your life. You were doing good before her, and you will be doing good without her. Apply the same rules... If she acts up check her. The same way dudes be giving these chicks passes to disrespect them because she's a dime, dudes be giving these chicks who money is long the same privileges. No matter how well off she is, YOU ARE THE PRIZE. No matter how fine she is or how much money you make, the chances of you finding a woman that will treat you good is exponentially higher than her finding a man that will do the same.

Never allow her to take your role. Don't let her make decisions that you know you should be making. Little things like what restaurant to go to can cause ripple effects in the change of command. Be assertive with your leading style. And never waste your time on a hardheaded women who won't allow a man to lead her.

Never allow a chick to upgrade you. That's just her way of saying she's going to change you, and then you'll end u being her dependent.

Props on this

Back in the day I would be intimidated but nah eh, she's 30 , has a 500k condo makes nearly 6 figures is a marketing executive and has her MBA

Im 27 live at home, make a decent wage live a frugal life, I know women follow hypergamy and she's not religious which I'm Very serious about it.

And I know I am the prize

 

[winb83]

Dating females who have better careers or make significantly more money than you can be challenging. They have the tendency to fight you for your role as the man in the relationship. Here's some tips to combat this.

You have to minimize the effects that her career/money has in your life. You were doing good before her, and you will be doing good without her. Apply the same rules... If she acts up check her. The same way dudes be giving these chicks passes to disrespect them because she's a dime, dudes be giving these chicks who money is long the same privileges. No matter how well off she is, YOU ARE THE PRIZE. No matter how fine she is or how much money you make, the chances of you finding a woman that will treat you good is exponentially higher than her finding a man that will do the same.

Never allow her to take your role. Don't let her make decisions that you know you should be making. Little things like what restaurant to go to can cause ripple effects in the change of command. Be assertive with your leading style. And never waste your time on a hardheaded women who won't allow a man to lead her.

Never allow a chick to upgrade you. That's just her way of saying she's going to change you, and then you'll end u being her dependent.

What makes you the prize? there is no prize imo either the two of you are compatible or not. That whole prize thinking implies one of you is more valuable than the other which isn't true.

Honestly man, I'd say keep them. Not every female you know has to be one you need to rush to jump inside. Sometimes it's just cool to have a female you can just sit back and talk to and you never know, they might have friends to introduce you to. The thing is, you might have to recognize and accept that you won't get out of the friendship zone with them, but that doesn't mean you should cut them off unless they are the type to just use you.

Why not just meet women and decide to friend them instead of having it be women you wanted to smash that rejected you and you accepted the role they gave you. As a man it isn't realistic to think you'll ever be friends with a woman you wanted sex from cause if the opportunity presents itself you'll likely jump at it. Not a real friendship if you lust after them.

 

[Sharp]

What makes you the prize? there is no prize imo either the two of you are compatible or not. That whole prize thinking implies one of you is more valuable than the other which isn't true.

Most men are not out there begging to get married. That is not our goal when we meet a woman. We approach women because we are physically attracted to them and would like to sleep with them. During this process, we get to know them and then in time, we decide if we can pursue something greater than a physical connection, such as a committed relationship. Women on the other hand, for the most part, date men with the intentions of developing a serious relationship, hoping to get married.

If you are a good man, who has his priorities straight, you are indeed the prize, because you are the type of man that woman want to marry. Women have a tougher time finding a man to marry them, than we do finding a woman to marry us. There's more successful and well put together women than men. They are in abundance, we are scarce, and this is why we are the prize.

I can walk into any office in America and see more successful young women than men, especially when it comes to minorities. So when you got your shyt together, women will be gunning for you. You will have many options. Yeah, women may get offered d*ck 10 times a day, but how often do they come across men who can offer them more. And when you're that man, you are the prize. Think about it, she wouldn't be dating you if she wasn't interested in what you're about.

 

[MikelArteta]

Sharp speaks the truth