Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[DaRealness]

Brehs should I avoid a female who quotes marylin Monroe?

You know " if you can't handle me at my worst then you can't handle me at my best" bullshyt

Yeah, pretty much.

 

[CrossBones]

dont let someone use your own insecurities against you. they will smell that and turn it on you. youll lose your right to ask anything, because your behavior will look irrational due to your brashness. dont hang yourself with your own rope. in other words, dont be upfront with any suspicions. if you ever have to ask something, find a way to do it without accusing someone else. remain nonchalant the whole time. dont act out just because you have doubts. still, always play it cool and continue to push an issue until it makes sense to you, or youve heard enough. use a logical, slightly curious line of reasoning to get to the point. keep everything conversational. if something is wrong, youll see the OTHER person begin to change the story, stutter, or act out and get defensive, if you play it right.

just remember to keep cool the entire time and never act like it affects you, its just something you want to talk about. talkings cool, right?

 

[The_King_of_Everything]

Yeah, pretty much.

I knew it was too good to be true, plus she's needy as shyt.

Oh well......

 

[young3000]

Forgot to tell my brehs about my weekend.....so basically I'm in training camp mode right now. Just trying to these girls out, nothing too serious. Just seeing where their head is at and having fun. So Friday night this new chick and I hit a roof top bar and we chillin and talking about our worse dates and what not. Before I went out with her I had no expectations or intentions of trying to beat or stay the night with her. She seemed kind of conservative too and she mentioned one guy try to invite himself in and she shot that down quickly. Before I knew 8:30 turn into 12:30 and then she pulled a fast one...did I want to come back to her place and meet her dog

So we get back there and I meet the dog and everything and we watch Pulp Fiction, by this time its 3:30 and she's like you can't go home its too late so I stay the night. Next morning we wake up and go get breakfast. We are talking over breakfast and she tells me she's been using POF to meet guys and she says this one guy was blowing her up the night before while we were out and called this morning. So I was like return the call, I don't mind...she puts him on speaker and the first thing out his mouth was so did you have a good time on your date last night...you must have because you didn't return any of my text. My dude was so mad right now but the next few words he spoke left me speechless...dude asked if he was winning by this time I'm eating my home fries and french toast and I was like tell em I stayed the night. She was like he will lose it if I say that. Then he says should I just delete your number since you like him more. Now I'm laughing at the whole situation because 1: they only hung out twice 2: dude insecurities are coming out and its making him look like a bytch right now. 3: we only went out once


She gets off the phone and says I'll call you later. We finish breakfast, get back to her place and I'm thinking well we'll go separate ways and talk to each other later or whatever...wrong. She invites me in and we chill and her sister calls and is throwing a cookout for her boyfriend later on. She asks do I want to come. At first I was like I don't know you and you already got me meeting part of the fam. She was like they grilling steaks and having drinks...I was down after that. I was like fukk it, what's the worst that can happen

Man I had so much fun, family was cool as fukk. I was eating, drinking good while watching the playoffs and interacting with the fam. Meanwhile she shows me her phone and ol boy from earlier is blowing up her phone again and she couldn't understand why. So that night we ended up staying over at her sisters house. Now its Sunday and I'm thinking finally I got a day to myself...wrong. Her pops had a extra baseball ticket and asked did we want to go. shyt I always wanted to see a game but never did so I was like lets do it. After the game we ended up going out to eat and get back to her place around 11 so I stayed the night again.

Monday she made dinner and invited me over and I stayed the night again

I've been at her place every night since Sunday, I'm afraid she's gonna want something more committed pretty soon. I think I fukked up by spending so much time with her so soon

Got damn this was my longest post ever...

 

[Turbulent]

I figured so, not an official fling I just figured it'd progress. If someone tells you that they like you you gotta kinda believe them right? Once we started kicking it I'm not gonna talk to other girls, maybe I'm just a sucker?
Edit: I'm not in this thread much, I fell back so I could focus on my life rather than having a group of men convince me to do so. I don't know everything, I lost, but we all lose at times. And if it makes you feel better then I'm over it. What's life without experience. Plus I'm young, :Whew: I got time to learn. Less advice on the Internet, more experience and I'll be good. No sweat.

we all take Ls man. it could be from a chick you barely know and not even kissed or a chick you've been married with for 10 years and have kids with. and ven if you'll feel them differently, they'll both sting in the moment. Usually a "fling" refers to a chick you fukked. that other chick who's grandpa died, she figures she can afford not giving you any energy cause in her mind you'll still be there if she decides to come back to you (she thinks you're in her back pocket). Don't contact her for a while and watch how she'll try to come back as if nothing happened. and if she finds out you kept it moving, watch how she'll subtly try to guilt trip you. don't let women use tragedy as an excuse to act shytty. but like you said, don't be bitter about it either. Just realize it's human nature.

 

[Malikthegod]

I remember Tariq Nasheed said if a chick you don't know we'll invites you to a function it's usually to show you off or make someone else jealous.

And did you beat at all?

 

[MikelArteta]

Forgot to tell my brehs about my weekend.....so basically I'm in training camp mode right now. Just trying to these girls out, nothing too serious. Just seeing where their head is at and having fun. So Friday night this new chick and I hit a roof top bar and we chillin and talking about our worse dates and what not. Before I went out with her I had no expectations or intentions of trying to beat or stay the night with her. She seemed kind of conservative too and she mentioned one guy try to invite himself in and she shot that down quickly. Before I knew 8:30 turn into 12:30 and then she pulled a fast one...did I want to come back to her place and meet her dog

So we get back there and I meet the dog and everything and we watch Pulp Fiction, by this time its 3:30 and she's like you can't go home its too late so I stay the night. Next morning we wake up and go get breakfast. We are talking over breakfast and she tells me she's been using POF to meet guys and she says this one guy was blowing her up the night before while we were out and called this morning. So I was like return the call, I don't mind...she puts him on speaker and the first thing out his mouth was so did you have a good time on your date last night...you must have because you didn't return any of my text. My dude was so mad right now but the next few words he spoke left me speechless...dude asked if he was winning by this time I'm eating my home fries and french toast and I was like tell em I stayed the night. She was like he will lose it if I say that. Then he says should I just delete your number since you like him more. Now I'm laughing at the whole situation because 1: they only hung out twice 2: dude insecurities are coming out and its making him look like a bytch right now. 3: we only went out once


She gets off the phone and says I'll call you later. We finish breakfast, get back to her place and I'm thinking well we'll go separate ways and talk to each other later or whatever...wrong. She invites me in and we chill and her sister calls and is throwing a cookout for her boyfriend later on. She asks do I want to come. At first I was like I don't know you and you already got me meeting part of the fam. She was like they grilling steaks and having drinks...I was down after that. I was like fukk it, what's the worst that can happen

Man I had so much fun, family was cool as fukk. I was eating, drinking good while watching the playoffs and interacting with the fam. Meanwhile she shows me her phone and ol boy from earlier is blowing up her phone again and she couldn't understand why. So that night we ended up staying over at her sisters house. Now its Sunday and I'm thinking finally I got a day to myself...wrong. Her pops had a extra baseball ticket and asked did we want to go. shyt I always wanted to see a game but never did so I was like lets do it. After the game we ended up going out to eat and get back to her place around 11 so I stayed the night again.

Monday she made dinner and invited me over and I stayed the night again

I've been at her place every night since Sunday, I'm afraid she's gonna want something more committed pretty soon. I think I fukked up by spending so much time with her so soon

Got damn this was my longest post ever...

Nothing in life is free, she wants commitment, showing you her phone like look I got suitors in case you sint wrap it up. Inviting you to meet her family already and stay over for days. It's a ploy and tactic some women use to reel you in. Tread carefully breh.

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[Turbulent]

When talking to a chick (doesn't matter if you've known her for a while or if you just approached her randomly) sometimes you'll have awkward moments or uncomfortable silences. Don't always feel like it's your responsibility to dissipate that awkwardness. I've actually learned lately to get "acquainted" and comfortable with that awkwardness. It can even help you get further at times. See a lot of us will feel that awkwardness and rush to find a way to make it go away. When you do that, the chick will automatically feel like she has the upper hand on you because from now on, it's your job to make things comfortable for her. You're basically serving her. When the weird silences come, let it marinate a little bit and be relaxed in it. Once she sees you really don't give a fukk, watch how quick she'll try to fill in the space and "make things ok again" because she'll start doubting herself and if she did something wrong. Now she's serving you...

You gotta show her that if the convo doesn't go smoothly, you're not the only person responsible for that. it's suppose to be an exchange of energy, show her she can't just take and not give. Don't always run from awkwardness. face it sometimes. it's a balance in there you have to reach (i don't think you should put it all on her either, you have to figure out your own style).

And the funny thing is that us guys are experienced at dissipating it through charm, jokes, wit, etc. So we can navigate through it. But most chicks aren't (because they never had to). Most don't have charm. Two things will typically happen. They'll either cut the interaction (and even then when they see you don't give a fukk, they'll start doubting themselves and think maybe they were the one being lame and uninteresting, and then they try to get your attention back) OR they'll just submit to you and seek your attention even more (and their main weapon is sexual energy) so the ball is in your court.


As usual, i advise not to become arrogant with it if it works for you.

 

[CASHAPP]

Believe women who initially play the victim game brehs

Flame-haired actress who fingered husband for Bloomberg, Obama ricin letters arrested by FBI for plot - NYPOST.com

 

[MAKAVELI25]

Forgot to tell my brehs about my weekend.....so basically I'm in training camp mode right now. Just trying to these girls out, nothing too serious. Just seeing where their head is at and having fun. So Friday night this new chick and I hit a roof top bar and we chillin and talking about our worse dates and what not. Before I went out with her I had no expectations or intentions of trying to beat or stay the night with her. She seemed kind of conservative too and she mentioned one guy try to invite himself in and she shot that down quickly. Before I knew 8:30 turn into 12:30 and then she pulled a fast one...did I want to come back to her place and meet her dog

So we get back there and I meet the dog and everything and we watch Pulp Fiction, by this time its 3:30 and she's like you can't go home its too late so I stay the night. Next morning we wake up and go get breakfast. We are talking over breakfast and she tells me she's been using POF to meet guys and she says this one guy was blowing her up the night before while we were out and called this morning. So I was like return the call, I don't mind...she puts him on speaker and the first thing out his mouth was so did you have a good time on your date last night...you must have because you didn't return any of my text. My dude was so mad right now but the next few words he spoke left me speechless...dude asked if he was winning by this time I'm eating my home fries and french toast and I was like tell em I stayed the night. She was like he will lose it if I say that. Then he says should I just delete your number since you like him more. Now I'm laughing at the whole situation because 1: they only hung out twice 2: dude insecurities are coming out and its making him look like a bytch right now. 3: we only went out once


She gets off the phone and says I'll call you later. We finish breakfast, get back to her place and I'm thinking well we'll go separate ways and talk to each other later or whatever...wrong. She invites me in and we chill and her sister calls and is throwing a cookout for her boyfriend later on. She asks do I want to come. At first I was like I don't know you and you already got me meeting part of the fam. She was like they grilling steaks and having drinks...I was down after that. I was like fukk it, what's the worst that can happen

Man I had so much fun, family was cool as fukk. I was eating, drinking good while watching the playoffs and interacting with the fam. Meanwhile she shows me her phone and ol boy from earlier is blowing up her phone again and she couldn't understand why. So that night we ended up staying over at her sisters house. Now its Sunday and I'm thinking finally I got a day to myself...wrong. Her pops had a extra baseball ticket and asked did we want to go. shyt I always wanted to see a game but never did so I was like lets do it. After the game we ended up going out to eat and get back to her place around 11 so I stayed the night again.

Monday she made dinner and invited me over and I stayed the night again

I've been at her place every night since Sunday, I'm afraid she's gonna want something more committed pretty soon. I think I fukked up by spending so much time with her so soon

Got damn this was my longest post ever...

I'm assuming you've smashed?

 

[MAKAVELI25]

When talking to a chick (doesn't matter if you've known her for a while or if you just approached her randomly) sometimes you'll have awkward moments or uncomfortable silences. Don't always feel like it's your responsibility to dissipate that awkwardness. I've actually learned lately to get "acquainted" and comfortable with that awkwardness. It can even help you get further at times. See a lot of us will feel that awkwardness and rush to find a way to make it go away. When you do that, the chick will automatically feel like she has the upper hand on you because from now on, it's your job to make things comfortable for her. You're basically serving her. When the weird silences come, let it marinate a little bit and be relaxed in it. Once she sees you really don't give a fukk, watch how quick she'll try to fill in the space and "make things ok again" because she'll start doubting herself and if she did something wrong. Now she's serving you...

You gotta show her that if the convo doesn't go smoothly, you're not the only person responsible for that. it's suppose to be an exchange of energy, show her she can't just take and not give. Don't always run from awkwardness. face it sometimes. it's a balance in there you have to reach (i don't think you should put it all on her either, you have to figure out your own style).

And the funny thing is that us guys are experienced at dissipating it through charm, jokes, wit, etc. So we can navigate through it. But most chicks aren't (because they never had to). Most don't have charm. Two things will typically happen. They'll either cut the interaction (and even then when they see you don't give a fukk, they'll start doubting themselves and think maybe they were the one being lame and uninteresting, and then they try to get your attention back) OR they'll just submit to you and seek your attention even more (and their main weapon is sexual energy) so the ball is in your court.


As usual, i advise not to become arrogant with it if it works for you.

This is an EXCELLENT post that might go under the radar, true gem being dropped. As men we often feel like it's our job to make the interaction go smoothly, which is why when we really like a girl we'll go above and beyond to keep the conversation interesting. Even if she likes you back, that puts the power in her hands because she can just sit back and watch while you entertain her. We often wonder why those women we are not attracted to are more persistent that than those we are, it is INDIFFERENCE. INDIFFERENCE is your greatest weapon, gentlemen, a woman will take your hatred over your INDIFFERENCE. Show her attention when YOU feel like, not when she asks for it, she'll notice the balance of power and either seek the attention somewhere else OR go above and beyond to get it from YOU

 

[young3000]

I'm assuming you've smashed?

about 5 times already and she's already asking me what's up for the weekend

 

[Hans Wurst]

the whole set :D

 

[Medio]

Brehs, so i've been seeing/talking/dating this girl for a while now, we've gone out 3 times, most recently last night (she's finally 21 and we can go get drinks). Haven't smashed yet but we've madeout and shyt ... we have a fun time together and she knows i like chillin with her, and I enjoy her company but I feel on this date I should of brought up that I like her and want to see where her head is at so i'm not wasting time. If we go out a 4th time then I'd def bring it up that I'd like to 'date' her. Do you think I should bring up I like her and want to like really date her, I don't know if she wanted me to say this on this date?? or do girls usually bring this stuff up. I don't know .. And bad part, she hasn't hit me up since last night after I texted her so maybe she's not even interested anymore and wanted me to tell her I like her, I don't know. I feel the best move is to just not text or call her and see if she does. Who has some input

 

[Ohene]

man i'm in a drought. I give up at this point fukk it. I was never trying to force the issue, rather seize opportunities. But now fukk the opportunities.

Somethings gone wrong with me lately, I lost my mojo.