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Btw one thing I've noticed with the past few women I've associated with, whether going out on a date or just talking etc.

These women are not religious etc. At all but once I drop that I'm a Christian and I go to church, they will quickly drop on me that they are 'spiritual' and pray at home

Such bs

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Why is that bs, though?
 

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to anyone struggling due to exes etc. the bond will be broken one day. Time is the best equalizer, i was once in your shoes, signing in looking at their facebook page, refreshing their twitter clicking on nikkas whose following her like whose that. Feeling liek crap when a niew nikka was dating her, knowing hes in those guts, but patience my friends there will be a day when you no longer care, when she texts you, you will be like ugh leave me be, when she wants to hang out "as friends" you would once jump at that chance now your like :woah: its ok.

be strong lads, like a super saiyan you will only come back stronger after being battle tested:swag:
 

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Why Aren't Young Men Going to Church? - The Spearhead

my church isnt like that but ive been to churches like this, filled with single moms, and mena nd women living out of wedlock yet the pastor keeps quiet because they are paying the offering and tithes.

the church is filled with females so the message is catered to them, men are shafted and told to wife these former slores, or women with kids

"young brother reincar date a female in the church":

looks around and sees women with 3-4 kids out of wedlock :whoa:

Back in the day, having kids out of wedlock wasn't tolerated. The woman would likely get disowned or kicked out of her family. Everyone cheered on this 'sexual revolution', but now they are left with the consequences of when they DO decide to settle down, it very well might be with a woman that has had 40 guys prior to himself. Who I really feel sad for are the children who will have to deal with a mom who has kids each by 3 to 5 different fathers. There is a complete lack of stable masculine direction there. None whatsoever. What our generation will have to do if nothing else is to revive masculinity and righteousness. We are only getting a small TASTE of what's to come if things do not reverse course.

Chasing and dealing with women at this juncture is pretty much a fruitless endeavor. You will be much better off taking time and developing your skills, getting closer with God, etc. I'm going to start posting more about different ways we can develop ourselves, because we've had 800 pages on dealing with these women and the more you think about it, you have to do too much work for too little in return. It's like investing in the stock market. There are times when you DO NOT invest in the stock market, and those times are when stocks are vastly overvalued for what they are actually worth. Sometimes you have to stay disciplined and hold your water.

Also, with the developments in America and the world in general, cats are really going to have to start to work together and stop waiting for corporations or anyone else to make a comfortable living for them. I'll go more into this later on.
 

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Man wrote a whole bunch of shyt and but token expired and I aint about to write it again. :snoop:

But basically to sum it all up, chick was a big booty white chick who was in her last semester of nursing school (an HBCU I might add which should've been the BIGGEST sign) which is why I think I put up with the BS that I did. But anyways for part of her clinical work she had to work at this inner city school for a couple weeks. So one day she mentions how this teacher was married but she caught him on POF making an account. She went on and on about how disgusted she was that could do that, knowing he was married and he had kid. She went on to tell me out of the blue that I was satisfying all of her needs and she would never talk to another dude. :snoop:

a couple days later she brings up how this same teacher had an app on his phone that he uses to give his number to the chicks he meets so the texts that he send the chicks don't show up on his phone. Went on and on about how much of a dirtbag that guy was. I'm like Okay.....don't worry about this dude, just worry about us.

Previous to that I had my suspicions that she was talking to someone else because she was acting distant. One day I let her listen to a song on my phone. I put it down and she proceeded to go through it. I just reset it so I didn't have nothing to hide. Her phone on the other hand, was going haywire the entire time we were together. I jokingly grabbed her phone and she snatched it back with the quickness. I was like :ohhh: what you got to hide? I didn't stop you from looking inside mine? And she was like nothing, I just think it would be best if we didn't look inside each others phone (LIE)

Couple days later we just talking about our expectations for each and she is like no talking to other people, and I quickly replied back like just like YOU aren't talking to other people right? And she said correct....but right as she said I noticed her eyes quickly shuffle to the right then focus back on me :rudy: . It happened so quickly, but I knew then when that happened she was talking to someone else. By this point I was like man this chick is FULL of it. We were supposed to hang out one day but I ditched her to go to happy hour with my boy and she was pisssed. She goes on her tumblr and starts posting a bunch of indirect stuff aimed at me talking about "People really show their true colors in their last moments" and a whole bunch of other tumblr relationship BS. Couple days later I called her and said yeah we're pretty much over because she may or may not have cheated on me but I know for CERTAIN that she was talking to someone. This hoe goes what do you mean by talking :rudy::comeon:

That pretty much let me know, so we broke up....but my dumb ass, instead of leaving her alone I kept on talking to her as if we were still together, which was a trend I noticed I did throughout the relationship. Whenever she did something that I didn't like, I would call her out on it and get mad. She would apologize or talk her way out of it, and I would maybe stop talking to her for a couple days ago but I'd always go back. Fellas you gotta be CONSISTENT with the discipline. Granted, I didn't follow my own advice, but I'm telling y'all this so you don't have to go through the bullshyt I went through guys. I really put my dignity to the side, which as a HIGH value male you should NEVER do.

Anyways after we broke up I still wanted to hit, so one day she comes over and I hit, we go out to eat and she starts owning up to the BS that she did. So I'm like I KNOW you were talking to someone and she was like yeah I was. No dates or anything like that just BS convo :comeon: so I'm like who was it. She's like the first person was my ex boyfriend....the second was a teacher at the school. I was like HOLD UP HOLD UP HOLD UP?!? Same teacher that such SCUM for having a POF and talking to other chicks while he was married and had kids? THAT teacher? And she's like yes :snoop:
Man the hypocrisy of the entire situation almost made my head explode. Like you slung and drug this guy's name through the mud and YOU'RE the one over here texting him? While you KNOW he is married and has a wife and kids? You deceitful two faced ass Jezebel :pacspit:
 

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Man wrote a whole bunch of shyt and but token expired and I aint about to write it again. :snoop:

But basically to sum it all up, chick was a big booty white chick who was in her last semester of nursing school (an HBCU I might add which should've been the BIGGEST sign) which is why I think I put up with the BS that I did. But anyways for part of her clinical work she had to work at this inner city school for a couple weeks. So one day she mentions how this teacher was married but she caught him on POF making an account. She went on and on about how disgusted she was that could do that, knowing he was married and he had kid. She went on to tell me out of the blue that I was satisfying all of her needs and she would never talk to another dude. :snoop:

a couple days later she brings up how this same teacher had an app on his phone that he uses to give his number to the chicks he meets so the texts that he send the chicks don't show up on his phone. Went on and on about how much of a dirtbag that guy was. I'm like Okay.....don't worry about this dude, just worry about us.

Previous to that I had my suspicions that she was talking to someone else because she was acting distant. One day I let her listen to a song on my phone. I put it down and she proceeded to go through it. I just reset it so I didn't have nothing to hide. Her phone on the other hand, was going haywire the entire time we were together. I jokingly grabbed her phone and she snatched it back with the quickness. I was like :ohhh: what you got to hide? I didn't stop you from looking inside mine? And she was like nothing, I just think it would be best if we didn't look inside each others phone (LIE)

Couple days later we just talking about our expectations for each and she is like no talking to other people, and I quickly replied back like just like YOU aren't talking to other people right? And she said correct....but right as she said I noticed her eyes quickly shuffle to the right then focus back on me :rudy: . It happened so quickly, but I knew then when that happened she was talking to someone else. By this point I was like man this chick is FULL of it. We were supposed to hang out one day but I ditched her to go to happy hour with my boy and she was pisssed. She goes on her tumblr and starts posting a bunch of indirect stuff aimed at me talking about "People really show their true colors in their last moments" and a whole bunch of other tumblr relationship BS. Couple days later I called her and said yeah we're pretty much over because she may or may not have cheated on me but I know for CERTAIN that she was talking to someone. This hoe goes what do you mean by talking :rudy::comeon:

That pretty much let me know, so we broke up....but my dumb ass, instead of leaving her alone I kept on talking to her as if we were still together, which was a trend I noticed I did throughout the relationship. Whenever she did something that I didn't like, I would call her out on it and get mad. She would apologize or talk her way out of it, and I would maybe stop talking to her for a couple days ago but I'd always go back. Fellas you gotta be CONSISTENT with the discipline. Granted, I didn't follow my own advice, but I'm telling y'all this so you don't have to go through the bullshyt I went through guys. I really put my dignity to the side, which as a HIGH value male you should NEVER do.

Anyways after we broke up I still wanted to hit, so one day she comes over and I hit, we go out to eat and she starts owning up to the BS that she did. So I'm like I KNOW you were talking to someone and she was like yeah I was. No dates or anything like that just BS convo :comeon: so I'm like who was it. She's like the first person was my ex boyfriend....the second was a teacher at the school. I was like HOLD UP HOLD UP HOLD UP?!? Same teacher that such SCUM for having a POF and talking to other chicks while he was married and had kids? THAT teacher? And she's like yes :snoop:
Man the hypocrisy of the entire situation almost made my head explode. Like you slung and drug this guy's name through the mud and YOU'RE the one over here texting him? While you KNOW he is married and has a wife and kids? You deceitful two faced ass Jezebel :pacspit:

when a chick keeps bringing up another guy's name, even in disgust, its never a good thing.
 

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Man wrote a whole bunch of shyt and but token expired and I aint about to write it again. :snoop:

But basically to sum it all up, chick was a big booty white chick who was in her last semester of nursing school (an HBCU I might add which should've been the BIGGEST sign) which is why I think I put up with the BS that I did. But anyways for part of her clinical work she had to work at this inner city school for a couple weeks. So one day she mentions how this teacher was married but she caught him on POF making an account. She went on and on about how disgusted she was that could do that, knowing he was married and he had kid. She went on to tell me out of the blue that I was satisfying all of her needs and she would never talk to another dude. :snoop:

a couple days later she brings up how this same teacher had an app on his phone that he uses to give his number to the chicks he meets so the texts that he send the chicks don't show up on his phone. Went on and on about how much of a dirtbag that guy was. I'm like Okay.....don't worry about this dude, just worry about us.

Previous to that I had my suspicions that she was talking to someone else because she was acting distant. One day I let her listen to a song on my phone. I put it down and she proceeded to go through it. I just reset it so I didn't have nothing to hide. Her phone on the other hand, was going haywire the entire time we were together. I jokingly grabbed her phone and she snatched it back with the quickness. I was like :ohhh: what you got to hide? I didn't stop you from looking inside mine? And she was like nothing, I just think it would be best if we didn't look inside each others phone (LIE)

Couple days later we just talking about our expectations for each and she is like no talking to other people, and I quickly replied back like just like YOU aren't talking to other people right? And she said correct....but right as she said I noticed her eyes quickly shuffle to the right then focus back on me :rudy: . It happened so quickly, but I knew then when that happened she was talking to someone else. By this point I was like man this chick is FULL of it. We were supposed to hang out one day but I ditched her to go to happy hour with my boy and she was pisssed. She goes on her tumblr and starts posting a bunch of indirect stuff aimed at me talking about "People really show their true colors in their last moments" and a whole bunch of other tumblr relationship BS. Couple days later I called her and said yeah we're pretty much over because she may or may not have cheated on me but I know for CERTAIN that she was talking to someone. This hoe goes what do you mean by talking :rudy::comeon:

That pretty much let me know, so we broke up....but my dumb ass, instead of leaving her alone I kept on talking to her as if we were still together, which was a trend I noticed I did throughout the relationship. Whenever she did something that I didn't like, I would call her out on it and get mad. She would apologize or talk her way out of it, and I would maybe stop talking to her for a couple days ago but I'd always go back. Fellas you gotta be CONSISTENT with the discipline. Granted, I didn't follow my own advice, but I'm telling y'all this so you don't have to go through the bullshyt I went through guys. I really put my dignity to the side, which as a HIGH value male you should NEVER do.

Anyways after we broke up I still wanted to hit, so one day she comes over and I hit, we go out to eat and she starts owning up to the BS that she did. So I'm like I KNOW you were talking to someone and she was like yeah I was. No dates or anything like that just BS convo :comeon: so I'm like who was it. She's like the first person was my ex boyfriend....the second was a teacher at the school. I was like HOLD UP HOLD UP HOLD UP?!? Same teacher that such SCUM for having a POF and talking to other chicks while he was married and had kids? THAT teacher? And she's like yes :snoop:
Man the hypocrisy of the entire situation almost made my head explode. Like you slung and drug this guy's name through the mud and YOU'RE the one over here texting him? While you KNOW he is married and has a wife and kids? You deceitful two faced ass Jezebel :pacspit:

Damn breh, and I thought the bytch I was dealing with was bad. smh

Hoes these days....

In in all honesty, you should have known when she started talking shyt about the teacher. That's a clear sign she was on him, one way or another.
 

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to anyone struggling due to exes etc. the bond will be broken one day. Time is the best equalizer, i was once in your shoes, signing in looking at their facebook page, refreshing their twitter clicking on nikkas whose following her like whose that. Feeling liek crap when a niew nikka was dating her, knowing hes in those guts, but patience my friends there will be a day when you no longer care, when she texts you, you will be like ugh leave me be, when she wants to hang out "as friends" you would once jump at that chance now your like :woah: its ok.

be strong lads, like a super saiyan you will only come back stronger after being battle tested:swag:

:to: :to: :to: Breh for real I remember that feeling... It hurts more when you see her flirting with dude and he seems to just wanna make her a jumpoff meanwhile you was damn near ready to marry the girl SMH
 

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I believe one of my main mistakes has been seeking out these worldly women, but I find they have nothing to offer me. I need a woman who truly is a follower of Jesus, not only in her lips, but in her deed. These women of the world have little to offer but headache and heartache. As Reincar says, a lot of these women say they are 'spiritual', but what spirit are they following?

1 John 4
4 Beloved, do not believe every spirit, but test the spirits to see whether they are from God, for many false prophets have gone out into the world. 2 By this you know the Spirit of God: every spirit that confesses that Jesus Christ has come in the flesh is from God

I don't want a woman into new-age spiritualism because she will be into new-age things. The only spirit I want a woman following is the Holy Spirit. The problem with the Church nowadays is that they also cater to women as opposed to chastising women and telling them to be in their proper role as they chastise men. These churches chase money as opposed to giving these women what they really need to build a sustainable, long-term relationship. These modern churches fail to break these women from the cycle of rebellion against a man, nor do they even really take the time to teach men how to be men, as they should. Instead, the modern church itself has become feminized in the way they teach, which is why you hardly see many men in there anymore.


On another topic, feminization killed organized religion. These days, people go to the club more than church, and all kinds of bullshyt flies in the club these days.
 

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:to: :to: :to: Breh for real I remember that feeling... It hurts more when you see her flirting with dude and he seems to just wanna make her a jumpoff meanwhile you was damn near ready to marry the girl SMH

:to:

Been there breh, thats why its key when its over cease communication and dont look back.

The worse thing you treated this chick with respect, actually cared about and loved her as a person no simp, while this new dude she flirting with just views her as a cumbucket, back in the day id get angry, or dissappointed now :ehh:.

The funny thing ive always been right in this situations, these women go and then when it ends horribly "hey reincar, how you doing" :minion:

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Man wrote a whole bunch of shyt and but token expired and I aint about to write it again.
But basically to sum it all up, chick was a big booty white chick who was in her last semester of nursing school (an HBCU I might add which should've been the BIGGEST sign) which is why I think I put up with the BS that I did. But anyways for part of her clinical work she had to work at this inner city school for a couple weeks. So one day she mentions how this teacher was married but she caught him on POF making an account. She went on and on about how disgusted she was that could do that, knowing he was married and he had kid. She went on to tell me out of the blue that I was satisfying all of her needs and she would never talk to another dude.

a couple days later she brings up how this same teacher had an app on his phone that he uses to give his number to the chicks he meets so the texts that he send the chicks don't show up on his phone. Went on and on about how much of a dirtbag that guy was. I'm like Okay.....don't worry about this dude, just worry about us.

Previous to that I had my suspicions that she was talking to someone else because she was acting distant. One day I let her listen to a song on my phone. I put it down and she proceeded to go through it. I just reset it so I didn't have nothing to hide. Her phone on the other hand, was going haywire the entire time we were together. I jokingly grabbed her phone and she snatched it back with the quickness. I was like :ohhh: what you got to hide? I didn't stop you from looking inside mine? And she was like nothing, I just think it would be best if we didn't look inside each others phone (LIE)

Couple days later we just talking about our expectations for each and she is like no talking to other people, and I quickly replied back like just like YOU aren't talking to other people right? And she said correct....but right as she said I noticed her eyes quickly shuffle to the right then focus back on me :rudy: . It happened so quickly, but I knew then when that happened she was talking to someone else. By this point I was like man this chick is FULL of it. We were supposed to hang out one day but I ditched her to go to happy hour with my boy and she was pisssed. She goes on her tumblr and starts posting a bunch of indirect stuff aimed at me talking about "People really show their true colors in their last moments" and a whole bunch of other tumblr relationship BS. Couple days later I called her and said yeah we're pretty much over because she may or may not have cheated on me but I know for CERTAIN that she was talking to someone. This hoe goes what do you mean by talking :rudy::comeon:

That pretty much let me know, so we broke up....but my dumb ass, instead of leaving her alone I kept on talking to her as if we were still together, which was a trend I noticed I did throughout the relationship. Whenever she did something that I didn't like, I would call her out on it and get mad. She would apologize or talk her way out of it, and I would maybe stop talking to her for a couple days ago but I'd always go back. Fellas you gotta be CONSISTENT with the discipline. Granted, I didn't follow my own advice, but I'm telling y'all this so you don't have to go through the bullshyt I went through guys. I really put my dignity to the side, which as a HIGH value male you should NEVER do.

Anyways after we broke up I still wanted to hit, so one day she comes over and I hit, we go out to eat and she starts owning up to the BS that she did. So I'm like I KNOW you were talking to someone and she was like yeah I was. No dates or anything like that just BS convo :comeon: so I'm like who was it. She's like the first person was my ex boyfriend....the second was a teacher at the school. I was like HOLD UP HOLD UP HOLD UP?!? Same teacher that such SCUM for having a POF and talking to other chicks while he was married and had kids? THAT teacher? And she's like yes :snoop:
Man the hypocrisy of the entire situation almost made my head explode. Like you slung and drug this guy's name through the mud and YOU'RE the one over here texting him? While you KNOW he is married and has a wife and kids? You deceitful two faced ass Jezebel :pacspit:

Props for sharing, I've been there. I've shared some of my personal stories on previous pages :snoop:, its good to know other brothers have been through the struggle. This is why I love this thread, we just let it all out :to:, no outlet in real life besides "man f her, just get some new puzzy and youll be fine".


Live and learn at least you didn't knock her up, now your wiser.



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Anyways that chick contacted me, but I guess I'm jaded brehs.



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Man that's what's so cold about the game and might make you chuckle if you can stomach it... how these women will be chastising someone else for doing wrong and how scummish they are but be doing the EXACT same thing during the exact same time.

"Ughhh my homegirl denise. she is soooo foul cheating on her man."

Then you find she is doing the same thing

It's just amazing the lack of shame that exists.
 
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