Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

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why do you think it's a good thing ? maybe someone else got her phone number right after you met her and is gonna dikk her down next week

Because every chicks number that I've gotten at my school after meeting the first time it never works out. Like I can converse with them, but texting meh, it don't work well for me. Eh if they are then that's fine, she's not my girlfriend and I'm not in love with her, I have no emotions for her, I'm just intrigued. But to answer your question she has a softball tournament this week upstate, but if she didn't and she was getting dikked down then obviously 1. She has no interest in me otherwise she wouldn't fukk someone else and 2. Should I really care if she's fukking someone else? If she is or has those intentions then surely I'd be doing myself a favor.
 

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had a chill session today from like 730pm to 11pm.

was just myself, since i did not care i dropped how i thought about women and relationships in general, asked straight up if she had a twitter or instagram, she didnt take out her phone to text, all in all it was aiight

no simping no texting if she got home ok, no walking to her car, no texting her tomorrow or the next day
 

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had a chill session today from like 730pm to 11pm.

was just myself, since i did not care i dropped how i thought about women and relationships in general, asked straight up if she had a twitter or instagram, she didnt take out her phone to text, all in all it was aiight

no simping no texting if she got home ok, no walking to her car, no texting her tomorrow or the next day

Where did you meet this 1 at?
 

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had a chill session today from like 730pm to 11pm.

was just myself, since i did not care i dropped how i thought about women and relationships in general, asked straight up if she had a twitter or instagram, she didnt take out her phone to text, all in all it was aiight

no simping no texting if she got home ok, no walking to her car, no texting her tomorrow or the next day

:lawd::lawd::lawd:
 

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Consider this thread a safe haven for you to vent your fears, frustrations and concerns.

However, in the real world, understand that the way of thinking promoted in this thread is frowned upon by women and some of our fellow men.

So when faced with these situations in real life, don't talk about it be about it.

Trying to explain to a woman what she did wrong is like trying to convince a serial killer that murdering innocent people is wrong.

It is sad that we can't have this type of dialogue with the opposite sex because of their unwillingness to see things from a different perspective.

Then on top of that, you will encounter other dudes who call you every name in the book from "insecure" to "homo" simply because you refuse to accept this matrix that they call relationships and got comfortable with.

What most of these guys won't tell you is that these are the same dudes who would kill their girlfriends and the other dude if they came home and caught them cheating. These dudes would spend the rest of their lives in prison over a chick who did them wrong. Why? Because they can't accept reality. They think that we're bitter, when in fact we are more in tune with the realistic nature of relationships than they will ever be.

In a society which is geared towards giving women as much of an advantage as possible, this type of ideology presented in this thread is frowned upon. Women will attack it, even though their arguments have no merit. But they will say the magic words to make most dudes fall in line

"Well, if you keep thinking like that, you'll never get no p*ssy" or "Yep, sounds like the recipe for being alone" (Yes, I've had girls say that to me)

These movements are defeated because most men value p*ssy over their own self respect and integrity. We'll forever have dudes fighting against us because they figure they'll get more pu$$y this way. Even in the Coli, dudes do it outside of this thread. Why? Because they're looking for some female to say "Hey, he's different" when it's really "He'll do whatever we want him to do like a lost puppy"

Keep your integrity at all costs. And when dealing with women, always remember, what's understood doesn't need to be spoken. You don't have to explain a damn thing to her, especially if she's hard headed or belligerent. If a woman really wants to be in your circle, she will come to you wanting to hear what you have to say. She values your opinion and your perception of relationships. Most women will never understand our logic, but if she's a good woman and really cares about you, she will make the effort to make you happy once she understands what you expect from her and your relationship as a whole.

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(I'm catching up brehs...on page 274 :sadbron: )Yeah, like what everyone's been saying; there is really nothing you can do to keep a woman. At the end of the day she will decide to follow her emotions over plain logic. So essentially, it's really important for a man to ensure that what little time he has on earth, is spent doing the things most important; whether it be through intellect, art, spirituality, finances, familial relationships, friendships or any combination thereof.

With that said, I'm going to echo Sharp by saying that I'm a firm believer of not trying to go force my knowledge down other people's throats, especially when they are more caught up in the perception of reality than reality itself. I'm not wasting my time on someone who isn't ready to truly get to the hart of their own problems. :yeshrug: Nonetheless, should a man really want an unadulterated assessment as to why these females are making life difficult...well shyt, I'll gladly help.

As experienced with damn near all of you employing these principles, I remember a text conversation that I had with some girl I was messing with in which she was on that whole, "i'll call you in 5 minutes" when she really sends a text saying "what you doing?" 6 hours later....after some bickering back and forth, i'm like :birdman: "good night" and she replies "goodnight forever", when i say ok shes like "....you were mad quick to say that though" :scusthov:

***** straight up lied about having cervical cancer, and as usual, simpworth believed her only to find out that she went and topped off the same ex she said probably gave it to her....

at that point I accepted reality goddammit
 

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Where did you meet this 1 at?

:smugterror:

photography class, funny thing she was all dolled up makeup, short dress etc.

i went in sme bummy jeans and a hoody, i literally didn't care. Yeah she was hot as hell all i said though was nice umbrella:notimpressed:

its funny years ago going on a chill session with a female who was beautiful id be such a simp all quiet and shy, texting did you get home ok i had a great time and all that ish.

now its :ehh:
 

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:smugterror:

photography class, funny thing she was all dolled up makeup, short dress etc.

i went in sme bummy jeans and a hoody, i literally didn't care. Yeah she was hot as hell all i said though was nice umbrella:notimpressed:

its funny years ago going on a chill session with a female who was beautiful id be such a simp all quiet and shy, texting did you get home ok i had a great time and all that ish.

now its :ehh:

:russ::russ::russ:

You think she'll hit you up again???
























Not that you'd care :youngsabo:
 

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(I'm catching up brehs...on page 274 :sadbron: )Yeah, like what everyone's been saying; there is really nothing you can do to keep a woman. At the end of the day she will decide to follow her emotions over plain logic. So essentially, it's really important for a man to ensure that what little time he has on earth, is spent doing the things most important; whether it be through intellect, art, spirituality, finances, familial relationships, friendships or any combination thereof.

With that said, I'm going to echo Sharp by saying that I'm a firm believer of not trying to go force my knowledge down other people's throats, especially when they are more caught up in the perception of reality than reality itself. I'm not wasting my time on someone who isn't ready to truly get to the hart of their own problems. :yeshrug: Nonetheless, should a man really want an unadulterated assessment as to why these females are making life difficult...well shyt, I'll gladly help.

As experienced with damn near all of you employing these principles, I remember a text conversation that I had with some girl I was messing with in which she was on that whole, "i'll call you in 5 minutes" when she really sends a text saying "what you doing?" 6 hours later....after some bickering back and forth, i'm like :birdman: "good night" and she replies "goodnight forever", when i say ok shes like "....you were mad quick to say that though" :scusthov:

***** straight up lied about having cervical cancer, and as usual, simpworth believed her only to find out that she went and topped off the same ex she said probably gave it to her....

at that point I accepted reality goddammit

Well props to you for catching on early I had to go through years of the shyt in order to accept reality. It also didn't help that the women in my life were constantly feeding me the "not all women are the same" rhetoric even though I kept getting the same results and a good 95% of the chicks did the chasing, I've maybe approached 3 women in my life and I've had too many relationships to keep count of. I would have chicks chase me for months, finally wear me down only to pull the same old bullshyt. I got horror stories for days. Multiple heart breaks, hella money spent, hella time wasted. I been single 3 years and I plan to keep it that way while I grind to secure my future, ill hook up here and there but if they catch feelings after I'm up front about my intentions then they meet the bushes
 

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The reality of the situation is that you can't wife up most of these women that you come across, nor does it pay to be in a relationship with most of them. I prefer to be a realistic thinker. I'm not an 'optimistic' or 'positive' thinker. I look at myself as someone who CAN improve on things at hand, but FIRST, I must look at it AS IS. It is critical to work within the confines of reality.
The problem with a lot of these 'positive thinkers' is that they allow their positivity to override their sense of reality and they start taking life as they WANT it to be and start overlaying it on top of life as it really is. In other words, in their mind, they transform doodoo into diamonds, but when they wake up out of their fantasy, they find out they're in a big, stinking mess.

The reality of the situation with a lot, but not all women in this day and age is that they are constantly talking to all kinds of dudes and they will continue to talk to them even while they are in a 'relationship' with you or even 'talking' to you. This is why a lot of these women simply disappear for periods of time and come back with some excuse or seem to have amnesia in regards to their whereabouts. "Oh I was just busy with a few things." The reality is that these are low moral and low quality women and you cannot change their behavior patterns with some action you are doing, so it is best to cut them off and do not deal with them. Once you've engaged in regular communication with a woman and all of a sudden she starts to give you the run-around or disappear for big blocks of time she is usually dealing with other men. It doesn't take more than 5 seconds to say, "Hey, how are you doing" in this communication age, and if you're serious about someone, why is that so difficult? It's not. She's just preoccupied with another guy who she has given priority over you, but she'll pop in every now and then to keep you on the roster to fall back on. When you and a woman have established a pattern of regular conversation, if that woman can NOT be consistent in staying in contact with you after that, do not give her the satisfaction of being in touch with you. Your value is way too high to be some back-up plan for some broad.
 

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Because every chicks number that I've gotten at my school after meeting the first time it never works out. Like I can converse with them, but texting meh, it don't work well for me. Eh if they are then that's fine, she's not my girlfriend and I'm not in love with her, I have no emotions for her, I'm just intrigued. But to answer your question she has a softball tournament this week upstate, but if she didn't and she was getting dikked down then obviously 1. She has no interest in me otherwise she wouldn't fukk someone else and 2. Should I really care if she's fukking someone else? If she is or has those intentions then surely I'd be doing myself a favor.
:obama:

I remember reading your posts from way back. I definitely see a change in your attitude and mindset. just wanted to give you props cause i love seeing brehs realize how much power they really have once they stop using this as just tactics and truly start believing and internalizing this stuff.
 

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The reality of the situation is that you can't wife up most of these women that you come across, nor does it pay to be in a relationship with most of them. I prefer to be a realistic thinker. I'm not an 'optimistic' or 'positive' thinker. I look at myself as someone who CAN improve on things at hand, but FIRST, I must look at it AS IS. It is critical to work within the confines of reality.
The problem with a lot of these 'positive thinkers' is that they allow their positivity to override their sense of reality and they start taking life as they WANT it to be and start overlaying it on top of life as it really is. In other words, in their mind, they transform doodoo into diamonds, but when they wake up out of their fantasy, they find out they're in a big, stinking mess.

The reality of the situation with a lot, but not all women in this day and age is that they are constantly talking to all kinds of dudes and they will continue to talk to them even while they are in a 'relationship' with you or even 'talking' to you. This is why a lot of these women simply disappear for periods of time and come back with some excuse or seem to have amnesia in regards to their whereabouts. "Oh I was just busy with a few things." The reality is that these are low moral and low quality women and you cannot change their behavior patterns with some action you are doing, so it is best to cut them off and do not deal with them. Once you've engaged in regular communication with a woman and all of a sudden she starts to give you the run-around or disappear for big blocks of time she is usually dealing with other men. It doesn't take more than 5 seconds to say, "Hey, how are you doing" in this communication age, and if you're serious about someone, why is that so difficult? It's not. She's just preoccupied with another guy who she has given priority over you, but she'll pop in every now and then to keep you on the roster to fall back on. When you and a woman have established a pattern of regular conversation, if that woman can NOT be consistent in staying in contact with you after that, do not give her the satisfaction of being in touch with you. Your value is way too high to be some back-up plan for some broad.

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A little different from my usual posts, but this is something I wanted to address.

This one is for my fellas with kids or anybody planning to have kids.

This single mother sh*t is real, and it is affecting us and society overall.

Think about the implications...

Boys raised by single mothers, think that their mom is the greatest woman in the world and dad is the scum of the earth. And even if you are in your child's life, if you are not with the mother in a relationship, she still defines herself as a single mother.

In addition to being a man of respect, you have to be a teacher to your children, especially your sons. A woman cannot teach a boy how to be a man. This is why we have so many simps and effeminate men.

"Oh, I'm gonna be a better man than my daddy?"

But how? Nobody taught you how to be a man? Your mother simply taught you how a woman "wants" to be treated, but you were not taught how women are supposed to be "handled" and relationships are supposed to be "managed". You were not taught how to be a man of respect. You were taught how to please women.

I'm trying to put together a think group to combat this.
 

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A little different from my usual posts, but this is something I wanted to address.

This one is for my fellas with kids or anybody planning to have kids.

This single mother sh*t is real, and it is affecting us and society overall.

Think about the implications...

Boys raised by single mothers, think that their mom is the greatest woman in the world and dad is the scum of the earth. And even if you are in your child's life, if you are not with the mother in a relationship, she still defines herself as a single mother.

In addition to being a man of respect, you have to be a teacher to your children, especially your sons. A woman cannot teach a boy how to be a man. This is why we have so many simps and effeminate men.

"Oh, I'm gonna be a better man than my daddy?"

But how? Nobody taught you how to be a man? Your mother simply taught you how a woman "wants" to be treated, but you were not taught how women are supposed to be "handled" and relationships are supposed to be "managed". You were not taught how to be a man of respect. You were taught how to please women.

I'm trying to put together a think group to combat this.

cosign, plus the thing that alot of single moms do is corrupt their kids minds, how do you know dad was a loser or a deadbeat? cuz mommy told them

my uncle had a child like 30 years ago, and he paid child support every month for the whole time, his daughter hated him, until last year they finally talked and she realized that my uncle her father was paying child support he was not a deadbeat and wanted to be in her life but her mom didnt want him around.
 

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what's the max time y'all ask a girl out before you stop and dead her

basically i want out with this girl once, we had a good ass time, she enjoyed my company and she was even hitting me up first a few days after it. then i asked her out again she had some bs excuse, then a waited like a week and a half and ask her again and she gave some whack reason, she didn't suggest another time or something or later on in the day. right now i just plan on dropping her

here is what you do

delete her number

if she contacts you she does if she doesnt no loss

remembre women deal with emotion not logic! could have had a amazing date everything went great but we didnt "click", "no butterflies"
 
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