Breh I wish a nikka had told me this a year ago, wouldn't be dealing with the shyt I'm dealing with now if I heard those words
Whats wrong with being the first decent guy after shes only dated a$$holes?
She told me that every guy cheated on her in the past and this previous weekend, she told me that, Nobody has ever treated me this well before.
That exact statement was made by my ex a year ago and she was one of the most ratchet women Ive ever date so she took full advantage of it.
I know, I know
the predictions of what yall are about to say, I already heard. But because such words have been expressed to me in the past, its sort of a wake up call and it tells me, Pump up your brakes because this aint gonna end well youre simpin!
By nature, Im an upstanding guy, treat most people with respect and courtesy, but on the contrary tread very carefully so that I dont simp too much (a little is okay because you gotta diversify your handling with these breezies). And to be mindful to be chivalrous when its warranted but regress/pull back to not overwhelm her with my gestures.
The difference this time around with this gal is that shes educated, good head on her shoulders and actually shows appreciation/gratitude.
Not saying that she wont display any potential ratchet behaviors in the future but I dont want to deviate too far from who I really am if that makes sense.
Yes, shes had her share of men who have treated her with disdain and neglect, but now that shes gotten it out of her system its okay to be the good guy she yearns for
right?
She knows that at a drop of a hat, I can go get somebody else (because thats how I got her, approached the boo at a birthday party and romanced her on the spot so my game thorough) and only opt to see her on the weekends (as a way to keep her on her toes and not get too comfortable with the boy or over-expose myself to her so she cant predict my behavior).
The only truly disheartening thing is that I know I can never let my guard down and love her as much as one would prefer cuz that could potentially disrupt/derail the relationship and basically shell get bored as most women do.
I admit; Im chivalrous, but Im not a simp meaning that I do have a backbone and stand my ground. Not a yes man, throw in my 2 cents and give her opinions/contrarian replies to show guile and lead the relationship in every way, shape, form. So no door mat here.
If at any givenmoment, she takes me for granted and I sniff a grain of ratchetness on her epidermis, she can either straighten up immediately (cuz you MUST call them out on it right away) and ackrite or get the boot. Timberlands.
The difference between the a$$holes back then and the guy shes dealing with now, is that I dont have to degrade somebody to get their attention or have them submit. A woman will respect/and follow a man with virtue, wisdom, absolute confidence and virility (that charm, wit, humor, aesthetic attributes and such are bonuses but how you carry yourself, your disposition/demeanor and character will get you much further with a woman and she will reciprocate accordingly).
In gist, continue to be true to yourself and take care of your business. If a woman is by your side, its because she admires you, appreciates you and wants to be a part of your life because of who you are not what you represent. Once you acknowledge that theres no reason why you cant have a fruitful relationship with somebody.
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, and every girl i slept with took something from me, 
