Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[International Playa]

@Carné Asada, your story really touched me,

These days for me I'm finding the solution is to talk to more than one woman at once, it avoids you getting affected by women who are not straightforward about what they want.

 

[Turbulent]

Never tell a woman you want to see her more than once a week.


In MY OPINION, it puts the ball in her court and makes you seem more thirsty for her (even if you aren't and just feel like it's something you should say).


Just consider that she has a life too and perhaps, fitting you in once a week is all she can afford. If she likes you a lot, she will make more way for you and ask YOU to see her more often.

I know... because i'm going through that RIGHT NOW! I made sure i created a strong enough impression and make our time together so damn enjoyable, she wants to see me more - she actually mentioned this to me last weekend after several drinks - never mentioned it (if anything, she says i don't try enough. LOL. But i like to have my own time during the week to take care of errands, happy hour with the guys, work out, etc.).


Thing is that, this girl is a true sweet heart (for the most part, her drunkard moments/comments are questionable, but its just jokes and i fukk with her just as much if not moreso)... but you just really got to treat them all the same.



God speed and good luck with her.


She seems like a keeper.


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lol, i feel you on that. sometimes i'd just tell girls i miss them and want to see them. not because i actually felt that way, just because i felt like it was the thing to say and if i didn't she'd feel hurt i'm not sweating her as much. but that is also "playing a game" cause when you do shyt like this, you're not keeping it real...and the fukked up thing is that it doesn't mean i'm not feeling her hard either. Hardest thing sometimes is not to succumb to the pressure of doing what's "expected" of you. You always have to keep it real with yourself and do what you personally feel and let the chips fall where they may...

 

[CrossBones]

lol, i feel you on that. sometimes i'd just tell girls i miss them and want to see them. not because i actually felt that way, just because i felt like it was the thing to say and if i didn't she'd feel hurt i'm not sweating her as much. but that is also "playing a game" cause when you do shyt like this, you're not keeping it real...and the fukked up thing is that it doesn't mean i'm not feeling her hard either. Hardest thing sometimes is not to succumb to the pressure of doing what's "expected" of you. You always have to keep it real with yourself and do what you personally feel and let the chips fall where they may...

if a girl says "I miss you" and Im not missing her like that, Ill just say "yeah, I want to see you too"

 

[kevm3]

Man too many women these days got problems for me to really make a serious investment in any particular one of them. That whole thing of texting other guys while they are with you isn't anything that's particularly uncommon... These women have gotten a little too comfortable in this day and age. It's not something any man should HAVE to check because that should be common sense and common courtesy to not text other people while someone is spending their time with you... in fact, That's not something I will bother checking. It's something that will get a woman dismissed quickly. My time has a lot of value and I'm not going to give it to some phone fiend who is probably trying to set up a little roster.

The only time these women start to act right is when the attention they are getting starts to wear down and they don't have options like they used to, so they rush to 'grab their nice guy' when they see all their other friends get married and they start feeling that bug too. And the sad thing is, even that is only temporary for most of these women. They will 'act reformed' until they snag their next relationship and then get back comfortable and revert back to their old ways.

I've been putting women on the backburner, but the funny thing is, when I do that, they seem to come at me even harder. Too much of dealing with women these days seems more like avoid getting screwed over than it is legitimately enjoying yourself. That is if you're trying to take a woman seriously. If you're looking for an abundance of women to do whatever with, they are everywhere.

 

[CrossBones]

Man too many women these days got problems for me to really make a serious investment in any particular one of them. That whole thing of texting other guys while they are with you isn't anything that's particularly uncommon... These women have gotten a little too comfortable in this day and age. It's not something any man should HAVE to check because that should be common sense and common courtesy to not text other people while someone is spending their time with you... in fact, That's not something I will bother checking. It's something that will get a woman dismissed quickly. My time has a lot of value and I'm not going to give it to some phone fiend who is probably trying to set up a little roster.

The only time these women start to act right is when the attention they are getting starts to wear down and they don't have options like they used to, so they rush to 'grab their nice guy' when they see all their other friends get married and they start feeling that bug too. And the sad thing is, even that is only temporary for most of these women. They will 'act reformed' until they snag their next relationship and then get back comfortable and revert back to their old ways.

I've been putting women on the backburner, but the funny thing is, when I do that, they seem to come at me even harder. Too much of dealing with women these days seems more like avoid getting screwed over than it is legitimately enjoying yourself. That is if you're trying to take a woman seriously. If you're looking for an abundance of women to do whatever with, they are everywhere.

the worst part about that is the sheer number of modern women who find it okay to be trampy and with several boyfriends. its not just promoted, they act like its great and nothing to worry about. everyone is supposed to just accept that. they can do all of that, and one day theyll hit a switch and it all changes. all of a sudden theyre different: who they are, what they did, and what they are able to bring to a relationship.

there was saying I read on another site the other day, it was something like "Trying to make a girlfriend out of a slut is like training a cat to play fetch. Cats are great at being cats, but not much else."

 

[Poh SIti Dawn]

That's kinda what you get for fukking with an Internet hoe anyway. You think she gonna delete her account cause she found you? Naw, she's got other options.

 

[Kartel13]

That's kinda what you get for fukking with an Internet hoe anyway. You think she gonna delete her account cause she found you? Naw, she's got other options.

Meeting hoes online is just another avenue at meeting people. The fact that she was on match, with a paying account said something. And she deleted that account 1 month after we met. I checked that too.

 

[kevm3]

the worst part about that is the sheer number of modern women who find it okay to be trampy and with several boyfriends. its not just accepted, they act like its great and nothing to worry about. everyone is supposed to just accept that. like they can do all of that, and one day theyll hit a switch and it all changes. all of a sudden theyre different: who they are, what they did, and what they are able to bring to a relationship.

theres was saying I read on another site the other day, it was something like "Trying to make a girlfriend out of a slut is like training a cat to play fetch. Cats are great at being cats, but not much else."

The thing is that these women always play the victim game. It's never their own fault that they are single. It's not the lying they've been doing, the rosters they've been trying to run, all the running around they've been doing or any of that. Just as long as you never take them too seriously, you'll be way better off.

 

[AffordableSuplexReviews]

Because of social norms, and predetermined notions surrounding sex, a lot of women feel restricted. So bouncing and balancing several open relationships, is empowering to them. It's freedom.

Can't really blame them for it, I don't like feeling suffocated by this societal expectation system.

It's pretty tough though. A lot of these open relationships occur in college, but the inability to fully separate emotions from sex is so prevalent that it causes major rifts, and mental stress when these partnerships end.

 

[Mister_DoItNice]

It's just a competition aspect really. Women figure if men can be celebrated for having multiple on the roster then why can't they. It's just a silly game of tit for tat.

 

[Kartel13]

@Carné Asada, your story really touched me,

These days for me I'm finding the solution is to talk to more than one woman at once, it avoids you getting affected by women who are not straightforward about what they want.

Yeah, I was in a pickle. I had another broad around December and cut it off in January because I wanted to be fair and get serious with this one.

I was obviously wrong.

 

[CrossBones]

It's just a competition aspect really. Women figure if men can be celebrated for having multiple on the roster then why can't they. It's just a silly game of tit for tat.

I can see that. problem is, no man outright starts looking for a whore to settle down with and take seriously.

if women want to find desirable a "been around the block once or twice" kind of guy, thats their choice. but they need to undestand what messing with that kind of man/men, does to their own value in the eyes of men who are respectable. thats the kind of man looking for a suitable mate.

as men, we're the ones who have to bring more to the table. we court them. dont get it fooled. women bring, what exactly? so a man will initiate contact, take her out, buy her food and stuff, protect her, and also be respectful to her wishes, desires, and body.

and in turn, a woman may .... fukk. and might be monogamous, depending on who else is out there talking to her and offering her shyt. wow. not really fair there either.

working out a relationships dynamics like theyre supposed to be exactly the same, doesnt work when neither side is expected to do what the other does. you cant compare the same things in the same way, if we are supposedly meant to provide different things for each other.

 

[AffordableSuplexReviews]

The thing is that these women always play the victim game. It's never their own fault that they are single. It's not the lying they've been doing, the rosters they've been trying to run, all the running around they've been doing or any of that. Just as long as you never take them too seriously, you'll be way better off.

This is the most vital piece of advice from your post. In regards to all angles of relationships with these women, this is key.

The chick that I'm done with now. Two Fridays ago when I went to see her, she was crying up a storm. Talking all this jazz about "most guys just want to fuvk but I feel like you really like me", "I'm gonna miss you so much", "the end will be so hard", all that shyt, but I was real nonchalant. I respect the girl, but at that moment, I had the going on in the inside. It felt great. I shielded myself from the domino effect of tears, I didn't have any sadness in me.

I messed around and started taking her serious again, and now that our split is official, it's an odd adjustment. I feel like she caught me slipping.

The drama and nonsense that comes with females isn't fun, but trying to remain free-spirited, and focusing on having fun, should make the encounters a lot more seamless.

 

[kevm3]

I can see that. problem is, no man outright starts looking for a whore to settle down with and take seriously.

if women want to find desirable a "been around the block once or twice" kind of guy, thats their choice. but they need to undestand what messing with that kind of man/men does to their own value in the eyes of men who are respectable. thats the kind of man looking for find a suitable mate.

as men, we're the ones who have to bring more to the table. we court them. dont get it fooled. women bring, what exactly? so a man will initiate contact, take her out, buy her food and stuff, protect her, and also be respectful to her wishes, desires, and body.

and in turn, a woman may .... fukk. and might be monogamous, depending on who else is out there talking to her and offering her shyt. wow. not really fair there either.

working out a relationships dynamics like theyre supposed to be exactly the same, doesnt work when neither side is expected to do what the other does. you cant compare the same things in the same way, if we are supposedly meant to provide different things for each other.

If you choose to be in a relationship with the modern woman, you have to do all of that and more, and maybe, just maybe she will give you sex, but she has her dude on the side who doesn't do nothing but chill with her that she will let dig her out all day and in every way... and yet women are wondering why men aren't wrapping them up. Who in the world wants to do way more work for way less benefit? Little sweetheart might be sleeping with another man behind her man's back and the other guy gets mad at her for some reason or the other and then she tries to get the boyfriend to fight the other dude by running some kind of story on him... and if the boyfriend doesn't fight, to her he's all kinds of punks and soft. It's all kinds of nonsense going on and if a woman isn't doing what it takes to bring some sort of tangible benefit to your life, better leave her alone. I'm not doing all this hustling and bustling to cater to some broad when I'm the one bringing more value to the equation. Just ask yourself, what is this woman really doing to deserve all of this catering?

 

[Mister_DoItNice]

Life is great right now fellas. I'm gearing up for the summer; going hard in the gym, planning trips, and planning on getting a new motorcycle. Women aren't even on my radar right now. That's not to say I won't be on the prowl but it's just a nonchalant feeling. I feel like nothing can bring me out of this cloud of euphoria. It's time to shine fellas.