Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

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It's amazing how different things are when you connect with a woman and you don't. There's a difference between a woman liking you and between a woman connecting with you. A woman liking you may like how you look, your swagger, etc., but a woman you connect with, the conversation just slows so easily and they are never those stilted, awkward sort of conversations where you are trying to slowly extract information from a woman.

Sometimes you just have to quit blaming yourself and realize that although you like a lot about this particular woman you are dealing with, you two like each other, but you don't have that 'connection.' You two aren't really coming to an understanding on a deeper level. You two are puzzle pieces that are not meant to be adjacent. When you find a woman that 'fits', the experience is completely different.
 

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That's how I feel too, and I have to kinda thank the posters here and this site in general for some of that info, I've never been a simp, and I'm never one to chase a bytch, but I have the tendency to be romantic and genuine when I really like someone, but the kinda guidelines I got from this thread are what helps..not so much to make the decision, but to feel like I made the right one.

That girl didn't text me back for 24 hours, so what I think is that was an insincere, unthoughtful, response to me being upfront and genuine, so I won't text her again, not out of spite, but I see how she responded, and I'm not cool with that. And then, her clumsy attempt to flirt when she wanted something professionally wasn't appreciated either. It's an easy fix for her, she can hit me up and I'll still meet her, but much more aware, skeptical of her. I still am really attracted, but I won't put myself out there anymore with a text, call, whatever.

women have thier phones on them checking all the time, if i notice im always the one texting first for example thats bushes status to me. Never be that ignoring guy so seh can be screen shotting and sending to her friend look he keeps writing me
 

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Let me tell ya'll something.

Women don't want a man that does things for them. They want a man that is BIGGER than them... that is above them. When you start representing for these women and allowing them to control you or run you, especially conversationally, they will peel off and run with the next dude. Once she gets it in her mind she is bigger than you, you are done for. This is why you don't make yourself available to a woman at any time she wants it, nor do you spend too much time with her. Women don't want a man to do things for her, aka be her butler. She wants to do things for a big man, aka get down for a boss. This is just another reason why you need to put these women in the background and pursue your own objectives. This is why you don't ever give the woman YOUR gameplan, but you give her the gameplan you have for her. Once the mystery is figured out, she's up, up and awayyyy.
 

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Not for nothing but I think I just met the one brehs true story... I know the dangers of simping so i'm not gonna get ahead of myself and start switching up my code but this woman... This woman...


































:wow:
 

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Not for nothing but I think I just met the one brehs true story... I know the dangers of simping so i'm not gonna get ahead of myself and start switching up my code but this woman... This woman...










:wow:

The fact that you think she is the one, means you've already lost, nobody is "the one" treat her accordingly, learn to love life by yourself.
 

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The fact that you think she is the one, means you've already lost, nobody is "the one" treat her accordingly, learn to love life by yourself.

:childplease: Shut the fukk up smart dumb nikka. I'm well aware that there is no such thing as "the one" due to the indisputable fact that there are numerous "ones" but when I say "the one" I mean out of the sub categories of "ones" that apply to my general consensus. Read through the thread and check my posts I ain't no fool... Talking bout nikkas "already lost" :heh: lemme know when you find a non ratchet non American virgin dime...:lawd:
 

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:laugh: I commented & liked this picture on FB


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And within 2 minutes a woman I know from HS whose message I didn't respond to yet sent me a message saying "You really think she's pretty?". The FB drama is great I kind of like it to be honest. It's funny to me that women I went to HS are now telling me they had a crush on me back then even though I was pretty much a chubby dork then.

There's also that older separated woman talks to me like she's in HS too. It's really weird to see a woman 10+ years older than me type out "yayyyyyy" and mention how her butt is "fat in a good way".
 

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:laugh: I commented & liked this picture on FB


Yesssss_zpsa5bbfd21.jpg


And within 2 minutes a woman I know from HS whose message I didn't respond to yet sent me a message saying "You really think she's pretty?". The FB drama is great I kind of like it to be honest. It's funny to me that women I went to HS are now telling me they had a crush on me back then even though I was pretty much a chubby dork then.

There's also that older separated woman talks to me like she's in HS too. It's really weird to see a woman 10+ years older than me type out "yayyyyyy" and mention how her butt is "fat in a good way".

Stay away from the drama breh you doing good with that though from all your other posts I remember... When a woman asks you questions about another woman give vague responses and let her own thoughts crumble her psyche... For example if you want to respond say something like "Every girl is pretty in their own way to me" Watch how she responds thirsty like "am I pretty? In what way? blah blah blah" I bet you...



Also you're the brother who posted that older woman who holla'd at you on some seductive stease a few pages back right? How's that working out?
 

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Just now on the road heading home. Spent the weekend at my friends university. We had fun, smoked and while smoking I reflected on my old situation with my ex. My friends, I bowed gracefully and cut things off. I explained to her that a friendship isn't possible now, and that frustration is expressed through anger and as a man who may have a daughter, a boy yelling at my daughter is something that I could not appreciate and with that I need my time alone so I can grow and better myself and at the end I told her not to respond to my text that way we don't even get trapped in that same cycle that we've been going through for 2 years.

My friends, I care about this woman dearly, but that's beyond the point. The point I'm trying to make is that this love thing is like a game, and good sportsmanship is one thing that we must play by. Why? Because us as men are game changers. When I bow out gracefully I'm saying nothing other than we had a good thing, but it's over and although I don't respect your previous actions, I do respect you as a person and as a life in this earth. They say nice guys finish last, but as we finish last, we still finish with self respect and open opportunities to better ourselves. As putting a woman down and calling her names, we're doing nothing other than lowering their self esteem and making then a bit more emotionally disturbed than they already are and keep in mind these women will be having children as we will too and my son or daughter having to deal with a confused boy or girl is the last thing I'd ever want.

Anyway peace, driving.


nikka.... :wow: This hits very close to home. i'm gonna be in that position soon.
Chicks that hinted at being interested in you in the past suddenly want you more than oxygen when they become single mothers :rudy:

At least that's the case with me :manny:

Yup! But it all depends on how you wanna play it. I don't mind single moms as long as its nothing serious. Like I've fukked a few here and there. Now naturally, they're going to push for something serious because what they crave more than anything is stability for them and their seed.

So i've always lived by the rules of never meeting the kid and never getting serious. It doesn't necessarily mean they'll stop fukking with you either. I knew a chick that was 26 with 3 kids and would put all them kids to bed by 8 pm every time I came over and smashed. Didn't see or hear a peep outta them kids unless one of them went to the bathroom. Then months later I hear she told a mutual friend she was mad at me because I wasn't "about nothin" I just hit that :pachaha: bytch, you knew from jump I didn't want anything serious. :ufdup:

I was thinking today about a time in my life where I approached this girl that I was attracted to. I approached her, told her she was pretty and asked for her number and she gave it to me but said she had a boyfriend (I was on the east coast). Brehs we hungout multiple times, I even met her family who were Palestinian, but nothing ever happened to us. What was my purpose? And why did she hang around with me, was she wanting someone to fill her bfs shoes while he was gone?

Dunno bruh. Women do a bunch of weird shyt and I'm not going to even try and guess their intentions. Your intuition is probably right tho.
 

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I want to bring up something, a strong theme with this thread mentality is never let her be your priority, never let the women have the power, never be inferior to her, never be under her control, etc, etc...

Just where do you draw this line for something like marriage, of if you're not into marriage then a live of living together with her til death. Because if you're willing to settle for a marriage type deal you have to let her become her priority, you two are one now, then you have kids and you better let the kids who are a symbol of your marriage be your priority, so what I'm saying is it's impossible to have marriage without letting your wife be your priority, you have to be there for her and her be there for you.

I'm not married and don't plan to marry for a while so maybe i'm wrong about this so let me know, having second thoughts on marriage and would maybe rather just live together without the government interfering with the relationship.
 

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Stay away from the drama breh you doing good with that though from all your other posts I remember... When a woman asks you questions about another woman give vague responses and let her own thoughts crumble her psyche... For example if you want to respond say something like "Every girl is pretty in their own way to me" Watch how she responds thirsty like "am I pretty? In what way? blah blah blah" I bet you...



Also you're the brother who posted that older woman who holla'd at you on some seductive stease a few pages back right? How's that working out?

I'm not involved with the woman that asked me if I thought that girl is pretty. She just recently started talking to me cause we knew each other in HS she's already told me she had a crush on me and gave me her number without me asking. I've given her zero indication that I'm interested in her.
That older woman wants to hang out already. She told me her daughter is back at school and her son will be playing little league baseball on the weekends. I saw her husbands page and felt bad so I'm not sure what to do there. Because she's really hitting on me hard and if I don't respond to her texts or messages she tells me she misses our chats. Plus she works with someone I was close friends growing up with. Honestly the woman who I spoilered is the only one I'm interested in.
 

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women have thier phones on them checking all the time, if i notice im always the one texting first for example thats bushes status to me. Never be that ignoring guy so seh can be screen shotting and sending to her friend look he keeps writing me

of course man, I keep MY phone on me, and I'll always return a text/call unless it's that serious where I don't want to talk to them, which is almost never, or some 4:00 Am missed call/text that I don't see til the next morning, and no reason to return.. thats why when I saw that I was like either you are just trying to play the game, or you really don't give a fukk...either way, first and last text I will initiate with her...I hate that feeling of vulnerability sending texts, I don't do that often, which is why this one was definite bushes status.
 

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@George Gooney

I was merely speculating on what you had posted, no need for the ad-hominem. I cannot take you seriously anymore, welcome to my ignore list.
 
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:laugh: I commented & liked this picture on FB


Yesssss_zpsa5bbfd21.jpg


And within 2 minutes a woman I know from HS whose message I didn't respond to yet sent me a message saying "You really think she's pretty?". The FB drama is great I kind of like it to be honest. It's funny to me that women I went to HS are now telling me they had a crush on me back then even though I was pretty much a chubby dork then.

There's also that older separated woman talks to me like she's in HS too. It's really weird to see a woman 10+ years older than me type out "yayyyyyy" and mention how her butt is "fat in a good way".

Man it's funny how them women come out the woodworks when you really start putting your program together... especially when they see you dealing with a fine woman.

It is amusing seeing these older women act quite childlike when they get in the presence of a man they find very fly.
 

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A lot of the confusion about women is that too many men got this impression of women being like a homie with a vagina. That concept may sound funny, but cats get to thinking that a woman is his ride until the gritty end, philosopher pal and confidant that you can just chill with and always be real with. Women look at the world very differently than men and now that I've come to a deeper realization of their nature, I start to treat them very differently than I used to.

1) One day a woman can be sweet as sugar, and the next, she can be cold as ice.


2) Women look for weaknesses in a man, and when she finds it, she will drive in on it and then peel off.

3) If you are not bigger than her in her eyes, then you are a bug to be stomped on.

4) The majority of woman wants a man when he's already hot. They have no idea about grinding it to the top with a man. When you find the rare one that's down with you from the bottom, she's the one you take to the top with you.

5) Women don't necessarily care about your interests as much as they care about your BEHAVIOR.

6) Never share secrets or express weakness with a woman. She is not your confidant.

7) Never go around representing a woman. She represents you. Don't put pictures of her as your profile pic on facebook or go around big-upping her.

8) Stop believing what these women say.

9) Get some business about yourself. Making a woman your top priority means you will be one of her last priorities.

10) Don't get hooked on her looks. Gain satisfaction from her actions.

11) Stop giving out your exclusivity before it's earned. When you first meet a woman, more than likely she has 4 if not more other guys texting her and that she's conversing with on social media. Treating her like she's that lone angel that came into your life before she's proven herself to you is a sucker's endeavor. How are you going to make her the star when she hasn't played in one game for you?
 
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