Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

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I want to bring up something, a strong theme with this thread mentality is never let her be your priority, never let the women have the power, never be inferior to her, never be under her control, etc, etc...

Just where do you draw this line for something like marriage, of if you're not into marriage then a live of living together with her til death. Because if you're willing to settle for a marriage type deal you have to let her become her priority, you two are one now, then you have kids and you better let the kids who are a symbol of your marriage be your priority, so what I'm saying is it's impossible to have marriage without letting your wife be your priority, you have to be there for her and her be there for you.

I'm not married and don't plan to marry for a while so maybe i'm wrong about this so let me know, having second thoughts on marriage and would maybe rather just live together without the government interfering with the relationship.

When you're married, you carry the same traits over that hooked her in the first place. She is your wife and you protect and ensure she is alright, but you don't let her belittle you or call the shots. When you let a woman run over you, that's when trouble ensues. Your wife is a higher priority than the average woman because if you're smart, you would have did your due diligence and saw that your woman had the necessary traits to grind it out with you over the long-term. She won't be someone that is disrespecting you, but is rather helping you build something up. The cat that has problems with women is the cat that's married to the booty or breasts. If you want things to be smooth, you'll be married to her spirit and her brain. Even when you get married, you still should have some hobbies you do that don't involve you sitting around cuddled up around your wife all day, whether it be hunting, watching sporting events, teaching your boys how to play football, or something along those lines.
 

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I'm not involved with the woman that asked me if I thought that girl is pretty. She just recently started talking to me cause we knew each other in HS she's already told me she had a crush on me and gave me her number without me asking. I've given her zero indication that I'm interested in her.
That older woman wants to hang out already. She told me her daughter is back at school and her son will be playing little league baseball on the weekends. I saw her husbands page and felt bad so I'm not sure what to do there. Because she's really hitting on me hard and if I don't respond to her texts or messages she tells me she misses our chats. Plus she works with someone I was close friends growing up with. Honestly the woman who I spoilered is the only one I'm interested in.

:ohhh: She's married breh breh? Nah leave that alone
 

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Man it's funny how them women come out the woodworks when you really start putting your program together... especially when they see you dealing with a fine woman.

It is amusing seeing these older women act quite childlike when they get in the presence of a man they find very fly.

Man there's something just wrong with it. If I posted her messages and a 19 year old womans messages it'd be hard to tell which one is older. I screenshot her first message to me a few pages ago.

:ohhh: She's married breh breh? Nah leave that alone

She's legally separated. In New York its easier to get separated then divorced. I would never think of messing with a married woman.
 

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Here is another tool in your arsenal
- Stop trying to win over women that have already been won. Stop trying to convince women that have already been convinced.

If she already sees you as this fly cat, then stop running your mouth so much and trying to convince her to see you as this fly cat. Stop trying to prove to her and 'win her over' when she's already been won.

It's like you're giving someone an interview at your company. The fact that they showed up already shows you that they want to work at your company. Too many cats allow the woman to switch the role. Instead of filtering out whether the woman is worthy to work at his company, he instead starts trying to qualify himself and convince her that he has value. That's a position of weakness. If she's in your presence talking to you and showing you some nice signs, then she's already convinced. If you start trying to explain what makes you valuable, now SHE'S the interviewer and the ball is in her court. Never try to qualify yourself to a woman and put her in the boss, aka hiring role. If she can't dig you for who you are and what you are about, then allow another woman to get a chance.
 

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You want to know the flyest pair of shoes you can put on when dealing with women?
Is it mauri gators? Gucci loafers? Air Jordans?

None of the above my friend. The flyest pair of shoes you can put on when dealing with a woman is cement shoes. In other words, you sure aren't doing any chasing, nor are you able to be moved from your position of leadership and authority... and you sure won't back off of some issue when a woman is trying to paly you. Your feet need to be real heavy when dealing with these women.
 

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Man there's something just wrong with it. If I posted her messages and a 19 year old womans messages it'd be hard to tell which one is older. I screenshot her first message to me a few pages ago.



She's legally separated. In New York its easier to get separated then divorced. I would never think of messing with a married woman.

I'm from New York too born and raised... Not familiar with the divorce laws tho. Is her husband "flabby n sick" so she feels she needs a young dude?
 

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I'm from New York too born and raised... Not familiar with the divorce laws tho. Is her husband "flabby n sick" so she feels she needs a young dude?


He's out of shape and hasn't aged too well where as she looks great for her age... I don't know what she's thinking but I feel bad for the guy and I haven't even done anything with her. It's probably that like you said she wants someone younger and in shape.
 

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man one thing i believe is that u can NEVER put anything past a woman. anything u can do she can do...

Exactly. Fellas need to stop believing these ho stories. The name of the game is baby I ain't really trying to hear what you got to say. I'm trying to see what you can DO to show me that you about me.

Mane the only thing a lot of these cats are receiving from these women are a whole lot of lies, a whole lot of problems and a broken heart in the process. That's why I look at it as a privilege for a woman to be around me. The average woman is a liability on the balance sheet if you accept her as is. Cats spending all this time and money on a woman to try to 'lock down' her vagina that she is sharing with other dudes for free. Come on now.

The concept of being sold a dream is very real. The sad thing is, most of the time the woman doesn't even have to sell the man the dream. The men sell themselves the dream for the woman.
 

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nikka.... :wow: This hits very close to home. i'm gonna be in that position soon.

Yeah, it's funny because I noticed you liked my post a week or so ago and so I was wondering "wow, he's reading back a few pages" but you're just now commenting on my post so were you in denial until now? It's funny man, because it's not the feeling of hate but instead the feeling of exhausted love, but yeah man. Do your thing.

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He's out of shape and hasn't aged too well where as she looks great for her age... I don't know what she's thinking but I feel bad for the guy and I haven't even done anything with her. It's probably that like you said she wants someone younger and in shape.

Never deal with a woman who doesn't handle her business or handle her business in a straight way. If she hasn't finalized her divorce and is dealing with other men, then she is one you have to watch for because that right there tells you that she is more than comfortable with operating outside of the bounds of her commitments.

I am encouraged to see many here who choose to operate on righteous standards and will hold them above the vagina of a woman. Those who bow to a woman's seduction and neglect the rules of righteous behavior will pay the price as has been shown countless times throughout history. God bless.
 

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when men are ready to disarm a woman from her looks and the power it can hold over him, then he will snap out of the temporary haze going on in his head. the most looks should do for you is indicate an initial attraction to her. it does not equate to her having a likeable personality, or being worthy of a relationship. her looks should not have you willing to put up with anything that you wouldnt put up with from a 5.

you can never tolerate anything less than acceptable behavior in a relationship. give no passes. never second guess yourself and hold your tongue because youre scared to offend her. make no p*ssy whipped changes in your habits that make you less of an independant man. and dont engage none of that scared to lose her nonsense that she might be counting on.


her looks dont do anything but help get her in the door, and it should not be a factor in anything after that. plus you can always get another one brehs.
 

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Yessir, it is critical for a man to focus on loving a woman's behavior. Everyone has a preferential level of looks, but past a decent looks bar, it's all about a woman's behavior.
 

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a womans importance should only be taken in to account when you have a better picture of how she is, and what she does for you. many men are accepting ratchet and trifling behavior because ol girl can fit well into some yoga pants or is a freak, but she has no idea how to handle herself in an appropriate way - in public OR in a relationship. yet men stay cuddling and fighting over whores. a womans looks are just for show and to get her into a viable candidate position, it should not be what makes you take her seriously. you see if you let it, women know how to use that as a weapon against you. trust.

thats why its a prime focus for many of them. thats also why they fear getting old. its why they like to gossip all the times on other peoples problems, because it makes them look better in turn. a woman can be empty inside her brain and cold in her soul, but as long as she looks good, she thinks she will be able to pull some shyt on you.

in the end when you look at it, looks arent worth inheriting all of her birdbrain bullshyt in your life. if her behavior is a pain in the ass to deal with, then her value has to sink or else it will sink you. her poor attitude could be the weight thats holding her down from being worthy, and the only thing she may be counting on is her looks to keep her afloat. in that case just let her go. dont help her swim.
 
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