Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Poh SIti Dawn]

lol, don't really like giving too many details on here but overall i just allowed some bad advice to mess with my mindset. thinking back, my mindset was warped. too many steps back now and she basically stole the ball from me and is running with it. i allowed her to see softness a little. only thing left to do is to charge it to the game and move on. she might comeback, she might not (most likely won't). but like i said, it's completely my fault and i take full responsibility for having the mindset of "she's not like other chicks". the truth is, a chick is how you allow her to be with you. the way for her to not be like other chicks is to not allow her to act like typical chicks (which i was doing right at first). live and learn...


naw, i'm from mtl, you?

That's messed up g. Remember the chick I went on a coffee date and I was feeling her? We were supposed to kick it and she said maybe shed hit me up on the weekend and never did. It's always fukked up when you hangout with a chick snd really dig her and want something to get out of it and they seem to be feeling u but got other motives and switch shyt up on u? They make it too difficult.

 

[ineedsleep212]

Yep. I know that feeling. It's like I forgive you, but I don't want anything to do with you and right now I want my space so don't contact me.

Initially, it was 100% that, but now it's more like I don't even feel like there's a problem if she were to contact me. I just wouldn't pursue anything and I'd be like nah I'm good. It's like any chance of romance is dead, but we can still be cool. Like I feel like it's in my nature to wanna help people with whatever, but I'm not gonna force it upon anybody or do it if I don't want to. The only thing that I'm honestly unsure about is how I'm gonna react in my second relationship cuz I feel like this past one is keeping me hesitant and who knows if I'll appear or act that way. It at least makes me feel a little more secure in my line of thinking because the feeling has already been felt so I can tell myself to chill and not over analyze. There will obviously still be moments of iffiness due to the strangeness of it all to me. It honestly isn't a big deal anymore though to me. Right after the relationship ended, I was kinda beating myself over the head about it and wish it never happened, but now I'm fine with it. It's really time to get my career, finances and living conditions in order anyway.

 

[Poh SIti Dawn]

Initially, it was 100% that, but now it's more like I don't even feel like there's a problem if she were to contact me. I just wouldn't pursue anything and I'd be like nah I'm good. It's like any chance of romance is dead, but we can still be cool. Like I feel like it's in my nature to wanna help people with whatever, but I'm not gonna force it upon anybody or do it if I don't want to. The only thing that I'm honestly unsure about is how I'm gonna react in my second relationship cuz I feel like this past one is keeping me hesitant and who knows if I'll appear or act that way. It at least makes me feel a little more secure in my line of thinking because the feeling has already been felt so I can tell myself to chill and not over analyze. There will obviously still be moments of iffiness due to the strangeness of it all to me. It honestly isn't a big deal anymore though to me. Right after the relationship ended, I was kinda beating myself over the head about it and wish it never happened, but now I'm fine with it. It's really time to get my career, finances and living conditions in order anyway.

I dunno about that. My ex tried to hit me up on a sweet vibe and I ended up telling her off that night. A week later I apologized and told her I just want to move on and for her to not even respond. When you break up with someone I feel like they shouldn't even contact you. What do they need from you that they can't get from another? You don't have children with them so there's no need to speak to them. It's best you just leave it at a good bye.

Yeah just focus on yourself man. That's the best you can do cause first of all if you can't be by yourself then you must not like yourself. Plus alone time is good for everyone. Just bump
[ame=http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=K6f9fc1Vuzg]Z-Ro - I Hate You bytch(music video) - YouTube[/ame]

[ame=http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=XOItkzvpuGw&feature=related]Abn-Still get no love - YouTube[/ame]

 

[ineedsleep212]

I dunno about that. My ex tried to hit me up on a sweet vibe and I ended up telling her off that night. A week later I apologized and told her I just want to move on and for her to not even respond. When you break up with someone I feel like they shouldn't even contact you. What do they need from you that they can't get from another? You don't have children with them so there's no need to speak to them. It's best you just leave it at a good bye.

Yeah just focus on yourself man. That's the best you can do cause first of all if you can't be by yourself then you must not like yourself. Plus alone time is good for everyone. Just bump
Z-Ro - I Hate You bytch(music video) - YouTube

Abn-Still get no love - YouTube

I know what you mean about having your alone time and the whole no contact type of thing and moving on. I get why it's best for both. I'm not even thinking along the lines of her trying to have me as some dude she can talk to like on the reg. I just don't want to feel cold or feel any bitterness towards her. It's like if I saw her in public, I'm not dipping or acting like I don't see her nor am I gonna try to have any real conversation or anything like that. I won't be the one to find out whether ish is ok or make either of us feel awkward. What's done is done and I won't be contemplating her murder lol. But yea I'm gonna focus on myself and I have no problems playing songs like those and reliving that fukk You, You bytch state of mind for the length of any of those kind of songs .

 

[International Playa]

I like that post.


During our 5th or 6th date, the lady friend told me;


"We don't need to go out, i just like spending time with you."


When i heard that, i was !!!



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If either of you got a place of your own, dates should be in the crib, once the female is comfortable with it. You cook dinner together (chance to talk and get to know each other) put on DVDs of romantic movies or hook up a laptop to the tv to watch movies. Dates in the crib have high chances of ending in the bed

Dates in the crib eliminate golddiggers, women playing you for free dinners. You gotta date smart in 2013 brehs.

 

[International Playa]

True love: I (M,32) was physically attacked by my SO (F,28). I don't know how to deal with this. : relationships

This article goes in hand with the hot topic we been discussing about being 50/50 in a relationship. If this breh had been leading his female from the beginning, he would have checked her early on the minor disrespect she was getting away with, she would have not escalated to putting hands on him. If she was constantly being checked for her disrespect by her man, she would have got right or left dude for a chump, but dude would still have his respect and his balls intact if she chose to leave.RESPECT IS EVERYTHING TO A MAN

Imagine your lady being in charge of your paycheck like she is your mummy, telling you what you can and cant buy At the end the cat is still making excuses for her actions.

How you start is how you finish, start on the 50/50 equal, it will end with you being disrespected and being bodied by your lady.

 

[Mickey Kane]

That's messed up g. Remember the chick I went on a coffee date and I was feeling her? We were supposed to kick it and she said maybe shed hit me up on the weekend and never did. It's always fukked up when you hangout with a chick snd really dig her and want something to get out of it and they seem to be feeling u but got other motives and switch shyt up on u? They make it too difficult.

Man, I feel that one.

I can't even be too mad because I've allowed this flakey behaviour but it's got to a point where enough is enough.

What I'm tripping over is whether I should tell straight up she been f*cking up & verbally throw her to the bushes or just not say anything & just ghost out of her life.

 

[Mickey Kane]

If either of you got a place of your own, dates should be in the crib, once the female is comfortable with it. You cook dinner together (chance to talk and get to know each other) put on DVDs of romantic movies or hook up a laptop to the tv to watch movies. Dates in the crib have high chances of ending in the bed

Dates in the crib eliminate golddiggers, women playing you for free dinners. You gotta date smart in 2013 brehs.

Yo, this is the one thing I miss about having my own crib man but the rent money being saved >>>> a nut

Especially since I got a new thing who don't mind chilling at the family crib either. To be fair though, I do take her nice places to supplement that.

 

[MikelArteta]

@Nudie you live in brampton?

need a low key coffee shop location not a timmies

 

[Ohene]

@Nudie you live in brampton?

need a low key coffee shop location not a timmies

yup

 

[MikelArteta]

I dunno about that. My ex tried to hit me up on a sweet vibe and I ended up telling her off that night. A week later I apologized and told her I just want to move on and for her to not even respond. When you break up with someone I feel like they shouldn't even contact you. What do they need from you that they can't get from another? You don't have children with them so there's no need to speak to them. It's best you just leave it at a good bye.

Yeah just focus on yourself man. That's the best you can do cause first of all if you can't be by yourself then you must not like yourself. Plus alone time is good for everyone. Just bump
Z-Ro - I Hate You bytch(music video) - YouTube

Abn-Still get no love - YouTube

the best thing to do is no contact it hurts in the beginning but as the days draw on in about a month you will feel good again, its like a drug addiction, the first few days or weeks weening off that crack sucks but then it gets easier.

however one text or phone call, or looking at her facebook can set you back

 

[Poh SIti Dawn]

Man, I feel that one.

I can't even be too mad because I've allowed this flakey behaviour but it's got to a point where enough is enough.

What I'm tripping over is whether I should tell straight up she been f*cking up & verbally throw her to the bushes or just not say anything & just ghost out of her life.

Lol well what did she do? I'd just tell her tbh but do it in a suttle way like you just wasted too much of my time tbh.

 

[Poh SIti Dawn]

the best thing to do is no contact it hurts in the beginning but as the days draw on in about a month you will feel good again, its like a drug addiction, the first few days or weeks weening off that crack sucks but then it gets easier.

however one text or phone call, or looking at her facebook can set you back

Oh yeah I know what you mean. I'm cool now though, still think about her but I'm not on the social network bullshyt, I basically live in my own world and the only people that are in it are the people that I allow to be in it.

 

[Ohene]

@Nudie you live in brampton?

need a low key coffee shop location not a timmies

guessing you dont want starbucks either right?

i live in Brampton East so theres not much except commercial areas/big well known.

Downtown though, try "Coffee Culture". Good reviews.

 

[MikelArteta]

guessing you dont want starbucks either right?

i live in Brampton East so theres not much except commercial areas/big well known.

Downtown though, try "Coffee Culture". Good reviews.

nah no starbucks
props on the recommendation
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