Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Ohene]

White girl at my job is throwing it at me. But I know it wouldn't end well for me as a black man.

Her ass is so fat brehs

What makes it worse is I'm her boss HR would bury me under the office building for that shyt

Please stay away

 

[skyrunner1]

White girl at my job is throwing it at me. But I know it wouldn't end well for me as a black man.

Her ass is so fat brehs

What makes it worse is I'm her boss HR would bury me under the office building for that shyt

Im the breh that is always shrugging off that dont mess around at work as I swear everyone in the industries I navigate thru are all messing with each other but this is NOT a good recipe AT ALL.. Cant co sign this, abort mission.. What type of job is this?



Oh and I fully expect a followup post a few months from now, just because of the added "Her ass is so fat brehs" line

 

[Ohene]

Im the breh that is always shrugging off that dont mess around at work as I swear everyone in the industries I navigate thru are all messing with each other but this is NOT a good recipe AT ALL.. Cant co sign this, abort mission.. What type of job is this?



Oh and I fully expect a followup post a few months from now, just because of the added "Her ass is so fat brehs" line

Only way I’ll mess with someone at work is if they’re in a completely different dept on a different floor. And even then it would only be if i have serious intentions

One time i did it
Other time i waited until i left the job to holla at the girl

 

[bigde09]

just because of the added "Her ass is so fat brehs" line

crazy how that's all it takes for us to contemplate throwing our career's away.

That being said I aint gonna act on it. Im not that dumb.

 

[skyrunner1]

Only way I’ll mess with someone at work is if they’re in a completely different dept on a different floor. And even then it would only be if i have serious intentions

One time i did it
Other time i waited until i left the job to holla at the girl

Breh I feel this, especially the last line. Its like its part of the offboarding checklist, plant those seeds

I was at a Hospital setting last year, and when I started I was just tryna mind my dam business.. But cotdam even that as the black dude in those settings people gonna get curious. And in THAT setting, EVERYONE messing around. But I was focused first couple months, then people start coming around and then you make connections and the game in you just comes out.. I wasnt laying it thick but planting seeds.. I wasnt gonna be there long and knew it..

And anyone who knows that setting its mainly full of women and its a revolving door of young, old, someone doing rotations, yada yada.. Turned in 2 weeks and was making rounds like hey wassup, whats that number . Multiple times after linking up from a couple women they both said, "I felt you were interested but you never made a move, I was confused." I was like baby, I just was focused on work, but lemme eliminate any confusion right now..

 

[Abraxus]

She’s dating for help

Yep, I said nah. 1 maybe but 3? NEVER

 

[LiveFromLondon]

White girl at my job is throwing it at me. But I know it wouldn't end well for me as a black man.

Her ass is so fat brehs

What makes it worse is I'm her boss HR would bury me under the office building for that shyt

issa stupendous one at my workplace and been sayin hi to eachother for a year and I can tell shes feeling the kid, I'm just gonna start planting seeds and give her half for second, before giving her the full plunge

I felt you were interested but you never made a move, I was confused." I was like baby, I just was focused on work, but lemme eliminate any confusion right now..

 

[Ohene]

I have this issue I keep running into, and I know the brotha @re'up will lmao

Whenever I meet a chick, the vast majority of the time they will play these cat and mouse games. They will take long to respond, sometimes they may ignore messages, sometimes they may flake on dates, etc. I have improved over the years to where this shyt doesnt affect me as much early on and I am able to play it cool but lately I feel like I have been falling for the okie doke.

The reason I say this is because I am by nature a very direct and forthright communicator. Naturally, after a few dates things will ramp up and the communication will improve and I willl know the girl is starting to fukk with me heavy. However, a lot of the time after ramping up these girls will kinda just distance themselves and I am back to square one feeling like I am walking on eggshells. I know consciously what is going on but instead of staying at an arms length as well, sometimes I get caught up in the moment and will ask them whats up or call them out. I often feel like I chase away girls as a result (though deep down i know these girls are probably up to no good behind the scenes anyway - so maybe its for the best)

This is something I gotta really work on going forward. I discussed it many years ago talking about something I call the whacamole theory but I havent been taking my own advice these days. Maybe its cause I am getting older and less patient. Yall ever deal with this?

 

[The Jewnited States]

I have this issue I keep running into, and I know the brotha @re'up will lmao

Whenever I meet a chick, the vast majority of the time they will play these cat and mouse games. They will take long to respond, sometimes they may ignore messages, sometimes they may flake on dates, etc. I have improved over the years to where this shyt doesnt affect me as much early on and I am able to play it cool but lately I feel like I have been falling for the okie doke.

The reason I say this is because I am by nature a very direct and forthright communicator. Naturally, after a few dates things will ramp up and the communication will improve and I willl know the girl is starting to fukk with me heavy. However, a lot of the time after ramping up these girls will kinda just distance themselves and I am back to square one feeling like I am walking on eggshells. I know consciously what is going on but instead of staying at an arms length as well, sometimes I get caught up in the moment and will ask them whats up or call them out. I often feel like I chase away girls as a result (though deep down i know these girls are probably up to no good behind the scenes anyway - so maybe its for the best)

This is something I gotta really work on going forward. I discussed it many years ago talking about something I call the whacamole theory but I havent been taking my own advice these days. Maybe its cause I am getting older and less patient. Yall ever deal with this?

Currently experiencing a bit of this. Sometimes it's hard for me to resist the urge to call them on their shyt. I know it will probably end bad if I do, but if I don't I feel like a bytch getting played. I know I'm playing the game, they playing the game, and I wish I didn't have to, but it is what it is. Cuz at the same time I ain't truly ready to settle down with one chick

I will expand on this more later but I feel you brah

 

[Ohene]

Currently experiencing a bit of this. Sometimes it's hard for me to resist the urge to call them on their shyt. I know it will probably end bad if I do, but if I don't I feel like a bytch getting played. I know I'm playing the game, they playing the game, and I wish I didn't have to, but it is what it is. Cuz at the same time I ain't truly ready to settle down with one chick

I will expand on this more later but I feel you brah

I can definitely relate. But as I am sure you know, as soon as we calll them out that just makes them feel pressured or overwhelmed. These women are really children lol.

For me its like I am feeling you, and I know you are feeling me...why do you feel a need to play this game? Reup talks about this a lot where its like, with text messaging even its so unnatural. You will have people taking hours to respond perfectly to a message rather than just saying what comes to mind or how they feel immediately. I called a chick out for this jokingly and she admitted it - i tried to reassure her that you dont have to do that shyt...just be yourself/act naturally and wherever this situation needs to go, it will go accordingly. But iunno, this generation is hellbent on playing these stupid games and trying to preserve their pride, feelings, the upper hand or whatever at the expense of forming real connections or relationships. I

I touched on it here https://www.thecoli.com/threads/divorce-divorce-divorce.1038811/page-5#post-54742174

 

[skyrunner1]

I have this issue I keep running into, and I know the brotha @re'up will lmao

Whenever I meet a chick, the vast majority of the time they will play these cat and mouse games. They will take long to respond, sometimes they may ignore messages, sometimes they may flake on dates, etc. I have improved over the years to where this shyt doesnt affect me as much early on and I am able to play it cool but lately I feel like I have been falling for the okie doke.

The reason I say this is because I am by nature a very direct and forthright communicator. Naturally, after a few dates things will ramp up and the communication will improve and I willl know the girl is starting to fukk with me heavy. However, a lot of the time after ramping up these girls will kinda just distance themselves and I am back to square one feeling like I am walking on eggshells. I know consciously what is going on but instead of staying at an arms length as well, sometimes I get caught up in the moment and will ask them whats up or call them out. I often feel like I chase away girls as a result (though deep down i know these girls are probably up to no good behind the scenes anyway - so maybe its for the best)

This is something I gotta really work on going forward. I discussed it many years ago talking about something I call the whacamole theory but I havent been taking my own advice these days. Maybe its cause I am getting older and less patient. Yall ever deal with this?

I think anything anyone tells you, you already heard but best I can say is its better to be slow on trigger and let them show cooperation first. Thats why brehs always say make sure you always keep the applications coming in because even though it can be easier to manage a couple you need to cast a wider net to allow the one thats gonna really choose up an opportunity. Once you get that experience it is very glaring and clear what it looks and feels like when someone got high interest.

I think thats part of the main benefits of approaching and such, you really see the code when someone really into you and you dont miss those signals. The problem most times is we might get those signals from someone we might not have the same interest in or another is playing that cat n mouse game. You never know what cards the other person is holding so all you have to go off is behavior and interest.

Also have to take in the environment and the type of social media stuff they are hearing on their side. The lack of fineness (might not be best word to use) I see nowadays because of the quasi "women of the night" type info that is being packages and sold is setting up a type of "cold war" (might be a post in itself) on both sides. Seems like everyone is in a race to see who can care the least and have backup options to cushion the fallout, even if those options arent real options.

 

[The Jewnited States]

I can definitely relate. But as I am sure you know, as soon as we calll them out that just makes them feel pressured or overwhelmed. These women are really children lol.

For me its like I am feeling you, and I know you are feeling me...why do you feel a need to play this game? Reup talks about this a lot where its like, with text messaging even its so unnatural. You will have people taking hours to respond perfectly to a message rather than just saying what comes to mind or how they feel immediately. I called a chick out for this jokingly and she admitted it - i tried to reassure her that you dont have to do that shyt...just be yourself/act naturally and wherever this situation needs to go, it will go accordingly. But iunno, this generation is hellbent on playing these stupid games and trying to preserve their pride, feelings, the upper hand or whatever at the expense of forming real connections or relationships. I

I touched on it here https://www.thecoli.com/threads/divorce-divorce-divorce.1038811/page-5#post-54742174

The waiting to reply to text messages thing kills me. Or writing these short ass messages like it's so hard to move their lil tappy tap thumbs to tappy tap out a god damn message. Yet when I see them in person they can't stop talking. The disconnect between their online presence, their text persona, and their in person personality is sometimes so jarring that I don't know what I'm dealing with. It all comes down to feeling a bit fake and like a GAME that I need to decipher and strategize to play and it can be exhausting doing that.

Like u said, I'm feeling them, they feeling me, why we doing this game playing shyt again? Is it a generational thing? Is it the type of women I'm dealing with?

 

[Ohene]

I think anything anyone tells you, you already heard but best I can say is its better to be slow on trigger and let them show cooperation first. Thats why brehs always say make sure you always keep the applications coming in because even though it can be easier to manage a couple you need to cast a wider net to allow the one thats gonna really choose up an opportunity. Once you get that experience it is very glaring and clear what it looks and feels like when someone got high interest.

I think thats part of the main benefits of approaching and such, you really see the code when someone really into you and you dont miss those signals. The problem most times is we might get those signals from someone we might not have the same interest in or another is playing that cat n mouse game. You never know what cards the other person is holding so all you have to go off is behavior and interest.

Also have to take in the environment and the type of social media stuff they are hearing on their side. The lack of fineness (might not be best word to use) I see nowadays because of the quasi "women of the night" type info that is being packages and sold is setting up a type of "cold war" (might be a post in itself) on both sides. Seems like everyone is in a race to see who can care the least and have backup options to cushion the fallout, even if those options arent real options.

No doubt fam. I am giving shorty the space she wants while I focus on this Nigerian chick who is seemingly more cooperative and straight forward but its just a shame because her and I had A+ chemistry and an A+ attraction to each other. And whenever we would try to make plans it was pretty straight forward to but Iunno, I could just tell that she felt we were getting too close too quick and was tryna keep me at an arms length.

I dont even wanna be talking to multiple chicks at once but these women force us to do it; then they will wonder why every man they encounter seems like a player. Well duh, its because you weed out men who are serious/intentional naturally with the bullshyt games so you end up with men who are players and know how to play the cat and mouse games on all-madden level lol.

 

[Ohene]

Also have to take in the environment and the type of social media stuff they are hearing on their side. The lack of fineness (might not be best word to use) I see nowadays because of the quasi "women of the night" type info that is being packages and sold is setting up a type of "cold war" (might be a post in itself) on both sides. Seems like everyone is in a race to see who can care the least and have backup options to cushion the fallout, even if those options arent real options.

1000% when we chatted she even said that I wasnt the only one who has talked to her about this; she told me her friend told her its like she hates men or something due to some of the shyt she said. And in trying to understand where some of her rhetoric comes from I would ask questions about last relationships and shyt and its clear that her ex aint even really dog her out or nothing so its probably coming from social media or her girlfriends.

I cant say it enough man. You meet an attractive women past age 28, there is a reason she is single 9/10 times. Social media has a lot of their brains fried when you consider their attention spans, propensities to compare you to the next man, the female redpill shyt they prolly consume, etc. This one was in a very long relationship most recently so i gave her the benefit of the doubt but she turned out to not be serious/ready.

We dealing with the worst/weirdest crop in history as some brothas in here have said. Overcomplicating even the simplest shyt.

 

[Ohene]

funny thing is when you bring this shyt up to some people they will hurl insults at you; call you an incel, say you hate women, blame you for meeting women in the wrong places etc but its quite the opposite.

i have no problem meeting women and fukkin women...i dont want to waste my time and energy doing that though; I want one solid woman to rock with