Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

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They don’t have as many options as you/they think they do.
Got a girl right now with 100k followers and once showed me how many DM’s she got to intimidate me literally begging me to get back with her after months.

Girls might have a lot of options but not many that tick most of their boxes. If you do and connect with her emotionally and physically it’s hard for them to forget you :yeshrug:
 

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Got a girl right now with 100k followers and once showed me how many DM’s she got to intimidate me literally begging me to get back with her after months.

Girls might have a lot of options but not many that tick most of their boxes. If you do and connect with her emotionally and physically it’s hard for them to forget you :yeshrug:

Correct and not many of those guys are willing to invest as well.
 

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Got a girl right now with 100k followers and once showed me how many DM’s she got to intimidate me literally begging me to get back with her after months.

Girls might have a lot of options but not many that tick most of their boxes. If you do and connect with her emotionally and physically it’s hard for them to forget you :yeshrug:
Dm box similar to spam folder on gmail lol
 
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It is a LONG read. But a good read. Troubling though is the people who really need to read something like this are the ones who will avoid it.

I think it falls under the 5 free articles w/ an email address. When i read it I guess I was lucky cause I didn't get paywalled. Everybody else I semt it to after fell in the same situation as yourself.

Share it with us


Excellent article. Long but well worth the read and very enlightening to see some real research into something that has been a "feeling" about society for me, but now has a bit more clarity

Here is how to bypass the paywall on the Atlantic

Just put 12ft.io/ in front of the https part of the link:

12ft.io/https://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2025/02/american-loneliness-personality-politics/681091/?utm_source=native-share&utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=share

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Excellent article. Long but well worth the read and very enlightening to see some real research into something that has been a "feeling" about society for me, but now has a bit more clarity

Here is how to bypass the paywall on the Atlantic

Just put 12ft.io/ in front of the https part of the link:

12ft.io/https://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2025/02/american-loneliness-personality-politics/681091/?utm_source=native-share&utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=share

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Very gracious bro. Thank you. I would be down to get a subscription, they have been flooding me with articles on the google thing, but how much journalism can even be consumed? Between the Times and the Journal. Thanks again.

Even the first two paragraphs, I see the same thing at the local spot The Taco Stand in SD, people walk in, don't even greet the staff, just flash a phone and pick up their order. I am not saying everyone needs to be talking and babbling just to eat in a taco spot, I don't, I eat quietly.

but whether I eat there or take out, I always address staff properly and look people in the eye and say thank you.

a short drive from my home in North Carolina is a small Mexican restaurant, with several tables and four stools at a bar facing the kitchen. On a sweltering afternoon last summer, I walked in with my wife and daughter. The place was empty. But looking closer, I realized that business was booming. The bar was covered with to-go food: nine large brown bags.

As we ate our meal, I watched half a dozen people enter the restaurant without sitting down to eat. Each one pushed open the door, walked to the counter, picked up a bag from the bar, and left. In the delicate choreography between kitchen and customer, not a word was exchanged. The space once reserved for that most garrulous social encounter, the bar hangout, had been reconfigured into a silent depot for customers to grab food to eat at home.
 

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Excellent article. Long but well worth the read and very enlightening to see some real research into something that has been a "feeling" about society for me, but now has a bit more clarity

Here is how to bypass the paywall on the Atlantic

Just put 12ft.io/ in front of the https part of the link:

12ft.io/https://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2025/02/american-loneliness-personality-politics/681091/?utm_source=native-share&utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=share

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Ima try this thanks
 

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But it’s wreaking havoc on the middle ring of “familiar but not intimate” relationships with the people who live around us, which Dunkelman calls the village. “These are your neighbors, the people in your town,” he said. We used to know them well; now we don’t.

The middle ring is key to social cohesion, Dunkelman said.
Families teach us love, and tribes teach us loyalty. The village teaches us tolerance.

Said some shyt like that in this thread, how no one leaves the house anymore. but couldn't have described that insight. That's what I have been reaching for, when I am saying people are so rigid.
 
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But it’s wreaking havoc on the middle ring of “familiar but not intimate” relationships with the people who live around us, which Dunkelman calls the village. “These are your neighbors, the people in your town,” he said. We used to know them well; now we don’t.

The middle ring is key to social cohesion, Dunkelman said. Families teach us love, and tribes teach us loyalty. The village teaches us tolerance.

Said some shyt like that in this thread, how no one leaves the house anymore. but couldn't have described that insight. That's what I have been reaching for, when I am saying people are so rigid.


Yes this is one of the insights I enjoyed in this article. There have been certain observations I've made about society and community lately that I haven't been able to articulate myself, but I feel as if this article hit on a lot of them and stated them in ways I couldn't. I needed this article right now in my life
 
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Excellent article. Long but well worth the read and very enlightening to see some real research into something that has been a "feeling" about society for me, but now has a bit more clarity

Here is how to bypass the paywall on the Atlantic

Just put 12ft.io/ in front of the https part of the link:

12ft.io/https://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2025/02/american-loneliness-personality-politics/681091/?utm_source=native-share&utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=share

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12ft.io still works?... I gave up. on it after a few sites I go to started upping their security. Good to know
 
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