Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

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Finally decided to let this girl go.

Early on in our relationship, she caught me texting the other girl I was also talking to before I made stuff official with her.

She had a terrible breakdown at my crib over that, i apologized about it and cut all communications with this person. Apparently this incident triggered her anxiety and made her paranoid, and we’ve had numerous fights over this over the past month. Constantly checking my phone, constantly trying to keep tabs on me.

She decided to end things on Tuesday night, over the phone, and I didn’t fight it, I didn’t have the energy to. I didn’t even try reaching out to her the whole of Wednesday.. I received a long ass text on Wednesday night about how much I didn’t care and how much I have treated her as a replaceable option. I tried replying and noticed I was blocked. I guess it’s really over now.

I understand it’s my fault, but why forgive me and decide to continue with me if you’re going to constantly bring up what I did?
A woman can't truly forgive. You're better off leaving her alone. Unless, of course, you can make her your sidepiece. But to do that, you must go iceberg winter storm cold and cut off the contract for at least 6 months. Ignore her on everything—absolutely no validation.
 

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Ever since I've been married. So many women I used to caboodle and cavort with have come out of the woodwork.

Today some chick I met in 2018 messaged me

On some I was going through my phone and came across your picture and just thought I'd say hi

:mjlol:

Me and my boys have a saying we say to each other, "They always come back".. and with social media and all these means of communication there is a reason most of these women cant stay loyal. Those soul ties they create, they have permanent access to forever basically.

The way I have had my "lifetstyle" setup it always seemed to have them boomerang back for whatever reason, even just to "check in" even if they are in a relationship ( I assume they are testing the waters to find a rest haven or create a soft landing).

Craziest one since I dont have social media is one day I had a throwback who stop talking to me 2 years ago send me a dollar on cashapp with a message attached, to contact her :russ: :mjlol:.. She was soo eager to meet up.. :heh: I was genuinely caught off guard and confused. These heauxs never cease to amaze. But its fundamental..

THEY ALWAYS COME BACK! :blessed:
 

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When they just send laughing emoji back makes me not even want to text back even after we went out once. Just seems low effort or am I tripping? What am I suppose to say back to some laughing emojis? I could do a second date if I wanted not sure I do.
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Ever since I've been married. So many women I used to caboodle and cavort with have come out of the woodwork.

Today some chick I met in 2018 messaged me

On some I was going through my phone and came across your picture and just thought I'd say hi

:mjlol:
Their dating pool gets smaller and smaller
Options are dying after 30
Tinder got the same women since 2013 :dead:


Men can just go to another country and start dating etc
 

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Me and my boys have a saying we say to each other, "They always come back".. and with social media and all these means of communication there is a reason most of these women cant stay loyal. Those soul ties they create, they have permanent access to forever basically.

The way I have had my "lifetstyle" setup it always seemed to have them boomerang back for whatever reason, even just to "check in" even if they are in a relationship ( I assume they are testing the waters to find a rest haven or create a soft landing).

Craziest one since I dont have social media is one day I had a throwback who stop talking to me 2 years ago send me a dollar on cashapp with a message attached, to contact her :russ: :mjlol:.. She was soo eager to meet up.. :heh: I was genuinely caught off guard and confused. These heauxs never cease to amaze. But its fundamental..

THEY ALWAYS COME BACK! :blessed:

When you have your ish together. They’ll always be back. Especially when they realize what else is out here

I had toronto joint from high school who messaged me a few weeks back (one kid later)

Her: oh how times have changed

Me: I know

Her *thumbs up emoji”

:mjlol:
 
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I have noticed this too

The female coworkers I have that are younger (20-27) are boring and dry as fukk. I swear sometimes they wish they could verbally speak an emoji into existence because they aren't witty enough to come up with something actually worth saying

shyt is wack and annoying

But they be looking so good :jbhmm:
 
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I do think it is important to realize how much communication in the last 15 years has changed, and rewired everyone. Certain norms always apply, but a lot has just been scrambled. Hard to decipher the person from their digital double.

I read this and probably already quoted it here months ago, but a central piece of communication, call vs. text, the quote was something like

"People used to HAVE a feeling and make a phone call, based on that feeling", for example watching a movie, and calling someone to tell them or talk about it, or whatever

now, it's WANT a feeling, text someone, and you get that validation in small form. Like a quick dopamine drip, and I think that probably explains some of the texts that everyone male or female gets sometimes. HEY, WYD, HOW R U, and then they go silent, because they got that fix. For example, wanting the feeling of connection or validation, and so you text someone some low stakes shyt, and see if they respond. Once they do, the want has been filled.
 
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We went on our date to a bar last night. I honestly had a great time. We were there talking and laughing damn near 4 hours. We have another date set up for next week. :myman:

Only thing is I couldn’t get a good grasp on what her body looked like. She looked a little bigger than her pics but she was wearing baggy clothes so idk.:patrice:
How high on the list of activities were exercise related things such as the gym, martial arts class, cross fit, etc in comparison to the sedentry and lazy activities like netflixing, always going out to eat, etc...... if she showed a focused lack of enthusiasm towards physically demanding activities or outright glossing over them with excuses...... well you have your answer. :francis:
 

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Been meaning to read that, it's Derek Thompson's piece right? but need to get that Atlantic subscription

thanks man
It is a LONG read. But a good read. Troubling though is the people who really need to read something like this are the ones who will avoid it.

I think it falls under the 5 free articles w/ an email address. When i read it I guess I was lucky cause I didn't get paywalled. Everybody else I semt it to after fell in the same situation as yourself.
 

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It is a LONG read. But a good read. Troubling though is the people who really need to read something like this are the ones who will avoid it.

I think it falls under the 5 free articles w/ an email address. When i read it I guess I was lucky cause I didn't get paywalled. Everybody else I semt it to after fell in the same situation as yourself.
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