Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

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I do want to pursue it, I'm not into playing games at all, I hardly know how to. And thanks. I'm more wondering if her moves seem genuine, it seems like she's interested in me, but maybe I'm missing something someone else can point out, or something to watch for. No one here knows every specific detail about it, but people have on point/interesting analysis/opinions. Don't want a charity case, or someone that sees me as a free meal, or a new purse, whatever, don't think I've exhibited that at all though.

there's really nothing to think about here. the girl likes u. dont waste time giving signals that can be construed as "he must not be into me". cuz that can and will work against u.
 

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Brehs not sure if this had been brought up but "Mode One" is a dope read, i'd recommend it to all (especially if you are familiar with the gawds Patrice's philosophy). Pretty much emphasized the attitude of being honest and upfront when dealing with women. Here is a vid on the author with a synopsis of the book.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RlIZlbsmOqc
there it is.

keep it real with yourself and with her. make your intentions clear. give her the option of doing whatever it is you want to do with no game-playing or pretense. let her choose.
 

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yo brehs, i got a situation i need some advice on

Basically i'm stuck between 2 females, old love and new infatuation

my main chick is a female i met back in 07, we messed around for a minute, stopped because i wouldnt commit, started back up bout a year later, i gave in, we ended up moving out to seattle together, relation was rocky do to flaws from both of us (me not cutting old females off, her not being able to control her insecurities, ect), so we ended it in the summer of 2010 and i moved here. She ended up moving to DC in 2011 and we started back up in 2012. I knew when we started back up that she wasn't gonna be cool wit just being a side chick, especially wit me, so now we're seriously talking about me moving up to DC wit her and us being in a committed relationship (cause she knows about the 2 females i have here). I love baby girl to death, we got mad history and she's had my back thru some ups and down, we even went thru a miscarriage together, but for some reason me and her just can't seem to get along. I went up there and spent 3 weeks wit her around christmas and we argued about everything from sex, to where she wanted to eat and everything in between. Even with a 7 hour drive in between us we still argue on the phone a lot, and most of the time it be shyt so stupid (imo) that i dont even remember what we were arguin about. But nevertheless I love her, and I really want to give it another try wit her, we're just so different that i have to ask myself is it even possible for us to be on the same page

Im stuck between a rock and a hard place because one of the 2 females I have here kinda makes me feel like i'm making the wrong choice by leavin to be faithful to ol girl in DC. Been dealin wit her about a year I don't have to go thru none of them headaches wit her. As much as i'll honestly admit I love ol' girl in DC I don't have none of the drama wit baby girl here. She seems to take an interest in the things about me that ol' girl seems to want to change (ex. they both know i want a job that will allow me to travel, i once turned down a job in greenland because ol girl didn't want me to be away for a whole year, while baby girl here in courages, we talk about it all the time and she actually supports the idea), she says exactly what i wanna hear and i can tell it aint just because she knows i want to hear it, she just genuinely thinks like that, thats how well our personalities match. Its so easy to get along with her and i love that about her

Naturally I have to ask myself if trying to make it work is worth it or if im puttin too much into the fact that we have history together. I really hope we can make it work but if it don't then i'm screwed both ways cause I lose both of em

what would yall do?

Babygirl in your past sounds like that one woman you just really like or even love, but has that fatal flaw. It's real tough, but you have to move on from that. If ya'll get into arguments now, it will only escalate when you move in. And secondly, never move in with a woman unless you are doing the marriage type thing. It will cause all kinds of issues. A man always needs his own castle to come home to and to escape the nonsense a woman or anyone else brings to the table. Also, this is subtle, but real. Never make a big move and go to where a female is at, aka following or coming to her, unless you had something other than her causing you to move like a better job. The woman should come to you. I've heard nothing but bad things about men that up and moved and went to be with a woman. Might be cool for a little while, but it will degenerate into disrespect.

Honestly, it sounds like a dangerous situation to me. More than anything, it's just that you are going through that emotional rollercoaster and got it in your mind that you can rekindle an old flame and 'make things different' this time. I know the feeling... and it never happens like you picture in your mind. What you're already getting from that woman is exactly what you're going to get when you go down there, if not more of it. Ya'll already argue all the time, so when ya'll move in together and the feelings start to escalate even more, the arguments will get even worse. When you're in her household, she will have the authority over you, to get you out or whatever she feels like doing. If you can't handle the arguments now, you better realize they will only get worse when she gets back comfortable with you in her life.
 

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Insignificant posting from an insignificant poster
A lot of my boys come to me for personal advice on life, love and liberty…

One of them just moved out of his parent’s nest and wants to live the independent, bachelor lifestyle and the perks that come along with it. He’s had a relationship for about 2 years back in his early 20’s, now in his late 20’s, he finds that single-dom is taking a toll on his psyche with swag levels not where they should be.

Has a full time job for a fortune 500 company and is an amateur boxer with a decent record – but can’t seem to retain new love interests for more than a date or so.

This is how it started off:


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Basically, errthing I express on this here site, i mentioned to him; attitude will get you every where. You can be focused on your finances, your socio-economical status and work out like crazy, but your strongest asset is your brain. Always improve your cerebrum by exercising it and ensure that you soul is aligned with your spirit, it helps you keep a peace of mind. And that's how i gave him a piece of mine (n/h).


And this is how it ended (Don’t mind the gifs and images, they just for emphasis. Imo, when sharing advice, your messages/dictions are more effectively relayed when you incorporate imagery).

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I'm always out here to offer advice. Whether sound or applicable, depends on the recipient. A guy like me is just trying to share his experiences and methods and i hope it turns out for the gooder...


And between all the magazines, talk shows and movies, it may seem like in the dating sphere, women have a leg up...


But in the "Gems" society, it is ultimately our job, to help you get both her legs up.


:boss:


Feel the Pope Pimpology. Cuz logically? Some of these hoes may knock our democracy when we spit philosophy. But irregardless, we still do it obviously well...


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Just came in here to say, ever since I told my ex to delete my number, I feel so free. Feel a sense of indepence and big having to worry about anyone or what the gfs doing, and I can just focus on me. I don't have to worry about "when is she gonna text back" or nothing like that. I feel free as fukk.

But back to what I was gonna say, why is it in America they encourage women to be beautiful and shyt, but for men we're just expected to know our value and if not then we end up just being a doormat. What's funny is how they make indepency for women the most important thing, but for men they make everything about women, we buy cars for women, we dress nice for women, we're basically incomplete without women according to American society.
 

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They are trying to create a matriarchy. It destabilizes society. Plus, they want to create a 'trick culture' where men give up their money and authority to women. It helps keep men spending their money in order to impress women... and it keeps women spending not only their own money, but the money they get from men. How many men would really be spending all this money if not for attempting to impress women in some form or fashion?

I'm very glad I have to know my own worth. It makes me much more sharper and makes me confident in myself without requiring someone else to validate me. That's very powerful to do.
 

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yo brehs, i got a situation i need some advice on

Basically i'm stuck between 2 females, old love and new infatuation

my main chick is a female i met back in 07, we messed around for a minute, stopped because i wouldnt commit, started back up bout a year later, i gave in, we ended up moving out to seattle together, relation was rocky do to flaws from both of us (me not cutting old females off, her not being able to control her insecurities, ect), so we ended it in the summer of 2010 and i moved here. She ended up moving to DC in 2011 and we started back up in 2012. I knew when we started back up that she wasn't gonna be cool wit just being a side chick, especially wit me, so now we're seriously talking about me moving up to DC wit her and us being in a committed relationship (cause she knows about the 2 females i have here). I love baby girl to death, we got mad history and she's had my back thru some ups and down, we even went thru a miscarriage together, but for some reason me and her just can't seem to get along. I went up there and spent 3 weeks wit her around christmas and we argued about everything from sex, to where she wanted to eat and everything in between. Even with a 7 hour drive in between us we still argue on the phone a lot, and most of the time it be shyt so stupid (imo) that i dont even remember what we were arguin about. But nevertheless I love her, and I really want to give it another try wit her, we're just so different that i have to ask myself is it even possible for us to be on the same page

Im stuck between a rock and a hard place because one of the 2 females I have here kinda makes me feel like i'm making the wrong choice by leavin to be faithful to ol girl in DC. Been dealin wit her about a year I don't have to go thru none of them headaches wit her. As much as i'll honestly admit I love ol' girl in DC I don't have none of the drama wit baby girl here. She seems to take an interest in the things about me that ol' girl seems to want to change (ex. they both know i want a job that will allow me to travel, i once turned down a job in greenland because ol girl didn't want me to be away for a whole year, while baby girl here in courages, we talk about it all the time and she actually supports the idea), she says exactly what i wanna hear and i can tell it aint just because she knows i want to hear it, she just genuinely thinks like that, thats how well our personalities match. Its so easy to get along with her and i love that about her

Naturally I have to ask myself if trying to make it work is worth it or if im puttin too much into the fact that we have history together. I really hope we can make it work but if it don't then i'm screwed both ways cause I lose both of em

what would yall do?

My nikka...

That insecurity flaw is a fatal one....
 

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let me run this one by the experts, known this girl through work for about a year and a half, always was attracted to her never talked or saw each other for more then 5 min, felt like after time there was a small chemistry.

In the last few months, I see her she invites me out, I don't make it, texts get more 'personal', she sends me a few texts for Christmas, New Years, then shortly after that initiates a text conversation, sends me a picture of herself. Few weeks ago, see each other tells me what she's been up to, says she's single 100% now, wants to hang out sometime spend more then a few minutes, I say the same thing, (and genuninely feel the same way).

Texts me again a few days later, then a week later she asks me to go out to eat with her. We meet up, have a good time for a few hours. She texts me later in the night. I'm being naive, or things or as they appear? What, if anything aren't I seeing? What should I look for? Appreciate any advice/feedback.

:heh: No offense, breh, but how old are you? How much more obvious does she have to make it? :mindblown:
 

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Relationships/dating not my strongpoint.. asking for advice when I feel I need it from those that appear to know more/better then I do, but, point taken. That's pretty much the answer I wanted though, that I'm over thinking something simple. Not all the details are in that post, which could bring another perspective for some, but I think enough is there to get the general picture.
 

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Relationships/dating not my strongpoint.. asking for advice when I feel I need it from those that appear to know more/better then I do, but, point taken. That's pretty much the answer I wanted though, that I'm over thinking something simple. Not all the details are in that post, which could bring another perspective for some, but I think enough is there to get the general picture.

Breh the door is open go in before you blow your chance.


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