Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women
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She's definitely interested in you. go ahead and enjoy your time with her. The only way she is going to be using you is if you allow it. So don't go assuming she's doing something she hasn't done yet. If she starts begging you for gifts or refuses to go out without you taking her to a fancy restaurant, you know what it is, but don't overthink things and start putting jackets on women that don't fit them. She's shown interest in you, so you better get to mashing on her because if you wait for this perfect love-signal, it won't happen.
The name of the game is really dealing with females that really like you. It's amazing how easy it is to talk to women that really like you. You don't have to deal with all this flaking, doodoo stank attitudes, iciness, etc. The main issue so many of us have is that we want to start dealing outside of the realm of women that really like us and try to convince this or that woman why they should deal with us. The last two women I've had conversations with really liked me, so I didn't have to bust out any fly lines or bedazzle them with some sort of super smooth conversation... I just ended up having a regular conversation. More times than not, we put up with things we shouldn't because the woman is fine, so we start to make excuses as to why we are putting in this extra effort. We start to have this hope that she will change her ways and start behaving better. It's an ego thing, and I know it is, because sometimes I have a massive ego when it comes to women. I want the finest one and I'm scrutinizing things up and down. It's a flaw, but one that I admit and am having to deal with. You will learn the difference between being in the presence of a woman that really likes you and one that you are trying to convince when you notice how much easier and natural the conversations are and how you don't have to put in any real effort for smiles.
Thanks, good advice. I felt that way with her (reference to your second post) when we were out, just talking for a few hours, no game, nothing like that, just honest/upfront conversation, finding more out about each other, but it didn't feel forced. Felt like 15 minutes, but it was like 2.5 hours.
so true. and it's more fun too. Choosing within the people that already chose you is less stressful. and they'll save their energy for you. As i always say, this realization gives you a lot of power. but it doesn't mean we should abuse that power. you need to be responsible with this stuff. Just because she saves some energy to give you, doesn't mean you should take all the energy from her and not give her any energy back.
yo brehs, i got a situation i need some advice on
Basically i'm stuck between 2 females, old love and new infatuation
my main chick is a female i met back in 07, we messed around for a minute, stopped because i wouldnt commit, started back up bout a year later, i gave in, we ended up moving out to seattle together, relation was rocky do to flaws from both of us (me not cutting old females off, her not being able to control her insecurities, ect), so we ended it in the summer of 2010 and i moved here. She ended up moving to DC in 2011 and we started back up in 2012. I knew when we started back up that she wasn't gonna be cool wit just being a side chick, especially wit me, so now we're seriously talking about me moving up to DC wit her and us being in a committed relationship (cause she knows about the 2 females i have here). I love baby girl to death, we got mad history and she's had my back thru some ups and down, we even went thru a miscarriage together, but for some reason me and her just can't seem to get along. I went up there and spent 3 weeks wit her around christmas and we argued about everything from sex, to where she wanted to eat and everything in between. Even with a 7 hour drive in between us we still argue on the phone a lot, and most of the time it be shyt so stupid (imo) that i dont even remember what we were arguin about. But nevertheless I love her, and I really want to give it another try wit her, we're just so different that i have to ask myself is it even possible for us to be on the same page
Im stuck between a rock and a hard place because one of the 2 females I have here kinda makes me feel like i'm making the wrong choice by leavin to be faithful to ol girl in DC. Been dealin wit her about a year I don't have to go thru none of them headaches wit her. As much as i'll honestly admit I love ol' girl in DC I don't have none of the drama wit baby girl here. She seems to take an interest in the things about me that ol' girl seems to want to change (ex. they both know i want a job that will allow me to travel, i once turned down a job in greenland because ol girl didn't want me to be away for a whole year, while baby girl here in courages, we talk about it all the time and she actually supports the idea), she says exactly what i wanna hear and i can tell it aint just because she knows i want to hear it, she just genuinely thinks like that, thats how well our personalities match. Its so easy to get along with her and i love that about her
Naturally I have to ask myself if trying to make it work is worth it or if im puttin too much into the fact that we have history together. I really hope we can make it work but if it don't then i'm screwed both ways cause I lose both of em
what would yall do?
Basically i'm stuck between 2 females, old love and new infatuation
my main chick is a female i met back in 07, we messed around for a minute, stopped because i wouldnt commit, started back up bout a year later, i gave in, we ended up moving out to seattle together, relation was rocky do to flaws from both of us (me not cutting old females off, her not being able to control her insecurities, ect), so we ended it in the summer of 2010 and i moved here. She ended up moving to DC in 2011 and we started back up in 2012. I knew when we started back up that she wasn't gonna be cool wit just being a side chick, especially wit me, so now we're seriously talking about me moving up to DC wit her and us being in a committed relationship (cause she knows about the 2 females i have here). I love baby girl to death, we got mad history and she's had my back thru some ups and down, we even went thru a miscarriage together, but for some reason me and her just can't seem to get along. I went up there and spent 3 weeks wit her around christmas and we argued about everything from sex, to where she wanted to eat and everything in between. Even with a 7 hour drive in between us we still argue on the phone a lot, and most of the time it be shyt so stupid (imo) that i dont even remember what we were arguin about. But nevertheless I love her, and I really want to give it another try wit her, we're just so different that i have to ask myself is it even possible for us to be on the same page
Im stuck between a rock and a hard place because one of the 2 females I have here kinda makes me feel like i'm making the wrong choice by leavin to be faithful to ol girl in DC. Been dealin wit her about a year I don't have to go thru none of them headaches wit her. As much as i'll honestly admit I love ol' girl in DC I don't have none of the drama wit baby girl here. She seems to take an interest in the things about me that ol' girl seems to want to change (ex. they both know i want a job that will allow me to travel, i once turned down a job in greenland because ol girl didn't want me to be away for a whole year, while baby girl here in courages, we talk about it all the time and she actually supports the idea), she says exactly what i wanna hear and i can tell it aint just because she knows i want to hear it, she just genuinely thinks like that, thats how well our personalities match. Its so easy to get along with her and i love that about her
Naturally I have to ask myself if trying to make it work is worth it or if im puttin too much into the fact that we have history together. I really hope we can make it work but if it don't then i'm screwed both ways cause I lose both of em
what would yall do?
If the chick in DC has caused so much stress especially from arguments, then what is the purpose in continuing to stay? Alot of people nowadays especially older couples start spitting this nonsense about how "everybody argues' to excuse females who are extremely irrational in every relationship.......
I think people just look at it as the norm when that should not be the case at all. Let me ask you this.......if you were fired from your job would you go back? So why go back with the previous chick you had?
If you have a choice between her and a new female who actually seems like she is supporting you for now, the common sense answer would be to go to the person who is supporting you..........
History breh, history is a mothafucca because its perseptive, not everyone is going to but the same amount of value into the history they have with someone but it counts for a lot with me.
If we could figure out a way to avoid agruements and compromise to try to create a win/win solution that would be great because its not all bad times wit her. When we get along everything is perfect, but that can change at the drop of a dime and thats what i want to fix
If i whole heartedly admitted that I left the job due because of problems that were partially caused by me then yeah I prolly would try to fix those problems and see if i can have a better experience this time
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Your trying to rekindle something that's dead, more than likely like the majority of second chance relationships it will end just like the first one did.
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i feel what you're saying about history. But at the same time, if your main reason for staying with a chick is how long you guys have been together...
bottom line is, maybe you should figure out what type of chick you want. not who you want but what type of behavior you want from a chick. what type of personality, etc. If you want to give your main chick first consideration out of loyalty, that's good IMO, that's what i'd do too probably. So you figured out what types of behavior and traits you're looking for. Look at your main chick for first consideration. Does she have those traits? if not how long do you think it would take for you to guide her towards the type of attitudes and mindsets you'd want her to have? Do you have the patience and energy for that? If not, maybe you should let it go before investing even more years in something for the sake of "history". Next thing you know you,re stuck with a woman you can't stand to be in the same room with for more than 30 minutes with kids, etc all because of "history" you guys had...But if you DO think you have the energy and patience required to guide her to where you want her, then that's cool too, but you'll need careful planning and discipline. Either way, you shouldn't lose focus of what you want and are willing to tolerate. Don't let anyone shame you into settling for something because you "owe it to them". Good luck brother.
More whining & projection: Lamentation of a single 30-something's mother: "Where have all the good men gone?" : TheRedPill
My mom told me yesterday, reincar when are you going to get married or get a gf again and I said I don't want one, and she asked why? I have a friend who has a daughter your age. And I said mom I enjoy not being nagged, not being tied down
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