Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Abraxus]

I think this bytch caught me slipping. We matched on facebook dating and I thought I met her before so I searched her name on facebook and I accidentally watched one of her videos and I think she knew because I was unmatched like an hour later. It was just a reel not a story. Maybe she unmatched me anyway doesn't seem like a coincidence tho. she responded to my message then I looked at her profile and then she was gone lmao.

This one hoe who flaked on me matched again and immediately proceeded to tell me how we met, etc, blah blah blah. I'm like, ay, shorty, I don't recall etc. And she spent about two days trying to get me to remember, and I said nah, I'm sorry, babe, you don't bring back any memories (I'm lying and laughing my ass off ). She was crestfallen and finally said, well, I guess I didn't leave an impression on you, huh? I said I guess not. No biggie. DELETE!!! bytch, I like to play mind games, too, sometimes! FOH

She called my old phone (now the burner) and said is this (me) I told her who this is???
bytch, BEGONE!

 

[Hoodoo Child]

 

[re'up]

https://www.wsj.com/lifestyle/singles-dating-love-real-life-apps-irl-7338426f?mod=wknd_pos1

Lisa Taylor, a healthcare executive from St. Louis who has been online dating for seven years, was sitting outside reading at a hotel this summer when a man came up and asked if she’d like to talk.

“I looked him dead in the face and said, ‘About what?’” says Taylor, 50. She thought she’d done something to bother him and he wanted to complain.

It only dawned on her once she was back in her room: the man was hitting on her.
“It was so out of the norm that I honestly did not know,” she says. “And then I was thinking, I could have handled that a little bit better.”

There was a time when people met significant others through friends, at work, or if they were lucky, by making eye contact across an overcrowded, otherwise terrible bar that suddenly became, in a moment, not so terrible. Then online dating took off. Old ways of meeting didn’t disappear but over time took a back seat to finding love via smartphone. These days, singles seeking long-term partners are tired of swiping and ready—excited even—about the prospect of meeting someone in real life instead.

 

[WIA20XX]

https://www.wsj.com/lifestyle/singles-dating-love-real-life-apps-irl-7338426f?mod=wknd_pos1

Lisa Taylor, a healthcare executive from St. Louis who has been online dating for seven years, was sitting outside reading at a hotel this summer when a man came up and asked if she’d like to talk.

These articles are never written by hetero men. They're almost always filtered through the eyes of hetero women or LGBT.

If it's written by a guy, it's a happily married man (often a therapist or psych or Academic) decades out of the game.

As a result, 90% of these articles are written from the Female "Gaze"...

This one is written by a woman, and Most of the examples are of women.

Lisa Taylor, a healthcare executive from St. Louis..
Haley Castelvecchi, 31, who lives in San Diego...
A group of three women, all 28 and hanging out at a wine bar one recent Thursday in San Francisco,...
Katie Voigt, 32, a product designer in Portland, puts the blame of in-person awkwardness on dating apps.
Erika Ettin, a dating coach, says when clients ask about how to find people IRL she tell

 

[re'up]

These articles are never written by hetero men. They're almost always filtered through the eyes of hetero women or LGBT.

If it's written by a guy, it's a happily married man (often a therapist or psych or Academic) decades out of the game.

As a result, 90% of these articles are written from the Female "Gaze"...

This one is written by a woman, and Most of the examples are of women.

For sure. There's the demo of posting on Tik Tok about meeting people in real life lol

what would a male writer maybe say differently? I would say some shyt like I have posted in here, it's HARD to meet someone in public, but the phone/eye contact thing seems true to me. The anxiety phone factor. Of clutching or checking your phone when you walk by someone.

There's a graph that maps out years corresponding to where people meet, and you can see all the diversion happening about around 2015, increasing every year.

 

[WIA20XX]

what would a male writer maybe say differently?

In this case, it'd be about the perils of cold approach, not some funny story about a 50 year old (who should know better...)

The problem with taking a hetero male approach to cold approach/meeting people IRL - is that nobody truly wants to hear what's going on in the mind of man on this topic (or any other topic), not in a publication like the Wall Street Journal.

Even if it was GQ/Esquire/Playboy - being truly honest about the subject would be lots of public hate.

 

[Sleepy Floyd]

So about 8 months ago I fukked this chick 3 times then she sent me a text message saying she couldn't see me anymore because she has a boyfriend. Weird because I'd just had her squirting all over my bed less than 12 hours before that text but ok...Then she blocked me on everything.

Bet, thanks for letting me smash and lettin me buss in ya mouf


Then I forgot about ole girl. Hadn't seen her since.

Anyway, I get a random text message today from her best friend. It was basically like "hi just sending you this message from her, she says if you see her don't say hi to her. She has a boyfriend and he's very jealous"

I'm confused af because I forgot all about the chick. So I replied "Ok" and kept it movin.

Then her best friend calls me
and explains that the chick's boyfriend is letting her start going out to events again, and the chick wants me to know that if I see her at an event, not to say hi to her so her boyfriend doesn't get jealous.

So I replied "she got a boyfriend but she still can't stop thinking about me" and then her friend hung up

What was the purpose of all that? I went to her friend's page and the chick is in a recent picture on there, she's fat and washed.

Update, she unblocked me and sent me a Friend Request a couple days ago and a message talking about she owes me an apology. And that now we can talk, because she's single. And that the guy was jealous and toxic
I had legit forgot about this chick. I don't even see her the same anymore.

She showed up yesterday to a kickboxing class I was teaching and I didn't care. She says she wants to go out. I told her my schedule is full. She insisting but nah

 

[WIA20XX]

And that the guy was jealous and toxic

When a chick says something about the dude she dropped, I make a mental note - that's the type of dudes she actually likes

 

[The ADD]

Update, she unblocked me and sent me a Friend Request a couple days ago and a message talking about she owes me an apology. And that now we can talk, because she's single. And that the guy was jealous and toxic
I had legit forgot about this chick. I don't even see her the same anymore.

She showed up yesterday to a kickboxing class I was teaching and I didn't care. She says she wants to go out. I told her my schedule is full. She insisting but nah

Easy blaze

Take advantage

 

[Sleepy Floyd]

Easy blaze

Take advantage

You mean like I should smash?

I know it's a wide open layup but she gotta wait in line and I'm not really feeling her like that


She had the #1 spot but she fumbled it plus she's let herself go since I last saw her. Like she hasn't been working out at all since almost a year ago while she was with dude

 

[The ADD]

You mean like I should smash?

I know it's a wide open layup but she gotta wait in line and I'm not really feeling her like that


She had the #1 spot but she fumbled it plus she's let herself go since I last saw her. Like she hasn't been working out at all since almost a year ago while she was with dude

Cut her off then

 

[Sleepy Floyd]

Cut her off then

She cut herself off

I never responded to any of her messages and she went to my class to ask me in person

Y'all ever just get bored of a chick after she been bullshytting for too long?

 

[The ADD]

She cut herself off

I never responded to any of her messages and she went to my class to ask me in person

Y'all ever just get bored of a chick after she been bullshytting for too long?

Stalker

 

[The ADD]

You're right that I shouldn't be insecure or have fear. Got to be confident and trust more but I believe as a man you got to beat that p*ssy out the frame or someone else will.

That's just my philosophy Why you think she puts up with me.. the D lol jk

Appreciate your advice, that's right just got to work on trust. Can't stifle her or be controlling, won't ever work.

You never know but I doubt it.

Spoiler: ………..

 

[Redwood]

She cut herself off

I never responded to any of her messages and she went to my class to ask me in person

Y'all ever just get bored of a chick after she been bullshytting for too long?

Been on this wave for a minute now. Too old for the games