Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

ViShawn

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All I see here is some messy ass shyt.
Think about it this way, your friend knows that's your ex and didn't give you a heads up that she would be there nor tell her not to come. But I'm sure she gave your ex a heads up tho. Especially since yall relationship ended on a toxic bad note and arent exactly cordial? Yeah...She's not as good of a friend as you think she is. Expect more "surprise" shyt like this to happen. She may even have stirred the pot because she wanted to see yall two in the same place just for the drama of it.
That's what I'm thinking. I want to see where we stand. It could have been benign neglect given given the fact it was a Facebook event. My ex has me blocked but my friend wouldn't have been aware of that.

On one hand I can't dictate who befriends who but on the other theres other folks you can be friends with. :mjlol:

I'm just giving it a few days to approach her on it. Gonna call / text. I'm giving her *some* benefit of the doubt given our history and in all the time me knowing her and knowing mutual college friends she's never done anything like this.

As far as the ex she was cordial and friendly towards me. She was a bit in my face though trying to talk to me. The regrets I had with the relationship was spending too much time in it and hurting her but we're adults we move on. She's happy I'm happy.
 

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Are you saying your friend never interacted with her before y’all broke up?

If you and the ex are cool then what is the issue?

Sounds like y’all really aren’t and there are some unresolved issues for you with her.
Well I didn't know she was friends with my friend. Take your own lol.

My ex also left teaching to get into tech and I recall her being somewhat anti technology when I met her meanwhile I was the techie. She's trying to get in my industry too :gucci: :mjlol:
 

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That's what I'm thinking. I want to see where we stand. It could have been benign neglect given given the fact it was a Facebook event. My ex has me blocked but my friend wouldn't have been aware of that.

On one hand I can't dictate who befriends who but on the other theres other folks you can be friends with. :mjlol:

I'm just giving it a few days to approach her on it. Gonna call / text. I'm giving her *some* benefit of the doubt given our history and in all the time me knowing her and knowing mutual college friends she's never done anything like this.

As far as the ex she was cordial and friendly towards me. She was a bit in my face though trying to talk to me. The regrets I had with the relationship was spending too much time in it and hurting her but we're adults we move on. She's happy I'm happy.
Well I didn't know she was friends with my friend. Take your own lol.

My ex also left teaching to get into tech and I recall her being somewhat anti technology when I met her meanwhile I was the techie. She's trying to get in my industry too :gucci: :mjlol:
Lowkey :patrice: your ex might want you back deep down. All this random proximity to you is alarming. She has you blocked but you were the one who broke up with her and she was tryna marry you? She blocked you out of necessity to move on. You basically the one that got away for her. Be careful this how people end up fukkin and cheating...any more random encounters is just gonna increase that risk. Somehow y'all end up alone together, get into it with each other a bit, then start fukkin...
 

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Lowkey :patrice: your ex might want you back deep down. All this random proximity to you is alarming. She has you blocked but you were the one who broke up with her and she was tryna marry you? She blocked you out of necessity to move on. You basically the one that got away for her. Be careful this how people end up fukkin and cheating...any more random encounters is just gonna increase that risk. Somehow y'all end up alone together, get into it with each other a bit, then start fukkin...
I have NOTHING else for her. Not an animosity thing but we're different people. Different needs at my age. Plus I want kids/family and she's a bit too flippant for me.


But I do remember that she said that SHE never was with anyone for more than two years and SHE broke it off minus one ex that broke her a bit. Also she sort of liked guys that were a bit of fixer uppers but I wasn't that. Maybe you're right.

Could explain why she was in my face instead of with her boyfriend/new guy most of the time she was there. It was sort of annoying lol. My gf said it was disrespectful in hindsight. Like damn go hang out with him instead of me.
 

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I have NOTHING else for her. Not an animosity thing but we're different people. Different needs at my age. Plus I want kids/family and she's a bit too flippant for me.


But I do remember that she said that SHE never was with anyone for more than two years and SHE broke it off minus one ex that broke her a bit. Also she sort of liked guys that were a bit of fixer uppers but I wasn't that. Maybe you're right.

Could explain why she was in my face instead of with her boyfriend/new guy most of the time she was there. It was sort of annoying lol. My gf said it was disrespectful in hindsight. Like damn go hang out with him instead of me.
Breh you can't be this oblivious lol. She's never been broken up with or had a relationship that lasted as long as yours did??? :mjlol:
Yo girl is peeping game. She knows how women operate. Think about the breh your ex brought too. Talking to you for that long she ain't don't give a fukk about him like that if you were in his shoes that would be considered disrespectful high key and she'd get bushed and I know they got in a fight about that shyt after they left.
 

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Breh you can't be this oblivious lol. She's never been broken up with or had a relationship that lasted as long as yours did??? :mjlol:
Yo girl is peeping game. She knows how women operate. Think about the breh your ex brought too. Talking to you for that long she ain't don't give a fukk about him like that if you were in his shoes that would be considered disrespectful high key and she'd get bushed and I know they got in a fight about that shyt after they left

Nah she was priding herself with me saying that she was more willing to cut the guy off if things weren't working. She wanted marriage from me after the two year mark and when we were breaking up she was upset that I didn't propose on different occasions.

And yeah I don't delve into girl world :mjlol: my gf was telling me she was trying to rile me up / get attention. I didn't even talk or interact with her new guy. Come to think of it....she didn't even introduce him to me :patrice: alright you right :mjlol:
 

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Overheard the chick at the front desk of my gym talking to another chick who works there about a guy who works out there but has gone ghost. I did wonder why I hadn't seen this guy in weeks.

From the convo sounds like he asked front desk chick out and she declined, now his probably embarrassed to come to the gym. She said he was a "nice guy" and she has no issue with him. I know that must have stung him when she let him down easy.

She's very chatty and friendly but that's not being flirty. Sadly a lot of guys can't read those differences.

Certain places I would never get on a chick like that unless very clear signals had been sent. And even then I'd be :patrice::ehh:

But in any case I go to the gym to have 'me time' chatting up women is the last thing I wanna do.

Hope that man learnt a valuable lesson.

it's not an easy thing to get right. You have to give a lot of runway for an offramp, to use a clumsy political metaphor. And you have to show that if they aren't down, it's all good, which I think this is really the hard part, because for them it's like if she doesn't like me like that, fukk that bytch. but that's the wrong mindset.

and yes customer service can get blurry. I get a lot of attention in those spaces, and it's hard to keep it all straight. Coffee shops, hotels, places like that. They see someone cute, it's a way to pass time, it's way to pass the hours.
 

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Young trollop I deal with from time to time for her nails done a couple of days ago and sent me a picture. Can't front. shyts is nice. :ehh:


Why she just send me an ApplePay with a text talking about she need $100 for groceries? :dwillhuh:

Priorities... :mjlol:
Married 3 years and some change. shyt is getting better everyday. Going to Hawaii in April for the anniversary.

breh...what happened? :jbhmm:
 

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recently came to the conclusion that i'll most likely be a lifelong bachelor and it's actually a little saddening lol

a large part of me still wants to eventually find that woman that feels like home and have her build with me, but i don't think ill ever have enough tolerance for the tomfoolery that comes with dealing with women on that level.
lol aint this the truth
its hard to find women worthy of this kinda commitment. not impossible but very difficult. a lot of things have to align
 
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