Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[cyndaquil]

These hoes are gross. They can be very casual about talking about dating multiple people at once. We all know they be doing it but airing it out like it's nothing is how they get bushed

 

[BlaccSunrise]

Was training a tall, big booty Nigerian coworker today, and this shyt popped up in my feed

 

[VertigoKnight]

Overheard the chick at the front desk of my gym talking to another chick who works there about a guy who works out there but has gone ghost. I did wonder why I hadn't seen this guy in weeks.

From the convo sounds like he asked front desk chick out and she declined, now his probably embarrassed to come to the gym. She said he was a "nice guy" and she has no issue with him. I know that must have stung him when she let him down easy.

She's very chatty and friendly but that's not being flirty. Sadly a lot of guys can't read those differences.

Certain places I would never get on a chick like that unless very clear signals had been sent. And even then I'd be

But in any case I go to the gym to have 'me time' chatting up women is the last thing I wanna do.

Hope that man learnt a valuable lesson.

 

[cyndaquil]

Overheard the chick at the front desk of my gym talking to another chick who works there about a guy who works out there but has gone ghost. I did wonder why I hadn't seen this guy in weeks.

From the convo sounds like he asked front desk chick out and she declined, now his probably embarrassed to come to the gym. She said he was a "nice guy" and she has no issue with him. I know that must have stung him when she let him down easy.

She's very chatty and friendly but that's not being flirty. Sadly a lot of guys can't read those differences.

Certain places I would never get on a chick like that unless very clear signals had been sent. And even then I'd be

But in any case I go to the gym to have 'me time' chatting up women is the last thing I wanna do.

Hope that man learnt a valuable lesson.

Yeah it is kinda obvious when you think about it but lonely men look for any sign of female interest. Any woman that is paid to be nice to you (customer service, servers, strippers, etc.) should be taken with a grain of salt. But I don't blame that breh for trying its rough out here and he at least shot his shot. He just forgot the last part is not caring what they think about him

 

[Ohene]

Overheard the chick at the front desk of my gym talking to another chick who works there about a guy who works out there but has gone ghost. I did wonder why I hadn't seen this guy in weeks.

From the convo sounds like he asked front desk chick out and she declined, now his probably embarrassed to come to the gym. She said he was a "nice guy" and she has no issue with him. I know that must have stung him when she let him down easy.

She's very chatty and friendly but that's not being flirty. Sadly a lot of guys can't read those differences.

Certain places I would never get on a chick like that unless very clear signals had been sent. And even then I'd be

But in any case I go to the gym to have 'me time' chatting up women is the last thing I wanna do.

Hope that man learnt a valuable lesson.

Meh

Ive chatted to women in the gym and been rejected by some while successful with others. If it doesnt work out so be it, nikkas need to learn how to handle rejection. Its only awkward if you make it. No way ima inconvenience myself and go to a new gym just because some bird rejected me. Whats wrong with people? Lol

 

[Ohene]

He just forgot the last part is not caring what they think about him

Exactly. We all grown. Long as shorty let him down respectfully who cares

 

[cyndaquil]

Meh

Ive chatted to women in the gym and bren rejected by some while successful with others. If it doesnt work out so be it, nikkas need to learn how to handle rejection. Its only awkward if you make it. No way ima inconvenience myself and go to a new gym just because some bird rejected me. Whats wrong with people? Lol

People care too much what others think. It's not that deep. Being rejected is uncomfortable and people take it too personally. As someone who has dealt with this myself it's a hard thing to get over.

 

[The ADD]

Meh

Ive chatted to women in the gym and bren rejected by some while successful with others. If it doesnt work out so be it, nikkas need to learn how to handle rejection. Its only awkward if you make it. No way ima inconvenience myself and go to a new gym just because some bird rejected me. Whats wrong with people? Lol

^^^*

 

[VertigoKnight]

Meh

Ive chatted to women in the gym and bren rejected by some while successful with others. If it doesnt work out so be it, nikkas need to learn how to handle rejection. Its only awkward if you make it. No way ima inconvenience myself and go to a new gym just because some bird rejected me. Whats wrong with people? Lol

A lot of guys can't handle it.

One of my boys got rejected by a chick he was feeling and took it so hard that he was screwfacing her and her new man when he saw them round the neighborhood.

I had to tell him how pitiful that looked, she wasn't into you move on plenty of chick's around.

But this is what happens in a scarcity mindset for a lot of these guys. Buddy put all his hopes and dreams into bagging this chick only for her to friendzone him. I did warn him about pursuing her so hard, but some guys gotta learn the hard way.

Like you IDGAF if a chick's says no. I asked a chick who worked in my local coffee shop out once when I saw her at an event we were both at, she wasn't into it.

I still go in there and keep it pleasant with her. She didn't make it awkward and neither did I.

 

[blockburna420]

 

[cyndaquil]

Big facts.

 

[ViShawn]

I'm trying to think how to manage a friendship. Long story short I went through a bad break up with my ex. It was bad because of how my ex exploded on me. It resulted her throwing glass, pushing me etc. My female friend was aware of the details. Her and I lost contact for a bit. Life gets in the way.

Over two years goes by and my friend and I reconnect. I'll note that I've known of her since college and when she moved in my city we reconnected, but we haven't been as tight the past two years between her health issues and life getting in the way.

We reconnect since we have close birthdays. I show up to a birthday get together at my friend's place. About two hours later my ex shows up.

I didn't know they befriended each other. My friend did like my ex though and met her on more than one occasion.

I'm cool with my ex and that time has passed. She wanted me to marry her. Even her mom offered me her diamond to reseat it in a new ring to propose. I wanted kids, I was also checked out the relationship the last year we were together and I should have ended it earlier. She came with someone also and I was with my girlfriend. We're on different paths in life.

My quandary is how to delicately approach my friend. I asked her husband did I do something and he said no you're a great guy. I've been to their house many times, my friend and I have had private conversations about serious things in life. I'm not sure how she feels about me though inviting my ex. Maybe it was benign and she thought after over two years we'd be cool. Maybe she didn't think it through. I want to know where here head was at though and ask why she would befriend my ex. I suspect my ex reached out to her though since my ex didn't have many friends when she moved here. I'm not sure.

Anyways my ex was sort of trying to check up on me given our interaction which my girlfriend saw but didn't intervene but she said I could have handled it better but she knew I was took by surprise also

 

[cyndaquil]

I'm trying to think how to manage a friendship. Long story short I went through a bad break up with my ex. It was bad because of how my ex exploded on me. It resulted her throwing glass, pushing me etc. My female friend was aware of the details. Her and I lost contact for a bit. Life gets in the way.

Over two years goes by and my friend and I reconnect. I'll note that I've known of her since college and when she moved in my city we reconnected, but we haven't been as tight the past two years between her health issues and life getting in the way.

We reconnect since we have close birthdays. I show up to a birthday get together at my friend's place. About two hours later my ex shows up.

I didn't know they befriended each other. My friend did like my ex though and met her on more than one occasion.

I'm cool with my ex and that time has passed. She wanted me to marry her. Even her mom offered me her diamond to reseat it in a new ring to propose. I wanted kids, I was also checked out the relationship the last year we were together and I should have ended it earlier. She came with someone also and I was with my girlfriend. We're on different paths in life.

My quandary is how to delicately approach my friend. I asked her husband did I do something and he said no you're a great guy. I've been to their house many times, my friend and I have had private conversations about serious things in life. I'm not sure how she feels about me though inviting my ex. Maybe it was benign and she thought after over two years we'd be cool. Maybe she didn't think it through. I want to know where here head was at though and ask why she would befriend my ex. I suspect my ex reached out to her though since my ex didn't have many friends when she moved here. I'm not sure.

Anyways my ex was sort of trying to check up on me given our interaction which my girlfriend saw but didn't intervene but she said I could have handled it better but she knew I was took by surprise also

All I see here is some messy ass shyt.
Think about it this way, your friend knows that's your ex and didn't give you a heads up that she would be there nor tell her not to come. But I'm sure she gave your ex a heads up tho. Especially since yall relationship ended on a toxic bad note and arent exactly cordial? Yeah...She's not as good of a friend as you think she is. Expect more "surprise" shyt like this to happen. She may even have stirred the pot because she wanted to see yall two in the same place just for the drama of it.

 

[The ADD]

I'm trying to think how to manage a friendship. Long story short I went through a bad break up with my ex. It was bad because of how my ex exploded on me. It resulted her throwing glass, pushing me etc. My female friend was aware of the details. Her and I lost contact for a bit. Life gets in the way.

Over two years goes by and my friend and I reconnect. I'll note that I've known of her since college and when she moved in my city we reconnected, but we haven't been as tight the past two years between her health issues and life getting in the way.

We reconnect since we have close birthdays. I show up to a birthday get together at my friend's place. About two hours later my ex shows up.

I didn't know they befriended each other. My friend did like my ex though and met her on more than one occasion.

I'm cool with my ex and that time has passed. She wanted me to marry her. Even her mom offered me her diamond to reseat it in a new ring to propose. I wanted kids, I was also checked out the relationship the last year we were together and I should have ended it earlier. She came with someone also and I was with my girlfriend. We're on different paths in life.

My quandary is how to delicately approach my friend. I asked her husband did I do something and he said no you're a great guy. I've been to their house many times, my friend and I have had private conversations about serious things in life. I'm not sure how she feels about me though inviting my ex. Maybe it was benign and she thought after over two years we'd be cool. Maybe she didn't think it through. I want to know where here head was at though and ask why she would befriend my ex. I suspect my ex reached out to her though since my ex didn't have many friends when she moved here. I'm not sure.

Anyways my ex was sort of trying to check up on me given our interaction which my girlfriend saw but didn't intervene but she said I could have handled it better but she knew I was took by surprise also

Are you saying your friend never interacted with her before y’all broke up?

If you and the ex are cool then what is the issue?

Sounds like y’all really aren’t and there are some unresolved issues for you with her.

 

[Ohene]

I'm trying to think how to manage a friendship. Long story short I went through a bad break up with my ex. It was bad because of how my ex exploded on me. It resulted her throwing glass, pushing me etc. My female friend was aware of the details. Her and I lost contact for a bit. Life gets in the way.

Over two years goes by and my friend and I reconnect. I'll note that I've known of her since college and when she moved in my city we reconnected, but we haven't been as tight the past two years between her health issues and life getting in the way.

We reconnect since we have close birthdays. I show up to a birthday get together at my friend's place. About two hours later my ex shows up.

I didn't know they befriended each other. My friend did like my ex though and met her on more than one occasion.

I'm cool with my ex and that time has passed. She wanted me to marry her. Even her mom offered me her diamond to reseat it in a new ring to propose. I wanted kids, I was also checked out the relationship the last year we were together and I should have ended it earlier. She came with someone also and I was with my girlfriend. We're on different paths in life.

My quandary is how to delicately approach my friend. I asked her husband did I do something and he said no you're a great guy. I've been to their house many times, my friend and I have had private conversations about serious things in life. I'm not sure how she feels about me though inviting my ex. Maybe it was benign and she thought after over two years we'd be cool. Maybe she didn't think it through. I want to know where here head was at though and ask why she would befriend my ex. I suspect my ex reached out to her though since my ex didn't have many friends when she moved here. I'm not sure.

Anyways my ex was sort of trying to check up on me given our interaction which my girlfriend saw but didn't intervene but she said I could have handled it better but she knew I was took by surprise also

who cares? Move on with your life