My homie and I were talking about it afterward, and they always wonder why I don't participate. and it's not for moral reasons, not really, and it's not the money, and he was saying well it's all the same. and I do truly understand skipping the pretense, also kind of struggled to really explain why it was different. but maybe if I need to explain it, there's too big a divide already. The best I can come up with this second, is a place like that streamlines everything into this very basically traditional system, with near zero barrier to entry but in that process loses, obscures, or blurs any real sense of intimacy, connection, or actual mutual desire.
I'd say the vast majority of single men see women, pursuing women, and sex as something that's largely financial.
"Money over B's"
"You'll lose money chasing women, you never women chasing money"
"You're paying for it with the dates, why not cut to the chase"
"Sexual Marketplace"
"B can't get a dollar out of me, cause I'm mf'ing P-I-M-P"
The culture reinforces it.
Low Class Women reinforce it, with their "gotta make 9 figs"
Educational/Professional Class "good" women reinforce it, "So what do you do"
There's no argument that will make them rethink their philosophy and actions.
But....
If you ever look at sexpats/whoremongers - even though it's all Pay for Play - they still try to improve themselves, they still try to be nice and chivalrous.
A lot of those Westerners In Asia guys prefer a live-in GF (that costs a lot more) than a new hottie every day.
IMO, a lot of cats believe in the big lie, live their lives accordingly, but are lying to themselves about what they really want.