Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Hacksaw Jim Thuggin]

My ex has been pursuing me back heavy lol.

they a;ways come back

all it takes is to see what its like out there and they realize that what they had is way better

 

[Apollo Creed]

I just left like 8 bytches on hinge on read. Jesus Christ hoes are socially awkward as shyt. nikkas gotta stop letting this interview shyt get rewarded

 

[The True HD]

I have quite a few baddies that follow me and I follow them back. I would say a lot on my follows on IG are actually girls(who all follow me as well). Is that actually seen as a bad thing by women? Should I clean it up?

Why would it be seen as a bad thing?

Idk when they followed you, but speaking from today's times, if a chick follows you it's cause you interest her in some way.... most of these shorties be tryna fake like celebs barely following anybody while thousands follow them so if they make the decision to hit the follow you got somethin valid about you.... where if a random shorty you meet or one that happens to come across your profile online, if they see multiple attractive women following you they're gonna think it's something about you, whether you even know these women in real life or not.

The best indicator foreal is comments, you can have hella chicks following you & liking your content but the ones actually commenting on a post matter the most because women use most apps mindlessly just scrolling, so to comment some heart eyes or something else under your pics/vids means they took the time to do it.... they jackin you heavy.

 

[re'up]

Why would it be seen as a bad thing?

Idk when they followed you, but speaking from today's times, if a chick follows you it's cause you interest her in some way.... most of these shorties be tryna fake like celebs barely following anybody while thousands follow them so if they make the decision to hit the follow you got somethin valid about you.... where if a random shorty you meet or one that happens to come across your profile online, if they see multiple attractive women following you they're gonna think it's something about you, whether you even know these women in real life or not.

The best indicator foreal is comments, you can have hella chicks following you & liking your content but the ones actually commenting on a post matter the most because women use most apps mindlessly just scrolling, so to comment some heart eyes or something else under your pics/vids means they took the time to do it.... they jackin you heavy.

same as in person. someone seeing you with an attractive woman means you are not a weirdo, and you have options.

 

[AceMan]

Deadass , is this how dating is now?



I'm married dawg so I dunno how it is. My boys been saying it's trash.

Pre-marriage/dating, I felt like I was descending into being an unaffiliated member of JBO.

Thank God I settled. Saving so much money and no stress.

Deadass!

True Story; met a former video vixen/escort like 3 months ago at the MGM in DC; bih came to the party by herself and was selling herself for $300

The dating pool is filled with these 3 things now:
1.) Escorts/Social Media wanna be models
2.) Married Women (Or recently separated women)
3.) Chunky Women

I'm actually surprised at how many married women I've come across recently.

 

[The True HD]

same as in person. someone seeing you with an attractive woman means you are not a weirdo, and you have options.

Preselection is a helluva thing.

Remember working at a call center years back and having one of the finest girls outta hundreds jacking me heavy, led to another shorty choosin up on me that I know for a fact wouldn't have been as interested had she not seen her gravitating around me... ain't no stronger cologne than that of a bad one on ya.

 

[sjankis630]

Remember working at a call center years back and having one of finest girls outta hundreds jacking me heavy, led to another shorty choosin up on me that I know for a fact wouldn't have been as interested had she not seen her gravitating around me... ain't no stronger cologne than that of a bad one on ya.

Isn't it funny how that works. No lie at my job many years ago my boss at the time drove a Corvette convertible. A buddy of mine used to always try and get a ride in it and was always complementing the car. I think it may have been a 2005 or 2006. Anyway one night we are working late and the boss orders food for the group and someone needed to go out and get it and he let my buddy take his car to pick the food up. When my buddy got back he said that when he was walking back to the car a cute girl walked up and started showing major interest because she thought the car was his.

 

[bill riser]

Deadass!

True Story; met a former video vixen/escort like 3 months ago at the MGM in DC; bih came to the party by herself and was selling herself for $300

The dating pool is filled with these 3 things now:
1.) Escorts/Social Media wanna be models
2.) Married Women (Or recently separated women)
3.) Chunky Women

I'm actually surprised at how many married women I've come across recently.

Dawg, this is so true. There's a whole lot of married women cheating out here.

What surprised me even more is that there are a lot of young newly married women that pretty much cheat right after they get married.

almost like they got married just for the clout of being married as opposed to the actual values of marriage.

shyt is scary out here.

 

[Brandsdale]

 

[Ohene]

 

[trick]

I broke up with my fiance on the weekend.

She had a mental break a month ago. I tried my best to support her during her time in the hospital. I learned that she was abducted and raped 4 years ago. She was triggered by cases from work, she's a lawyer. We were going to get married next February. I talked to her while she was in hospital about delaying it due to the uncertainty of her work situation, and her lack of funds. I found out she has a lot of debt from law school and she does not have enough to pay for half of the wedding. I told her we can wait a few months and then we can get married. She agreed.

Then she spoke to a social worker who told it would be good to get married, and her mom who kept egging her on about getting the old date. I thought it would be too much for her to plan for a wedding in 6 months while she had her work problems, problems with bills and working through her trauma.

From then, I kept having to reassure her that we were going to get married and just because it's delayed, it didn't mean it wasn't going to happen.

Last Wednesday, she tried to bring it up again with her mom at our place. I told her I was uncomfortable talking about this with her mom shouting me down and we talked about it privately. We argued for hours.

Then she agreed. She wouldn't bring this up with her parents. Then, the next day, at brunch, she brought it up with them.

I was upset but I forgave her for it.

The next day, she brought it up again. And this time, she said it wasn't her fault that she was raped and that she shouldn't be punished for it, and that she expected me to honour my previous commitment to her.

I was trying to explain to her that doing everything so quickly is just going to stress her out and she did not listen. She just kept arguing with me like a lawyer would.

The next day, I tried to be as calm as possible. I had already broke up with her early on, but she begged me to come back. Before, it was because she would rather listen to her mom instead of me and her mom was trying to drive a wedge between my family and I. She forced me to either pick her or my family for some reason. I just wanted to have a weekend dinner with my family instead of with her parents.

Now, I didn't want her to cause a scene in public again. She left my condo and I ended up breaking up with her through text when she was with her friends.


Did I do the right thing or was I an a$$hole for doing this through text? I still love this woman and I wanted to support her through her trauma but we argued so much that she basically forced me to do this.

 

[Lieutenant Daniels]

I broke up with my fiance on the weekend.

She had a mental break a month ago. I tried my best to support her during her time in the hospital. I learned that she was abducted and raped 4 years ago. She was triggered by cases from work, she's a lawyer. We were going to get married next February. I talked to her while she was in hospital about delaying it due to the uncertainty of her work situation, and her lack of funds. I found out she has a lot of debt from law school and she does not have enough to pay for half of the wedding. I told her we can wait a few months and then we can get married. She agreed.

Then she spoke to a social worker who told it would be good to get married, and her mom who kept egging her on about getting the old date. I thought it would be too much for her to plan for a wedding in 6 months while she had her work problems, problems with bills and working through her trauma.

From then, I kept having to reassure her that we were going to get married and just because it's delayed, it didn't mean it wasn't going to happen.

Last Wednesday, she tried to bring it up again with her mom at our place. I told her I was uncomfortable talking about this with her mom shouting me down and we talked about it privately. We argued for hours.

Then she agreed. She wouldn't bring this up with her parents. Then, the next day, at brunch, she brought it up with them.

I was upset but I forgave her for it.

The next day, she brought it up again. And this time, she said it wasn't her fault that she was raped and that she shouldn't be punished for it, and that she expected me to honour my previous commitment to her.

I was trying to explain to her that doing everything so quickly is just going to stress her out and she did not listen. She just kept arguing with me like a lawyer would.

The next day, I tried to be as calm as possible. I had already broke up with her early on, but she begged me to come back. Before, it was because she would rather listen to her mom instead of me and her mom was trying to drive a wedge between my family and I. She forced me to either pick her or my family for some reason. I just wanted to have a weekend dinner with my family instead of with her parents.

Now, I didn't want her to cause a scene in public again. She left my condo and I ended up breaking up with her through text when she was with her friends.


Did I do the right thing or was I an a$$hole for doing this through text? I still love this woman and I wanted to support her through her trauma but we argued so much that she basically forced me to do this.

If you are not prepared to deal with someone who had a life altering event then I say you did the right thing. Most people are not equipped to provide emotional support to someone of her circumstances. Me personally, I would have made the same decision. There’s just too much going on there and it could cost you big time down the line. I would encourage her to seek the help she needs. That should be her priority right now.

Only thing I disagree with is texting her that you are done. You thought highly enough of this woman to give your last name to. The least you could do is have a sit down face to face chat about it.

But you handled it the way your circumstances deemed it necessary so I can’t knock it. Good luck breh.

 

[re'up]

obviously you understand why to some degree, but her avoidance in telling you her major life events, is one tell right there, that would probably be a pattern.

Someone like that is not so in touch with their own feelings, suppresses, avoids, buries themselves in work and excessive busyness to avoid their real feelings, and then it all spirals out of control. Probably why keeping the wedding date was so important, you start the planning and it keeps you occupied, and keeps you from all those thoughts of lack of self worth, anxiety, depression.

 

[DJSmooth]

I broke up with my fiance on the weekend.

She had a mental break a month ago. I tried my best to support her during her time in the hospital. I learned that she was abducted and raped 4 years ago. She was triggered by cases from work, she's a lawyer. We were going to get married next February. I talked to her while she was in hospital about delaying it due to the uncertainty of her work situation, and her lack of funds. I found out she has a lot of debt from law school and she does not have enough to pay for half of the wedding. I told her we can wait a few months and then we can get married. She agreed.

Then she spoke to a social worker who told it would be good to get married, and her mom who kept egging her on about getting the old date. I thought it would be too much for her to plan for a wedding in 6 months while she had her work problems, problems with bills and working through her trauma.

From then, I kept having to reassure her that we were going to get married and just because it's delayed, it didn't mean it wasn't going to happen.

Last Wednesday, she tried to bring it up again with her mom at our place. I told her I was uncomfortable talking about this with her mom shouting me down and we talked about it privately. We argued for hours.

Then she agreed. She wouldn't bring this up with her parents. Then, the next day, at brunch, she brought it up with them.

I was upset but I forgave her for it.

The next day, she brought it up again. And this time, she said it wasn't her fault that she was raped and that she shouldn't be punished for it, and that she expected me to honour my previous commitment to her.

I was trying to explain to her that doing everything so quickly is just going to stress her out and she did not listen. She just kept arguing with me like a lawyer would.

The next day, I tried to be as calm as possible. I had already broke up with her early on, but she begged me to come back. Before, it was because she would rather listen to her mom instead of me and her mom was trying to drive a wedge between my family and I. She forced me to either pick her or my family for some reason. I just wanted to have a weekend dinner with my family instead of with her parents.

Now, I didn't want her to cause a scene in public again. She left my condo and I ended up breaking up with her through text when she was with her friends.


Did I do the right thing or was I an a$$hole for doing this through text? I still love this woman and I wanted to support her through her trauma but we argued so much that she basically forced me to do this.

Nah leave these broken women alone. I don't care if you don't want to come off seeming like a bad guy. It's your life and you got to do what's best for you at the end of the day.

 

[trick]

obviously you understand why to some degree, but her avoidance in telling you her major life events, is one tell right there, that would probably be a pattern.

Someone like that is not so in touch with their own feelings, suppresses, avoids, buries themselves in work and excessive busyness to avoid their real feelings, and then it all spirals out of control. Probably why keeping the wedding date was so important, you start the planning and it keeps you occupied, and keeps you from all those thoughts of lack of self worth, anxiety, depression.

Yeah it's a reoccurring pattern. She kept avoiding problems, big and small. I was even willing to pay for therapy for her. But she didn't want to do it.