Paper Requirements
- Cultural Background
- Current Education
- Future - is she going back to school (hard pass for me)
- Job/Profession
- nurturing profession
- Ball busting profession
- Hobbies
- Hiking? We're not compatible
- Homebody/out all the time?
- at the club on a Tuesday night?
- Foodie/Normal
- She gotta try something she saw her GF do on IG
- Sports team affiliation
- Family Background
- same area, same culture, same economics
- Family Closeness
- Lotta Afro Latinas see extended family REGULARLY.
- She talk to Mom/sisters every day
- Family Medical History
- Friends
- A bunch of guttersnipes headed to Miami every 3 months?
- She's the last friend in her group to not be married?
- A lot of single moms in her squad
- She hit the club and hugs up on every guy
- Can have children
- Wants children
- Birth Control
- Is she on anti-depressants
- Drug and Alcohol Use
- she like a lil bit of meth in her J's
- Religious
- devout? or a Easter Christian or god forbid, she's "spiritual"
I wouldn't ask these things one after another. You can usually pick up on these things in conversation. The medical stuff might be tougher, but it's necessary to find out.
The real stuff you need to know
- Relationship history - so you went through all these d-boys, now you want to date a real baller? FOH.
- Attitudes around sex match up with your own
- Does she look at the bright side of things? Or is she eternally negative?
- Is she an LSA level gossip and hater?
- How she feels about your hobbies
- is she gonna interrupt your video games/anime/MCU with her BS
- Is she gonna volunteer YOUR pick up truck to go move her FRIEND'S couch?
- Are you automatically on the grill after a 12 hour shift, cause her good for nothing cousins and sistas are coming over
- Is this broad finna go in your closet to show off all your ties, suits, dress shirts, and shoes to her friends?
- She gonna borrow your car and tell you that the new dent was already there?
- Do you take her to her favorite restaurant and all she does is complain?
Etc. Just go through your past dates and relationships and try and recall all the joy and also all the pain.
I got some real specific stuff I look for, based on the girls I've dated.
I used to be cool with weed smoking broads, not no more. Keep in mind, I'm dating chicks with degrees and good jobs, they still wanna smoke up or eat a brownie. We're not compatible, cause we have different values.