Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

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what do you even text a new woman or woman in general? We went out 3 times and smashed and like each other a lot. Im not gonna see her again until Saturday. I don't even really like texting plus you text too much you come off lame. But you still gotta text to let them know you're interested. I just flirt a lot in text but that shyt gets old too. trying to keep it to like two texts a day.
Just share a meme or ask how the day going don't overthink also she should be matching the energy anyways so if you the only initiating text it's a sign to stop texting
 

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There's a million things to text, but if you're texting a broad out of duty/because you're trying to maintain something - that's a problem.
Yea I’m not trying to text just to text but I am to keep building and showering her I’m interested. I keep them light and fun but I guess I can use it to get to lnow her more. I save that for in person more so.

I think I just need to space them out more like respond every couple hours. At night time tho you can get little freakier.
 

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Just share a meme or ask how the day going don't overthink also she should be matching the energy anyways so if you the only initiating text it's a sign to stop texting
I purposely don’t text her first in the day even tho I slipped up today and did it. Soon as I did that I hit this thread lol.

Can’t ever ever get comfortable or complacent always have them chasing you. But it’s hard when you like each other and the ass is soft and she’s super feminem.
 

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Yea I’m not trying to text just to text but I am to keep building and showering her I’m interested. I keep them light and fun but I guess I can use it to get to lnow her more. I save that for in person more so.

I think I just need to space them out more like respond every couple hours. At night time tho you can get little freakier.

Lemme rephrase.

1) if you're really digging this girl and she's feeling you - you can text each other some BS. The "rules" don't matter. And the closer you get to a chick, usually the more often she wants to communicate with you throughout the day, throughout the week.

2) If you're only texting because you want to hit in a few days and you don't really like communicating with the chick - then you need to figure out if this new burden is worth the effort. Like she fly, she got other dudes waiting to get at her, but you've hit and want to hit again - that type of texting is really like climbing the mountain every time you want to get at the chick.

3) You've already hit it a few times, and you're still digging her, you feel the need to hit her up, but you're not sure how she feels - That's a different question. You're gonna gauge some of that in how often she initiates text, what time of day/night she sends a text, how quick she gets back to you, and any other thing she might have said to you in person about her texting patterns.

4) If she's always texting you, and you'll get to it later - So you want to keep things going, but you don't want to be burdened - you've got to know that about yourself.

Etc. There are prolly a dozen more scenarios on top of these.

So you gotta interrogate how you feel. You gotta know what you want.

Once you know where you are, then the "what, when, and how often to text" becomes a lot more clear.
 

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Lemme rephrase.

1) if you're really digging this girl and she's feeling you - you can text each other some BS. The "rules" don't matter. And the closer you get to a chick, usually the more often she wants to communicate with you throughout the day, throughout the week.

2) If you're only texting because you want to hit in a few days and you don't really like communicating with the chick - then you need to figure out if this new burden is worth the effort. Like she fly, she got other dudes waiting to get at her, but you've hit and want to hit again - that type of texting is really like climbing the mountain every time you want to get at the chick.

3) You've already hit it a few times, and you're still digging her, you feel the need to hit her up, but you're not sure how she feels - That's a different question. You're gonna gauge some of that in how often she initiates text, what time of day/night she sends a text, how quick she gets back to you, and any other thing she might have said to you in person about her texting patterns.

4) If she's always texting you, and you'll get to it later - So you want to keep things going, but you don't want to be burdened - you've got to know that about yourself.

Etc. There are prolly a dozen more scenarios on top of these.

So you gotta interrogate how you feel. You gotta know what you want.

Once you know where you are, then the "what, when, and how often to text" becomes a lot more clear.
I tried to rep you looks like I repped you too much it won't let me lol

We are def at number 1. I know shes feeling me a lot but I know women are fickle too. love you today, I need my space tomorrow.

I like her a lot and can see myself wifing her up. I think im just being cautious trying to play it cool because women gone women.
 

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The moment you try to check her boxes or make her happy you'll always lose.

If she says she wants a man to make a million, shell bytch about you not making two and flying her across the globe like Rick Ross and his new G/F.

If you fukking her good, she gonna complain about you not hitting a certain spot like her ex.

Nothing would be ever really good enough
 

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The moment you try to check her boxes or make her happy you'll always lose.

If she says she wants a man to make a million, shell bytch about you not making two and flying her across the globe like Rick Ross and his new G/F.

If you fukking her good, she gonna complain about you not hitting a certain spot like her ex.

Nothing would be ever really good enough
and men need to realize women are hardwired this way. all women are hardwired a certain way so you might think nah this one is difference, nah they are all biologically the same in many ways.

They need to be chasing you, look up to you, and see you as a leader that they trust will protect and provide for them. that's how the bring the feminiem side out and the freak. I box, go to the gym, make decent money and my goal is my wife stays at home and raises the kids. that's what most women want. the good ones anyway. Being in good shape with tattoos and a trimmed beard goes a long way too ha.
 

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I tried to rep you looks like I repped you too much it won't let me lol

We are def at number 1. I know shes feeling me a lot but I know women are fickle too. love you today, I need my space tomorrow.

I like her a lot and can see myself wifing her up. I think im just being cautious trying to play it cool because women gone women.

That's the best case scenario.

My overall text strategy is to send a text that's interesting/funny, but doesn't require a response.

I'd just peruse reddit or twitter or something, and send something like this

"When it's time to get off work"
"Me when the direct deposit hits"
"Look like my Auntie Denise"



And that's it. That's the text. It'd be even better if it was a meme.

I don't expect the broad to write back.


If she does say "lol" or "ha" or whatever - I can read it, and keep it moving.

The mere act of me sending something funny - communicates to her that I'm thinking about her. And that's all that is necessary.

Now if she wanna have a conversation, we can do that.

Usually if I send something, she'll be like "how's your day, what's up with you, etc"

From there - i tell her my day, ask about hers, and see if she has anything planned for tonight

:lolbron:
 

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That's the best case scenario.

My overall text strategy is to send a text that's interesting/funny, but doesn't require a response.

I'd just peruse reddit or twitter or something, and send something like this

"When it's time to get off work"
"Me when the direct deposit hits"
"Look like my Auntie Denise"



And that's it. That's the text. It'd be even better if it was a meme.

I don't expect the broad to write back.

If she does say "lol" or "ha" or whatever - I can read it, and keep it moving.

The mere act of me sending something funny - communicates to her that I'm thinking about her. And that's all that is necessary.

Now if she wanna have a conversation, we can do that.

Usually if I send something, she'll be like "how's your day, what's up with you, etc"

From there - i tell her my day, ask about hers, and see if she has anything planned for tonight

:lolbron:

dont you feel like you could be texting her too much tho I feel like they get bored or see you a type of way if you are constanly talking to her all day. like the man should be out hunting and gathering all day.
 

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and men need to realize women are hardwired this way. all women are hardwired a certain way so you might think nah this one is difference, nah they are all biologically the same in many ways.

They need to be chasing you, look up to you, and see you as a leader that they trust will protect and provide for them. that's how the bring the feminiem side out and the freak. I box, go to the gym, make decent money and my goal is my wife stays at home and raises the kids. that's what most women want. the good ones anyway. Being in good shape with tattoos and a trimmed beard goes a long way too ha.
Like when she posts on her social media about looking for a husband and these suckas be trying to bid in and try to become "husband" material. I don't usually bring up men but men created this type of mentality and the solid ones like us gotta weave through this bullshyt.

It's a manipulation tactic they use for control and men fall for it. Including me at one point
 

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dont you feel like you could be texting her too much tho I feel like they get bored or see you a type of way if you are constanly talking to her all day. like the man should be out hunting and gathering all day.

This gets into a lot of different things.

But if we're talking about the tribe, alphas and betas...some men were out hunting.

And while that was happening

The Shaman was having "rituals" with the village women.


They gladly lie down for the chief, the warrior, and the hunter.

But they also gladly lie down for the pastor and the painter.

Casino was a great example of this.

Sharon Stone banged the rich beta. (Deniro)
Sharon Stone banged the violent alpha. (Pesci)

When it came down to it, the man she wanted, was the man she provided for, the man she protected - Her Pimp - essentially a weakling in that world.

But he's the one that had her MIND.

Our notions of what a "man should be" is very different than what women think a man should be. And they only use our definition when it's convenient for them.

And when we live up to what they think a man should be, if they don't like the results, they blame us for being what they wanted us to be.

Females are result oriented. And if needs aren't being met, she's got options.

So when we're talking about bagging women, a man doesn't need to fit into any sort of "real man" archetype. Not for the purpose of bagging women.

There are a lot of reasons to get jacked, know how to fight, stack dollars, build houses, fix cars, go hunting, beat out competition, be dominant, aggressive, etc - very little of it is related to women.
 

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Yeah, there's so many variables to text, but the only two kinds I really send are things that are mutually interesting, or I want to share, pics of a new spot I went to, or a trip I am on, I send articles that are probably over people's heads, but whatever, I never send memes or any of that shyt---- and may spark a convo, but don't need to, or a direct invite. That way it's always genuine.

Those kinds of cloying, passive texts are the worst to send or receive. People are using them knowingly or unknowingly to SIGNAL something, interest (without much investment)

example: hey

or kind of throwing a hint

example: what are you up to today


My homie and I were laughing the other day, he was saying what's with these girl always sending "How's your day" texts, and went into a mini rant

Two days later he texts me "Hows your day going" LOL
 

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and not I would talk like ALPHA male or all all that bullshyt, but a lot of the way people communicate through texts and social media is extremely extremely passive. All that hows your day is passive. You are hiding your motive, playing it safe. Just ask me or invite me what you want from me. That's what I do. I don't ask about people's day, because I don't really care, that's not why I'm texting.

This isn't a corporate email, you are asking someone out. And on a deeper level you are asking do you want to have sex with me/how attracted are you to me-- in some way, it's about that.

This book I read last year Speaking With Thumbs kind of highlights how to read people through texts in a clinical kind of way,
 

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dont you feel like you could be texting her too much tho I feel like they get bored or see you a type of way if you are constanly talking to her all day. like the man should be out hunting and gathering all day.
man... just stop thinking and do whatever the hell you want or feel like doing.
if she is the right one for you, she will be receptive...if not she will perceive your texting/other behaviors as negative - if not now then some pt in the long run.

all this overthinking youre doing and trying to game the system is not sustainable cause its only so long you can pretend.
 
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