Yea alot of women dont even see men as human. Just as a utility, thats why i love social media because clout is a hell of a drug and no amount of men caping for them will cover because stick a mic and/or camera in their face and they tell everything.
There's a lot of mutual contempt, not a lot of good faith, as in just considering the other person as they are, not as they should be, or based on some gender norm/expectation. but some of that has been pushed or encouraged societally for 100 years plus. In the forms of books, and church, TV, pop music, it's cultural.
I try to avoid contempt, not always successful, but ironically, contempt is one of the things that will poison a relationship of any kind.