Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[MikelArteta]

and yes women need to submit to their man

In the past a misconception that I have held all of my life is that there is a certain type of woman that won't break my balls. I spent all of my dating life looking for a woman like this. I now realize that this was a mistake. There is not a type of woman that will not break men's balls. Rather, there is a type of man who won't suffer his balls being broken. This man lives his own life the way that he likes. If his woman gets in his face and tries to rebuild his life to her liking, he dumps her and goes out with someone else. He insists that she treat him with respect. He's willing to compromise, but never capitulates. None of this precludes being civil. None of this necessarily makes him an a$$hole who uses women. It simply means that women who start whining, complaining, or nagging are sent packing. Nice guys always try to be accommodating, normally at the expense of their own happiness. They never send women packing. This guarantees that any woman will eventually revel in the power to do as she pleases and start treating them like garbage. These other men don't stand for that, and have no qualms about giving her the boot if she starts thinking that she can push him around...So, instead of searching for the woman who won't give me you any ish, work at becoming a man who won't take any crap from women

 

[MikelArteta]

Man real talk, that's why you can't give anything to a woman easily. Got to make her earn it. She has to show she's down in order to come up. She has to bring the mentality that she is going to do what it takes to make sure her man is on top. Otherwise, men need to stop giving out these freebies and sponsoring these women. If a woman wants the benefit packages, she has to CHOOSE UP with the right man and put in her work to show that she's qualified to receive those benefits.

As a man, you are the BOSS. You are the employer. THe problem so many men have is they are "paying" their employees before the employees do any work. How can you run any company like that? The employee has to do quality work in order to get paid. In other words a woman really needs to show how much she is about her man and how much she respects him over a long period of time before she even really thinks about getting some of those benefits. These women are getting the benefits packages on day 1, and thus quitting the company on day 2 because it was just that easy to obtain. We got these out of line, wayward women because we got so many soft bosses... men not stepping up and making a woman earn her keep.

I agree

Sadly a lot of Women are just that cold and calculating and many men just dont understand the way that women really work. Most of the smiles women give you are fake. many of The good times you have with them are not genuine because all shes doing is playing a role to make herself look like shes a decent person.

People dont realize that women act out whatever role is appropriate for whatever time its needed. You can get more warmth and compassion from a cobra than you can from a female sometimes.

Women are nothing but actresses. Thats why when you see Sharon Stone or whoever act in a movie they look they are really the person they are playing.

Remember the movie Casino. You'd swear Sharon Stone was really as crazy as the women she played. In fact women are so changeable its hard to distinguish just when they are 'acting' and when the 'real' them takes over.

That because there is no 'real' them. They change to fit whatever circumstances they are in. Remember the X-men movies with the shape shifting mutant Mystique? Thats a example of how women operate in real life. They can change personalities at will to fool anyone who is associated with them.

You never really can tell if the personality that a woman presents you is really her.

 

[Liquid]

I think I am ready for a big drop tonight

 

[MikelArteta]

Cus u don't buy em anything??

i live a very frugal life, i just care about a car that gets me from point a to point b, not into all that brand name gear etc. i just live a very very frugal life


i dont judge or say my lifestyle is better, but some dudes would rather drop 200 bucks on jordans, or a new shirt and jeans and shoes to go to the club, id rather save my money and travel, i went to cuba in january paid 690 for a all inclusive week

i could have blown that on some button up, and designer jeans and some fresh kicks but nah

 

[Dreamzeedream]

dont try to play me and act as if you guys are rational and even tempered. You guys are bitter women haters, and a majority of what Ive read in the last few pages borders on psychotic. You're right. You will live your life the way you see fit, as will I. Its a free society as long as you're not hurting anyone --- but im tellin u right now a lot of ya'll cats have gone off the deep end. Straight up. I have no agenda. Im just bein real.

You always on point whene you post breh,But if you read a Few pages from the beginning of this thread,U can't tell me that there's no good info in here

 

[NYC Warrior]

dont try to play me and act as if you guys are rational and even tempered. You guys are bitter women haters, and a majority of what Ive read in the last few pages borders on psychotic. You're right. You will live your life the way you see fit, as will I. Its a free society as long as you're not hurting anyone --- but im tellin u right now a lot of ya'll cats have gone off the deep end. Straight up. I have no agenda. Im just bein real.

i was actually gonna contribute to this thread until I saw this thread turn into bible study. nikkas in here basing relationships off a book that has been b*stardized from egyptian mythology that tells stories about talking animals, food falling from the sky, a family getting every single animal on one big boat, a man being in a whale's belly for days, black race being cursed cuz some dude saw his pops butt ass naked and drunk, magic men that die on a cross and come back three days later and all other kinds of nonsense. they take that shyt LITERALLY! but im supposed to take the bible seriously when it talks about how to deal with women when all dem scriptures they quoted are just on some blatant mysogynist shyt. talking about "submit" and follow and all that bullshyt. pure quackery in here.

 

[MikelArteta]

prob my next vacay in june

toronto cayo coco

travel brehs "

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[MikelArteta]

i was actually gonna contribute to this thread until I saw this thread turn into bible study. nikkas in here basing relationships off a book that has been b*stardized from egyptian mythology that tells stories about talking animals, food falling from the sky, a family getting every single animal on one big boat, a man being in a whale's belly for days, black race being cursed cuz some dude saw his pops butt ass naked and drunk, magic men that die on a cross and come back three days later and all other kinds of nonsense. they take that shyt LITERALLY! but im supposed to take the bible seriously when it talks about how to deal with women when all dem scriptures they quoted are just on some blatant mysogynist shyt. talking about "submit" and follow and all that bullshyt. pure quackery in here.

so let me ask you something you don't think men should lead in a relationship?

All The Way In: Relationship Essentials for Men

Dr. Glover is not a christian, hes a a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist that has over 30 years of experience helping men and women get what they want in love, sex, and life.

and has wrote a best selling book no more mr. nice guy

Believe it or not, it's the man's job to take the lead in creating a great relationship. In Lesson One, find out not only why the woman can't do it, but why it damages the relationship when she tries.

how are any scriptures posted misogynist? I don't think you know what misogynist means

 

[kevm3]

naw what IS misogynist is that simped out and feminist inspired mentality that it is somehow offensive for a woman to submit to a man... you know, something that has worked for countless societies in the past. Yeah, I said ya'll are misogynist because ya'll are actively encouraging women to hate themselves and their natural role. Let's be real... let a woman lead you and we'll see how long it takes before you're disrespected. Bring up the suggestion of her paying the majority of the bills and protecting you when you go out. Go cry on her shoulder and tell her your problems and we'll see exactly how long she sticks around.

I don't know what ya'lls personal definition of submission is, but I guess ya'll get offended when you go to work because you have to submit to your boss, or in other words, subject yourself to your boss's authority. I guess you were offended when you joined the football team because you had to submit yourself to your coach's authority. Oh wait, you're not. So why in the world should a woman be offended at the thought of submitting to a man who can elevate her? Her job is to CHOOSE the right man... just like if you want to learn martial arts, you submit yourself to the understanding and authority of the right teacher to improve your ability at those martial arts.

If you got something to contribute, contribute... but none of us who are followers of Jesus are ashamed to admit it because that's what we represent. If that's not you, then skip over those posts. I fail to see what any of that has with ya'll contributing anything.

 

[No_bammer_weed]

ah here it is, the typical mangina screaming bitter women haters

it amazes me because a man doesnt conform to the simp nature in this feminized society hes a bitter women hater,

the same guys who bump their chris breezy song, listen to misgonystic rap music, call women whores and bytches, but if a man speaks out he';s a bitter women hater, pathetic breh.

I've never cheated, hit a woman, raped a woman, touched a women inappropriately without her consent, but im a woman hater right?

so because a racist has never beaten or lynched a black man, it means hes not a racist?

You have dedicated 99% of your high volume of posts to ridiculing, demeaning, and crudely attacking any and everything woman, and the idea of involving yourself with one in a healthy and functional way. Every negative story about a woman's actions is accompanied with your "see women for ya" "yep, get married" comments. You're so insane, that you have rationalized ur insanity.

Do u have a mother? Sisters? I do and they're 3 beautiful souls and creatures who have taught me so much about myself and the world, and have contributed to my manhood and person in significant ways. Ill be damnned if you talk about them in such nasty ways just because of your hangups over the opposite sex. I have dated beautiful women inside and out. I have met and dated some horrible women who are a disgrace to their gender ---its called human beings and life.

And you are on this bitter campaign because of a few bad experiences?? Have you ever stopped to think that perhaps there is something about you that attracts shtty women? Going by the way you conduct yourself on here, I cant imagine any kind, decent woman that would ever wanna fck with you.

 

[No_bammer_weed]

You always on point whene you post breh,But if you read a Few pages from the beginning of this thread,U can't tell me that there's no good info in here

i agree. there was a lot of dope sht in here, until the bitter niqqa club took over. Thats the thing. I wanna read some niqqas kick knowledge in here. Im terrible with women and Ive been very unlucky the last year or so in love. I actually want advice, not these crazy wild, misogynist ramblings. I aint got time for that.

 

[Dreamzeedream]

i agree. there was a lot of dope sht in here, until the bitter niqqa club took over. Thats the thing. I wanna read some niqqas kick knowledge in here. Im terrible with women and Ive been very unlucky the last year or so in love. I actually want advice, not these crazy wild, misogynist ramblings. I aint got time for that.

I feel you I don't know how far uvwas reading but 1-109 has good advice, but everyone in here has good advice even though some might come off as hurt or bitter their just trying to look out for everybody. Making sure we don't make the same mistakes as them

 

[NYC Warrior]

naw what IS misogynist is that simped out and feminist inspired mentality that it is somehow offensive for a woman to submit to a man... you know, something that has worked for countless societies in the past. Yeah, I said ya'll are misogynist because ya'll are actively encouraging women to hate themselves and their natural role. Let's be real... let a woman lead you and we'll see how long it takes before you're disrespected. Bring up the suggestion of her paying the majority of the bills and protecting you when you go out. Go cry on her shoulder and tell her your problems and we'll see exactly how long she sticks around.

I don't know what ya'lls personal definition of submission is, but I guess ya'll get offended when you go to work because you have to submit to your boss, or in other words, subject yourself to your boss's authority. I guess you were offended when you joined the football team because you had to submit yourself to your coach's authority. Oh wait, you're not. So why in the world should a woman be offended at the thought of submitting to a man who can elevate her? Her job is to CHOOSE the right man... just like if you want to learn martial arts, you submit yourself to the understanding and authority of the right teacher to improve your ability at those martial arts.

If you got something to contribute, contribute... but none of us who are followers of Jesus are ashamed to admit it because that's what we represent. If that's not you, then skip over those posts. I fail to see what any of that has with ya'll contributing anything.

i never said any of the shyt your implying in your first paragraph, so that's irrelevant. y'all nikkas talking about "lead" and all that shyt, basing it off a book that has the same amount of fairy tale nonsense as any harry potter movie.

why can't a man tell his woman his problems? oh lemme guess, real men don't cry? so if a dude is having a hard time, he can't talk to the one person who supposed to be his best friend or soulmate? you think Malcolm X or Dr King never spoke to their wives about their problems? didn't their wives support them up until their deaths? so a nikka is supposed to just self destruct because he has no means to offload, but should just put on some kind of facade just to be seen as a real man?

study all the African queens that led whole empires successfully at certain points in history. oh you probably don't want to cuz the evil black egyptians supposedly enslaved the poor little helpless israelites.

tell a woman you want her to "submit" to you and see how THAT works out. any woman that allows you to treat her like some mindless slave prolly deserves to be in that kind of relationship anyway.

yeah, you 'follow' jesus... a mythical man that according to the bible disrespected his own mom as a child, was in his mid 30s and never even had a relationship with a woman and chose to turn the other cheek, but im supposed to base my whole life and how i view women on his words? and this dude was a man in your eyes? nikka please.

 

[Megatron Island]

Sadly I think 3/4 of the women in America fit this mold:

Hot Alpha Female » Blog Archive » How To Tell She Is Emotionally Immature …

Written by a woman btw.

Plenty of quotables

“An emotionally immature woman doesn’t have the skills or experience to cope with reality. An emotionally immature woman doesn’t understand what boundaries are. An emotionally immature woman doesn’t know where things start and where they should end.” She has no coping skills. She has no sense of personal responsibility. For an emotionally immature woman the world simply exists to serve her purposes. Like a child who: screams, cries, and yells to get what they want, so too, do emotionally immature women. Except they may use their femininity and sexuality as the bargaining chip.

This means a woman who is actually 35 years old can have the emotional maturity level of a 15 year old.

Emotionally immature women don’t understand the idea of personal autonomy. It’s for this reason they are more likely to flake on dates and appointments with you. It’s for this reason they may seem so disorganized with their life. It’s for this reason they may feel like a victim rather than the leader and creator of their own life. It’s for this reason why they are likely to blame something outside themselves instead of owning a mistake and then taking positive action to change it. It’s for this reason they may not be able to follow through on their word.

Emotionally immature women need boundaries. Just like a little child who is spoilt, the thing you can really do is: change the expectations of the child, impose boundaries, and use a reward based system for the desired behavior. The same is for an emotionally immature woman. She doesn’t know that she needs boundaries, but this is something that she so desperately needs to experience.

On what an Emotionally Mature woman can do:

She has a sense of self control. She can accept and control her urges. She has wisdom and the ability to look at her life reflectively and learn from her mistakes. She understands the concept of personal responsibility and has accountability for all of her actions. She has a sense of independence to make her own decisions and to observe the consequences in a rational manner. Because she has all of these, she is more likely to engage in: altruism, anticipation, humor, flexibility, and adaptability. ...She can: listen, learn, validate, appreciate, and respond to you. She is more innately optimistic because she understands that at any given point she has the skills to deal with life. Because she has done it in the past and she can do it again. It means she can speak up for what she wants, without having an emotional tantrum. So instead of acting upset, she simply states what she wants. If her partner is not listening to her or she feels she is not being heard, she will say something. She will do the best to communicate by: listening, validating, accepting, and then speaking. She will process a lot of her thoughts before blurting them out. She will think about things first before sharing with you. She will truly listen to what you have to say and using her own independent mind, come to her own conclusions and then communicate this with you.

More gold:

I urge you to understand that if you can focus on identifying what an emotionally mature woman wants in a man and cultivate and develop those qualities in yourself you will be in much more control.

And, you will be much more fulfilled in the process. That would be better than settling. That would be better than just giving up. See, when you do either of those you lose a tiny part of that spark. You dim that fire that is burning inside of you. This fire, this spark inside you, should be viciously guarded. It should be protected, because it is the greatest gift any one of us could ever possess. So don’t destroy it by settling.

How To Deal With Emotionally Immature Women … Should You Choose To:
I say should you choose to because I want you to remember that you are always the one that has a choice. If you are looking for is an emotionally mature woman and you have identified she is emotionally immature (more than you can or want to handle) – then don’t continue seeing her. It’s really that simple. You don’t owe it to anyone to continue dating her. In fact by cutting your contact with her you may give her to opportunity to grow up a little. She may be able to take that situation as an opportunity to wake up and truly see how HER actions are driving certain men away.

The best ways to deal with emotionally immature women is to assertively place boundaries very early on in your relationship with them. It also involves paying enough attention to pick up on her manipulative techniques and call her out on her games.

If you find a woman who is emotionally immature but want to learn how she can learn in this area, then you can choose to really guide her along this process too. This means that you can hold her to a higher standard, treat her like you would an emotionally mature woman and encourage her when she acts like a mature woman. But the best thing about this process is the awareness puts you back into control. So, at the end of the day, it’s up to you to decide what you are willing and not willing to tolerate. This is a very good thing.

 

[Rocket Scientist]

Man this thread is fallin apart with all the cross talk . ONCE again im gonna try to get this thing on track. What do you guys think of shacking up?What do yall think of women who are married but dont wear rings?