Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Mister_DoItNice]

Man this thread is fallin apart with all the cross talk . ONCE again im gonna try to get this thing on track. What do you guys think of shacking up?What do yall think of women who are married but dont wear rings?

I think it all depends on your principles really, whether they be religiously fueled or not. I've seen studies that indicate cohabitation before marriage can have a negative effect on the union. Personally, I would live with the woman first. Also I would only live with her if I thought she had potential to be my wife at some point. Otherwise, it's not happening. I was dating this girl for a few months and she tried to move in with me. My lease was up and she knew I was looking for a new place so she tried to drop hints before outright saying she wanted to be my live in girlfriend. I never viewed us going in that direction so I had to cut that short. And as far as a woman not wearing her ring... I'd never go for that. She's wearing it or I can return it. Simple as that.

 

[Rocket Scientist]

I think it all depends on your principles really, whether they be religiously fueled or not. I've seen studies that indicate cohabitation before marriage can have a negative effect on the union. Personally, I would live with the woman first. Also I would only live with her if I thought she had potential to be my wife at some point. Otherwise, it's not happening. I was dating this girl for a few months and she tried to move in with me. My lease was up and she knew I was looking for a new place so she tried to drop hints before outright saying she wanted to be my live in girlfriend. I never viewed us going in that direction so I had to cut that short. And as far as a woman not wearing her ring... I'd never go for that. She's wearing it or I can return it. Simple as that.

Thanks for answering. As far as co-habitation...its the worse idea ever. Every man needs time apart from hs woman but to be living with her with no COMMITMENT that could be a credit killer. I been with women who wanted me to move in and help them with rent.I just cant do it.I agree with you on the ring issue.

 

[MikelArteta]

Man this thread is fallin apart with all the cross talk . ONCE again im gonna try to get this thing on track. What do you guys think of shacking up?What do yall think of women who are married but dont wear rings?

rates show folks who live together before marriage have a higher divorce rate.

mostly every married female i know wears their ring proudly mainly to show see guys im off the market, most males i know dont rock it.

 

[Rocket Scientist]

rates show folks who live together before marriage have a higher divorce rate.

mostly every married female i know wears their ring proudly mainly to show see guys im off the market, most males i know dont rock it.

Nope I seen some women who claim they were married,yet had no ring.Rare but it exists...its becoming a trend.

 

[kevm3]

No cohabitation. I've seen people do it, and if it works for them, cool, but it's not something in my gameplan.

 

[TRUEST]

i never said any of the shyt your implying in your first paragraph, so that's irrelevant. y'all nikkas talking about "lead" and all that shyt, basing it off a book that has the same amount of fairy tale nonsense as any harry potter movie.

why can't a man tell his woman his problems? oh lemme guess, real men don't cry? so if a dude is having a hard time, he can't talk to the one person who supposed to be his best friend or soulmate? you think Malcolm X or Dr King never spoke to their wives about their problems? didn't their wives support them up until their deaths? so a nikka is supposed to just self destruct because he has no means to offload, but should just put on some kind of facade just to be seen as a real man?

study all the African queens that led whole empires successfully at certain points in history. oh you probably don't want to cuz the evil black egyptians supposedly enslaved the poor little helpless israelites.

tell a woman you want her to "submit" to you and see how THAT works out. any woman that allows you to treat her like some mindless slave prolly deserves to be in that kind of relationship anyway.

yeah, you 'follow' jesus... a mythical man that according to the bible disrespected his own mom as a child, was in his mid 30s and never even had a relationship with a woman and chose to turn the other cheek, but im supposed to base my whole life and how i view women on his words? and this dude was a man in your eyes? nikka please.

i dont think kev is talking what ur saying. i mean, in any relationship, the woman should be submissive. but let's not go to extremes with this.

if ur woman isn't submissive, that means she doesn't respect u. if she doesn't respect u, what's the point?

see if ur girl respects u. ask her to do something for u. see if she does it when u asked her...or if she conveniently forgot. maybe tell her to pick up ur dry cleaning.

 

[Yuzo Lightheart]

who supposed to be his best friend or soulmate?

this statement is a contradiction. friendship and love are two different things. love is not about being friends its bigger and deeper than that.

 

[ineedsleep212]

I think some of you are taking the term submit as if he means referring to how cult followers blindly follow cult leaders' instructions. It is more like them accepting his role as the leader. The reference to religion doesn't really matter in terms of what you believe about the source. It is just like everything else where relations between genders are discussed. If there is truth to it, that is all that matters.

Not mentioning your problems to women is not about machismo. It is not a relationship like you have with one of your homies cuz there's built-in loyalty and respect there. It is more about how they would view that as weakness and may have her disrespecting you. I kinda feel like I learned that the hard way that I shouldn't expect loyalty and respect from women at all. I'm siimply stating that as a man guarding himself from bullshyt and drama.

I understand that I shouldn't be too hesitant about entering relationships with women, but at the same time that I should be a man of principles and shouldn't compromise principles just to be with a woman. These principles aren't even all that crazy, but what I view as reasonable might be viewed upon by certain others as lame or might have one of these others label me a "square." If that makes me a "square", then I'll be a "square." My fault if I'm not throwing principles in the bushes to play the role as house negro in the vagina plantation house.

 

[<<TheStandard>>]

OK, I'm not anywhere near this point in my life....I haven't been in a relationship in 5 years......Since then I've noticed how relationships with females have shifted from just having fun to chicks looking at me as a future companion for life SMH.......I'm still having fun, fukking bytches, still trying to figure out my career but if this thread is going to actually benefit people this is one of the things we should talk about.

What should be the game plan for a man who wants to settle down with a chick and eventually have kids? I know many people in this thread don't believe in marriage (including myself) but let's discuss what the game plan should be for those trying to have long term relationships. I think most people would be happier in a long term relationship and despite the risks it's definitely worth it for many people. Most people simply aren't built to be chasing after p*ssy in their late 30s and 40s.


Can we get some commentary on some people who are married or have been in relationships with their girlfriends for a while? How did it all start and what made you decide that this was the chick you want to commit to long term.


One of the things I did find interesting is that found interesting lately was listening to the Combat Jack show with DJ Envy and they spoke about marriage and how at it's worse they wouldn't wish it on their worst enemy but at it's best, it's

 

[kevm3]

OK, I'm not anywhere near this point in my life....I haven't been in a relationship in 5 years......Since then I've noticed how relationships with females have shifted from just having fun to chicks looking at me as a future companion for life SMH.......I'm still having fun, fukking bytches, still trying to figure out my career but if this thread is going to actually benefit people this is one of the things we should talk about.

What should be the game plan for a man who wants to settle down with a chick and eventually have kids? I know many people in this thread don't believe in marriage (including myself) but let's discuss what the game plan should be for those trying to have long term relationships. I think most people would be happier in a long term relationship and despite the risks it's definitely worth it for many people. Most people simply aren't built to be chasing after p*ssy in their late 30s and 40s.


Can we get some commentary on some people who are married or have been in relationships with their girlfriends for a while? How did it all start and what made you decide that this was the chick you want to commit to long term.


One of the things I did find interesting is that found interesting lately was listening to the Combat Jack show with DJ Envy and they spoke about marriage and how at it's worse they wouldn't wish it on their worst enemy but at it's best, it's

The answer is simple. When you're ready for a long-term relationship get in one and take it serious and make sure any woman you deal with takes it serious. Abide by the rules and regulations that make a long-term relationship successful and don't try to make up rules that solely benefit you... like you can cheat, but you don't want her to cheat.

The key to a long-term relationship is getting in a relationship with a woman that is qualified... who is of mind to take the relationship seriously. A lot of women literally want benefits to satiate some emotional urge of theres they are having at the moment... like maybe Valentines day is coming around and they don't want to be lonely.

Occasionally you will come across a woman who just makes you not want to deal with other women. Both of ya'lls personalities just really connect and she doesn't give you any kind of problems. She has morals and is pretty much a woman that naturally embodies what you are looking for in a woman.

 

[kevm3]

One of the most important things I can tell you in regards to dealing with women is that "consistency is key". This must be one of your key principles. You must have a consistent personality no matter the situation. A BIG mistake a lot of men make is changing their personality when they enter a different phase of a relationship.

For example, you might be dating a woman and another woman who you are cool with is just nuts over you, but you just treat her kind of nonchalant and half-way blow her off because you are with someone... That nonchalant attitude was what really attracted her to you. Now, you break up with your woman and you start looking at the other girl who was crazy over you and instead of keeping that nonchalant, cool attitude, you start pursuing her aggressively, letting her know you are really feeling her and just coming at her in a different way. She was in love with the calm, cool and distant dude, and now you're coming at babygirl in this sort of thirsty, aggressive way... and then you wonder why babygirl who was once into you is being evasive.

You got to embrace your personality style and keep it consistent across the board. If you are cool, calm and collected and that attracted this woman, then you have to continue to be that way to keep her. If you change up your personality style, you will repel her. Keep it consistent, even if you start getting all of these emotions. How you get her is what you have to do to keep her.

The real name of the game is expressing yourself to the fullest. I'm a calm, laid-back sort of dude, so me trying to play this aggressive, in-your-face character MIGHT work for al ittle while, but I'm not going to be able to keep a woman doing that because it takes way more energy to act than it does to be real and to do what you naturally do. The type of women for me are the ones that will want to be caught by my style. A wise man simply sets boundaries for himself and 'gets in where he fits in' so to say. He makes it his point to choose amongst the best of those that choose him. To validate this point, think about a chef... a world renowned chef who makes what many consider the best steak in the world. As delicious as that steak may be, if he tries to offer it to someone who doesn't like steaks or to a vegan, he will be rejected. He can try to waste his time convincing them to like his steak or to even attempt to eat it, or he can make the right move and take that steak to people who actually enjoy steak.

 

[kevm3]

Now let me build on that last post some more. There are 2 things you need to really do... 1) Express yourself to the fullest and 2) Be a man. If you neglect any of these two factors, then you will have problems. If you don't express yourself to the fullest and are apologetic about who you are and what you represent, you will never exude the necessary confidence to truly have a woman digging you on an extreme level. Secondly, if you aren't a man, aka responsible, able to protect, won't allow yourself to get manipulated or disrespected, etc., then you will either be outright ignored by women or you will be one of those hen-pecked husbands.

When you fully accept yourself and learn to approach situations from your own perspective instead of catering yourself into what you imagine a woman would like, a lot of the questions and confusion you had in your mind will naturally clear itself up, such as what do I do next in this or that situation. Think about art... you can ask 10 artists to paint one subject, and you will get 10 different interpretations, and they will all be equally wonderful, but yet done in 10 completely different ways. There's no such thing as, "Hey guys, should I be the mad guy in this situation and then should I be that guy in that situation?" It's more like you realizing your personality, accepting and embracing it and working within those realms.

As said before, I'm cool, calm and collected. One of my homeboys on the otherhand has a way more aggressive personality with a quick temper, and yet women are attracted to us both. If I try to play the aggressive and fiery personality, I'm going to be confused in a lot of situatiosn because that's not me, and in order to keep playing that role, I would have to really sit back and think deeply on what the aggressive guy would do next. Sooner or later, with me playing that game, I will get exposed because that's not me. Instead, when I'm dealt the situations all of us are faced with when dealing with women, I have to handle it the way the calm and collected guy would... I have to work within the boundaries of my own personality type. That eliminates a TON of confusion, because I can't really say I know anyone else, but I do know myself. Whereas the more fiery guy would yell loudly and display great anger towards a woman, I'd give her a serious, stern look, break things down to her calmly, tell her exactly what she did wrong, but also let her know that what she did disappointed me and if she keeps on playing around, she's going to have to jet.

The big problem in this day and age is that people are looking for some magical formula when none exists. It's all about accepting and expressing your personality and learning to deal with the problems that come up within the context of your own personality type. You have to use critical thinking and just go out and solve the problem in a way that is suitable to your character.

One very important thing that you must also accept is you simply cannot have each and every woman. You need to choose among the best ones who are naturally attracted to your personality type. you will save yourself a LOT of TIME and avoid a lot of problems when it's said and done. If you see babygirl is attracted to these hyped up type of dudes who deal drugs, then mentally move on from her and keep it pushing for the one that digs who you are and what you're about.

 

[sfgiants]

kevm stays droppin gems

 

[International Playa]

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[360dagod]

When you say that women contributed strongly to ur manhood,your already in trouble.....

That shyt don't even sound right...

When a female wants 50/50,its usually going to end up being tilted in her favor at the end of the day..and that will become a disaster.no one is trying to enslave a female,but I'll be damned if she thinks she going to run me...

The dominant man gets the respect because he presents alpha male traits....