Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Javed]

Hold she paid twice and didn't press you to hit....yeah breh you might be in the heavy friendzone. Have you made a move and see if she accepted it or rejects it. That will reveal all

After the third date, I asked her straight up if she wanted to strictly be friends. She said she was attracted to me but didn’t know if she wanted to be with me yet. Let’s keep getting to know each other type shyt

Have you attempted to a been rebuffed? I dont get it

She prolly asking her girls the same thing lol. Kiss her foo

I be looking for hints/signs but they’re never there. When she came over we were laid up but nothing happen and she gave me an excuse to leave early. I don’t wanna feel like I’m forcing myself on her.

 

[re'up]

After the third date, I asked her straight up if she wanted to strictly be friends. She said she was attracted to me but didn’t know if she wanted to be with me yet. Let’s keep getting to know each other type shyt

I be looking for hints/signs but they’re never there. When she came over we were laid up but nothing happen and she gave me an excuse to leave early. I don’t wanna feel like I’m forcing myself on her.

Are you like 30? This is like what I hear from younger generation people. Why would you even say that, if you hadn't kissed/or tried to kiss her? Why are you already trying to have that convo?

but there's no doubt people are much different today. The advice I gave you is probably on point, but now, at least a part of me thinks she would say she needs you to commit before you kiss, or some crazy shyt like that.

 

[skyrunner1]

Been talking to this chick for almost a month. Been on four dates (she paid for two of them) and she’s been over to place my twice. But I have yet to kiss her. Should I just take the L?

Unfortunately, I really like her and she knows that.

Kiss? 4 Dates? Havent seen the name in these parts so not sure but whats ya age range? I dont ever try to knock brehs but its better to err on the side of moving the ball down field than tryna find the perfect play..

If shyt is cool, first date you should be able to make a move.. I would assume (because of the "I really like her and she knows that" line) you were leaning towards playing it safe or afraid of rejection? You got to play the game willing to take the L, plus she is already out with you so she has some type of interest also. You take the L by making a move, have YOU made a move is 4 dates? Its your job to escalate and lead the interaction.

You link up, you hug, sit next to each other, make a comment about her nails while holding her hand, ask her about the pandora jewelry, close whatever distance and gauge body language and see how receptive she is, if its not there, fall back (shyt I might fall back just to see if she re initiate the touch) brush her hair out of her face, whisper something in her ear, etc. The whole point is to make sure the distance is closed and both parties are comfortable in each others space. Now you might have done all this I am not sure but usually by this point a breh has an idea of where he stands yay or nay.

You take the L by making a move and embracing whatever results, even if she not ready at that moment and states that she will respect you still for trying respectfully and falling back. If you get curved just play it cool, no negative reaction and keep it light from there. To me the whole point of "game" is making the tension/awkward social interactions feel as smooth as possible. You got this.

 

[Javed]

Are you like 30? This is like what I hear from younger generation people. Why would you even say that, if you hadn't kissed/or tried to kiss her? Why are you already trying to have that convo?

but there's no doubt people are much different today. The advice I gave you is probably on point, but now, at least a part of me thinks she would say she needs you to commit before you kiss, or some crazy shyt like that.

I’m 27, she 28. I asked because on the third date specifically she felt kinda distant and it was starting to feel like I was actually being friendzoned. Probably was a bad move looking back on it but I thought I was just being forward.
I’m going to take your advice and see how it play out. Appreciate it

Kiss? 4 Dates? Havent seen the name in these parts so not sure but whats ya age range? I dont ever try to knock brehs but its better to err on the side of moving the ball down field than tryna find the perfect play..

If shyt is cool, first date you should be able to make a move.. I would assume (because of the "I really like her and she knows that" line) you were leaning towards playing it safe or afraid of rejection? You got to play the game willing to take the L, plus she is already out with you so she has some type of interest also. You take the L by making a move, have YOU made a move is 4 dates? Its your job to escalate and lead the interaction.

You link up, you hug, sit next to each other, make a comment about her nails while holding her hand, ask her about the pandora jewelry, close whatever distance and gauge body language and see how receptive she is, if its not there, fall back (shyt I might fall back just to see if she re initiate the touch) brush her hair out of her face, whisper something in her ear, etc. The whole point is to make sure the distance is closed and both parties are comfortable in each others space. Now you might have done all this I am not sure but usually by this point a breh has an idea of where he stands yay or nay.

You take the L by making a move and embracing whatever results, even if she not ready at that moment and states that she will respect you still for trying respectfully and falling back. If you get curved just play it cool, no negative reaction and keep it light from there. To me the whole point of "game" is making the tension/awkward social interactions feel as smooth as possible. You got this.

This is good advice and I’ve done most of things. I I be doing the long hug, waiting for eye contact………nothing

 

[re'up]

I’m 27, she 28. I asked because on the third date specifically she felt kinda distant and it was starting to feel like I was actually being friendzoned. Probably was a bad move looking back on it but I thought I was just being forward.
I’m going to take your advice and see how it play out. Appreciate it

This is good advice and I’ve done most of things. I I be doing the long hug, waiting for eye contact………nothing

Right. That makes sense age wise. Like I said, if you are sitting next to each other in your spot, lights dimmed, just say it outright. It will eliminate any sexual tension, for a minute or two, and increase the stakes. but you will get clarity. and if she's down, the tension will come right back. People aren't used to talking like that up front. Don't talk too much, because that can drag everything down to, I have done that. Just say enough to make it clear you want her. It will be embarrassing for about a minute if she rejects you, but just shrug it off, and resume things as before, just be polite and loose, relaxed, acknowledge the moment, but don't spin it out in it.

 

[Ohene]

After the third date, I asked her straight up if she wanted to strictly be friends. She said she was attracted to me but didn’t know if she wanted to be with me yet. Let’s keep getting to know each other type shyt

I be looking for hints/signs but they’re never there. When she came over we were laid up but nothing happen and she gave me an excuse to leave early. I don’t wanna feel like I’m forcing myself on her.

You dont meed a hint or a sign. Shes at your place after a date which means she is comfortable with you.

Put your arm around her shoulders sitting on the couch, and then eventually Bring her head up for a kiss

Walk her to her car, give her a hug and then go in for the kiss

 

[Ohene]

I’m 27, she 28. I asked because on the third date specifically she felt kinda distant and it was starting to feel like I was actually being friendzoned. Probably was a bad move looking back on it but I thought I was just being forward.
I’m going to take your advice and see how it play out. Appreciate it

This is good advice and I’ve done most of things. I I be doing the long hug, waiting for eye contact………nothing

The problem is you’re waiting for anything. You’re the man so it’s your job to set the tone And direct where the interactions go. And if you take the L so be it; that’s part of the game

The more you wait, the more you ask etc the more unconfident you seem. The less confident the less attracted she’ll be

I’m giving you a week. Next time you come in here you better be telling us you made a move lol

 

[MikelArteta]

Been talking to this chick for almost a month. Been on four dates (she paid for two of them) and she’s been over to place my twice. But I have yet to kiss her. Should I just take the L?

Unfortunately, I really like her and she knows that.

Just go for the kiss worst thing that happens you end up in the spot you are already in