Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

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ROWAN PELLING'S SEX ADVICE: My wife's weight is a turn-off | Mail Online

Maybe she's bored with him and has decided that food gives her more pleasure.

My wife of 20 years has put on weight but I love her to the bone. She tells me I must be very secure not to have flapped over her weight gain and guess I must be...She takes care of herself extra pounds and all. She's mine foreva! (I hope)...

This really ticked me off. I guess it's because women are expected by society to maintain a standard of beauty their entire lives and never age. Yes, I work out- my husband is quite a few years younger than me, so I do try because he's the spitting image of Joe Manganiello (he gets told that by other women ALL the time :( But I'll be damned if I'm going to knock myself out trying to keep up with him. When he signed up for the deal it was because he knew that beauty DOES fade. It just does. Thankfully he's made it clear to me daily that our love goes beyond 'looks'. I blame a superficial culture for the sorry state of relationships today. My parents were married 60 years - and were lovingly devoted long after looks and health gave out.

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This really ticked me off. I guess it's because women are expected by society to maintain a standard of beauty their entire lives and never age. Yes, I work out- my husband is quite a few years younger than me, so I do try because he's the spitting image of Joe Manganiello (he gets told that by other women ALL the time But I'll be damned if I'm going to knock myself out trying to keep up with him. When he signed up for the deal it was because he knew that beauty DOES fade. It just does. Thankfully he's made it clear to me daily that our love goes beyond 'looks'. I blame a superficial culture for the sorry state of relationships today. My parents were married 60 years - and were lovingly devoted long after looks and health gave out.

To my knowledge there is no actual disease that completely prevents someone from being healthy and in shape even into old age. There should be no reason why Betty White looks to be in better shape than Rosie O Donnel.

This whole "looks and health gave out" mindset needs to go out. 9 times out of 10 it is due to laziness. I guess technically we could forgive it more if this was back in the day decades ago because our health system was not as good........but here NOW in 2013 folks still living by that "beauty does fade" idea of giving up.




My wife of 20 years has put on weight but I love her to the bone. She tells me I must be very secure not to have flapped over her weight gain and guess I must be...She takes care of herself extra pounds and all. She's mine foreva! (I hope)...



Take care of herself extra pounds and all.......Isn't that an oxymoron?

"She tells me". Lame ass simp. Have some self respect.
 

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Originally Posted by kevm3
if you got a decent man, then do it. why would any man with sense look down on his woman doing something positive for him?

Originally posted by illadope

True. It's just a "token of appreciation" type of thing. He works hard and deserves a break b4 shipping off to Afghanistan...

Days later after the comment about the same guy who "deserves a break b4 shipping off to Afghanistan" , starts boasting about his woman being into him

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her post kinda hinted at how she was his "one" and he blew his shot. the entitlement and arrongance knows no bounds...

yeah thats what i thought it all really boiled down to. basically what she really wanted was power. she wanted everything to be about what she wanted with no intention to sacrifice her wants to another. the ultimatum was simple: my way or the highway. she wanted to have the power. she wanted to be the man.


its sentiments like that which when allowed to go un checked ultimately go on to create a matriarchal society where the women are the new men
 

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@Turbulent I think another thing wrong with American culture or culture as a whole is that we actually make jokes about have to use blood,sweat, and tears to be able to catch a woman, or even make jokes in our media about how "difficult and a pain" your wife or girlfriend is.



We have come to accept that women are supposed to be "highly irrational" in relationships and act like Mary Todd Lincoln........simply because they are a woman. Yes they are women; I don't think its a problem if they are emotional because they are built that way.

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this is 100, and I see that all the time, and its mostly the truth. the main reason why a man can have a lot of sex and be called a stud, while a woman can have a lot of sex and be a slut is because it takes a certain amount of game to be a stud, while a woman can open up her legs and really do nothing to get laid by whomever, and whenever she wants.

in general terms, that is. not across the board, but in many cases this is true.

so since the way its told to us that you need to have a lot going for yourself in order to get attention, it shows that its a much tougher challenge to get a woman interested in you as a prospect than it is for a woman to get a man interested in her. they only have to look the part, while men who want to be taken seriously have to put in the work.

whether hustling, working out constantly, having a good career, a nice car and crib, whatever. thats all adding to your value.

in other words, its subtly reinforced that the man must be of a higher value than the woman. with all of that, then we are supposed to bow down and cater to her whims, and put up with her mess to be called "a real man." thats the catch. that she will only like a man who makes more than her, has emotions in control, and is smarter than her (because if youre not, youre more like a bytch and she will lose her respect for you)

society tells you that once you have built yourself up, you then have to submit and kneel to a woman, who becomes the prize in your life. even hearing the president talk like that is absurd to me.

the thing is though, if everything that you do is to make you of a higher value, then why would you stress yourself over some random, dumb assed chicks who are of lesser value? why would you be fighting each other and competing to look better, and toiling to get these high standards of achievement and the gaining of rediculous titles just to say that now theyll be all over me? arent they even more interchangable for you at this point? and why work on improving yourself if its all for another person? why let someone have that much power over you? so what happens when she leaves, do you lose your own self worth and self esteem? why thirst over them, simp to them, and give up your pride and strengths in order to please them for what will turn out to be a limited amount of time? :dwillhuh:

the point is, if you want to acheive the kind of life that you want, you need to have yourself in order. and choose your path only for yourself :ahh: take the wifey out of the picture, THEN see how she fits in, once you have it straight. have yourself right and be living how you should be. not for anyone else, but for your own happiness.

if not, then you become stuck in someone elses idea of what "youre supposed to be like" and thinking about making someone else happy, when that is something that they have to do, and find for themselves. you cant make someone happy, you can only appease them for a short period of time. thats why you need a girl who already has herself together if you want to take her serious.

and then once you have a partner like that, then you can go ahead and coexist. now youre on the same page. if you are only trying to make someone else happy, you will fail and make yourself miserable at the same time. a persons happiness is in their own power.

self improvement should be a priority for yourself and your future, moreso than just finding a woman who will now come around. now that she sees you shining, and thinks youre the best. her loyalty is never guaranteed, so to hinge so much of your own value and happiness to her can be dangerous. make sure that youre not toiling, and busting your ass for a woman or an image, but for yourself.

self improvement and a sense of self satisfaction will lead to women regardless, so make sure that its done your way, and not just to look better in the eyes of people who you are supposed to impress.

for once you respect yourself and act right your mindframe changes and youre not concerned with putting someone over you. your girl will either fit in, or get kicked out to the curb.

men have to realize how much power is in their hands in this very moment, and to always be fully aware of that throughout their lives. make sure your interactions always demonstrate that youre in charge. because ultimately, you are.

and dont take shyt from a female, especially. walk it like you talk it, and live on your self respect and goals.
 
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Where Did All The Good Men Go?
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I am a woman of Generation Y and I've just turned 29 years old. I've been looking for Mr. Right since I was 26 and there's one little problem I keep running into: There are no Mr. Rights lining up to marry me! I know I'm not alone here, because I've seen plenty of articles on the Internet about women just like me having the same problem. I really don't know what's wrong with me, and why men aren't more interested in me.

I'll admit... I've made some mistakes. Like most women of my generation, I grew up being taught that I could do anything I wanted, and that there'd never be consequences for my actions. I was always taught that I deserved the world, and that my entire life would fall into perfect harmony any time I wanted it to, including marriage, promptly by the age of 30. You see, being taught these notions as a little girl, I decided to do what most of my girlfriends did: once I got out of high school, I spent the next ten years "finding myself" by spending all of my free time chain-smoking cigarettes and getting drunk in bars and clubs. There were many men I got involved with during this period of my life. None of them were the wholeseome kind of men you could build a life with, but I didn't care. I wanted action. I wanted excitement and drama. I knew those men never cared about me and only wanted sex, but I gave it to them anyway. Some of them hit me, and a few smashed in my car windows, but whatever. I've been with over fifty men, not counting the ones I just fooled around with. Is this hurting my chance to find true love?

There were a few really great men who came into and out of my life during this period, usually from outside the bar scene. They were men who really cared about me, who were concerned for my well being, and who did the little special things to let me know they cared, but I ignored them. I did, I'll admit it. Every man who came into my life who displayed these positive traits - the kind of traits that could have led to stability and happiness - I rejected. I found them boring. Honestly, I was having too much fun with my lifestyle to ever take notice of the men who actually treated me like a human being. I was addicted to promiscuous sex with bad boys who never loved me. Most of my girlfriends were the same way. Why settle for a good man before you have to, right?!

Now I'm 29 years old. I only drink on the weekends and I've curbed my smoking somewhat, but it's taken a real toll on my body. My looks are fading, and my biological clock is ticking. I am a single mother of one child born out of wedlock to an abusive, no-good father who never loved me or even had a relationship with me. Not that I wanted a relationship - he was just some guy I met in a bar and I liked how he talked to me like I was dirt. What can I say, it made me hot. He's currently in prison for armed robbery, so he's not coming back for another eleven years.

I guess it helps to know that I'm not alone in this. Nearly all of my girlfriends made the same decisions I made, and we're all having trouble landing quality, marriage-minded men now that we're getting older. Where did all of those good men go? Didn't they realize that all we needed was a decade of promiscuous, no-strings-attached sex with non-committed, low quality men, after which we'd be ready to "settle" for a decent, stable man and a house with a white picket fence?

I mean what gives? I'm done chasing bad boys and now I feel like I deserve to have a kind and hard-working man come and marry me and be a good provider and father to my son. I don't care what he looks like as long as he's over 6 feet tall, makes good money, doesn't have kids, hasn't ever been married, has a nice car, has his own house, is planning for the future, is confident, funny, independent (but not too independent), fashionable, suave, educated, cultured, and wants to treat me like the amazing, special person that I am. Is that really too much to ask? Why can I not find a man like this? Where did all the good men go?

Signed,

The Women of Generation Y

Sent from royalty breh


:bryan: such delusional behavior. This thread blew up over the weekend.
 

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This really ticked me off. I guess it's because women are expected by society to maintain a standard of beauty their entire lives and never age. Yes, I work out- my husband is quite a few years younger than me, so I do try because he's the spitting image of Joe Manganiello (he gets told that by other women ALL the time But I'll be damned if I'm going to knock myself out trying to keep up with him. When he signed up for the deal it was because he knew that beauty DOES fade. It just does. Thankfully he's made it clear to me daily that our love goes beyond 'looks'. I blame a superficial culture for the sorry state of relationships today. My parents were married 60 years - and were lovingly devoted long after looks and health gave out.

To my knowledge there is no actual disease that completely prevents someone from being healthy and in shape even into old age. There should be no reason why Betty White looks to be in better shape than Rosie O Donnel.

This whole "looks and health gave out" mindset needs to go out. 9 times out of 10 it is due to laziness. I guess technically we could forgive it more if this was back in the day decades ago because our health system was not as good........but here NOW in 2013 folks still living by that "beauty does fade" idea of giving up.




My wife of 20 years has put on weight but I love her to the bone. She tells me I must be very secure not to have flapped over her weight gain and guess I must be...She takes care of herself extra pounds and all. She's mine foreva! (I hope)...



Take care of herself extra pounds and all.......Isn't that an oxymoron?

"She tells me". Lame ass simp. Have some self respect.

Age is no excuse at all. I always refer people to Annette Lawkins when they come out with that nonsense. Everybody's got a reason to not be healthy and letting themselves go, but have the money and the time to go be shoe shopping and all other kinds of nonsense that are just as time consuming.

I don't expect a woman to still be physically attracted to me if I let myself go, so it's unreasonable for them to expect men to still be attracted to them when they do.
 

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As a man, should you have everything in your hands as far as dates go? Say a chick wants to hangout on a certain day, do you text her telling her the time and such, or do you wait for her to text you?
 

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What's funny is those fat women proclaiming their husbands should love them no matter what would be on the next thing smoking if those men lost their ability to provide. There is no such thing as unconditional love. That's just some garbage concocted by the media, and jewelry stores. The closest thing to unconditional love is the relationship between a parent, and their child. That is, if the parent has raised that child. Love itself is very conditional and those women are foolish for thinking otherwise.
 
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