Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[kevm3]

Funny how now the same thing is happening in China and the 'reason' given for all of the 30 year old single women over there... the research was conducted by a woman and interviewed only woman and the conclusion is that men are 'intimidated' by the success of those women, therefore they are not marrying them. Women and their soft-shoe simp backers would rather have these women live in fantasyland and believe a lie than tell them the truth that men really couldn't care less about a woman's career beyond her making enough to be reasonally self-sufficient if needs be, and that a woman actually having home-making skills and not trying to compete for control with the man is MUCH more important.

Lol@'liberated women'. What are they liberated from? An actual meaningful and happy existence? These women think they are high fliers and breaking down the walls in their 20s, but then they see that all those materials don't mean anything in their 30s and they desire marriage, but there is no one to marry them.

'Chinese men want wives who are easier to control': How China's high-flying single women are rejected because male suitors are intimidated by their successes | Mail Online

'Chinese men want wives who are easier to control': How China's high-flying single women are rejected because male suitors are intimidated by their successes

Hysteria is growing in China about the number of unmarried 'leftover women' - but the fault lies with the country's insecure male population, according to a new investigation.

Far from spurning suitors, highly successful career women aged 26 to 34 badly want to be married, but find themselves constantly rejected by Chinese men who are uncomfortable with their careers and achievements.

The findings come from Dr Sandy To, a sociologist based at the University of Hong Kong.

One woman, a 29-year-old fund accountant with a UK Master's degree, described how a potential suitor, introduced to her by her parents, backed off because 'he said he felt that he had to spend a lot of effort to control me, so he chose someone else who was easier to control.'

Another interviewee, a financial services manager, 33, said: 'I used to date a guy who was much older… He preferred me not working. His idea was that I should quit work after we got married.'

The results come just one week after the country's communist government upset its young female population by ordering its feminist All-China Women’s Federation to use the derogatory term 'leftover women' in order to urge them into marriage.


Far from spurning suitors, these women badly want to be married, but find themselves constantly rejected by Chinese men who are uncomfortable with their careers and achievements

China's government and media are concerned over the phenomenon of the 'sheng nu' - literally 'leftover women' - who remain unmarried despite having a good education and high-flying jobs.

In 2007, the Chinese Ministry of Education attributed their failure to find a husband to their 'overly high expectations for marriage partners', in an official explanation of what sheng nu means.

 

[CASHAPP]

Women willingly create the man they love to hate. Once she got dude 'locked down' and he sits there in a hen-pecked state, allowing her to run her mouth, the bad behavior only escalates. This is why men must never give up their authority and settle for disrespect from a woman.

Sometimes you can't control it though. For example my mother is a single mother and she constantly acts the same way to my sister's father and acts like a spoiled diva even after all the times he has helped her out with things.

Then when he does something like asks her for a little small amount for gas( the same $ he needs to drive her spoiled self around ) she catches an attitude.

Now in a case like this no matter how much he demands respect, there is not much that can change if the person is stubborn . Now if a woman is acting this way while pushing 50(she is about to turn that age this year) not much can be done. If you are acting like that still at that age, it is highly unlikely you will change out the blue.

My point is though in a case like this where a 9 year old child(my sister) is involved, he can't just up and leave.


Sometimes I straight up feel like telling her right to her face that it is because of women acting the way she acts that men hesitate dating single women,

 

[kevm3]

Let's chop it up about respect. With respect, you have to go simply beyond requesting it. You always have to back it with action. You also have to be able to be in a situation where you are never dependent on a woman, because once you are and she sees she has you 'locked-in,' the respect is coming out of the woodworks. Anytime a woman has manipulated you to where she has you under her control, she will start harboring disdain for you.

I watched this Tariq Nasheed clip on youtube of him 'checking' some woman for disrespecting him in his chatroom, and while I do commend him for speaking up on her actions, she never ended up really respecting him because he never really stood on his respect. He kept saying, "Smiley, you gone respect me. Tone down that voice, you are going to respect me. Smiley after this show is done I'm going to call you. You're going to respect me." He went on and on for about 10 minutes.

She was able to do that because he never backed up his requests with any real action. He should have booted her from the room and said when you learn to maintain your respect, then you can stick around. I don't play that disrespectful stuff. In real life you have to be more along the lines of removing your presence from a woman. "Listen here, I'm doing a favor for YOU, so don't demand anything from me. I'm going to do this when I please."

 

[MikelArteta]

so your saying that your just going to have friends with benefit type situations

Nope, I don't engage in pre marital sex anymore.

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[MikelArteta]

And man have standards, I don't have tattoos so why should my broad? I have a job and a car so why shouldnt my broad? I don't sleep around so why should I be ok with a broad who does.
I have no kids so why should broad have any?

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[Turbulent]

Sometimes you can't control it though. For example my mother is a single mother and she constantly acts the same way to my sister's father and acts like a spoiled diva even after all the times he has helped her out with things.

Then when he does something like asks her for a little small amount for gas( the same $ he needs to drive her spoiled self around ) she catches an attitude.

Now in a case like this no matter how much he demands respect, there is not much that can change if the person is stubborn . Now if a woman is acting this way while pushing 50(she is about to turn that age this year) not much can be done. If you are acting like that still at that age, it is highly unlikely you will change out the blue.

My point is though in a case like this where a 9 year old child(my sister) is involved, he can't just up and leave.


Sometimes I straight up feel like telling her right to her face that it is because of women acting the way she acts that men hesitate dating single women,

and that's your own mother but you still see it. a lot of men could never see it about their mother, lol. My mom is an angel, lol. they say in every man's eyes, his mother is a perfect angel. But go ask their dad after a few drinks and they'll tell you a different story...

your step dad's problem is that he surrendered his power. Even hat you said about him not being able to leave because of the child. He could leave. not saying he should leave over petty stuff. but he should always know that he has the power to leave whenever he wants. And if he made her realize this, she'd probably act right.

 

[CASHAPP]

and that's your own mother but you still see it. a lot of men could never see it about their mother, lol. My mom is an angel, lol. they say in every man's eyes, his mother is a perfect angel. But go ask their dad after a few drinks and they'll tell you a different story...

your step dad's problem is that he surrendered his power. Even hat you said about him not being able to leave because of the child. He could leave. not saying he should leave over petty stuff. but he should always know that he has the power to leave whenever he wants. And if he made her realize this, she'd probably act right.

He isn't my step father....And that is another thing too. My father left me when I was a couple weeks old to go back to Trinidad .

And my father and her were never married. I was born in 92 and 11 years later in 2003, she ONCE AGAIN gets pregnant without getting married.

Now she is LUCKY AS HELL and fortunate that my sister's father has been a better father to her....besides spoiling her to be a stereotypical daddys' girl which can be annoying....at least he is taken care of and sees him

Unlike my own father......

But back to your point its 100% right. It really is a shame how women use children as weapons and act up because they know they got a man who will deal with it because it is their kid also.

The whole thing is just disgusting. He probably would be able to have an easier job telling her he has the power if the law was not so biased against women in the court system and the court system did not condone self entitled women.

The whole mom's being "angels" mindset was right on the mark. I have spoken about this before on here more than once.

I don't believe in that at all no matter how much someone wants to call me an a$$hole or "not respecting my mother", my goal is to definitely look for a woman who is the complete OPPOSITE of her.

 

[CASHAPP]

@Turbulent I think another thing wrong with American culture or culture as a whole is that we actually make jokes about have to use blood,sweat, and tears to be able to catch a woman, or even make jokes in our media about how "difficult and a pain" your wife or girlfriend is.



We have come to accept that women are supposed to be "highly irrational" in relationships and act like Mary Todd Lincoln........simply because they are a woman. Yes they are women; I don't think its a problem if they are emotional because they are built that way.



But some dudes out there cannot separate the difference between being emotional and highly irrational and psychotic.

It is embarrassing to see throughout media, interviews with our own world presidents *cough Obama cough* , talk show hosts, etc make a joke out of sweating hard for a woman(men and women included).

 

[DaRealness]

He isn't my step father....And that is another thing too. My father left me when I was a couple weeks old to go back to Trinidad .

And my father and her were never married. I was born in 92 and 11 years later in 2003, she ONCE AGAIN gets pregnant without getting married.

Now she is LUCKY AS HELL and fortunate that my sister's father has been a better father to her....besides spoiling her to be a stereotypical daddys' girl which can be annoying....at least he is taken care of and sees him

Unlike my own father......

But back to your point its 100% right. It really is a shame how women use children as weapons and act up because they know they got a man who will deal with it because it is their kid also.

The whole thing is just disgusting. He probably would be able to have an easier job telling her he has the power if the law was not so biased against women in the court system and the court system did not condone self entitled women.

The whole mom's being "angels" mindset was right on the mark. I have spoken about this before on here more than once.

I don't believe in that at all no matter how much someone wants to call me an a$$hole or "not respecting my mother", my goal is to definitely look for a woman who is the complete OPPOSITE of her.

This is actually the first thread I've seen where that kind of honesty has been displayed where dudes have actually acknowledged the elephant in the room and have openly admitted that their own mothers and other female relatives display many of the traits some of these broads out here do. I've seen it in my own family plenty of days.

 

[MikelArteta]

This is actually the first thread I've seen where that kind of honesty has been displayed where dudes have actually acknowledged the elephant in the room and have openly admitted that their own mothers and other female relatives display many of the traits some of these broads out here do. I've seen it in my own family plenty of days.

I love my mom and sister but looking back I see it. Dad would come home put his coat on the chair, and right away pick up your jacket it's dirty blah blah. As a child I would be like in my mind dad why are you getting mom mad just hang up your jacket. Now that I'm older it's can't a dude just come home from work and relax for a little bit without being nagged?

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[Turbulent]

@Turbulent I think another thing wrong with American culture or culture as a whole is that we actually make jokes about have to use blood,sweat, and tears to be able to catch a woman, or even make jokes in our media about how "difficult and a pain" your wife or girlfriend is.



We have come to accept that women are supposed to be "highly irrational" in relationships and act like Mary Todd Lincoln........simply because they are a woman. Yes they are women; I don't think its a problem if they are emotional because they are built that way.



But some dudes out there cannot separate the difference between being emotional and highly irrational and psychotic.

It is embarrassing to see throughout media, interviews with our own world presidents *cough Obama cough* , talk show hosts, etc make a joke out of sweating hard for a woman(men and women included).

i've been starting to check female friends when they say shyt like this. But i break it down so RAW to them that they can't even combat what i'm saying. I paint them in a corner. Even now i'm re-watching some Chris Rock material and while the feeling he's conveying is real, it still makes me cringe when he says shyt like "in a relationship there has to be a common focus, and the focus is HER! The whole point is to make her happy. fukk your dreams." I REFUSE this premise. I refuse to go along when they say dumb shyt like "you gotta please her to be happy"

everytime a male friend repeat this dumb shyt, we need to check them. Don't force them to subscribe to your way of thinking. but at least, let's offer them another option on how to think. We're like Morpheus offering them the 2 pills. if they want to remain simps, let them be. I don't really fukk with Jay's music since blueprint 2 but low-key when he made the song 99 Problems a single, that shyt was a breath of fresh air. it's like you already gotta fight the world everyday, why CHOOSE to have a woman at home who is also a problem? bushes! We need more singles, movies and comedians with that type of message.

 

[CASHAPP]

This is actually the first thread I've seen where that kind of honesty has been displayed where dudes have actually acknowledged the elephant in the room and have openly admitted that their own mothers and other female relatives display many of the traits some of these broads out here do. I've seen it in my own family plenty of days.

It really is cringing to see it take effect time and time again. Its like these same type of women spazzing on their little 2 year old whose brain isn't even developed about misbehaving in a supermarket by touching things.



My BIGGEST PET PEEVE is when either they or someone else imply that it is "Difficult being a single mother" ...........






















There are women poorer than our self entitled mothers and sisters who act NOTHING like this. When you think about it in all actuality, the whole premise is absolutely idiotic for ONE SIMPLE REASON.....

















There are women who are RICH AS fukk who act the same way they do So there excuses are stupid about it being difficult being a single mother. They are just spoiled and self entitled and take it out on any and everyone.

@Turbulent btw my own mother is an anomoly because although i have spoken about fathers nowdays and the whole "daddy's little girl" where they spoil these female babies and make them grow up this way......my mother was raised by an old school hardass Jamaican man

So i have no idea why she is still spoiled which goes to show sometimes the Daddy's little girl thing isn't always 100%

Your right about the whole "pleasing her" mindset that this country has. A couple pages back, Female Perspective had that comment about something to do with giving up your authority for what she wants(paraphrasing).


I listen to stories about mothers nagging fathers over something stupid like "your coat is dirty" after they came from a hard days work.....and I think "Gee wouldn't it be better to instead of bytching about it being dirty you actually OFFER to clean it up?











I know alot of people have criticisms for their own nationalities and I shouldn't generalize but is it me or this mindset of women nowadays is especially prevalant in Jamaican Island Queens

We really need to have more patriarch countries; It is absolutely disgusting that if you google and check the list alot of the countries like America and Puerto Rico end up being matriarch ones where you are more likely to experience disrespectful females.

 

[sixsixtwo]

Hilarious:

http://www.returnofkings.com/4089/5-signs-you-should-marry-her

 

[sixsixtwo]

Welcome To Your Mid-30s - Maverick Traveler

 

[Turbulent]

@Turbulent btw my own mother is an anomoly because although i have spoken about fathers nowdays and the whole "daddy's little girl" where they spoil these female babies and make them grow up this way......my mother was raised by an old school hardass Jamaican man

So i have no idea why she is still spoiled which goes to show sometimes the Daddy's little girl thing isn't always 100%

Your right about the whole "pleasing her" mindset that this country has. A couple pages back, Female Perspective had that comment about something to do with giving up your authority for what she wants(paraphrasing).

I know exactly which post from TheFemalePerspective you're talking about. That post made me cringe. but there's actually a lot to learn from it if we take time to dissect it. She basically said a man should "amend his principles or else he will lose "the one"...see what we have to deal with? they think getting them should be our ultimate goal. But let me break it down even iller:

As a man, you're a leader. Leaders job is to lead and guide towards a destination. But if a man's whole purpose is to get a specific woman (the mythical "one") then that becomes his destination. The object of his quest is following him since he's the leader but the the destination is her. How will she find happiness? Why does she even need him to lead her to herself? . She'd be like a dog following it's own tail and eventually get frustrated and bored. this is why these relationships fail. She shouldn't be your ultimate goal.








In her post, she basically described how she chose not to continue seeing some dude because eventhough he had desirable traits and qualities, she felt like he wouldn't open up enough. that's her business but then she acts like he should have opened up more. first of all, she has no idea what he has been through in his life. second she's already assuming his job should be to make her happy by being open on her time. Now i'm not saying she has to go along with whatever he does. If she didn't want to pursue, that's legit. But the reality is, he choses his boundaries and what he wants to show her when. and at that point she just wasn't feeling what he allowed her to see so she didn't pursue. Had she just said that, it would have been cool. She just wasn't that attracted to what she saw so far and cashed out early. You're not attracted to his rules and principles, find another man. Don't act like he should change his. Why should he change his when he could find another woman who's attracted to his principles? her post kinda hinted at how she was his "one" and he blew his shot. the entitlement and arrongance knows no bounds...