Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[T-K-G]

man this thread only applies to ghetto girls

 

[ThaBoyBam]

Probably has already been said, but....As a man, you have to understand that you are the prize.

You see a lot of Facebook statuses about being with "him", but very little about being with "her." Think about it.

 

[Captain Crunch]

My nikka Sharp droppin that PURO

Confidence and self esteem should be at the cornerstone, not just with women, but in all areas of one's life. But since women are the topic... 90% of the problems with the breezies all revert back to confidence. You got to have love for yourself. Acknowledge fly shyt about yourself that you've done or are doing. You're funny, you hit the gym, write poetry, etc. You're unique. Be you. Most cats cant step to women because they're self esteem is shaky. If you walk into a spot feelin yaself (not arrogant) you should feel like a chick is nutso for NOT giving you play becuase you KNOW in your heart you're a fly dude. And if you leave the spot without meeting anyone, it doesnt matter becuase you dont let women "dissing" you validate your game and who you are as a man. But that comes with experience, which begets confidence.

Most people dont really like themselves. Some people dont like being alone because deep down there's self hatred bubbling, so they HAVE to be with someone. And this usually sets them up for failure with women. "Why is this chick disrespecting me?" Well fam, you dont respect yourself, how could you expect her to? You allowed her to call you a hoe ass nikka. lol It kills me when I hear people get disrespected by their lady or some random broad. Let some random cat in the club call them a hoe ass nikka and they ready to grab the heat and merk that dude over it. But when their lady talk crazy to them at home or in public, they swallow it like bad medicine. All because they value the cooch over their self worth.

They weak get preyed on. Females know who to come at and not come at with that disrepect. I treat everyone with respect, male or female until I deem otherwise - and the females I meet can sense it. But females are naturally rebellious so sometimes they'll test you to see if you a lame. Dont be passive - check them and check them hard. The'll respect you for it. Trust me. I've dealt with females that show me respect and love and talk to the other lames they deal with RIDICULOUS. haha All because they lack confidence and integrity.

Holla

Dapped this post and quoted because this is too real.
If you can't see fly shyt about yourself, why should anybody want to fukk w/ you?

Not telling dudes to flex, on some "bytch I'm the assistant manager at Wal Mart. fukk w/ me "
Just discover something cool about yourself and build from that, if you don't have any cool things about yourself than pick something you wanted to learn or do and actually do it(take up an instrument, get in shape, learn salsa; etc).

 

[ineedsleep212]

I definitely gotta do better with bigging myself up cuz I seriously don't even feel like I'm doing enough to big myself up. I don't feel that way cuz I'm not yet on the path I want to take, but there is stuff to say about myself. Noticing that and then seeing somebody who looks like they aren't doing shyt compared to me with a chick was an instant ego/confidence booster.

 

[Malikthegod]

I definitely gotta do better with bigging myself up cuz I seriously don't even feel like I'm doing enough to big myself up. I don't feel that way cuz I'm not yet on the path I want to take, but there is stuff to say about myself. Noticing that and then seeing somebody who looks like they aren't doing shyt compared to me with a chick was an instant ego/confidence booster.

Don't compare yourself to others though my man. You don't know their life or story. The path that they took to get to where they're at, is completely different from the things you will encounter on your path. The only true person you should compare yourself to is YOURSELF. Say "Am I flyer than I was a month ago? Am I closer to my goals today, than I was a year ago? My game sharper? Bank account fatter?"

You should always be progressing in life, so using yourself and your experiences on your life's journey are the best barometers to use if you ever feel the need to "compare" yourself to anyone. Keep striving for perfection god.

 

[ineedsleep212]

Don't compare yourself to others though my man. You don't know their life or story. The path that they took to get to where they're at, is completely different from the things you will encounter on your path. The only true person you should compare yourself to is YOURSELF. Say "Am I flyer than I was a month ago? Am I closer to my goals today, than I was a year ago? My game sharper? Bank account fatter?"

You should always be progressing in life, so using yourself and your experiences on your life's journey are the best barometers to use if you ever feel the need to "compare" yourself to anyone. Keep striving for perfection god.

Yea. I'm definitely done with comparing myself to others. Facebook is the thing that made me do that a bit before, but I realized how dumb it was to do that. Going in the direction I want to go in and progressing is all that matters. That incident felt almost necessary for me in the sense that it woke me up to what I'm doing. Woke me up to the feeling like I plateaued mentally, was content, was in the air about my future and whatever about where I'm at. Felt like it directed me towards action instead of feeling as though I'm letting everything around me push me wherever.

 

[Mr Hate Coffee]

Alright brehs. Some more gems from me as I stumble in from the casino

1. Do not reward bad behavior. You have to nip that shyt in the bud asap when you're dealing with a new chick. If she throws a tantrum, don't reward it by giving her the attention she wants.

2. When in doubt walk away. The minute you find yourself stressing a chick or a situation, just leave. All that worrying about "what could have been" is for the birds.

That's all I got right now. Learn from my recent mistakes.

 

[sixsixtwo]

 

[kingdizzy01]

powerful thread......



on the other hand... YALL KNOW FEMALES TAKIN NOTES

 

[MikelArteta]

powerful thread......



on the other hand... YALL KNOW FEMALES TAKIN NOTES

not really, majority females while different (race, height, culture) are somewhat coded the same, go to any breakup realtionship forum, and read stories of males being dumped or their girl drifting away and your like damn that sounds like my girl


also would like to add don't worry about finding a chick, things seem to have a weird way of working out. I remember in the past when i was into relationships and ish all the times i wanted a gf i';d be frustrated because I couldn't find someone i found attractive and liked alot, when I said and just lived my life, it was just like boom boom boom.

its like when you lose your key or anything you like night and day for it, when you say go to sleep wake up live your day, you see the key

 

[duncanthetall]

man this thread only applies to ghetto girls

False. I don't fukk with hoodrats and this has stepped my game up a good amount in a short time

 

[Icewatermetallik]

Powerful thread......co-sign......mad gems in here.

A couple years back (circa 2008-2009) I was one of those simp dudes I'll admit it. I was in a 3 year relationship with this chick and after our second year of dating we moved in together. Thought we were gonna get engaged, married, the whole 9......

Well, let me tell y'all something.....NEVER live with a chick, because it just f*cks with your whole game. It's a hard lesson I learned and after 1 year of living together when our lease was up we moved out and went our separate ways and let me tell you at first I was like "Damn, did I make the right choice?" but then soon after I had a revelation. Life was better.....I was going out with my boys, I was more confident, women were paying me mad attention, I had ALOT more money, it's like I was re-born.

So to all the youngin's in here, if your thinking about moving in with a chick to take that "next step", unless you really see yourself getting married to them or you have kids or something, then DON'T.

Valuable life lessons.......

(As a side note, me and my ex still talk and chill every once in a while because while we did break up and realized we weren't right for each other, we kept everything cool and respectable....no animosity--this still allows me to smash sometimes....)

 

[the cool]

False. I don't fukk with hoodrats and this has stepped my game up a good amount in a short time

what did you do to step up your game breh? stop caring? gave your number out to girls instead of asking for them?

 

[Mr Hate Coffee]

It's some real good shyt in here. Even tho my game is tighter than 80% of cats, I still get caught up every now and then. I need to go thru this entire thread, copy the best gems, and put that shyt on a poster or something.

 

[MikelArteta]

can folks elaborate more on why living with a chick is bad news?

i never have thankfully but what about it brehs? the constant nagging? the no longer freedom?