Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Poh SIti Dawn]

Thinking like that is how you end up with nothing at all. No one can predict whether something will work out ahead of time. It takes dating someone to figure out whether you want a relationship with them. And it takes being in a serious relationship with someone to determine whether they are wifeable.

Yeah you're right, I guess I'm just always feeling like things have to be perfect, if I meet a girl she has to be the 1 or I can't waste time. I guess I'm scared.

are you talking about when women approach you and you're not attracted to them? if so then the reason they label you that way is because they don't feel any connection with you. You see some women wold rather tell themselves that you have no game and that's why you didn't holla at them. They'd rather tell themselves that than face the possibility that MAYBE you just weren't feeling them that way...My advice as always is, don't even worry about what they're thinking. 3 out of 4 of them have delusions of grandeur or are straight up insane. trying to figure out why they think whatever they think is impossible and useless most of the times.

if you're talking about girls you're approaching, they might think you have no game because you didn't manage to set a vibe to make everyone comfortable. In that case she could be right. but at the same time, why even approach girls you don't find attractive or don't feel like you'd connect with?

Yeah, exactly. I feel as if there's a mutual attraction then the conversation should go great, or at least slowly develop and if there isn't then it won't.

But how do you feel about the idea of 2 people being attracted to each other but aren't able to like converse properly. Do you keep working at it day by day or do you just leave it be and accept the fact that you didn't vibe the first time. Remember first impressions are everything, or so they say.

A lot of times that's what we've been talking about... You might be standing there, turn your head and see a woman just staring at you and when she catches you looking, she looks away. It's kind of like back in the days in school how when you sat back and the fine girl walked in and you're eyeing her like crazy and then she catches you and you stop looking.

Sexy is typically on another level from handsome, but handsome can be a nice compliment depending on how it's said. Sexy means she is very attracted to you. Handsome, on the other hand, can be like the grown adult looking at a younger man and saying oh wow, he's growing up and quite handsome, or if the woman is your age, "Wow he's very handsome." Handsome can mean a lot depending on the context, but sexy definitely means she's ready to deal with you. A woman your age that says you're handsome means she thinks you look nice and I'll say it's enough to go and see what she's talking about.

Well how do you step up from being handsome to sexy? I seem to get handsome, sometimes sexy but not that much. Does it have something to do with like muscles or some shyt?

If a random woman is near you and gives you a smile when you look at her, you can say hey how you doing or you're in a mall and you ask for a woman's opinion on something to open a conversation up, that's cool... but you definitely don't want to be that bugaboo negro that is always posted up in the mall walking right up to females and saying 'what's up with it mama!' You do that long enough and you start getting a hound rep. You don't want to be the guy that has a rep for staying draped on females and women start actively avoiding.

Yeah, good advice. This actually happened to me, a girl smiled at me so I stopped and spoke to her and realized she was in one of my classes that I was in. I felt like the convo went decent, I ended it shortly tho, but question is how would you follow up with something like that? Randomly running into a girl, speaking with her, and then going about your day. Do you just let it be, hope to see her again, or just ask for her number right then and there?

 

[Poh SIti Dawn]

it's fair to some extent. if you step to a chick you don't necessarily know what type of mood they're into. As the man and as the one who stepped to her, it's fair that you should lead the interaction and control it to some extent. The problem is like you said, when they expect you to entertain them. Some of them have this sense of entitlement like you're there for them and aren't trying to make any effort to connect with you. It's our fault though cause we gas their heads up so they expect all of us to be like that. it's nothing wrong with that though. maybe she just needs another type of guy. If you're talking to a girl, don't chase her conversation too much, if you're not feeling eachother, just gracefully eject.. (notice i didn't say "if she's not feeling you")

it's possible to control the vibe but not necessarily easy. I persoally believe that we all have soul or a certain type of energy (whatever you want to call it). Because of that, we can all connect as human beings with enough time and effort. the thing is, in 5 minutes you won't necessarily be able to. Usually you won't have that problem if you approach girls who already flirted with you heavy (she wants to be chosen). but if you find you can't control the vibe for some reason, one trick is to establish dominance first. strong eye contact, let her turn her look away first, there's more to it but you can't necessarily control it consciously. it's all about your mindset. but once you feel like she's letting you lead the interraction, then you take it whereever you want (lighter? flirtier? Wittier? sexier? where ever you take her she'll follow and she'll try to match your energy and style.

but you don't overthink all of this. if you have to force a lot of it, it's generally a bad sign. don't waste your time staying with a chick who's dull or being a bytch. maybe it's not her fault(bad day?) but either way, why try to break a challenge when you could be connecting with women who are more naturally your wavelength? if you're not feeling a chick or you feel like she's not feeling you that much and not even making an effort to try to connect with you, gracefully leave the convo.

Damn good advice, lead the conversation. I think it all makes sense now, just can't approach everyone the same you've really got to make yourself aware of your intentions

 

[Poh SIti Dawn]

What do you guys think about women with children? I know we see all of the threads about them but I never really hear your opinions

 

[T-K-G]

Don't assume because you are texting a female that you are building a connection with her. Texting is one of the worst forms of communication. Its impersonal with all emotion removed from it. And it takes no effort to do.

imo texting should only be used to set up face-to-face encounters or phone calls. Have something interesting to share with someone? Save it until you see them. Its a complete waste to tell a female something interesting through a text message. What you want to achieve is to be interesting WHILE YOU'RE WITH THEM. This will make them want to spend more time with you. You never want to entertain them through a text message, because then they will be more satisfied with impersonal communication. Why would she want to hang out with you more if she already knows what's going on with you through text?

gospel


that texting game will land you in the friendzone with the qiuckness (one time, never again )

only calls and face to face communication and i let my phone die from time to time just to keep em thirsty





only problem i've been having recently is handling girls that are overly shy, like they're attracted to you and whatnot but they're so shy that they're basically blushing the entire time you're tryna have a conversation , ole girl can't calm down and engage now, before she told me she was feelin me it was all good


it's flattering and all but still it's like put me on a pedestal or something

 

[MikelArteta]

What do you guys think about women with children? I know we see all of the threads about them but I never really hear your opinions

if you dont have any kids, i'd advise you to stay away. Especially if the baby dad is in the picture, i guarantee she is giving it up to him on the side

 

[DaRealness]

What do you guys think about women with children? I know we see all of the threads about them but I never really hear your opinions

It has been discussed on here, but speaking for myself, I choose not to get involved with a woman with children. I'd rather have a family of my own, but if another dude takes them on and everything works out, cool....but I personally won't open myself to the negatives of that situation. Even as I get older I still feel the same way. The only thing that could even in the slightest begin to somewhat change my mind is if the woman had a child (just one) out of a stable relationship or marriage.

Obviously women with different baby daddies are a definite no no, that goes without saying.

 

[Rocket Scientist]

Don't assume because you are texting a female that you are building a connection with her. Texting is one of the worst forms of communication. Its impersonal with all emotion removed from it. And it takes no effort to do.

imo texting should only be used to set up face-to-face encounters or phone calls. Have something interesting to share with someone? Save it until you see them. Its a complete waste to tell a female something interesting through a text message. What you want to achieve is to be interesting WHILE YOU'RE WITH THEM. This will make them want to spend more time with you. You never want to entertain them through a text message, because then they will be more satisfied with impersonal communication. Why would she want to hang out with you more if she already knows what's going on with you through text?

Its funny you say that :ohh: I met a woman the other day.Who gave me her # and said "I dont talk on the phone" but here is my #. I took it down and told her im not a texter.When she left,I deleted the #. these women want you to negotiate to make them comfortable. I understand texting is the thing but women are funny and you dont want a convo that goes like this

Male:"We gonna meet at 7

female: "k"

 

[Rocket Scientist]

Women with kids is a PERSONAL Choice. I have nothing against them but I dont date them. One thing you must remember is the baby father will always be the bf or have a chance wth her.There are alot of baby father out here who are jealous of the mother bf. Also dont you think if he told the baby mother "he will change for and is willing to commit" that she wont leave you!? You are the #4 priority in her life (her child,herself,baby father then YOU). Even if she was married before its still a risk because A jealous ex husband finds out and may try to get at you. Reason why because another man raising his child. Life aint like Menace II Society where Ronny (the young boy's father) is OK with Kaine raising his boy,while he is doing a life sentence. Even in a situation like that WIFING up a woman while her child father is in jail is a no-no too. Sad to say the only way you can wife up a single mother (with 1 kid) and not lookng over your shoulder or being in another man's shadow, is if the ex husband or baby father isnt alive.

 

[sixsixtwo]

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[MikelArteta]

Women with kids is a PERSONAL Choice. I have nothing against them but I dont date them. One thing you must remember is the baby father will always be the bf or have a chance wth her.There are alot of baby father out here who are jealous of the mother bf. Also dont you think if he told the baby mother "he will change for and is willing to commit" that she wont leave you!? You are the #4 priority in her life (her child,herself,baby father then YOU). Even if she was married before its still a risk because A jealous ex husband finds out and may try to get at you. Reason why because another man raising his child. Life aint like Menace II Society where Ronny (the young boy's father) is OK with Kaine raising his boy,while he is doing a life sentence. Even in a situation like that WIFING up a woman while her child father is in jail is a no-no too. Sad to say the only way you can wife up a single mother (with 1 kid) and not lookng over your shoulder or being in another man's shadow, is if the ex husband or baby father isnt alive.

only way id ever wife a single mom is if shes a widow like the dad died of natural causes or like in war or something.

the thing is women have a connection to their baby dads no matter how big of a jerk, a$$hole, loser he is, anytime he says he ":changes":, or comes around after being gone for months with a smile, the chemicals in her brain get the best of her, remember women don't think with logic, or think down the road, like a man would think hes a loser hes never gonna change dum ass, but a women will think "i love ihm, this time will be different":, like ive mentioned on here before my godson mom has gone back to her baby dad like ten times since their child was born and teh kid is only 3, every time dude cheats on her, months go back boom back together again rinse and repeat

im not saying all single moms are like that, but the stress aint worth it imo, hell just think of all the women you dated already in your life and none of them worked out right? so what makes you think a EVEN HARDER RELATIONSHIP to begin with will?


http://www.lipstickalley.com/f41/spin-babymothers-do-you-still-sleep-your-childs-father-388419/

http://www.cafemom.com/answers/713391/IS_IT_WRONG_TO_HAVE_SEX_WITH_MY_DAUGHTERS_FATHER

 

[sixsixtwo]

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[MikelArteta]

Its funny you say that :ohh: I met a woman the other day.Who gave me her # and said "I dont talk on the phone" but here is my #. I took it down and told her im not a texter.When she left,I deleted the #. these women want you to negotiate to make them comfortable. I understand texting is the thing but women are funny and you dont want a convo that goes like this

Male:"We gonna meet at 7

female: "k"

women love text buddies

i keep everything to a max, the k, allright, im fine etc.

and i dont talk on the phone either, chicks odnt want to have a 1 on one conversation anymore, they would rather text 10 guys at once, or talk on the phone to a guy while they skyping and ish

 

[MikelArteta]

from a link 662letgo posted

I Slept With Tucker Max, the Internet's Biggest Asshat - Lemondrop.com

damn get married brehs

 

[Doin2Much Williams]

If Coli ever had a meet/greet extravaganza and we ended up at some space futuristic hyper bar/adult type joint with a intergalactic golf range with secksy waitresses to boot (and it's basically the place to be) or we ended up in some posh/chic ... i see cats from the "Gems" thread getting together in they own little section and just shooting the shiit, having a good time.

Trading war stories, tips, throwing back yayger bombs, Kev or Rapdon telling Monsier,

"Doggie, see that group of females by the monitor/dj section; we point - you infiltrate."

LOL.

That's the kind of comradery we got here.


Just a thought.


Hope y'all enjoying this glorious saturday. It's raining here in The Emerald - but my minds forecast says bright and sunny with a high chance of optimism and serenity.

Stay safe and always keep your head up; there's nothing secksier to a woman than a man who conveys strength and character with confidence.

ES El MUNDO, GUAY.


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[360dagod]

Meditation and a clear mind helps with women too...