Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[kevm3]

why in the hell would we have to change our rules for our women?

Reincar talked about Samson.

Samson had found "the one" (or at least that's what he thought...) then he amended his rule for her and look at where it led him...

NEVER break your rules for anyone. And NEVER change them because you want to keep a girl. Only change your rules after some soul searching if you truly reflected on yourself and figured out it's for the best. NEVER to keep someone cause that would be like selling your soul...

A 'real woman' wouldn't make a man 'break his rules'. She'd help him abide by them because she'd also understand the purpose of those rules and would abide by them herself. Women love trying to get men to break their principles and to go against the grain before dumping him. The script is always the same. "All women are not like that. You haven't found the 'right one' yet." They all talk that nice rap of how not all women aren't like that and how they aren't like that and it'll be different, but once you go soft and go against your principles, she's gone in the wind. Your true principles should be way above keeping a female around.

 

[kevm3]

yea i mean she never directly said she liked me but i could gauge that she did like me by her actions and things she said ...

what about her fb ? should i delete that ish or what ?

That girl you were talking about earlier isn't doing anything but playing around with you. If you can't stop hitting her up, then go ahead and delete her. She most likely got bored and is chopping it up with some other guy, but will pop in and hit you up every week or two just to keep you 'on the team' so to say. As a man, you are worth way more than some broad playing with you. Just because this girl says she's a virgin doesn't mean she doesn't have that ability to waste a lot of your time with these little games. Remember, if she can't get it right, she has to get in flight.

 

[kevm3]

Well I don't ever see that, if anything I see women walking by that'll scan the room or look at me while walking and I'll try to make eye contact and they'll quickly look away whether down or to the left or right.

Even in a club situation? Yeah I agree, that's kind of a waste of time because I feel like it would automatically put you into the friend zone. I think this girl at this coffee shop likes me or some shyt, because the other day ago I told her she looked nice and so idk she got kinda nervous and I got scatter brained while making my coffee, looking down for sugar I noticed her looking at me and so I asked what and she laughed and said nothing lol. But today I bought coffee and she came up put both arms on her hips with more attitude asking me what was up and telling me about her day. Do I ask to get coffee? My only problem is I don't know if I'd wife this girl and yeah she's cool but if she wants more then I don't want to hurt her feelings.

Oh yeah good point, so rather than just talking to a girl randomly, you make sure there's at least common interest and first.

And no, my bad I didn't mean cute, I meant Handsome, what's the difference between that and sexy? The cute one makes sense since it usually being said to kids.

A lot of times that's what we've been talking about... You might be standing there, turn your head and see a woman just staring at you and when she catches you looking, she looks away. It's kind of like back in the days in school how when you sat back and the fine girl walked in and you're eyeing her like crazy and then she catches you and you stop looking.

Sexy is typically on another level from handsome, but handsome can be a nice compliment depending on how it's said. Sexy means she is very attracted to you. Handsome, on the other hand, can be like the grown adult looking at a younger man and saying oh wow, he's growing up and quite handsome, or if the woman is your age, "Wow he's very handsome." Handsome can mean a lot depending on the context, but sexy definitely means she's ready to deal with you. A woman your age that says you're handsome means she thinks you look nice and I'll say it's enough to go and see what she's talking about.

 

[kevm3]

Yeah, I guess I'm just ALWAYS trying to be considerate of a chicks feelings and that scares me away. Like I don't to want to mess around because I feel like they're all going to want a relationship out of me and after my first heartbreak I can't maintain one, even with friends I notice that I'll go MIA for months, just because I can't handle the attention and REALLY need to be alone and have my own time.

Yeah good idea. Lol I guess cute isn't a word that should be used to describe a man huh?


Damn, thank you for the advice.

I think with the approaching random women it makes things awkward, same with random women approaching you. If you're not interested in them sometimes it shows or you just fine off awkward, but how come if you come off awkward to women you don't find attractive or see anything in or don't have a bond with you're labeled as having no game n shyt.

If a random woman is near you and gives you a smile when you look at her, you can say hey how you doing or you're in a mall and you ask for a woman's opinion on something to open a conversation up, that's cool... but you definitely don't want to be that bugaboo negro that is always posted up in the mall walking right up to females and saying 'what's up with it mama!' You do that long enough and you start getting a hound rep. You don't want to be the guy that has a rep for staying draped on females and women start actively avoiding.

 

[Poh SIti Dawn]

are you talking about when women approach you and you're not attracted to them? if so then the reason they label you that way is because they don't feel any connection with you. You see some women wold rather tell themselves that you have no game and that's why you didn't holla at them. They'd rather tell themselves that than face the possibility that MAYBE you just weren't feeling them that way...My advice as always is, don't even worry about what they're thinking. 3 out of 4 of them have delusions of grandeur or are straight up insane. trying to figure out why they think whatever they think is impossible and useless most of the times.

if you're talking about girls you're approaching, they might think you have no game because you didn't manage to set a vibe to make everyone comfortable. In that case she could be right. but at the same time, why even approach girls you don't find attractive or don't feel like you'd connect with?

Yeah, that's crazy aint it man? How people can expect so much out of a man, as if we control the vibe of the conversation, it doesn't make sense to me because for some reason some people you just can't naturally vibe with or you need time to, but they all think we're supposed to be fantastic with conversations while they have a dull ass personality.

Good point, but how do you know if you'd connect with a girl or not just by looking at her?

 

[DaRealness]

You were complaining about a female coming in and asking about a dude's behavior. Answering her question was related to this thread because she was asking about male-female interaction. This is a thread for dealing with women. If you can't stand holding a conversation with an actual woman, you don't belong in this thread.

Show me where I singled out one person and mentioned any particular names? There were a few females coming in here and one of them not too long after turned out to be a fraud like I suspected, so don't come here fukking telling me where I do and don't belong. I simply didn't want the thread derailed and even posted the link to the females version. I've been contributing to this thread from day one and I'm here to stay. As you can see, I'm not the only one who expressed that sentiment. I didn't even make a big deal out of it, yet you're acting like I dissed your sister or some shyt.

LOL @ "If you can't stand holding a conversation with an actual woman, you don't belong in this thread." If you don't like what I have to say then put me on ignore and KIM.

 

[Turbulent]

Yeah, that's crazy aint it man? How people can expect so much out of a man, as if we control the vibe of the conversation, it doesn't make sense to me because for some reason some people you just can't naturally vibe with or you need time to, but they all think we're supposed to be fantastic with conversations while they have a dull ass personality.

Good point, but how do you know if you'd connect with a girl or not just by looking at her?

it's fair to some extent. if you step to a chick you don't necessarily know what type of mood they're into. As the man and as the one who stepped to her, it's fair that you should lead the interaction and control it to some extent. The problem is like you said, when they expect you to entertain them. Some of them have this sense of entitlement like you're there for them and aren't trying to make any effort to connect with you. It's our fault though cause we gas their heads up so they expect all of us to be like that. it's nothing wrong with that though. maybe she just needs another type of guy. If you're talking to a girl, don't chase her conversation too much, if you're not feeling eachother, just gracefully eject.. (notice i didn't say "if she's not feeling you")

it's possible to control the vibe but not necessarily easy. I persoally believe that we all have soul or a certain type of energy (whatever you want to call it). Because of that, we can all connect as human beings with enough time and effort. the thing is, in 5 minutes you won't necessarily be able to. Usually you won't have that problem if you approach girls who already flirted with you heavy (she wants to be chosen). but if you find you can't control the vibe for some reason, one trick is to establish dominance first. strong eye contact, let her turn her look away first, there's more to it but you can't necessarily control it consciously. it's all about your mindset. but once you feel like she's letting you lead the interraction, then you take it whereever you want (lighter? flirtier? Wittier? sexier? where ever you take her she'll follow and she'll try to match your energy and style.

but you don't overthink all of this. if you have to force a lot of it, it's generally a bad sign. don't waste your time staying with a chick who's dull or being a bytch. maybe it's not her fault(bad day?) but either way, why try to break a challenge when you could be connecting with women who are more naturally your wavelength? if you're not feeling a chick or you feel like she's not feeling you that much and not even making an effort to try to connect with you, gracefully leave the convo.

 

[MikelArteta]

1) Maintain self control and stop chasing these women. GET SOME BUSINESS about yourself.

That means you need to make women a 3rd or 4th priority in your life. The real key is learning how to shine on women properly and make them come to YOU. Cats over here jumping through flaming hoops and still don't get respect from his 'girl', but his girl goes to a Drake concert and she's ready to rush backstage and is willing to do anything you feel me? As a man you should handle your business anyways, but the more together you have your life together, the more women you will naturally attract. When you got business and you just have activities in your life that you enjoy that doesn't involve women, you will naturally be busy, so you don't have to play them lame phone games to appear you are busy. Then you fit her into YOUR schedule, not the other way around.

2) Don't be soft with a woman and don't tell her your secrets. ALWAYS maintain your respect.

Some of ya'll think you're 'building' with your woman sharing all kinds of information with her, but she'll use that against you when she breaks bad on you. Keeping your mouth shut about as much as your personal business will keep you in a much better position as well as having the side benefit of making you seem more 'mysterious.'

A soft dude will get tore up. Don't be out here crying over these women and do not be that sucker that they show in all these romantic movies, looking into her eyes all glistening, putting your finger on her lip talking about, "Baby me and you together... forever." If she comes in your atmosphere with some nonsense, STEP UP as a man and make sure you check it. Don't try to be no ol' friendly dude just tolerating her nonsense. If she asks can she go to this party with her male coworker and she's supposed to be in a relationship with you, tell her butt if she brings up something like that again, there won't be no me and you... and that you're halfway thinking about letting her go now.

3) NEVER let a woman hold her vagina over your head.

Stop worrying about whether if you do this or that that she's going to give it to another man. A woman will or won't give it to a man almost regardless of what you do. A lot of these cats out here being the 'perfect boyfriend,' paying for her classes, being there when she needs, etc., get cheated on. That's why you got to prepare yourself mentally. If your woman decides to mess with another dude, don't blame yourself as long as you kept it respectable, moral and truthful. Just let her go and keep it pushing. If you try to do what appeals to her, you will end up more confused than her. A woman will ALWAYS blame you and have some excuse when she's ready to mess with the next dude. It might be 'you're too clingy. You're paying me too much attention." or it could be, "You weren't paying me enough attention." As you can see, women got multiple ways to blame you for her actions. You, on the other hand, should not try to reason with a woman. Kick a disloyal one to the curb and keep it pushing. Also realize, you NEVER own a woman's vagina, so don't think you know what she's doing with it when you're not around.

What you need to worry about doing is staying down to your rules and principles. If she busts bad or tells you she's going to mess with this or that cat, tell her to get lost. There is NO reason to stress over what a woman is doing with her body. You are wasting precious thought and your own ability to enjoy life.

4) As a man, relationships are to be rewarded, not sought.
As a man, you should reward a great female with a relationship once you have assessed her characteristics are worthy of long-term potential. This should be a rigorous analysis of her personal character and how she interacts with you. As a man, NEVER be the one that just seeks out relationships. You will appear thirsty and you will accept less than what you're worth...

5) Be a man of value

Do not accept less than what you're worth. Do not accept a female into your life if she isn't a net positive. If she's bringing a whole bunch of drama or nonsense into your life, tell her to step it up and get her situation right or keep it pushing. She ha to bring value to the table to mess with you.

6) Stop caring what a woman thinks

Obviously, this is one of the most important one. Stop wondering if she likes your clothes or how you talk or a host of other nonsense. Do YOU and never think about how she will react to it. Think more about how close you are staying to your principles. If she wants to mess with you, she will find a way to be in your vicinity. If she doesn't let her go. These females really ain't that important that you need to rearrange your whole personality and just focus on making yourself into a man that caters to what a woman likes.

7) Get in where you fit in

You won't ever have EVERY woman liking you, just like you can have a chef that makes the best steak in the world, but you got people out there that won't touch it because they are vegetarian. So focus on the women that like you for being you and stop trying to switch things up and get at that woman that you have to go out of character to obtain, because sooner or later she WILL see your tips and tactics and you've just wasted a whole bunch of time. Go for the women that you can be natural around and she's infatuated with your natural state.

bump

 

[Mister_DoItNice]

It's funny how you're immediately vilified for choosing not go along with the status quo. I refuse to alter my views in order to please someone else. The coli is just a microcosm of society in general. Anyway gentlemen keep chopping up that game. It's gym time.

 

[rapdonttweet]

Show me where I singled out one person and mentioned any particular names? There were a few females coming in here and one of them not too long after turned out to be a fraud like I suspected, so don't come here fukking telling me where I do and don't belong. I simply didn't want the thread derailed and even posted the link to the females version. I've been contributing to this thread from day one and I'm here to stay. As you can see, I'm not the only one who expressed that sentiment. I didn't even make a big deal out of it, yet you're acting like I dissed your sister or some shyt.

There was one female in the thread when you posted that. And you know who it was. Go back and read if you forgot. As long as the post is related to the topic, what is your problem exactly? I repeat, this thread is about *gasp* "dealing with women."

LOL @ "If you can't stand holding a conversation with an actual woman, you don't belong in this thread." If you don't like what I have to say then put me on ignore and KIM.

Says the guy complaining about people contributing. Follow your own advice. Anyway, you're the one derailing the thread at this point. I'll drop this, if you will.

 

[Rocket Scientist]

If your on a social networking site and the woman your dating or your wifey has over 1400-1500 friends...thats a warning sign.

 

[DaRealness]

There was one female in the thread when you posted that. And you know who it was. Go back and read if you forgot. As long as the post is related to the topic, what is your problem exactly? I repeat, this thread is about *gasp* "dealing with women."



Says the guy complaining about people contributing. Follow your own advice. Anyway, you're the one derailing the thread at this point. I'll drop this, if you will.

Yeah, I'm willing to drop it because you're just saying a whole bunch of nothing and I really don't give a fukk about you either way. Peace fam.

 

[Jahmal]

look at my location bruh,

ny

I'm originally from Ny. Hooking up means sex there.

 

[MikelArteta]

If your on a social networking site and the woman your dating or your wifey has over 1400-1500 friends...thats a warning sign.

yup but the thing is nowadays alot of women have like two profiles, one for family and friends and thier bf, and one for everyone else.

 

[rapdonttweet]

Don't assume because you are texting a female that you are building a connection with her. Texting is one of the worst forms of communication. Its impersonal with all emotion removed from it. And it takes no effort to do.

imo texting should only be used to set up face-to-face encounters or phone calls. Have something interesting to share with someone? Save it until you see them. Its a complete waste to tell a female something interesting through a text message. What you want to achieve is to be interesting WHILE YOU'RE WITH THEM. This will make them want to spend more time with you. You never want to entertain them through a text message, because then they will be more satisfied with impersonal communication. Why would she want to hang out with you more if she already knows what's going on with you through text?