Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[MikelArteta]

Aye fellas. would yall take this as disrespect? or am I being sensitive? a few things happened

Been seeing a chick...
1) I'm taking a shower... she brushes her teeth and then joins me but has mouthwash in her mouth. She intentionally spits it out on my feet in the shower. Then the next day is like "yeah I spit it on your ugly feet"

2) later that day she's walking 10-20 ft behind me for about an hour...

3) on her phone. To me, I think it's fine if you're on the phone... but just say "give me a min while I check this" instead she's on the phone and not even walking as I continue to walk.

I tell her these things and she starts laughing especially at the mouthwash...

Am i being sensitive? or would yall be cool with that?

I wouldn't be cool with it. I know it's hard if a chick is attractive you give leeway and all that but sorry all of that sounds disrespectful.

When I'm out with a woman I don't even take my phone out. I actually called out a chick last week when we went to a restaurant and she was out there every second wanting to do boomerangs.

 

[#BOTHSIDES]

Depends on your kind of relationship, like the banter teasing, does that go both ways? Is that a foreplay thing? It's not exactly witticism but if it's just playful teasing, that's a big part of a lot of people's flirting/expressing love/desire, comes from childhood, like teasing girls on the playground. For a lot of people, it's easier to tease than to say I like you/I want you.

The phone thing is not great. But, here's the real test is how she responds to you bringing it up, assumedly in a mature way: if she's disrespectful, or says well that's just the way I am, shows signs of rigid/inflexible thinking. And what if it was a more serious subject, she would possibly react the same. How much or how often can you live with, is your question to yourself.

I feel you bro. I have no problem being playful and teasing... grabbin ass, sayin dirty things in a woman's ear, but if a woman expresses to me that something i said or did....didn't sit well with her... i wouldn't laugh about it or call her sensitive unless she was bothered by every little thing I did or said. This was my first time ever addressing something with her. When trynna talk about it, I found her behavior dismissive and deflective. I think the bros in this thread are right.
As a man...if you don't like something and you address...i think it's the right thing to do.

Sounds like she got loose screws
What else has happened
Got to be more lol

Nothin much happened. She's not my GF. only been kickin it with her for a few weeks... I'm gonna assume she was being playful...idk it was 4:00am and she was a little tipsy but the fact that the next morning when she was completely sober and said, "Yeah i spit it on your ugly feet" was crossing the line IMO. I've never dealt with anything like this... and for me to bring it up then she laughs and says you're acting like a princess? im like WTF? is this gaslighting?
A man tries to point out some BS and it's dismissed. Yall are right though. I'm gonna let her go

she seems rude. Address that shyt before she starts to think bullying you is ok, cause it seems like she already finds it funny

facts. time to throw her away

I wouldn't be cool with it. I know it's hard if a chick is attractive you give leeway and all that but sorry all of that sounds disrespectful.

When I'm out with a woman I don't even take my phone out. I actually called out a chick last week when we went to a restaurant and she was out there every second wanting to do boomerangs.

you speakin facts bro. I'm like disrespect is based on how that person feels. But for her to flip it on me and be like "you're just being sensitive. I've done worse things to my exes and they were fine. Let me ask my friend if she finds this funny."
To me, I think most guys just let a lot of shyt slide and don't say anything so that they can keep the peace and keep some p*ssy around. Not me... I think she's gaslighting me. she keeps hitting me up asking if i
m ok and invites me to lunch and whatnot... but shytttt

 

[re'up]

I feel you bro. I have no problem being playful and teasing... grabbin ass, sayin dirty things in a woman's ear, but if a woman expresses to me that something i said or did....didn't sit well with her... i wouldn't laugh about it or call her sensitive unless she was bothered by every little thing I did or said. This was my first time ever addressing something with her. When trynna talk about it, I found her behavior dismissive and deflective. I think the bros in this thread are right.
As a man...if you don't like something and you address...i think it's the right thing to do.

Says it all right there. Though for many/most people it's a default mode. I can't think of 5 people I know who take personal "criticism" well.

I'm much more inclined to keep all my relationships, on some level, rather than "cutting people off", but not everyone feels like that.

That is not exactly gaslighting, but it's pretty close to it.. It's like someone who acts abusively will sometimes say "well you made me do it", or "you are too sensitive", these aren't good qualities, but I really think they are ingrained in a lot of people.

It usually takes doing a lot of work on one's self to be able to understand that, like even if I didn't mean to offend, you still take responsibility and apologize.

 

[#BOTHSIDES]

Says it all right there. Though for many/most people it's a default mode. I can't think of 5 people I know who take personal "criticism" well.

I'm much more inclined to keep all my relationships, on some level, rather than "cutting people off", but not everyone feels like that.

That is not exactly gaslighting, but it's pretty close to it.. It's like someone who acts abusively will sometimes say "well you made me do it", or "you are too sensitive", these aren't good qualities, but I really think they are ingrained in a lot of people.

It usually takes doing a lot of work on one's self to be able to understand that, like even if I didn't mean to offend, you still take responsibility and apologize.

I agree with you...

 

[WaveWhisperer]

I know men aren’t allowed to admit they’re hurt or messed up over a breakup but Tyrese just said 5 minutes of real shyt

Women are cold and ruthless when they’re ready to leave. They can give a fukk. My last breakup (which has been documented in this thread and in other threads) opened my eyes WIDE OPEN. That’s why now, when I’m ready to leave and I start feeling sorry for a girl or mercy when she begs me not to leave her I sit back and think…would she have the same consideration for me when she’s ready to move on, would my begging and pleading make her stay, would she be worried about me after she hops on the new guy. I’ve become more mechanical, icy even. I just cut off a girl 2 weeks ago who basically begged me not to stop dealing with her and the whole time inside I was like

Sad part is I wasn’t like that before but there’s something shocking to the consciousness when a woman treats you the same way Tyrese just described after so much time, emotions, and memories shared. You go from talking EVERYDAY all day to zero nothing perfect strangers type shyt. It can change you permanently

Needed to read this for a reminder . Went through a break up earlier this year and insee it crystal clear , eyes wide open.

 

[Apollo Creed]

Aye fellas. would yall take this as disrespect? or am I being sensitive? a few things happened

Been seeing a chick...
1) I'm taking a shower... she brushes her teeth and then joins me but has mouthwash in her mouth. She intentionally spits it out on my feet in the shower. Then the next day is like "yeah I spit it on your ugly feet"

2) later that day she's walking 10-20 ft behind me for about an hour...

3) on her phone. To me, I think it's fine if you're on the phone... but just say "give me a min while I check this" instead she's on the phone and not even walking as I continue to walk.

I tell her these things and she starts laughing especially at the mouthwash...

Am i being sensitive? or would yall be cool with that?

cut that stupid hoe off mane

nothing cute about it. we tend to see dysfunction as cute or playing and there is nothing normal about it.

 

[MikelArteta]

Had another good date today. Crazy thing I remembered this girl from years ago but she was stuck up back then.

 

[MikelArteta]

I know men aren’t allowed to admit they’re hurt or messed up over a breakup but Tyrese just said 5 minutes of real shyt

Women are cold and ruthless when they’re ready to leave. They can give a fukk. My last breakup (which has been documented in this thread and in other threads) opened my eyes WIDE OPEN. That’s why now, when I’m ready to leave and I start feeling sorry for a girl or mercy when she begs me not to leave her I sit back and think…would she have the same consideration for me when she’s ready to move on, would my begging and pleading make her stay, would she be worried about me after she hops on the new guy. I’ve become more mechanical, icy even. I just cut off a girl 2 weeks ago who basically begged me not to stop dealing with her and the whole time inside I was like

Sad part is I wasn’t like that before but there’s something shocking to the consciousness when a woman treats you the same way Tyrese just described after so much time, emotions, and memories shared. You go from talking EVERYDAY all day to zero nothing perfect strangers type shyt. It can change you permanently

You preaching breh you preaching

And thankfully throigh experience it helps. We all know how cold women gets when they are no longer emotionally invested in you.

Women will crush your heart and be riding a new dikk next week without a care of how you feel.

 

[OSUBaneBrowns]

Depends on your kind of relationship, like the banter teasing, does that go both ways? Is that a foreplay thing? It's not exactly witticism but if it's just playful teasing, that's a big part of a lot of people's flirting/expressing love/desire, comes from childhood, like teasing girls on the playground. For a lot of people, it's easier to tease than to say I like you/I want you.

The phone thing is not great. But, here's the real test is how she responds to you bringing it up, assumedly in a mature way: if she's disrespectful, or says well that's just the way I am, shows signs of rigid/inflexible thinking. And what if it was a more serious subject, she would possibly react the same. How much or how often can you live with, is your question to yourself.

She testing you to see what she can get away with. If you wasn't feeling it, just tell her and you not going to apologize how you feel about it .

 

[Rocket Scientist]

Aye fellas. would yall take this as disrespect? or am I being sensitive? a few things happened

Been seeing a chick...
1) I'm taking a shower... she brushes her teeth and then joins me but has mouthwash in her mouth. She intentionally spits it out on my feet in the shower. Then the next day is like "yeah I spit it on your ugly feet"

2) later that day she's walking 10-20 ft behind me for about an hour...

3) on her phone. To me, I think it's fine if you're on the phone... but just say "give me a min while I check this" instead she's on the phone and not even walking as I continue to walk.

I tell her these things and she starts laughing especially at the mouthwash...

Am i being sensitive? or would yall be cool with that?

Cut her off. If she is bold enough to spit on your feet she will spit in your face. That aint no joke.

 

[John Reena]

Hope yoh left her on read

Gave her vague dry responses

 

[VertigoKnight]

Aye fellas. would yall take this as disrespect? or am I being sensitive? a few things happened

Been seeing a chick...
1) I'm taking a shower... she brushes her teeth and then joins me but has mouthwash in her mouth. She intentionally spits it out on my feet in the shower. Then the next day is like "yeah I spit it on your ugly feet"

2) later that day she's walking 10-20 ft behind me for about an hour...

3) on her phone. To me, I think it's fine if you're on the phone... but just say "give me a min while I check this" instead she's on the phone and not even walking as I continue to walk.

I tell her these things and she starts laughing especially at the mouthwash...

Am i being sensitive? or would yall be cool with that?

Very Disrespectful. That phone business would have me asking her what's up as its flagrant disrespect.

Imagine we're time spending together and you're on your phone.

It's actually a good indicator of a woman. Any chick I see we both agree when we're together phones aren't a thing as spending time with one another is our focus. To see a chick happy to be all up on hers.



Send her to the bushes.

 

[John Reena]

Aye fellas. would yall take this as disrespect? or am I being sensitive? a few things happened

Been seeing a chick...
1) I'm taking a shower... she brushes her teeth and then joins me but has mouthwash in her mouth. She intentionally spits it out on my feet in the shower. Then the next day is like "yeah I spit it on your ugly feet"

2) later that day she's walking 10-20 ft behind me for about an hour...

3) on her phone. To me, I think it's fine if you're on the phone... but just say "give me a min while I check this" instead she's on the phone and not even walking as I continue to walk.

I tell her these things and she starts laughing especially at the mouthwash...

Am i being sensitive? or would yall be cool with that?

U shoulda checked her from da FIRST sign of disrespect. Females LOVE to test to see where ya manhood is. U gotta dump her ASAP. She def don’t respect you as a man. Ain’t no coming back from that.

 

[#BOTHSIDES]

U shoulda checked her from da FIRST sign of disrespect. Females LOVE to test to see where ya manhood is. U gotta dump her ASAP. She def don’t respect you as a man. Ain’t no coming back from that.

Facts… even though I said something about every situation as it happened she just deflected or brushed it off by saying “oh it’s not that serious. I was just playin” “you’re taking things too seriously”

I never thought to spit mouthwash or anything on someone and thought it was funny or fun.

 

[Apollo Creed]

Facts… even though I said something about every situation as it happened she just deflected or brushed it off by saying “oh it’s not that serious. I was just playin” “you’re taking things too seriously”

I never thought to spit mouthwash or anything on someone and thought it was funny or fun.

Outside of america bytch woulda got bust in the mouth. You need to dead that situation.