Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[MikelArteta]

Edit:

Lately it seems like a lot more dudes genuinely dont really value their relationship or continually wait for an opportunity to cheat. Most are because they provide financially, others are out of curiosity or pettiness.

To each their own but I mean… does anyone actually care to be wit a chic? Like be married, vows, kids grow old not cheat etc?

Yeah but I also want to win lotto max on friday

 

[Guvnor]

"Hey Big Head?"

1) She's trying to stroke her ego by getting attention. (Dating Swipe Apps and Social Media give her what she wants, but not what she needs - and when they don't get that suicide ideation)

or

2) Just got out of a relationship/trying to get out of a relationship and needs a hard dikk to land on. Better for her to go with a known quantity than to roll the dice on new Tinder/Club D.

What to do about it?

1) What do you want from the situation? Are you trying to hit?

This is the real man's question. Most dudes just are on automatic bang mode.

If banging is the object, then a cat needs to understand the typical dynamic.

The typical male/female dynamic.

• She makes herself pretty.
• She shows up.
• You see that she looks pretty.
• You do your song and dance to get her interested. YOU INVEST
• She Judges
• She chooses you.
• Y'all hook up - that's her investment, her greatest investment to hear other people tell it.
• The balance of power momentarily shifts back to you, but if you want her again
• She has the power back.

1) The Easy Way In - The easiest thing to do is just get back with her on text/phone.
Sound her out/Vibe Check .
Give her the option to meet up, so you can catch up, and then back to your place.

This is what 99% of dudes will advise you to do.

Where this usually falls apart

• Timing - Dude don't get back to her quick enough. (plenty of bangs have been lost when the 10pm text was not responded to)
• The back and forth texting/talking to sound her out, get her comfortable
• Her hemming and hawing on meeting up
• Dude treating this like a boyfriend situation, when it's more often a FB/FWB situation
• Her treating this like a boyfriend situation, but she's in no way, shape, form or action legit girlfriend material.

In general, because sex is so easy for them to get, even decent sex - she's not as pressed as dude is when it comes to getting her back blown out.

Her passions ebb and flow, and dude (or someone else in her contact list) may or may not receive her "blessing".

Her lack of decisiveness, the coming and going of her passion, is why these chicks are so hard to nail in the first place, but can be so satisfying even when the sex itself is lackluster.

The game is getting played on a lot of levels, whether or not cats want to acknowledge it....

2) The Right Way In - That said, the proper way to play this, imo, assuming you want on demand P, is to make her invest HEAVILY FIRST.

Yeah I pushed her away for my current gf, cut ties with her and she reached back out. She did get out of a relationship not long ango and when I asked her about it she insisted she just wanted to say Hi but I know her. She probably wanted to fukk or hoped I was single im thinking. Either way at this point I'll just block her.

 

[jilla82]

broken link

 

[Astroslik]

Fellas, i’m in cape town rn and all i can say is

This gotta be the MF’in THIC capital of the world. I always knew it would be between here and kenya..but lawd have mercy..

Women aside though, the world is a truly something remarkable.

Travel. Travel. Travel.

Especially, while you’re still alive and able to.

Ain’t touchin no datin apps. Gonna do my shyt in person.

i highly recommend dating apps in south africa

 

[Apollo Creed]

Yeah I pushed her away for my current gf, cut ties with her and she reached back out. She did get out of a relationship not long ango and when I asked her about it she insisted she just wanted to say Hi but I know her. She probably wanted to fukk or hoped I was single im thinking. Either way at this point I'll just block her.

the only woman that will ever check on you with no strings attached is ya mama, and even that bytch wants something


we gotta stop overcomplicating life because it rewards women's fukkerry because they live for attention. The bros that are doing numbers do numbers because they keep shyt simple. Give a chick a small window to give the signal she tryna smash, and if you are the one having to carry the load of things pull out. The sex that comes from you putting in all the work is never worth it.

 

[Apollo Creed]

i highly recommend dating apps in south africa

Dating Apps are the shyt in non western countries lol.

 

[Brandsdale]

Yeah but I also want to win lotto max on friday

whats the new jackpot?

 

[Brandsdale]

I`m not doing that.

fair enough

 

[Ahadi]

the only woman that will ever check on you with no strings attached is ya mama, and even that bytch wants something


we gotta stop overcomplicating life because it rewards women's fukkerry because they live for attention. The bros that are doing numbers do numbers because they keep shyt simple. Give a chick a small window to give the signal she tryna smash, and if you are the one having to carry the load of things pull out. The sex that comes from you putting in all the work is never worth it.

I’m talking to this one joint who I never hooked up with, but she’s from the past, DMed me on IG and wants to go for lunch. Seems like she’s fishing for info:

I’m sending flirt remarks to test the waters, she somewhat responding / disregarding others then will ask questions like

“any other trips other than work planned?”

“What made you move to a new city?”

“What are you doing now?”

 

[Guvnor]

the only woman that will ever check on you with no strings attached is ya mama, and even that bytch wants something


we gotta stop overcomplicating life because it rewards women's fukkerry because they live for attention. The bros that are doing numbers do numbers because they keep shyt simple. Give a chick a small window to give the signal she tryna smash, and if you are the one having to carry the load of things pull out. The sex that comes from you putting in all the work is never worth it.

You right, clearly she wanted to smash but was tryna play it cool. On my end I'm not trying to a smash her though cause she got too much feelings for me and I'm not into her in that way. Better she find someone else lol.

I’m talking to this one joint who I never hooked up with, but she’s from the past, DMed me on IG and wants to go for lunch. Seems like she’s fishing for info:

I’m sending flirt remarks to test the waters, she somewhat responding / disregarding others then will ask questions like

“any other trips other than work planned?”

“What made you move to a new city?”

“What are you doing now?”

Seems to me like either she wants free lunch or is looking for a beta male provider as ams would say lol. She gonna string you along but don't got that high interest like that. I could be wrong though but she ain't flirting back I would bush her.

Did you actually date her before? How did that go?

 

[Apollo Creed]

I’m talking to this one joint who I never hooked up with, but she’s from the past, DMed me on IG and wants to go for lunch. Seems like she’s fishing for info:

I’m sending flirt remarks to test the waters, she somewhat responding / disregarding others then will ask questions like

“any other trips other than work planned?”

“What made you move to a new city?”

“What are you doing now?”

she is sizing you up. I'm not talking to a chick from the past that I didn't smash unless we were actually cool, or its some stupid shyt like responding to social media stories and we trade a few quick jokes then go about our day.

 

[Apollo Creed]

You right, clearly she wanted to smash but was tryna play it cool. On my end I'm not trying to a smash her though cause she got too much feelings for me and I'm not into her in that way. Better she find someone else lol.


Seems to me like either she wants free lunch or is looking for a beta male provider as ams would say lol. She gonna string you along but don't got that high interest like that. I could be wrong though but she ain't flirting back I would bush her.

This may be extreme, but if im not tryna smash or we aren't coworkers/actually cool I'd rather not waste time talking to a woman because in todays age most have literally nothing interesting to talk about. And if I'm trying to smash it's because she sent the signal that she is game and we just doing a energy check to make sure the person isn't a surface level weirdo (because if she can't even hide she weird before sex you risking your life).

One thing I noticed is men tend to be groomed to have to convince women they are worth the woman's time, and the men who buy into this logic miss out on sex, relationships, and generally waste time.

Chicks tend to be drawn to men who clearly exhibit her existence means nothing to him (in the context of he's gonna shine with or without her, thus she wants part of the ride). And in this instance the moment you show dependency on her she knows she "won" and she moves on to the next man she wants to conquer (literally or figuratively).

 

[Ahadi]

she is sizing you up. I'm not talking to a chick from the past that I didn't smash unless we were actually cool, or its some stupid shyt like responding to social media stories and we trade a few quick jokes then go about our day.

You right, clearly she wanted to smash but was tryna play it cool. On my end I'm not trying to a smash her though cause she got too much feelings for me and I'm not into her in that way. Better she find someone else lol.


Seems to me like either she wants free lunch or is looking for a beta male provider as ams would say lol. She gonna string you along but don't got that high interest like that. I could be wrong though but she ain't flirting back I would bush her.

Did you actually date her before? How did that go?

Yeah so I messed with her friend for a tiny bit. Didn’t have much going for me, besides working at a music label, I was a little plugged.

Definitely grew into my looks, working out, finances are good, etc. We always followed each other on Instagram, probably for about 10 years…. Liking each others photos, she recently liked a photo of my meal prep and wanted to catch up, she didn’t ask sooner cause I was in a “relationship”

I have to hear her voice to determine her agenda. We’ve just been texting here & there.

But I could see beta male potential especially if she’s around 28-29

 

[Ahadi]

This may be extreme, but if im not tryna smash or we aren't coworkers/actually cool I'd rather not waste time talking to a woman because in todays age most have literally nothing interesting to talk about. And if I'm trying to smash it's because she sent the signal that she is game and we just doing a energy check to make sure the person isn't a surface level weirdo (because if she can't even hide she weird before sex you risking your life).

One thing I noticed is men tend to be groomed to have to convince women they are worth the woman's time, and the men who buy into this logic miss out on sex, relationships, and generally waste time.

Chicks tend to be drawn to men who clearly exhibit her existence means nothing to him (in the context of he's gonna shine with or without her, thus she wants part of the ride). And in this instance the moment you show dependency on her she knows she "won" and she moves on to the next man she wants to conquer (literally or figuratively).

Not extreme at all. We move black / white. They move in grey.

I’m replying here and there, but I’m not investing much. If you’re trying to catch up, you need to prove yourself and buy back in.

Whether it’s paying for lunch or it’s flying me out to you, whatever. There’s a cost for buying back in.

 

[Apollo Creed]

Not extreme at all. We move black / white. They move in grey.

I’m replying here and there, but I’m not investing much. If you’re trying to catch up, you need to prove yourself and buy back in.

Whether it’s paying for lunch or it’s flying me out to you, whatever. There’s a cost for buying back in.

any chick from the past that's coming back is pretty much going to have to beg me for dikk/toss the ass at me lol. I'm not putting in any effort. I wouldn't even do lunch, it's you pull up on me or I pull up on you and then after we smash we can maybe grab a bite if it was good lol.

We gotta set the precedent that today is a new day. Chicks do this dumb shyt because they know somebody will bite, and post 27 you start to see a ton of this stuff which should be more insulting than anything. The only chicks I may give a pass is someone who was legit in a faithful relationship my entire time knowing them, but if we were both single in the past and never did anything (unless distance was the blocker) then I feel it wasn't meant to be, because after HS and especially after College we all grown, if we tryna smash then we gonna smash