Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Braman]

If a woman is feeling a dude, she will talk more AND response to anything that comes out his mouth… is what I’ve learned.

Different strokes for different folks, but asking what school she went to seems like wasted dialogue to me if y’all both share something in common at that moment — which was the gym.

I disagree with this I think he’s right on both accounts 1- lack of verbal usually means she wasn’t interested, 2- There a dozen nggas who can and have had gym convo with her. She works there. So he’s right to veer off that.

A better move would have been just keep it at ‘around the city’, then mention a poplar hot spot. That would open up ‘yea I been there ’ or even better ‘no
I don’t do that’, which opens up ‘well what do you do’…voila.

Only bro can tell if she was either disinterested or just nervous, but an easy follow up would be ‘I just remembered, I think I saw you at…’. She should laugh and give 1 of the 2 answers above. If she still giving you the ‘no’ ….never speak to th woman again

 

[Rocket Scientist]

Approaching a woman at her job on BREAK etc...is different then approaching chick at Starbucks. Yes always be aggresive straight to point but cautious cause last thing you need is her telling everybody at work that you come off certain way.Last thing you want is he said she said battle. So in case stuff goes left you have a good spin .

 

[Rocket Scientist]

I disagree with this I think he’s right on both accounts 1- lack of verbal usually means she wasn’t interested, 2- There a dozen nggas who can and have had gym convo with her. She works there. So he’s right to veer off that.

A better move would have been just keep it at ‘around the city’, then mention a poplar hot spot. That would open up ‘yea I been there ’ or even better ‘no
I don’t do that’, which opens up ‘well what do you do’…voila.

Only bro can tell if she was either disinterested or just nervous, but an easy follow up would be ‘I just remembered, I think I saw you at…’. She should laugh and give 1 of the 2 answers above. If she still giving you the ‘no’ ….never speak to th woman again
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This is what im saying. ..... The chick wasnt playing with her hair or anything. She didnt walk between the cars or anything we know when a woman likes us we just know. So I knew it wasnt gonna go way I thought. I had to think fast. Im almost 39 i know how it goes. She been there for a week,I never seen her talk to any dude,smile at any while I was there. I think she could be socially awkward or shy. If I saw her in Target or something totally different. She was around her boss today,and I assume her and boss going to lunch.I had to gage real quick and bounce.Pulling women at their job is different then anything else. Why I mention parking lots.

 

[re'up]

@Tiger Hoods

Be direct, honest, and OPEN. You are playing your cards too close, being evasive, and being essentially misleading. You have to express interest first, then attraction, then some kind of intention. People severely overthink things. Timing is important. Reading the situation is too. My read is you are a little too in your head.

You have to be open, to open up a convo. You can gauge interest by how they respond. The parking lot approach? Harder in some ways, because they are going somewhere, and may be in a hurry, you don't know if they are just distracted and busy, or really not feeling you. Plus, strange guy approaching in parking lot, saying something about I know your from somewhere? What is she supposed to do with that?

In something like this, it's small things that serve as connectors. You are basically co workers, you know where she works, you know her hours, you know her co workers. Does she drink coffee? Does she wear expensive trainers? Start small, a lay up, not a three point shot. Hit three lay ups, and then try a juimpshot. Sorry for sports metaphors.

 

[WIA20XX]

@Tiger Hoods

You already got my take on it.
Everyone has a different take as well.

The real question is what are you gonna do next?

Cause it sound like you've got your mind made up and you're just trying to defend your actions.

But did you get a phone#? IG connect? Solid way to get at the broad "off campus"?

Eyes on the prize.

 

[Rocket Scientist]

@Tiger Hoods

Be direct, honest, and OPEN. You are playing your cards too close, being evasive, and being essentially misleading. You have to express interest first, then attraction, then some kind of intention. People severely overthink things. Timing is important. Reading the situation is too. My read is you are a little too in your head.

You have to be open, to open up a convo. You can gauge interest by how they respond. The parking lot approach? Harder in some ways, because they are going somewhere, and may be in a hurry, you don't know if they are just distracted and busy, or really not feeling you. Plus, strange guy approaching in parking lot, saying something about I know your from somewhere? What is she supposed to do with that?

In something like this, it's small things that serve as connectors. You are basically co workers, you know where she works, you know her hours, you know her co workers. Does she drink coffee? Does she wear expensive trainers? Start small, a lay up, not a three point shot.

I see your point. Again as co worker I wouldnt approach in place of business thats a No No. All these cameras etc. See my point is brothas situations can turn into Me Too type shyts if not careful. Yes I could would have should have but women twist turn and lie.Lets be real yall.As for scary guy in parking lot now thats overthinking it. If I saw her at Wendys I would speak regardless .If she feeling like that she could have said more. I cant read minds. That smooth guy beating around bush shyt dont work. You have to feel a woman out. A woman can feel you,and they hate predictability. We cant think for them. Women get approached at their job daily. If she wanted to be discreet etc she could find ways. She can smile wink eye me all day but as an adult if she cant verbally express myself. Im wasting time.

 

[Braman]

@Tiger Hoods

Be direct, honest, and OPEN. You are playing your cards too close, being evasive, and being essentially misleading. You have to express interest first, then attraction, then some kind of intention. People severely overthink things. Timing is important. Reading the situation is too. My read is you are a little too in your head.

You have to be open, to open up a convo. You can gauge interest by how they respond. The parking lot approach? Harder in some ways, because they are going somewhere, and may be in a hurry, you don't know if they are just distracted and busy, or really not feeling you. Plus, strange guy approaching in parking lot, saying something about I know your from somewhere? What is she supposed to do with that?

In something like this, it's small things that serve as connectors. You are basically co workers, you know where she works, you know her hours, you know her co workers. Does she drink coffee? Does she wear expensive trainers? Start small, a lay up, not a three point shot. Hit three lay ups, and then try a juimpshot. Sorry for sports metaphors.

The two bolds are contradicting imo. You told him be straight up…then you said start small lmao

Bottom line is everything is working against you to bag a chick that goes to your gym, so just imagine if it’s a chick that WORKS there


All logistics and logic are working against you, there is no ‘right’ way. There is no logic. Literally do whatever comes to mind. It’s gonna take something off kilter outside the box to get a W here so fukk it let your hands go and do whatever comes to mind

 

[re'up]

I see your point. Again as co worker I wouldnt approach in place of business thats a No No. All these cameras etc. See my point is brothas situations can turn into Me Too type shyts if not careful. Yes I could would have should have but women twist turn and lie.Lets be real yall.As for scary guy in parking lot now thats overthinking it. If I saw her at Wendys I would speak regardless .If she feeling like that she could have said more. I cant read minds. That smooth guy beating around bush shyt dont work. You have to feel a woman out. A woman can feel you,and they hate predictability. We cant think for them. Women get approached at their job daily. If she wanted to be discreet etc she could find ways. She can smile wink eye me all day but as an adult if she cant verbally express myself. Im wasting time.

Not beating around the bush, but you can't just say "lets go out", why would you go out? You have to find connections to each other.

 

[re'up]

The two bolds are contradicting imo. You told him be straight up…then you said start small lmao

Bottom line is everything is working against you to bag a chick that goes to your gym, so just imagine if it’s a chick that WORKS there


All logistics and logic are working against you, there is no ‘right’ way. There is no logic. Literally do whatever comes to mind. It’s gonna take something off kilter outside the box to get a W here so fukk it let your hands go and do whatever comes to mind

Fair point, but like I say, you can't just yell out "Go out with me", it's abrupt, it's blunt, it's jarring. You have to find some connections, and then be direct, as in let's go out. The start small is like finding where you two may intersect. You can do this in a 5 minute conversation or you can do it in two weeks. I can do it in like 10 minutes. It can get stretched to months. The speed is up to you and the situation.

If you are like Future or something you can do that lol

 

[Rocket Scientist]

@Tiger Hoods
You already got my take on it.
Everyone has a different take as well.

The real question is what are you gonna do next?

Cause it sound like you've got your mind made up and you're just trying to defend your actions.

But did you get a phone#? IG connect? Solid way to get at the broad "off campus"?

Eyes on the prize.

First and foremost forget all that # etc lets hope we have no drama or uncomfort . 2nd I got to keep it moving.Just go with flow,her reaction to seeing me tomorrow or Friday etc would speak volumes. I dont regret it. Of course I have scenarios .Yes I defend what I did,I dont regret it L or not. So we will see. Everyone has great takes but bottom line im an client she is an employee .

 

[Rocket Scientist]

If you a decent looking bruh and you approach a woman she knows why you are approaching.Again women arent stupid ,that being smooth shyt never worked for me.Im straight up always have always will be. Its either yes or no. If you choose to give 1 word answers im leaving the convo. Im not pulling teeth .

 

[Rocket Scientist]

Not beating around the bush, but you can't just say "lets go out", why would you go out? You have to find connections to each other.

If you approach a woman and she isnt talking there is no connection. Find out what you have in common after you connect short phone convo or on 1st date.Convo got to be short imo. On first date you find connections etc.

 

[re'up]

Context is really important, sometimes it's not a good time. Sometimes they are thinking about someone else. Sometimes they are distracted, or in a hurry. Honestly, same with me, I try to be open, always, but I know people have thrown interest at me, and I just left it there.'

Turning it into all or nothing is easier, and its a strategy for sure, but there's more to it. and especially in the social media age, social skills are way down. And just different. Also, separating yourself, from the dozens of men in DM"S or imessages. That's important. Anyone gets a number, or a IG handle.

@Tiger Hoods

 

[Rocket Scientist]

Context is really important, sometimes it's not a good time. Sometimes they are thinking about someone else. Sometimes they are distracted, or in a hurry. Honestly, same with me, I try to be open, always, but I know people have thrown interest at me, and I just left it there.'

Turning it into all or nothing is easier, and its a strategy for sure, but there's more to it. and especially in the social media age, social skills are way down. And just different.

@Tiger Hoods

I was involved in public speaking for 10 years. Means I have talked to alot of VIP'S and been in some rooms with some. Been saying for years on here ,how important mouthpiece and timing is. You can get anywhere with social skills. No disrespect bruh I dont know what is going on in her head ,and honestly dont care I did my part . If her convo game isnt on point maybe she doing me a favor.Sometimes you got to step away from the phone and just talk. Every woman is an elevator sales pitch you have certain amount of seconds before their attention goes somewhere else.Cold approaching is lost art its like the mid range jumpshot in basketball. Some use it and some dont.But its always gonna be around

 

[Brandsdale]

Bagging a chic while she’s working def has its downsides

I tried it with the rewards program girl at the grocery store and her manager blocked the whole thing