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if you have no kids, just read the no contact rule and get on with your life.

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hey guys I've been lurking here for a while and this thread made me really interested in joining. to be honest, I don't understand men or women at all and I just hate being left with unanswered questions. here's the scenerio. Girl a and boy a are talking. Girl b and boy b like each other but are too shy to approach. boy a drops girl a and she "becomes friends" with boy b. boy b tells girl a about girl b and girl a starts drama and lies about girl b. Boy b doesn't know any of this is going on but he is still chasing girl b. Girl b does everything in here power to put herself in the position but boy b just can't deliver. out the blue boy a starts dating girl a and leaves girl b clueless b/c he is still trying to get with girl b meanwhile girl a is doing everything to try and make girl b jealous. It's sorta like the possession of having boy b is what is satisfying her. Boy b's friends still talk about it, and they call me his nickname. He also hides the fact that he is with her in a funny way. He won't hide her publicly but he will hide her from me. I don't like the fact that he was just like f it, getting this girl is too hard so let me just get this one. I don't play hard to get but I am extremely shy. His friend tried to introduce us but he punked out every time, I don't think he has ever had to work to get a female. He's just one of those morris chestnut on the outside but napoleon dynamite on the inside type of guys and he's very socially awkward. I don't think he intentionally meant to hurt me but I just can't help but feel like I got played.
i swear to God i tried. read it like 3 times and i'm still confused.

first of all, are you male or female and which ones of the four are you? :dwillhuh:
 
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hey guys I've been lurking here for a while and this thread made me really interested in joining. to be honest, I don't understand men or women at all and I just hate being left with unanswered questions. here's the scenerio. Girl a and boy a are talking. Girl b and boy b like each other but are too shy to approach. boy a drops girl a and she "becomes friends" with boy b. boy b tells girl a about girl b and girl a starts drama and lies about girl b. Boy b doesn't know any of this is going on but he is still chasing girl b. Girl b does everything in here power to put herself in the position but boy b just can't deliver. out the blue boy b starts dating girl a and leaves girl b clueless b/c he is still trying to get with girl b meanwhile girl a is doing everything to try and make girl b jealous. It's sorta like the possession of having boy b is what is satisfying her. Boy b's friends still talk about it, and they call me his nickname. He also hides the fact that he is with her in a funny way. He won't hide her publicly but he will hide her from me. I don't like the fact that he was just like f it, getting this girl is too hard so let me just get this one. I don't play hard to get but I am extremely shy. His friend tried to introduce us but he punked out every time, I don't think he has ever had to work to get a female. He's just one of those morris chestnut on the outside but napoleon dynamite on the inside type of guys and he's very socially awkward. I don't think he intentionally meant to hurt me but I just can't help but feel like I got played.

...that was hard to read. First off if you're girl b, how do you know the guy likes you? If he's with her and he chose her...
 

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I am a female and I am girl b and I went back and fixed where I messed up, maybe now it will make sense lol
lol, still hard to follow but your fix makes sense now, lol.

my opinion: you want him. she did what she needed to do to get him. You blame him for being socially awkward and not stepping up to the plate. you say you tried to put yourself in the position but did you tell him how you feel? you're not willing to stick your neck out and now she got him cause she made a move.

did he play you or did you play yourself?
 

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Well I could write out everything but it would take all day but trust me I know for a fact he likes me, he was on some the notebook type shyt and no other guy ever chased me like that and he was the one who liked me first then I caught on and started to like him.
And also I am a very shy and analytic person. Me being shy, it's not that i am unwilling to stick my neck out, it's just I physically can't. My stomach knots up, throat dries up and I just start shaking. Me being analytic, I did not want to compete with a female as crazy as her because then the conquest would become more about her and less of him making it not worth it. I avoid drama at all costs and have a very tight closed circle. I read on here how you guys put all girls in one basket but that isn't the case. I'm the minority and the majority of the bad things I read on here, I am not. Just being honest.

Edit: ok i know you guys never seen mean girls but I'm sure you guys have heard of it. You know the popular girl who tries to get at all the popular guys, yea that's girl a. I was just minding my own business and it wasn't until the guy she was talking to dropped her and she went looking for another popular guy and I'm guessing he told her about me cuz why else would she be at me? I don't bother anybody and I don't hang in the popular circle and we don't have mutual friends so wouldn't know any of my business. A part of me feels like I deserve to feel hurt b/c I was a fool to think a guy like that would be into a girl like me but he just keeps on chasing me but does nothing.
that's cool. I'm not saying you should have fought the girl in the gutter or anything. all the symptoms you're describing it sounds like anxiety to me. You didn't make your move cause you're scared. I gotta keep it real with you, i see a lot of entitlement regarding him in your post. you assume he got with her because you were too hard, but you don't even consider the possibility that he got to know her and started feeling her more. and i'm not saying this to diss you but sometimes that's just how it goes. Being a guy i see it from his perspective. I'm feeling these two girls, both attractive, like both of their personalities. One of them i've been trying with for a while but she's not really cooperating that much because she's shy, the other one is cooperating everything falls into place and the chemistry is smooth...I know which one i'd pick...

i've never seen the notebook but if he simped you heavy and you still weren't cooperating maybe he just decided to move on. Face your fears. I'm not saying you should simp him or "chase" after him/be needy. All i'm saying is that closed mouths don't get fed. He might have felt you, you were feeling him, you wanted him, you didn't cooperate enough to get him (because you're shy) and now he chose someone else...
 

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Well I could write out everything but it would take all day but trust me I know for a fact he likes me, he was on some the notebook type shyt and no other guy ever chased me like that and he was the one who liked me first then I caught on and started to like him.
And also I am a very shy and analytic person. Me being shy, it's not that i am unwilling to stick my neck out, it's just I physically can't. My stomach knots up, throat dries up and I just start shaking. Me being analytic, I did not want to compete with a female as crazy as her because then the conquest would become more about her and less of him making it not worth it. I avoid drama at all costs and have a very tight closed circle. I read on here how you guys put all girls in one basket but that isn't the case. I'm the minority and the majority of the bad things I read on here, I am not. Just being honest.

Edit: ok i know you guys never seen mean girls but I'm sure you guys have heard of it. You know the popular girl who tries to get at all the popular guys, yea that's girl a. I was just minding my own business and it wasn't until the guy she was talking to dropped her and she went looking for another popular guy and I'm guessing he told her about me cuz why else would she be at me? I don't bother anybody and I don't hang in the popular circle and we don't have mutual friends so wouldn't know any of my business. A part of me feels like I deserve to feel hurt b/c I was a fool to think a guy like that would be into a girl like me but he just keeps on chasing me but does nothing.



Your post inspired me to post for the first time. We are all going through it babygirl. We all have to go through some tough mental learning experiences to get to where we want to be. The first thing you need to do is let their relationship be at this point. You tell him that as long as he's with her he can't talk to you. There's no point in putting yourself in drama's way. You'll have a lot more heartache in the end. If he drops her and decides he wants to have a chance at you then give him a chance, cautiously. Many dudes will take advantage of a situation like that and use her even while he's talking to you, so that's why you need to be careful. Yeah, there might be some insecurity issues with you right now, but we all have them. It takes time to grow out of stuff like that. Now obviously it might be kind of hard to see now, but even if this guy doesn't work out, there will be many, many more trying to get your attention so don't worry about it. Let time and destiny meet at the perfect point so that you are most satisfied where you're at when you're older. Don't let these other females get to you either because you don't want to be the bitter one. Bitter women scare off good potential mates. The only thing you worry about is working on improving yourself, and your interaction with others.
 

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