Keep it pushing. There is nothing selfish about wanting to want to deal with a person who isn't in contact with their ex. Relationships end up not working out because people keep engaging in actions contrary to making them work and having an ex lurking around is one example. Save yourself some time and tell him to either lose the ex or lose you.
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Keep it pushing. There is nothing selfish about wanting to want to deal with a person who isn't in contact with their ex. Relationships end up not working out because people keep engaging in actions contrary to making them work and having an ex lurking around is one example. Save yourself some time and tell him to either lose the ex or lose you.
dump him, heres a tip every guy is amazing in the beginning, its called the honeymoon period. Every guy is on their best behavior, calling you all the time wanting to see you all the time, once a guy gets comfortable you see the real him.
and with exes, ive been there when they have been in the picture, i wasn't thinking of the girl i was dating with at the time, but my ex, see men are different than women when we have been with a chick for that long and breaks up, it takes awhile a long while an enormous while to fully cleanse our soul and date again, He just isn't ready and doesn't care about you that much, sorry to break it you. Same with dating with girls who just broke up with their exes etc., your just a crutch a rebound relationship something to help them get over the hurt of their last relationship, the longer you stay the more you will end up heartbroken. It probably wasn't his intention to hurt you or anything though, i've been there, after a long relationship meeting someone new your excited in the beginning wanting to talk to them get to know them see them all the time, then you slowly wonder wth are you doing and withdrawl.
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They gave some good advice. In a situation like this an ultimatum is fine. Don't present it in an arrogant way though because he'll feel like youre trying to control him. Tell him why you want him to cease contact and even show that you're insecure about it; be honest. You'll know a lot about him after you two break up too. If he takes a couple of days to think about it and then decides to come back to you; it means he's serious. Conversely it may also mean he's just feeling a little lonely and wants you to fill the void. Situations like this are what make relationships a chore with all the mind games. Tread carefully.
no guy on this planet acts the way he's acting towards a girl he still likes. so what should u do? accept that things have died down. find u another man and spend ur feelings on him.
but all this may fall on deaf ears as i can tell you're in love with this dude. if not in love, you're very close to it. save urself the heartache i foresee in ur future and get u a man who gives a sh1t about u.
Nah it's not falling on deaf ears i deff feel you Ll the advice I've gotten I already knew myself, idk why I doubt my own judgement sometimes. I just need to end things this whole slow leak process we are doing hurts because I still anticipate his calls and texts I just want him out of my life for good but when I tell him that he does and says everything to keep me around and when I give in its back to the same shyt. If he don't want me why does he not just let it be over
DaRealness
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Hmmmm........
first off what does "So I been dealing with this guy for a couple months now." mean exactly? are you his girl and is he your man? are you guys official? if not, you already know what it is.
here's what i think it is if you guys aren't official official (i'm gonna keep it raw but don't mean to hurt or offend): dude knows you're feeling him but he's not feeling you as a potential girlfriend. he's not letting you know because he still wants to be able to fukk you when he comes through.
- you may think you will make him fall in love with you with your p*ssy...odds are against you because he's on the game's side.
- you may refuse to get out as long as he doesn't verbally admit to you he's not feeling you so you can get "closure", if so, you're in for a loooong ride because he probably never will admit it cause he knows you'll keep fukking with him as long as he doesn't clearly tells you what it really is.
what i think you should do: you have no control over how someone else feels or what they do. you can only control your own actions. I don't advise an ultimatum cause then you're putting the power in his hands. be honest with yourself and how you feel about him. tell him how you feel, tell him it hurts you when XYZ happens (without telling either you do this or i leave!). If he's feeling you he will not want to do something that hurts you and will stop. if he doesn't care he'll keep doing it. if he keeps doing it, then you tell him "i have strong feelings for you. i'm not happy in this situation and i'd rather leave it than continuing getting hurt. I wish you nothing but happiness" and be sincere too. and then you take time to heal and choose someone else. that way you keep your power because you control your own actions...
how about u not even contact him at all? let it die. im sure dude knows he's got u sprung. dont allow him to sweet talk u into reigniting hope. dead it in ur mind and occupy ur time with someone else.
because he wants the sex and wants you to be available to him still for when he needs you. and if you try to get him to admit this, he won't because it's not in his interest to admit this. If you start getting into trying to get him to admit something you will lose. let it go, don't worry about "why?", worry about what you control.
sorry your actinf like the typical jump off only called upon when sexual favors are wanted
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Poh SIti Dawn
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How do you deal with women in your past still sticking around? I've had my ex stick around for 2 years after we broke up. 2 weeks ago we got into a fight as I told her I don't want to talk anymore, she claims she loves me, I asked why play games then, and she didn't reply. We fought as I put her on the spot and she finally just said I wanted a friendship. I apologized a week later and now shes been texting me back periodically. We live 3 hours away, I care for the girl, we're each others first loves but we've been doing this for 2 years. I wanted to work things out, but I'm coming into realization that no matter how long she holds on it'll never work maybe because shes a Muslim, idk. and over the 2 years we've been in numerous fights about her leaving me alone yet she always comes back, it's like she doesn't understand that I don't want to be friends. I feel like things will never work themselves out tbh
How do you deal with women in your past still sticking around? I've had my ex stick around for 2 years after we broke up. 2 weeks ago we got into a fight as I told her I don't want to talk anymore, she claims she loves me, I asked why play games then, and she didn't reply. We fought as I put her on the spot and she finally just said I wanted a friendship. I apologized a week later and now shes been texting me back periodically. We live 3 hours away, I care for the girl, we're each others first loves but we've been doing this for 2 years. I wanted to work things out, but I'm coming into realization that no matter how long she holds on it'll never work maybe because shes a Muslim, idk. and over the 2 years we've been in numerous fights about her leaving me alone yet she always comes back, it's like she doesn't understand that I don't want to be friends. I feel like things will never work themselves out tbh
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You're leaving a window open by continuing to communicate with her. If you don't want to talk to her then tell her its over and stop responding. It takes two people to talk.
Poh SIti Dawn
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Good point, I guess it's heart vs the mind.
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