Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[MikelArteta]

whatever you do, dont listen to a womans advice thats being given to you for dealing with other women. I know its been said before, but it needs to be stressed. this is going to be true in almost all cases. even when you compare your fathers/uncles/big brothers advice vs your mothers, you know whos going to give you that real on how to handle it. the one that will let you deal with it definitively, and in the appropriate, manly way.

I think of it as this, you want to get the best product out of your relationship. you want that top quality steak, or that high quality food, so to speak. so you have to take the word of the butcher, or from a chef who has knowledge in preparing it. listen to someone with the same perspective as you. you dont listen to the cow to find out whats best on the menu. they have no idea what it is that you truly want. so you can make sure that you keep in mind what they say, as it could be helpful in some ways, but remember that they are on the opposite side of you and will ultimately give you information that benefits their perspective the most, and not necessarily yours.

i agree cept mothers, my mom has given me great advice dealing with women that i didnt heed and got burned in the end.

Sent from royalty breh

 

[CrossBones]

i agree cept mothers, my mom has given me great advice dealing with women that i didnt heed and got burned in the end.

Sent from royalty breh

I think mothers can give you good insight on another womans character, but not entirely on approaches to situations and what is the best possible solution for you. women tend to be indirect and try to please everyone up front. not always the best way to solve problems.

 

[MikelArteta]

how do yall feel about insecure women who ask for access to your twitter or facebook just because they see you laughing at something you read on your phone?

I recently started using twitter...and deactivated it today because it's boring and one time my girl asked that stupid shyt. Like a nikka cant have his own inside jokes when talking to a friend now? Annoying as shyt. She wanted my twitter password even though i had nothing to hide. She asked why I added a password to my new Nexus 4 even though theres nothing to hide...and pretty much insinuates that I do it to hide dirt. The fact is that i didnt even have a password until my bro suggested that when his Galaxy Nexus was stolen, dude started going through his personal files and shyt. Thus i decided to do the same.

Conventional wisdom would tell me: You have nothing to hide so show her and she will trust you.

Sense and experiential wisdom would tell me: You give her your password shes gonna start thinking she can always demand that shyt and thats not the right message to send. On top of that, she'll trust you for a couple days and then just get suspicious when she sees another harmless occurrence so there's no point.

How would ya'll handle it? Like @kevm3 said earlier, these girls will take your "No" as hiding dirt and use it as an excuse to do their own dirt. I already anticipate that shyt. fukkin women man

my ex fiance had my passwords to everything, she wkuld pretend to be me and go on my msn and talk to people on my list.

i was a simp and lost many good friends cuz of that bs. Dont do it, this is what a lot of women like to do control your social life so you have none.

Sent from royalty breh

 

[kevm3]

Men were tasked by God to lead, so if you are asking them to essentially lead you, you're going to end up with problems. That's like you owning a company and asking your employees how to run the company. You're not going to do that. You're going to chop it up with another CEO, someone who is actually out there doing what you're doing.

If you listen to the advice of women, what you WILL become is a victim. They will give you the sort of advice that justifies the nonsense women engage in.
"My woman has been talking to an ex"
Woman Advice
"Welll you just have to give her space and let her have her life."

"My woman has been mad distant lately"
Woman Advice
"You need to leave her alone and understand her emotions and just know that woman need their time alone sometimes."

"Should I give my woman a prenup before we get married?"
Woman Advice
"No, you just need to trust her. You must think the relationship will fail in advance."

The advice you will get from women is one that will put women in a superior position... just like the advice you will get from employees on how to run the company won't be geared on getting the most productivity, but will be on getting the most perks for the employees.

 

[CrossBones]

LOL I was thinking about posting something very similar, cos it's true. Female relatives in particular are the worse. They will give you enough horse shyt to fertilise acres of land.

I think this one came to me the other day because there was this thread on here about dealing with certain women, and then this female came in telling everyone some terrible shyt, and passing it off like it was great advice. just, dont trust the other side like that. they could purposely, or by not knowing any better, mislead you and have you like a drone. try to turn you into the perfect toy for them. they have no idea what its like to be in charge of a relationship, or for it to foster long lasting positive results. theyre so stuck on bullshyt fantasies and fairytales that tell them to act on their feelings, that they end up misguided in life. thats why theyre not in charge, thats for the man. theyre too emotional and indecisive for that.

 

[Ohene]

This is the kind of nonsense I'm talking about....has she ever offered to give you HER passwords at any point? I can't stand silly shyt like that.

She's testing you, fam. I'd give her a straight "no". I don't owe anybody nothing and nobody owns me...."my word is all you need, end of story" If she starts to sulk, then I'd tell her I don't have any of HER passwords and don't feel the need to, either.

If she gets this off you, next it'll be your spare house and car keys 'just because'. Forget that. Give her your shyt only for her to sabatoge and cause mayhem if you ever break up...no thank you.

Personally, she doesn't sound like she's worth the hassle, but you'd know more than me given that you're in the situation.

Exactly, i see it goiing down in two ways:

A) You give it to her and then let her see shyt and then change it and she thinks youre sneaking shyt behind her back.

B) You give it to her and she starts talking to girls you may know or at the very least telling them she has a gf.

Hell no to both. Even if I aint doing sneaky stuff I still have the right to keep options open in the case that the relationship falls through. Not to the point where I'm talking sexually to other women but just talking to them/keeping up with them for whatever reason. Cant have bridges being burnt by a girlfriend. shyt i dont even use twitter but its the principle. I probably only have like 5 girls following me. I was gonna use it as a means to show investment bankers in Toronto some of my knowledge about whats going on in the markets. I might still try, only got 1 ibanker following me but meh.



Basically what I did was actually what Kev said, I told her how shes told me that I'm the most honest guy shes ever met and that I've always kept it real with her to the point where its got me in trouble sometimes. Thus she has no reason to be asking such demands. I told her it wasnt gonna happen and even chuckled a little bit. That was that.

 

[kevm3]

Man when you give up your authority and control as a man, a woman will either jet on you and leave you lonely or she will make your life a nightmare. One of the reason you are the prize as a man is that you constantly have to deal with a woman's nonsense... A woman will constantly test you and attempt to make you into the man she hates. An emasculated male who has given up his control and authority. Once you give those up, you're done. Look at Solomon. He was the wisest man in all the land, but even he succumbed to the wiles of women and ended up in disgrace at the end. NEVER allow women to lead, emasculate, or control you.

 

[Scustin Trillberlake]

i agree cept mothers, my mom has given me great advice dealing with women that i didnt heed and got burned in the end.

Sent from royalty breh

You have to be carful with mothers, too. Glad your mom has helped you out but the advice my Mom & Sister have given me about women was terrible. Complete mangina bullshyt. It has taken me a year or so to undo the programming of my youth from my Mom.

 

[Ohene]

You have to be carful with mothers, too. Glad your mom has helped you out but the advice my Mom & Sister have given me about women was terrible. Complete mangina bullshyt. It has taken me a year or so to undo the programming of my youth from my Mom.

yea i trust my oldest sister but not my mom. My mom is an irrational human being that i pretty much never see eye to eye with. She's stuck in the 80s/70s and pretty much says nothing but youre too young to have a girlfriend (which some may say is true) and marry a Ghanaian girl. Nothing else but Ghanaian which is annoying as shyt considering i'm in the worlds most multicultural country. She's too stubborn.


My dad and oldest sister have sense though.

Around Christmas, my oldest sister actually told me a story about my mom back in the day that was foul but not surprising one bit. A story about her beating up another women (who my sis says broke my dad's heart and was a DIME) while fighting over my dad in the middle of a street back in Lagos. (My sis and mom arent related, half sibling) This is why I say treat all women the same. Girls will say stuff like, "that must mean your mom was a ho or ratchet / (insert bad term) too". My response to that is I dont care nor do I refute that. My mom is a nurturing, compassionate, caring woman so thats really all that affects me/ I care about. Growing up I've seen how irrational my mom is though, how she gets angry at dumb shyt, how she is stubborn and how she can be temperamental. I dont put such behavior past her one bit.

 

[Poh SIti Dawn]

I randomly stopped talking to this chick back in early 2012, I cared for her but was still wrapped up in my ex. I hit her up on Facebook during the summer and got no reply. It's 2013 and I've had like numerous amount of dreams about her and I wanna hit her up but I'm afraid of getting ignored again, should I just let it be?

 

[Rocket Scientist]

Gotta let it go. If you text,call a woman and she doesnt respond...keep it moving. She has caller id and she saw you contacted her and she CHOSE not to respond.So you have to keep it moving.You dont wanna be a stalker.

 

[Poh SIti Dawn]

Gotta let it go. If you text,call a woman and she doesnt respond...keep it moving. She has caller id and she saw you contacted her and she CHOSE not to respond.So you have to keep it moving.You dont wanna be a stalker.

Ah thanks for the help. I appreciate it

 

[KiiLove]

Hey guys any free time to answer a question for a young lady?

So I been dealing with this guy for a couple months now. In the beginning everything was euphoric. He was coming to visit me at school calling me every night phone sex all that good stuff. Things are slowly beginning to change. I hear from him less, he hasn't made any real effort to come see me but when I try to end things he's like oh I'm trying etc etc you always wanna leave me all that good stuff. The kicker here is that he has an ex gf of 8yrs that I am really insecure about they have only been broken up for almost a year now. I feel it's selfish of me to ask him to distance him self from her being that they been together since he was 16. But while I'm temporary out of town until may it drives me crazy what he might be doing. I even came home one weekend and he was too busy to see me so he says . That really hurt me. Anyway .. Thoughts on the situation?

 

[Poh SIti Dawn]

Hey guys any free time to answer a question for a young lady?

So I been dealing with this guy for a couple months now. In the beginning everything was euphoric. He was coming to visit me at school calling me every night phone sex all that good stuff. Things are slowly beginning to change. I hear from him less, he hasn't made any real effort to come see me but when I try to end things he's like oh I'm trying etc etc you always wanna leave me all that good stuff. The kicker here is that he has an ex gf of 8yrs that I am really insecure about they have only been broken up for almost a year now. I feel it's selfish of me to ask him to distance him self from her being that they been together since he was 16. But while I'm temporary out of town until may it drives me crazy what he might be doing. I even came home one weekend and he was too busy to see me so he says . That really hurt me. Anyway .. Thoughts on the situation?

Dump him tbh. My ex played the same game. Nothing ever works out with people like that

 

[Wild self]

i remember when i had your naivety.

her mother was old enough to recognize the value of such a naive man. understand the older a woman get the less she uses her emotions to determine a suitable mate and the more logic based she becomes. young women operate purely off emotions. really most men are kind and nice to women because they believe they can convince a woman to like them through their behavior. older women recognize that and know if i attach myself to hem he'll be faithful and loyal. David Deangelo said it best attraction is not a choice. romance is primarily emotion based and emotions don't logically attach themselves to the best choice. people feel how they feel and really if a woman logically attached herself to you chances are its despite her emotional reaction to you not because of it. in other words emtionally she feels next to nothing but she logically recognizes your value. in that case as they younger crowd puts it here you'll be destined to "share that girl."

to this day i still sometimes struggle with the concept that a woman doesn't have to "like" you (or approve of you as a person) to feel attracted to you. if she feels attraction to you (an emotional pull) then her liking you (logical approval) is irrelevant.

You listen to David DeAngelo? If so, that is good advice.