Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[kevm3]

and that's the real. Some of us guys just shouldn't be in a relationship but we still get into them because

a. we want to claim exclusivity on the kitty
b. we're scared that she'll leave if we don't put a title on it

if you're not ready to make it exclusive, don't make it exclusive. If she wants to make it exclusive and you don't, you tell her exactly that and if she tells you "it's not fair because i'm not talking to anyone else" you do the but then you have to be ready for her to talk to other people (and i'd also still advise not to abuse your power too much...)

Exactly, let a woman know exactly what it is you want and how you want it and it'll be up to her to stomach it if you agree with it. If you want to be in a relationship, be in one. If you don't, be single. That's one of the reasons women don't really submit and listen to men... too many men are always lying and flipping the script, offering one thing, and delivering another. They aren't nothing but bait and switch negroes. How can a woman trust and really do anything for a man who she doesn't know what he is offering is real or not?

 

[MikelArteta]

and that's the real. Some of us guys just shouldn't be in a relationship but we still get into them because

a. we want to claim exclusivity on the kitty
b. we're scared that she'll leave if we don't put a title on it

if you're not ready to make it exclusive, don't make it exclusive. If she wants to make it exclusive and you don't, you tell her exactly that and if she tells you "it's not fair because i'm not talking to anyone else" you do the but then you have to be ready for her to talk to other people (and i'd also still advise not to abuse your power too much...)

i always find it funny when both males and femalea get upset when their partner is talking to a bunch of females or males when they do the sme thing.



Sent from royalty breh

 

[kevm3]

Yeah so the girl I'm messing with smashed the dude when she went home over the weekend. Not surprised. She did mention that if I told her not to do it, she wouldn't have done it.

The exclusivity, and position of power angles are interesting ones. I'm not going to put a chain & lock on her vagina since this stint is about to end in about 2 1/2 months. I'd feel unnatural trying to force myself to get disgruntled over another dude hitting, when I'm not that attached to her myself. If the possibility of us seeing each other for another year was in tow, then I'd react differently.

She was going to get it anyways. The only difference is whether or not she was going to tell you. Women love to play little games like that. If that cat was on her mind like that, he was going to get it anyways. If she was serious about you, she wouldn't have been in contact with that dude in the first place.

 

[Doin2Much Williams]

Simping vs complimenting. Tommy Knocks brought up a good point about that and for some, such as myself, differentiating between them is subjective to the situation. There’s a real fine line and its very easy to cross over to the simp level when your complimenting comes off as overzealous (or what some deem as “thirsty”).

Another thing I wanted to mention is electronic simping through social media. I bashed the idea of even having an account a whole that if you were going to simp, at least do it in real life and not thru the monitors of a tablet, cell phone or computer because it’s so convenient and no good comes out of it. In essence, you’re just gassing something so inherently bloated, once that ego gets inflated to the max… the space becomes so “densely solidified” that any additional air (i.e. simpage) that gets pumped in there just becomes excess – by that point, a bytch knows she so sought after that she believes she’s the epitome of goddess (the attention that men apply is more deconstructing and damaging than anything. Are the Thirst Johnsons know what they’re committing is criminal?).

So I apologize to cats like Spinoza that utilize social media to advertise their work.

I understand the medium, I went to school for advertising when facebook’s access was limited to the realm of academia (particularly university accounts) and what I saw was a huge potential for maximum exposure for little to no effort/money. Unfortunately, the broads caught on and used it for full fledged vanity projects (in essence, no different than Spinoza’s intent, but at least his can feed babies and has some artistic merit to it – I’m fukkin with ya Spin).

Where do we go from here?

Compliment your mom (you can never do enough of that). Your grandma for extending her unaparraled genes to you. Simp your female bosses (within professional order, of course - just ensure that it provokes raises by flattering with charm). Tell the lunch lady . The USPS woman she makes all the mail seem first class. Cashier that her bagging skills are a godsend.

Little stuff like that.


But when it comes to women you're attracted to and especially when you don't know them? STOP!!!


*in Uncle Joey voice with the hand signs*


"CUT... IT... OUT!!!"





Whether its online or in the club, telegram or pen pal...


Refrain to abstain and you shall gain.

Cuz if you go against the grain? It's gon' be nothing but pain and you gon' go insane in the brain.

And next thang you know, you'll be singing a New Edition record while actually standing in the rain.


"Sunny dayyyy... this i hope for sure. But baby tell me Can... you... stand... the... game..."





No you caint.


.

 

[AffordableSuplexReviews]

She was going to get it anyways. The only difference is whether or not she was going to tell you. Women love to play little games like that. If that cat was on her mind like that, he was going to get it anyways. If she was serious about you, she wouldn't have been in contact with that dude in the first place.

That's what I was thinking too. I mean, me and this girl are close, but her history with this guy trumps ours.

She's known the dude since 9th grade, and he got in some car accident their senior year, been in a wheelchair ever since, and that sympathy level is there between them.

Me and this girl haven't even known each other for a year. To a degree, I sorta believe that if I had been on some "yeah, don't fukk nobody else" type shyt, she would've followed my orders. Claims that she would have just hung out with him, but that's it, but people's minds never fully align with their emotions, and momentary scenarios are critical.

When she's with me, it's like she's in love. Texting me and telling me how she's addicted to my meat and all that, but I won't fool myself into thinking that these same type of words aren't being said to other people. She has helped me to be more confident in myself though. I'm too modest, almost to the point of belittling myself.

 

[Turbulent]

Simping vs complimenting. Tommy Knocks brought up a good point about that and for some, such as myself, differentiating between them is subjective to the situation. There’s a real fine line and its very easy to cross over to the simp level when your complimenting comes off as overzealous (or what some deem as “thirsty”).

Another thing I wanted to mention is electronic simping through social media. I bashed the idea of even having an account a whole that if you were going to simp, at least do it in real life and not thru the monitors of a tablet, cell phone or computer because it’s so convenient and no good comes out of it. In essence, you’re just gassing something so inherently bloated, once that ego gets inflated to the max… the space becomes so “densely solidified” that any additional air (i.e. simpage) that gets pumped in there just becomes excess – by that point, a bytch knows she so sought after that she believes she’s the epitome of goddess (the attention that men apply is more deconstructing and damaging than anything. Are the Thirst Johnsons know what they’re committing is criminal?).

So I apologize to cats like Spinoza that utilize social media to advertise their work.

I understand the medium, I went to school for advertising when facebook’s access was limited to the realm of academia (particularly university accounts) and what I saw was a huge potential for maximum exposure for little to no effort/money. Unfortunately, the broads caught on and used it for full fledged vanity projects (in essence, no different than Spinoza’s intent, but at least his can feed babies and has some artistic merit to it – I’m fukkin with ya Spin).

Where do we go from here?

Compliment your mom (you can never do enough of that). Your grandma for extending her unaparraled genes to you. Simp your female bosses (within professional order, of course - just ensure that it provokes raises by flattering with charm). Tell the lunch lady . The USPS woman she makes all the mail seem first class. Cashier that her bagging skills are a godsend.

Little stuff like that.


But when it comes to women you're attracted to and especially when you don't know them? STOP!!!


*in Uncle Joey voice with the hand signs*


"CUT... IT... OUT!!!"





Whether its online or in the club, telegram or pen pal...


Refrain to abstain and you shall gain.

Cuz if you go against the grain? It's gon' be nothing but pain and you gon' go insane in the brain.

And next thang you know, you'll be singing a New Edition record while actually standing in the rain.


"Sunny dayyyy... this i hope for sure. But baby tell me Can... you... stand... the... game..."





No you caint.


.

i think the difference between the two is the mindset and intent you have. if you genuinely compliment someone on something (not from a position of neediness) then it's cool. if you do it to gain favor or be liked then it's either game or simping (most likely simping).

A girl could interpret your compliment as thirst even if it's genuine. I don't think people should worry too much about how she interprets it in the big scheme of things because you have little control over that. If you're genuine, don't worry about it. Even if she sees it as simping, if you conduct yourself properly she'll eventually see what type of person you are (not a simp) and whatever compliment she interpreted as simping she will adjust her perception on them in hindsight.

 

[Doin2Much Williams]

That's what I was thinking too. I mean, me and this girl are close, but her history with this guy trumps ours.

She's known the dude since 9th grade, and he got in some car accident their senior year, been in a wheelchair ever since, and that sympathy level is there between them.

Me and this girl haven't even known each other for a year. To a degree, I sorta believe that if I had been on some "yeah, don't fukk nobody else" type shyt, she would've followed my orders. Claims that she would have just hung out with him, but that's it, but people's minds never fully align with their emotions, and momentary scenarios are critical.

When she's with me, it's like she's in love. Texting me and telling me how she's addicted to my meat and all that, but I won't fool myself into thinking that these same type of words aren't being said to other people. She has helped me to be more confident in myself though. I'm too modest, almost to the point of belittling myself.

and you're still in college, right? Correct me if unso.


You've been through quite a bit to exude that kind of wisdom. I 'spect it.


When i was your age, i didn't know shiit breigh. Growing up so late, i didn't understand the intricacies of dating. I was like a flower finally sprouting its petals in August - i was a late bloomer.

Though it's never too late, you'd rather get that shiit out of your system early to move on to bigger projects in life. I'm just now focusing on my life and career, at the tender age of 30 (how i portray that to the world is but the way i truly feel inside is ).


But like a Playa album... to you.


The ratchet screen name doesn't correlate with your posting. For you to recognize this much, i can just say that keep doing you.

You say that you aren't totally attracted to her (something to that extent)... but your actions say different. I think your ties to her could be more emotional than anything else but there's NOTHING wrong with that at all. You admire her but let her have the space necessary to do what she as a woman (especially at her age) should do without restraint.


"If you love something let it go. If it comes back, than it was meant to be." - Earl Simmons circa 1998 (courtesy of Island Def Jam).


Other than that, you set man. Your approach, now that i read it all, seems like the best plan.


Intimidating Animal Makes War Cry - KeepBusy.net



Enjoy it while you had it. I was single throughout my entire college career (that's 7 years for a slacker, b. I was the colored version of Van Wilder. Just less wilder).

But during that time, i always yearned to have somebody love me but my efforts were nil successful; always stared from the sidelines with envy, wondering when a shooting star would bring me some kind of romantic luck.

Now i'll never know what its like to walk a lady friend to her classroom. Or meet up after a class to grab something to eat. Holding hands to the library only to be the noisiest people in the room. Making out after a pep rally Or skipping class just to take a stroll on the campus mall to kick leaves where the bricks be. Shiits weak.

*sighs*

This shiit i have as an adult isn't the same cuz i feel like i missed out on love during my most crucial years of early adulthood development. (Don't tell anybody this, but i didn't even have a boo in highschool. What's the feeling like when you had to sneak out of your girls room cuz her parents came home earlier than anticipated? I don't know that kind of danger/urgency and i never will ).

If it wasn't for my sense of humor and unorthodox way i view life, being optimistic and stay dreaming, who knows where i'd be right now.


14 Bricks, i live vicariously in retro-vision through your experiences.


Now i know what Michael Jackson feels like when he axes,


"Have you seented my child hooooood???!?!?!!"





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[Ohene]

how do yall feel about insecure women who ask for access to your twitter or facebook just because they see you laughing at something you read on your phone?

I recently started using twitter...and deactivated it today because it's boring and one time my girl asked that stupid shyt. Like a nikka cant have his own inside jokes when talking to a friend now? Annoying as shyt. She wanted my twitter password even though i had nothing to hide. She asked why I added a password to my new Nexus 4 even though theres nothing to hide...and pretty much insinuates that I do it to hide dirt. The fact is that i didnt even have a password until my bro suggested that when his Galaxy Nexus was stolen, dude started going through his personal files and shyt. Thus i decided to do the same.

Conventional wisdom would tell me: You have nothing to hide so show her and she will trust you.

Sense and experiential wisdom would tell me: You give her your password shes gonna start thinking she can always demand that shyt and thats not the right message to send. On top of that, she'll trust you for a couple days and then just get suspicious when she sees another harmless occurrence so there's no point.

How would ya'll handle it? Like @kevm3 said earlier, these girls will take your "No" as hiding dirt and use it as an excuse to do their own dirt. I already anticipate that shyt. fukkin women man

 

[AffordableSuplexReviews]

and you're still in college, right? Correct me if unso.


You've been through quite a bit to exude that kind of wisdom. I 'spect it.


When i was your age, i didn't know shiit breigh. Growing up so late, i didn't understand the intricacies of dating. I was like a flower finally sprouting its petals in August - i was a late bloomer.

Though it's never too late, you'd rather get that shiit out of your system early to move on to bigger projects in life. I'm just now focusing on my life and career, at the tender age of 30 (how i portray that to the world is but the way i truly feel inside is ).


But like a Playa album... to you.


The ratchet screen name doesn't correlate with your posting. For you to recognize this much, i can just say that keep doing you.

You say that you aren't totally attracted to her (something to that extent)... but your actions say different. I think your ties to her could be more emotional than anything else but there's NOTHING wrong with that at all. You admire her but let her have the space necessary to do what she as a woman (especially at her age) should do without restraint.


"If you love something let it go. If it comes back, than it was meant to be." - Earl Simmons circa 1998 (courtesy of Island Def Jam).


Other than that, you set man. Your approach, now that i read it all, seems like the best plan.


Intimidating Animal Makes War Cry - KeepBusy.net



Enjoy it while you had it. I was single throughout my entire college career (that's 7 years for a slacker, b. I was the colored version of Van Wilder. Just less wilder).

But during that time, i always yearned to have somebody love me but my efforts were nil successful; always stared from the sidelines with envy, wondering when a shooting star would bring me some kind of romantic luck.

Now i'll never know what its like to walk a lady friend to her classroom. Or meet up after a class to grab something to eat. Holding hands to the library only to be the noisiest people in the room. Making out after a pep rally Or skipping class just to take a stroll on the campus mall to kick leaves where the bricks be. Shiits weak.

*sighs*

This shiit i have as an adult isn't the same cuz i feel like i missed out on love during my most crucial years of early adulthood development. (Don't tell anybody this, but i didn't even have a boo in highschool. What's the feeling like when you had to sneak out of your girls room cuz her parents came home earlier than anticipated? I don't know that kind of danger/urgency and i never will ).

If it wasn't for my sense of humor and unorthodox way i view life, being optimistic and stay dreaming, who knows where i'd be right now.


14 Bricks, i live vicariously in retro-vision through your experiences.


Now i know what Michael Jackson feels like when he axes,


"Have you seented my child hooooood???!?!?!!"





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Beautiful post breh, much appreciated and much respect sent back to you.

You got it nailed, it's the emotional & mental ties that draw/drew me towards this girl more than anything else. I met her last April, and it was supposed to be about marijuana-finding purposes, but it turns out that we're both socially accessible, and easy to be around. We both share universal, open outlooks on things and I generally appreciate those who can find appreciation in me.

Don't get it twisted, I mull over my past, and my lack of a past every day. Being fearful of rejection and potential negativity caused me to be overly passive on not act on some of my emotional instincts. I missed out on tons of relationships, sex, and friendships because I didn't speak up. If it wasn't for this girl making a move, I probably wouldn't even be posting in this thread.

I'm in my head, A LOT. Over-thinking, and over-analyzing situations has been my Achilles heel. I'm almost offed myself because of it. When she displayed genuine concern over that situation, and expressed solace in the fact that I'm still living, I grew to like her more. Her physical traits are cool, she's pretty cute, but mentally things drive my life, and it's through the head, and then my heart, why I started to develop a fondness for her.

Socially, I feel like I wasted 2-3 years of my life. During that time I was in a box. It gave me a chance to view life through a multitude of avenues though, gave me a chance to have a widespread outlook on a bevy of scenarios. I used to hang out with some guys in high school that would measure your social status by the amount of women you slept with, I didn't enjoy that. I don't enjoy nor recommend doing anything outside of what your body and nature naturally calls for you to do. I'm understanding of the predetermined notions set forth by society in regards to various issues, including women and sex, but when I view their situations through the lens of a man, or myself, it makes things simpler to assess.

I just don't know if there's a factual, scientific explanation for all facets of life, especially in regards to feelings, and how attraction levels are built, so I have decided to just roll with what happens.

When I think less, my life flows smoother.

 

[Rocket Scientist]

If you give your lady your FB password,you might as well give her your pin # . You still have to keep your identity,forget what she thinks. I know cats who let their gf get access to their phone and FB. Its to the point I have to go thru her to talk to 1 homeboy of mine. My last gf wanted to see what my exes looked like I gave her the it started an argument and a month or two later we broke up.

 

[kevm3]

how do yall feel about insecure women who ask for access to your twitter or facebook just because they see you laughing at something you read on your phone?

I recently started using twitter...and deactivated it today because it's boring and one time my girl asked that stupid shyt. Like a nikka cant have his own inside jokes when talking to a friend now? Annoying as shyt. She wanted my twitter password even though i had nothing to hide. She asked why I added a password to my new Nexus 4 even though theres nothing to hide...and pretty much insinuates that I do it to hide dirt. The fact is that i didnt even have a password until my bro suggested that when his Galaxy Nexus was stolen, dude started going through his personal files and shyt. Thus i decided to do the same.

Conventional wisdom would tell me: You have nothing to hide so show her and she will trust you.

Sense and experiential wisdom would tell me: You give her your password shes gonna start thinking she can always demand that shyt and thats not the right message to send. On top of that, she'll trust you for a couple days and then just get suspicious when she sees another harmless occurrence so there's no point.

How would ya'll handle it? Like @kevm3 said earlier, these girls will take your "No" as hiding dirt and use it as an excuse to do their own dirt. I already anticipate that shyt. fukkin women man

Get your baseball bat out, because we're about to knock this out the park. There are three things I want you to understand. 1) Never give up your authority, control, principles, self-respect, belief in Jesus, etc., for a woman.
2) You never will have control over the coochie, so never make decisions based off an attempt to control the coochie. It's a weakness because it shows you value her vagina so much she can use it to control you.
3) Always come off real. So many men have problems because they are doing something funny and fake.

Now, if you give up those passwords and let her demand things from you, she's going to keep trying to demand things from you and will keep tabs on you and try to control you. That's a no-go. Two, you think that if you don't answer the question right, she might give that coochie up to another man. You got to say screw her coochie. No matter what she told you, you never have and never will own her coochie. When she leaves, it leaves. She can't leave that behind for you... and in reality she is going to do whatever she wants with it. So then, don't ever let the 'exclusivity of the coochie' type of thinking enter your head because there's nothing you can really do to make her keep it exclusive. If she wants to give it away, she will. If she wants to keep it exclusive she will... but to be real with you, it's the soft cats who give in to women that get cheated on way more than the cats that don't. So then, always come real and don't worry about what she's doing with her coochie. You could be doing everything right and she could still choose to give it away. Therefore, never make decisions based on attempting to put a 'lock' on the coochie. Always make decisions based on her respecting you as a man and your principles. Final thing, a lot of cats get caught up because they got all these sneaky tendencies. What you need to do is always be real and stand on your realism and you have to do that from the GET-GO and from every single day you are in the relationship.

SO this is how you can approach this situation:
"Look babygirl, I have been nothing but real with you from day 1 and I am going to be real with you now. Don't demand my passwords from me because I ain't going to give it to you. One thing you will do when dealing with me is respect my space. I haven't given you any reason to worry and haven't been nothing but be real with you so what you need to do is handle that insecurity before it handles you. We are going to do this one time and one time only."

Then you show her the screen of your phone

"As you can see, I'm having a conversation with my patna. I ain't got to do no sneaky stuff. Listen baby, I'm a real dude. If I wanted to deal with other women, I'd let you know straight up. If you can't understand and respect that, then we don't need to be together. If you want to be with me and want us to excel you're going to have to learn to trust... so listen baby handle that insecurity before it handles you."

Now, you can only really say those words and have it work is if you ain't no dude that's really out here doing sneaky things. That's why I always tell men to be UP FRONT and REAL with a woman. Never be sneaky and trying to hide what you do. If she gets the impression that you're a sneaky dude, she's going to be a sneaky woman. A woman reflects the actions of her man.

 

[Ohene]

Get your baseball bat out, because we're about to knock this out the park. There are three things I want you to understand. 1) Never give up your authority, control, principles, self-respect, belief in Jesus, etc., for a woman.
2) You never will have control over the coochie, so never make decisions based off an attempt to control the coochie. It's a weakness because it shows you value her vagina so much she can use it to control you.
3) Always come off real. So many men have problems because they are doing something funny and fake.

Now, if you give up those passwords and let her demand things from you, she's going to keep trying to demand things from you and will keep tabs on you and try to control you. That's a no-go. Two, you think that if you don't answer the question right, she might give that coochie up to another man. You got to say screw her coochie. No matter what she told you, you never have and never will own her coochie. When she leaves, it leaves. She can't leave that behind for you... and in reality she is going to do whatever she wants with it. So then, don't ever let the 'exclusivity of the coochie' type of thinking enter your head because there's nothing you can really do to make her keep it exclusive. If she wants to give it away, she will. If she wants to keep it exclusive she will... but to be real with you, it's the soft cats who give in to women that get cheated on way more than the cats that don't. So then, always come real and don't worry about what she's doing with her coochie. You could be doing everything right and she could still choose to give it away. Therefore, never make decisions based on attempting to put a 'lock' on the coochie. Always make decisions based on her respecting you as a man and your principles. Final thing, a lot of cats get caught up because they got all these sneaky tendencies. What you need to do is always be real and stand on your realism and you have to do that from the GET-GO and from every single day you are in the relationship.

SO this is how you can approach this situation:
"Look babygirl, I have been nothing but real with you from day 1 and I am going to be real with you now. Don't demand my passwords from me because I ain't going to give it to you. One thing you will do when dealing with me is respect my space. I haven't given you any reason to worry and haven't been nothing but be real with you so what you need to do is handle that insecurity before it handles you. We are going to do this one time and one time only."

Then you show her the screen of your phone

"As you can see, I'm having a conversation with my patna. I ain't got to do no sneaky stuff. Listen baby, I'm a real dude. If I wanted to deal with other women, I'd let you know straight up. If you can't understand and respect that, then we don't need to be together. If you want to be with me and want us to excel you're going to have to learn to trust... so listen baby handle that insecurity before it handles you."

Now, you can only really say those words and have it work is if you ain't no dude that's really out here doing sneaky things. That's why I always tell men to be UP FRONT and REAL with a woman. Never be sneaky and trying to hide what you do. If she gets the impression that you're a sneaky dude, she's going to be a sneaky woman. A woman reflects the actions of her man.

21 gun salute

 

[DaRealness]

how do yall feel about insecure women who ask for access to your twitter or facebook just because they see you laughing at something you read on your phone?

I recently started using twitter...and deactivated it today because it's boring and one time my girl asked that stupid shyt. Like a nikka cant have his own inside jokes when talking to a friend now? Annoying as shyt. She wanted my twitter password even though i had nothing to hide. She asked why I added a password to my new Nexus 4 even though theres nothing to hide...and pretty much insinuates that I do it to hide dirt. The fact is that i didnt even have a password until my bro suggested that when his Galaxy Nexus was stolen, dude started going through his personal files and shyt. Thus i decided to do the same.

Conventional wisdom would tell me: You have nothing to hide so show her and she will trust you.

Sense and experiential wisdom would tell me: You give her your password shes gonna start thinking she can always demand that shyt and thats not the right message to send. On top of that, she'll trust you for a couple days and then just get suspicious when she sees another harmless occurrence so there's no point.

How would ya'll handle it? Like @kevm3 said earlier, these girls will take your "No" as hiding dirt and use it as an excuse to do their own dirt. I already anticipate that shyt. fukkin women man

This is the kind of nonsense I'm talking about....has she ever offered to give you HER passwords at any point? I can't stand silly shyt like that.

She's testing you, fam. I'd give her a straight "no". I don't owe anybody nothing and nobody owns me...."my word is all you need, end of story" If she starts to sulk, then I'd tell her I don't have any of HER passwords and don't feel the need to, either.

If she gets this off you, next it'll be your spare house and car keys 'just because'. Forget that. Give her your shyt only for her to sabatoge and cause mayhem if you ever break up...no thank you.

Personally, she doesn't sound like she's worth the hassle, but you'd know more than me given that you're in the situation.

 

[CrossBones]

whatever you do, dont listen to a womans advice thats being given to you for dealing with other women. I know its been said before, but it needs to be stressed. this is going to be true in almost all cases. even when you compare your fathers/uncles/big brothers advice vs your mothers, you know whos going to give you that real on how to handle it. the one that will let you deal with it definitively, and in the appropriate, manly way.

I think of it as this, you want to get the best product out of your relationship. you want that top quality steak, or that high quality food, so to speak. so you have to take the word of the butcher, or from a chef who has knowledge in preparing it. listen to someone with the same perspective as you. you dont listen to the cow to find out whats best on the menu. they have no idea what it is that you truly want. so you can make sure that you keep in mind what they say, as it could be helpful in some ways, but remember that they are on the opposite side of you and will ultimately give you information that benefits their perspective the most, and not necessarily yours.

 

[DaRealness]

whatever you do, dont listen to a womans advice thats being given to you for dealing with other women. I know its been said before, but it needs to be stressed. this is going to be true in almost all cases. even when you compare your fathers/uncles/big brothers advice vs your mothers, you know whos going to give you that real on how to handle it. the one that will let you deal with it definitively, and in the appropriate, manly way.

I think of it as this, you want to get the best product out of your relationship. you want that top quality steak, or that high quality food, so to speak. so you have to take the word of the butcher, or from a chef who has knowledge in preparing it. listen to someone with the same perspective as you. you dont listen to the cow to find out whats best on the menu. they have no idea what it is that you truly want. so you can make sure that you keep in mind what they say, as it could be helpful in some ways, but remember that they are on the opposite side of you and will ultimately give you information that benefits their perspective the most, and not necessarily yours.

LOL I was thinking about posting something very similar, cos it's true. Female relatives in particular are the worse. They will give you enough horse shyt to fertilise acres of land.