I don’t think it’s that serious. Y’all know each other and are having conversations that make bringing up the topic possible. Ain’t much more than that.
Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women
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NoirDynosaur
Yurrrrrrrrrr
This whole interview has a lot of unspoken truths
skyrunner1
Superstar
I am starting to think Proximity is a bigger thing than anything else or extremely underestimated or undervalued. It was something I wanted to touch on after this holiday season (parties, thanksgiving potlucks, friendsgivings, work holiday parties, networking holiday events, etc.) as I have been missing most of these last couple years due to covid. Been outside these last couple weeks running thru different circles (club/hospitality, real estate/mortgage, IT/engineer, lawyers, dentist/doctors)
I wont touch too much on my club dudes because what they get away with doesnt even count, lol.. But at my real estate function, I havent been around and some of the established people were catching up, I was known in company from years ago as running thru the office and I passed the torch to a guy who did same and now married and having a kid. We chopping it up and they are like you guys need to meet the new guy having his way. On way out they point him out and Im like oh shyt, Im like I heard you are that dude, he is like yea man I dont even know why but I am enjoying it! Now outside looking in this guy is like 5'8 bald unassuming guy and was driving a rav4, in south florida you would be like nah he isnt getting any play. But the proximity of working in social environment with mostly women just increases odds at a high level. I didnt hang out with him enough to know what his angle (guy I passed torched to was dam near comedian level funny) was but was interesting to see by itself.
But then when you contrast with my interactions with my doctor dudes, these guys are flush, confident as hell in their domains/environments but they lead with their fukking wallets soo much its like antigame. It works obviously but we understand the dynamics of presenting yourself as provider type puts you in slow lane and has the highest cost. These dudes have no problem throwing unnecessary cash around and I get it, its your unique selling proposition or tump card, but cotdam dont make yourself a mark. Hard to even explain as it seems like remedial level anti game.
Ex. Setting hooters type establishment with a couple Drs.
Hooters girl: "Oh soo what do you guys do?"
Me: "Oh we are janitors, just grabbing drinks quick"
HG: "Why do they have on scrubs?"
Me: "New uniform tha-..."
Doctor: "Oh we are doctors, we work at yada yada, here is my card"
We get her number, when we leave I toss it, these guys are like why?? Im like dude, any of us could of grabbed for a couple drinks, now you set the bar at her expecting to be wined and dined, purses and trips, dumb shyt..
Now you get down to my IT/engineer bros, my gawd.. Even I know everyone says dont shyt where you eat, but in real world I see it everywhere, the doctors are getting the nurses, the lawyers have their domain and decent mix, etc. But these engineer dudes are hurting something bad. They make money but the numbers are already not in their favor as far as just being in proximity to women but then its like they cant turn off their logical brain and soo square they cant even loosen up at an event with open bar.. Like I can empathize with most but this was a sad bunch that would need a total makeover. I dont know if its staring at screens all day but they miss cues, say off the wall things at wrong time, mannn.. I can probably save one or two guys and bring into other worlds to introduce and make connections but cotdam this is gonna be tough..
I could touch on multiple topics that been on TLR lately, having women as friends (Having beautiful women as friends is damn near a currency, They can get you in rooms, get you accounts, evangelize your business and put money directly in your pockets, thats not even including preselection)
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@skyrunner1
Proximity is EVERYTHING...
It's the Draymond Green social version of setting a screen..
The internet dater/cold approacher has to break down the defense and then it might not be enough cuz she might change her mind for whatever reason...
Admittedly I've been stubborn about this and it's worse for me cuz I need to be in a "rhythm" to really get going....
I don't want to potentially give up my peace of mind in return for solid social muscle, but thats me being selfish and negative..
So you gotta really start busting moves and being in the mix to make those doors open easier
Proximity is EVERYTHING...
It's the Draymond Green social version of setting a screen..
The internet dater/cold approacher has to break down the defense and then it might not be enough cuz she might change her mind for whatever reason...
Admittedly I've been stubborn about this and it's worse for me cuz I need to be in a "rhythm" to really get going....
I don't want to potentially give up my peace of mind in return for solid social muscle, but thats me being selfish and negative..
So you gotta really start busting moves and being in the mix to make those doors open easier
skyrunner1
Superstar
Yea I am definitely in agreement. I saw soo many examples in the past few weeks. The game is soo wide open and women really give zero fukks.. I heard soo many stories of people blowing up their relationships, and I was just nodding and sipping my drink.
I always took the guys telling dudes to cold approach as hacking the system and trying to get reps in, like you are defiecient in social interactions and now you need to brute force your social muscles and jump start as much as possible. Then you take those skills and when needed you are able to see the cues with ease..
I have been where you are and understand it, but if you take the being social with EVERYBODY, the old guy, cashier you have no interest in who is going thru the motions and you can just pattern interrupt her system quick, it becomes second nature and when you are in the "super bowl" its natural because you been repping since preseason. Its not even a full on convo, its can I snap this person out of their unconsious going about their day and get them to talk about something in a passionate way. This stuff has helped more with business lately, I am getting crazy miles out of it that way, its actually blowing me away how easy it is.
ABlackMan
Superstar
Ya ever crash a chick, get your nuts off but still have an urge to bust another via masturbation?
If shorty was still here of course another round but that ain’t the case.
If shorty was still here of course another round but that ain’t the case.
Yeah it is...
But the overall vibe changes naturally when you "outside" and people sense it
Rasille
(Rah.Zil.E)
That’s only for the divesters. The black man has to be god on earth for her to consider dating him. The white guy just has to be white.
Trapperman Dave
Basil Fawty
I’ve heard that from a couple women at work and im like but you claim a black dude gotta be a lil street
These bytches just yapping
If you don’t fit the media mold. But you also don’t want to insert yourself in those women as well
NoirDynosaur
Yurrrrrrrrrr
@skyrunner1
Proximity is the real deal. If you approach at the right place and time, she can be yours for the night.
That's why cold approaching is top tier because she can get a dose of your personality in action. Plus that spontaneity factor. Certain variables that's lacking on online dating.
When you say "logical brain" never become too logical to a woman you'll end up turning into a soulless robot. Women are "FEELERS" they need to feel emotions whether it's positive or negative. My personality is raw like DMX, my mouth has no filter, I end up sealing the deal by simply just amusing everyone. Social calibration is key. It warms up gets you engaged in the moment. You'll perceived as a cool guy that people want to be around with.
Honestly attracting "baddies" is easy af. The man who isn't starstruck by her looks is the man that got her hooked. While most men simp for her, the man who she wants is the guy whose not putting her on the pedestal. The man who perceives himself as the prize. Women don't admit this but they chase after guys who are a challenge to them. If it's too easy or too common they'll lose attraction. It's a reason why absence makes the heart grow fonder.
Can't wait for next summer I'm approaching a bunch of broads on some
Proximity is the real deal. If you approach at the right place and time, she can be yours for the night.
That's why cold approaching is top tier because she can get a dose of your personality in action. Plus that spontaneity factor. Certain variables that's lacking on online dating.
When you say "logical brain" never become too logical to a woman you'll end up turning into a soulless robot. Women are "FEELERS" they need to feel emotions whether it's positive or negative. My personality is raw like DMX, my mouth has no filter, I end up sealing the deal by simply just amusing everyone. Social calibration is key. It warms up gets you engaged in the moment. You'll perceived as a cool guy that people want to be around with.
Honestly attracting "baddies" is easy af. The man who isn't starstruck by her looks is the man that got her hooked. While most men simp for her, the man who she wants is the guy whose not putting her on the pedestal. The man who perceives himself as the prize. Women don't admit this but they chase after guys who are a challenge to them. If it's too easy or too common they'll lose attraction. It's a reason why absence makes the heart grow fonder.
Can't wait for next summer I'm approaching a bunch of broads on some
NoirDynosaur
Yurrrrrrrrrr
Women like men with an "edge" to themselves.
They're attracted to danger.
It's funny because they can't handle street nikkas at all.
I'm from the hood and had chicks attracted to me but they were too intimidated to make a move
Pay attention to a woman's action not her words. Most women say shyt just to say shyt. Don't sweat it