How do I find the line between texting a girl to keep it going and not texting to much.
We went on a second date last night but I can’t really hang out again until next week.
I’m not sure even what to say in between. I don’t even like texting but gotta build rapport.
So you're afraid that she might lose the fire. The next breh might be sliding in the DMs, whispering in her ear. I get it. This scenario happens a lot.
Guy hasn't solidified things with the broad, and wants to keep it going, before he gets solid with her. (solid could be the hook up, or possible GF status)
On the Technical side
- Social Media - add her to your social media - let her see what you're doing
- But
- You got time to post, but not time to text
- What is you doing? Who was that girl?
- Text Messages that don't require a response - memes, pics, observations.
- Merely sending the message says "I'm thinking about you"
- You might NOT want to send that message that you are thinking about her
- Facetime/video call and Scheduled - see above
- Phone Call Scheduled - See Above. Phone opens up more of her imagination. If you're nice with the words...more over you can easily get into
- What are you doing?
- What are you wearing, i wish I could see you...
- Extrapolate dude, I can't text for you.
- Phone/Video Call Unscheduled - More powerful than the schedule one, because it says, I'm thinking about you.
Depending on the broad, depending on the situation, I use a mix of 1,2, and 5.
A lot of what I might send a chick/say to a chick tells her 1) what I notice, 2) what I think is important, 3) How I think - on top of whatever I say. Cause the words are at best 7% of what's being communicated.
Any of these 5 will "fix" the problem.....
YOU DON'T NEED TO READ ANY FURTHER THAN THIS.
But, what you really need to do is adopt the typical Coli Breh perspective.
SHE NEED TO BE WORRIED ABOUT WHAT I'M DOING
You're thinking to yourself (you and all the brehs that don't have accounts or too scared to actually post that they don't have it all figured out)
- That's all well and good WIA, but do I really have other options just as good as this chick, if not better?
Then you start thinking to yourself
- What am I really worth?
- This chick might be the one!
- And for some of y'all, you're thinking, this chick might be the ONLY one...
Agonizing over the decisions of
- Do I text at all?
- What if I don't text?
- What do I text?
- What if she takes what I say in a text wrong?
- How often do I text?
- How long should I wait to respond to her texts?
- What if she doesn't text back?
- What if she takes forever to text back?
All this questioning of yourself - that's gonna be your downfall.
All that doubt, that negative self talk, all that inability to make a move and stick by your decision....it will eat away at your actual effectiveness/productivity.
ASK ME HOW I KNOW...
Operating strictly from a technical basis - where you're playing moves on this girl like it was Pokemon - is a recipe for failure. You can definitely get bangs, get a lot of bangs, get hot women, keep a stable of Bad B's - it's possible, it's tough, BUT it takes a toll on you as a person - where everything has to be calculated.
I get it, you need her to be a lock. You need the chick to be solid.
But certainty? That's the one thing a
chick can't do for you. The hallmark of a female is to change her mind on a whim, even if the choice in the now, hurts her.
So what then?
Not to get all Mos Def on ya, but a lot of the game - is you fighting these thoughts, these feelings, these insecurities. Cause you can rein in a broad, but you can't change her. You can't change them. They have to change themselves - and given the obesity rate - we know what that means.
In your case - the "need to build rapport" with a chick you've only see a few times.
You don't
need to build rapport with her. (A lot of that "spin plates and keep them spinning" mentality has a shaky practical foundation)
You don't know what she needs in order to feel comfortable, sexual, or loved.
SHE DOESN'T EVEN KNOW.
Cause these broads will tell you A,B, and C - and that don't make them happy.
ASK ME HOW I KNOW...
So you gotta pull back from the situation, get your mind right.
A lot of a man's real game is INTERNAL*.
For instance - the guy that gets over approach anxiety is literally the same guy that couldn't get his nuts up to approach - an internal change happened.
So to really get past this thing you gotta see it for what it is. Then you can deal with it by trying to get perspectives, get help, etc.
When your internals are "right", you don't magically make all the right decisions.
Instead, you make decisions based on the information at the time, AND YOU'RE GOOD WITH THOSE DECISIONS.
The certainty comes from you, not from external success or others validating you.
These brehs in here be too cool for school, but I gotcha. I've been there.
Same stuff you dealing with in 2022, we was dealing with 2012, 2002, 1992...etc.
The Game Don't Change.
. Talking about if I had it my way I would date a modest woman lol. She has this dream lifestyle that she wants to live. Modern contemporary homes. Nice cars etc. The thing is I don't give a shyt about any of that. I don't mind driving an old car, I dont care for $700,000 houses. This shyt got me thinking a lot. I did not get that vibe from her when I was getting to know her.
only ones I'd hit up are the ones that I matched with and never said shyt to.
mind is telling me no, but my BODYYYYYY
