Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Duke Wy Lin]

What's up with women wanting to facetime every damn second for hours at a time. I and a lot of my women friends and even my girl work remotely and just aimlessly wanna talk for hours on facetime at home or when they go out.

shyt kills my battery and I don't wanna hear about my period hurts and you hate your job. Then they call me when out to scream and I can texteven hear to scream "ayeee then hang up"

Like bytch just text me, please. I think most women don't have any hobbies so they just aimlessly talk

Women are just far more social than men. It's positive in a sense because they tend to have strong networks and support groups, which most of us men typically don't. But it also means that they are highly sensitive to social pressures from their peers. Marketing firms realized this early on and used their sensibilities to push products and trends.

 

[Duke Wy Lin]

The same way they made it taboo to ask a woman about her body count, Men need to be the same way about their finances. We dont know better un the beginning because we think thats the way to being liked. I dont tell em shyt about my finances

Breh even my own momma and siblings don't know about my finances

I learned early on it's best to keep it private. I give that same advice to anyone who will listen.

 

[Mazino]

What annoys me is how that shyt ended. Definitely I couldn't marry a woman like that with a capacity for anger. I'm talking about her throwing shyt, etc. She is generally the super calm yogi style, can't even listen to "angsty" music because it disturbs her. I told her years ago saying it's okay to get frustrated or state your needs OR ELSE it would result in what we have here...resentment.

I also mentioned that she is still at her age, 41, still financially dependent on her parents. A few of my friends have mentioned that just clashes with me on a core level and I need someone with more grit and ambition. I tried.

Be thankful you got out clean man, others aren't so lucky whether it's kids, marriage and buying a home together etc.

It's a blessing she showed you what she's really about.

 

[ViShawn]

Be thankful you got out clean man, others aren't so lucky whether it's kids, marriage and buying a home together etc.

It's a blessing she showed you what she's really about.

She was a good actor I will say. My gut feeling was RIGHT ALL ALONG!!

 

[Duke Wy Lin]

She was a good actor I will say. My gut feeling was RIGHT ALL ALONG!!

She might not have been acting though. Going through a stressful situation can bring out the worst in anyone, especially the type of person who ignores their wants and needs in life or don't know how to deal with challenges. It seems that she didn't know how to handle the sudden changes that she was going through with the career change, money problems and then the breakup so she lashed out at you . You probably saw her at the lowest point of her life. Not to say that what she did is even remotely justifiable. Insults and violence are always inexcusable in a relationship IMO.

 

[ViShawn]

She might not have been acting though. Going through a stressful situation can bring out the worst in anyone, especially the type of person who ignores their wants and needs in life or don't know how to deal with challenges. It seems that she didn't know how to handle the sudden changes that she was going through with the career change, money problems and then the breakup so she lashed out at you . You probably saw her at the lowest point of her life. Not to say that what she did is even remotely justifiable. Insults and violence are always inexcusable in a relationship IMO.

Given the circumstance I do give her some degree of grace but I can't really see her or be around her in a place where we're 1:1.

I mean I get it - to a degree. I can't be accountable for all that right now. I gave her some money the past few months. I need to move a utility over her and my hands are washed clean.

 

[Wargames]

What's up with women wanting to facetime every damn second for hours at a time. I and a lot of my women friends and even my girl work remotely and just aimlessly wanna talk for hours on facetime at home or when they go out.

shyt kills my battery and I don't wanna hear about my period hurts and you hate your job. Then they call me when out to scream and I can texteven hear to scream "ayeee then hang up"

Like bytch just text me, please. I think most women don't have any hobbies so they just aimlessly talk

A bit of a older post to bump, but you let them get too comfortable doing that.

Establish how you want to communicate with a woman and they will either comply or shyt test you and if they do give you problems over that you can make a decision if they are worth going through that shyt for.

I prefer to text so I only text, if they call me I either ignore it and call them back later, or I pick up and say “let me call you back” and then text them a few hours later asking what’s up.

I don’t do FaceTime because I don’t want them peeping where I am at. Same reason I am not a fan of phone calls. It’s an invasion of privacy. The only time I will do phone calls are if it’s late and night and I think it’s her calling me to come over or if we’re dating and committed. In a dating situation I respect her wanting to talk more since we’re agreeing to be faithful and trying to build a relationship. I have to really like a woman to listen to her stream of consciousness nonsense, I feel like it’s the same for the women I tend to date too. I don’t talk to my friends often either for the same reason and I actually can relate to them more. At a certain point what the fukk are we talking about that requires a regular verbal conversation and not a text?

Basically if she really wants to talk then meet face to face and chill.

Anyway a compromise to get them off that phone shyt might be to send voice texts…. Sparingly.

 

[MikelArteta]

Given the circumstance I do give her some degree of grace but I can't really see her or be around her in a place where we're 1:1.

I mean I get it - to a degree. I can't be accountable for all that right now. I gave her some money the past few months. I need to move a utility over her and my hands are washed clean.

As time goes on you'll look back and be thankful.

 

[VertigoKnight]

Not usually one to dikkwatch other men but not once, but twice I saw brehs who were in shape with women who were huge. And I mean obese huge

First I'm coming back from the beach with one of my PAAGs pull up to the light. See a breh crossing the road I thought the white woman was crossing separately but they're obviously together. This chick looked she was huffing and puffing even crossing the road.

Later that night I'm walking home and I see a young breh who looked congolese, hugged up on a Dr Robtinik body chick outside a train station.

Is this a case of some men settling for the first woman that shows them attention or an actual want for women that big?

like other than sex what can you do with this woman? You cant do biking or hiking or anyhting that requires her to be able to walk around for a few hours.

Maybe they offering a place to stay and some hot food and thats enough for some men.

 

[rabbid]

Is this a case of some men settling for the first woman that shows them attention or an actual want for women that big?

Its more than attention. These girls are begging for the D. Doing things a thin girl would think twice about with no questions asked. Fukking in public bathrooms, sending freaky texts in front of family, going raw hoping the kids will have attractive genes. I've seen some crazy texts and situations from these unnattractive chicks that a baddie would never send. So, it is what it is.

Plus, some of them may have gained weight during the pandemic and these brehs still believe they'll come home eventually.

 

[NOSKI_DA_DON]

I learned to deal with rejection but when its somebody i really like,who i had my eye on 4 awhile. I still get that "not good enough feeling". I don't know if its because its somebody I'm invested in or because that was the only female I was talking to

 

[VertigoKnight]

Which works better? Being non chalant and putting in just enough effort OR instant responses (within 5-10 mins), pursuing with a bunch of chit chat (good morning, have a good day, etc) ?

I've been trynna find the right balance. I get girls who I'm not interested in... I barely put in any effort...maybe they just find me very handsome... but the ones I like and pursue I get ghosted... I try to be direct tho-- tellin them I want to see them...

Her: "what you doin this weekend?"
Me: "I'm trynna see you"

she'll heart the comment then I don't hear anything back... I'm like damn...

What's a good balance? remain laidback and aloof while also being upfront about your intentions or what?

Where are you trying to see them though?

Speaking from my experience women especially when they are getting to know you. Like a man who knows what his doing and has planned accordingly.

If I want to see a woman having a plan makes things very, very easy. And women have told me such. A lot of guys want to see them. They'll ask what do you have planned for us?

The guy will reply whatever you want to do.

Nope. Already written himself off.

If a woman asks me, what do you have planned I tell her.

I was thinking of going to this place or I say, I'm planning to go to the park with some picnic food, a good book and some music would you like to join me bring some drinks or some fruit?

Simple ideas and you don't have to be spending copious amounts of money on a date. You're just spending time with her in a fun environment.

 

[Wargames]

I learned to deal with rejection but when its somebody i really like,who i had my eye on 4 awhile. I still get that "not good enough feeling". I don't know if its because its somebody I'm invested in or because that was the only female I was talking to

Rejection always hurts, so feeling bad is normal, just don’t dwell on it to long. The best way to get over it is to do things to keep it out of your mind. Even if I am trying to hold down a rotation, I regret the ending of any relationship. Especially if I really liked the woman involved. So don’t stress feeling bad, you’re human.

If you do have to think about it, try to see if there is anything you can learn from it and apply in the future. Even if consciously you don’t think there was anything of value to learn. The experience will subconsciously help you spot those red flags sooner and move on quicker or not become so attached.

There will always be another woman out there who will be open to you. You just got to keep trying and don’t let your past fill your mind with self doubt or resentment against women. The perk of a rotation is it holds you down and allows you to gain perspective on rejection. She made a choice, it’s not a sign of anything but her opinion. You can always find a woman with a different opinion than her… in fact multiple if you put the work in.

 

[Ahadi]

Not usually one to dikkwatch other men but not once, but twice I saw brehs who were in shape with women who were huge. And I mean obese huge

First I'm coming back from the beach with one of my PAAGs pull up to the light. See a breh crossing the road I thought the white woman was crossing separately but they're obviously together. This chick looked she was huffing and puffing even crossing the road.

Later that night I'm walking home and I see a young breh who looked congolese, hugged up on a Dr Robtinik body chick outside a train station.

Is this a case of some men settling for the first woman that shows them attention or an actual want for women that big?

like other than sex what can you do with this woman? You cant do biking or hiking or anyhting that requires her to be able to walk around for a few hours.

Maybe they offering a place to stay and some hot food and thats enough for some men.

Sounds like they have low self esteem or low options.

A lot of brehs are taking what they can get.

Could never be me.

 

[VertigoKnight]

Its more than attention. These girls are begging for the D. Doing things a thin girl would think twice about with no questions asked. Fukking in public bathrooms, sending freaky texts in front of family, going raw hoping the kids will have attractive genes. I've seen some crazy texts and situations from these unnattractive chicks that a baddie would never send. So, it is what it is.

Plus, some of them may have gained weight during the pandemic and these brehs still believe they'll come home eventually.

I've had plenty of beautiful slim, thin and curvy chicks doing all sorts of wild shyt with me. If a chick is fully into you she will be open to most things you suggest. As she wants you. Also when you press a woman and she feels totally comfortable with you she will open up and reveal stuff she's always wanted to try.



it's like that stereotype I see on here a lot that fat girls give the best head or crazy chicks have the best p*ssy sounds like an excuse for men to delve into dealing with these types of women. This is why I've always given props to to the coli brehs who can just admit they like fat women.

As for the covid weight trust me these women were well beyond that.